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" 1. &amp;quot;I have a surprise for later.&amp;quot; Who doesn&amp;#039;t light up when they hear the word surprise? It ignites anticipation, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., contributor to Good in Bed. Your partner &amp;quot;will instantly begin thinking of all the things you could surprise him with, which will start foreplay hours before you&amp;#039;re together.&amp;quot; As for the surprise itself? You know what gets your husband going \u2014 lingerie, role-play, or even just an empty house \u2014 so follow your instincts. 2. &amp;quot;Tonight, I&amp;#039;m taking care of you.&amp;quot; Give and take is essential in relationships, but sometimes an evening of total giving (followed by a future evening of him returning the favor, of course) can be an incredible turn-on. Not only will your husband feel taken care of, but it&amp;#039;s a subtle reminder that you still find him so sexy and can&amp;#039;t wait to spend an entire evening lavishing attention on him, says Kerner. 3. &amp;quot;You looked amazing this morning.&amp;quot; It sounds simple, but hinting at how hot you find your man immediately gets him in the mood. If you complimented him as he left the house, give him another reminder a few hours later to make it clear he&amp;#039;s still on your mind, recommends Aline Zoldbrod, a certified sex therapist in the Boston area. And get specific: Pointing out that he wore your favorite aftershave or that his blue sweater showed off his triathlon-toned shoulders shows you notice all the details. RELATED: Sweet Kisses You Haven&amp;#039;t Tried Yet \u00BB 4. &amp;quot;Bring home a bottle of wine tonight.&amp;quot; Or a pint of Ben &amp;amp;amp; Jerry&amp;#039;s. Whatever it is, there&amp;#039;s a reason why food and drinks have become so intertwined with sex, and it has very little to do with any aphrodisiacal qualities. By setting the tone for an indulgent evening in every way, you help put both of you in a relaxed, pampering frame of mind. 5. &amp;quot;Doesn&amp;#039;t this skirt make me look hot?&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Confidence is a major aphrodisiac,&amp;quot; says Kerner. And when you show it, he&amp;#039;ll definitely keep that skirt \u2014 and what&amp;#039;s underneath it \u2014 on his mind. 6. &amp;quot;I keep thinking about when you did\u2026&amp;quot; Reminding your husband of a past event you both enjoyed sets his mind racing for future encounters, says Kerner. Talking through favorite memories can also help you come away with new insight into what you both like, as well as dream up ways to improve. Who says practice doesn&amp;#039;t make perfect? RELATED: 4 Ways to Boost Intimacy in Your Relationship \u00BB 7. &amp;quot;I need you.&amp;quot; Want and need are primal words that remind your guy of the animal attraction you share, says Emily Morse, host of the radio show Sex with Emily and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. It&amp;#039;s dirty talk without the dirty words, and it&amp;#039;s especially effective whispered in his ear when other people are around, says Neal, 34, married six years. 8. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ve missed you.&amp;quot; Having a code phrase that reminds you both how in love you are can serve as a sort of shorthand for your feelings, says Ellen Kenner, Ph.D., a relationship therapist and coauthor of The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason. 9. &amp;quot;Thank you.&amp;quot; A little appreciation can go a long way. And that holds true in and out of the bedroom. Photo: Getty Images NEXT: 12 Easy Ways to Make Your Partner&amp;#039;s Day \u00BB This story originally appeared on redbookmag.com More from Redbook: \u2022 The Ultimate Happy-Marriage Checklist \u2022 Quick Ways to Improve Your Relationship Tonight \u2022 How to Write the Perfect Love Note "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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