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"I have many divorced friends in my day-to-day life, as well as numerous divorced women I&amp;#039;ve interacted with on the various internet forums and social networking sites I belong to. One common denominator most of us have is an ex-husband who feels very differently about how life changed once the kids came along. Mine is definitely in that group. And I&amp;#039;m not talking about things changing between us in the bedroom or any of that nonsense, because really, for us it wasn&amp;#039;t much of a change other than we were relegated to getting together after the kids were in bed. Sure, we were both more fatigued after working all day and herding kids all night, but we still reconnected there on a regular basis. No, what surprised me was how inconvenienced he seemed to be by the kids a lot of the time. He got irritated that we couldn&amp;#039;t easily go to the restaurants with the tablecloths, the quiet museums or grown-up type events with very young kids. My feeling was always that they&amp;#039;re not this young forever, and we&amp;#039;ll have plenty of years to do that once they&amp;#039;ve grown a bit. He could only see all the things he used to do that he couldn&amp;#039;t do much anymore. I remember once, his best friend invited our family to join his at a local amusement park. We don&amp;#039;t see them often, and all our kids were near the same age so we jumped at the chance. We all watched the kids having a blast on their rides, and around lunchtime, Peter turned to his friend and said &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m getting really tired of watching rides going around and around. Let&amp;#039;s go hit some rollercoasters!&amp;quot; His friend just stared at him in surprise, gestured at his young daughter and said &amp;quot;Dude, I&amp;#039;m not here for me.&amp;quot; I suggested to Peter later that he and I take a day off work, and come back, just the two of us to ride rollercoasters and spend the day together. He sniped at me about how much that would cost, and complained about how we should be able to enjoy things like this &amp;quot;as a family&amp;quot;. I just couldn&amp;#039;t relate. I enjoyed the day very much. The park was beautiful, our friends were great fun, and I got to see my kids (and theirs) having the time of their lives. I didn&amp;#039;t ride a single rollercoaster, and I didn&amp;#039;t miss it a bit. Did you ever feel like your husband saw the marriage glass as half-empty once the kids came along, instead of overflowing with something new? That&amp;#039;s how it always felt for me. Parenthood is an adventure for me. For him, sometimes it seemed like a shackle. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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