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" Dear E. Jean: I&amp;#039;ve been married four months, and I&amp;#039;m still a virgin. Every time I try to initiate something, my husband won&amp;#039;t allow me to take off my bra or panties. My job is to satisfy him with oral sex, and that&amp;#039;s it. I&amp;#039;ve tried showing him movies and books and talking to him. Nothing works. The one time I removed my bra, he asked why my breasts &amp;quot;sagged.&amp;quot; I&amp;#039;m considered by other people as beautiful, slim, fair, etc. We&amp;#039;re both from India, and we were married outside the United States. I&amp;#039;m in grad school here on a student visa, and he&amp;#039;s here training with an American company. I don&amp;#039;t want to suffer this way! \u2014Save My Life Dear Miss Save:  The lad is not ready for marriage. Indeed, I was just about to tell you that life is too short for you to plead another moment for the love of this abysmal boy when I spoke with the very lively family-law attorney Vinaya Saijwani (saijwanilaw.com), who disagreed with my advice and counseled: &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t jump the gun on the divorce. He sounds like he has problems, but he may turn out to be a perfectly good husband. Traditional Indian men may start out as repressed mama&amp;#039;s boys who have contempt for women who ask for intimacy, but they end up making very good, responsible husbands and fathers.&amp;quot; Miss Saijwani suggests you see an Indian counselor, and then if things don&amp;#039;t improve and you decide to divorce, &amp;quot;do not go back to India.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;But that&amp;#039;s a heartbreaking decision!&amp;quot; I cried. &amp;quot;Her freedom or her country?&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Divorced women are not that well-regarded in Indian society,&amp;quot; said Miss Saijwani. &amp;quot;It would be difficult for her to find another husband there. She should stay in America, get an education, get a job, and make a life here.&amp;quot; I guess if Brooks &amp;amp;amp; Dunn can wait 20 years to split up, you can take a little time with an Indian counselor and ponder the next step. But I still don&amp;#039;t like the dolt you married. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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