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"  He Said: It&amp;#039;s my experience that maturity and age are two things that rarely co-mingle. Age does matter in relationships, and anyone that tells you otherwise is either in high school and has a crush on one of their teachers, is a Miley Cyrus fan, or worships Hugh Heffner. Age is the vehicle by which we experience common milestones in life. These milestones give us the ability to relate to one another. We all experience a first kiss, first partner, first sex, marriage, home, career, child, divorce, etc. If you&amp;#039;re at the end of this list, what on Earth could you have in common with someone near the beginning? There is a reason that most couples today do not have a significant age difference. Consider that over the last one hundred years, the average age difference between married couples is 3.5 years. Coincidence? No. Call it what it is \u2014 a trend.  When my divorce was final, I went out of my way to date women of different ages ranging anywhere from twenty-two to fifty-three years old. I found that with younger women, I felt attracted but bored. With older women it was just the opposite \u2014 I was interested but did not feel attracted to them. With each woman I dated, things ended as quickly as they began. In hindsight, the only thing I was clear on regarding the women I described was that I wanted to date and was initially attracted to them. Their age should have been a warning to me that we may have nothing in common. This experience taught me two things. The first is that age is not just a number. It is a fairly accurate measurement that describes where you have been and what is left in front of you. It tells you what you may have in common with someone. The second is to know what you are attracted to, understand what you want in a partner and a relationship, and confirm that these things are in agreement before you choose to spend time with someone. Now, I stay away from age extremes, and in those rare moments I meet someone extremely younger or older that I&amp;#039;m into, I look for common interests before committing to a date. This works for me because I recognize that age matters. It is simply na\u00EFve to think otherwise.   She Said: I&amp;#039;ll be honest here \u2014 I like &amp;#039;em old. Save for my first boyfriend, who was just two years older than me, the men I&amp;#039;ve dated and clicked with have generally been anywhere from six to twenty years my senior. Now a twenty year age difference may not be the norm or &amp;quot;average&amp;quot; (neither is six, for that matter), but I hardly think it&amp;#039;s a strong predictor for the success of a relationship (after all, nearly half of those couples with the &amp;quot;ideal&amp;quot; age difference between them get divorced), and it amuses me how shocked people continue to be about an age discrepancy. Do I think it&amp;#039;s a great idea for 16-year-old Miley Cyrus to date a 20-year-old? Not necessarily, but I&amp;#039;ll leave it up to the two people in the relationship to decided whether or not it works for them.  Age itself isn&amp;#039;t a factor in compatibility \u2014 it&amp;#039;s elements like maturity and life experience, which tend to correlate with age, that can make or break a relationship&amp;#039;s long-term potential. But so can future goals, background, culture, family, career, personality, and sexual chemistry. I tend to think that the combination of those factors (maturity and life experience included) takes precedence over whether or not your significant others gets your cleverBeverly Hillbillies reference. And while we&amp;#039;re at it, can we retire lingo like &amp;quot;cougar&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;cradle-robber&amp;quot; (or grave-robber, as I&amp;#039;ve been called) \u2014 it condescends both parties in question and is on par with sticking a cutesy label on someone who dates outside of their own race or background, in my opinion.  Date and let date \u2014 unless you&amp;#039;re currently involved in a triad relationship with the May-December couple you&amp;#039;re commenting on, leave it to them to form opinions on how their age gap works for them. Age and maturity often go hand in hand, but you can certainly have one without the other. All that said, I do have one (admittedly hypocritical) rule when it comes to dating much older men. To weed out the creepsters, I always ask if they generally date women as young as me. If they make a habit of trolling for women at the local college campus, I move on. I want to be the exception, not the rule. On the Soapbox Abraham Lloyd is a divorced dad, closet geek, and aspiring author dating in New York City. He believes all men should own at least five jackets, know how to dance, and pay on a first date. You can tweet him at twitter.com/abrahamlloyd. Diana Vilibert is Marie Claire&amp;#039;s associate Web editor, a chronic oversharer, closet romantic, and blind-date addict. You can e-stalk her at diana-vilibert.com. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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