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"Our reader is crazy about her guy but not sure where they stand despite nearly a year of dating. Let&amp;#x27;s help her out. She writes: I&amp;#x27;ve been seeing this guy for about nine months. Recently it was his birthday, and I met and had dinner with his friends, plus we had a dinner, just the two of us, on the day of his birthday. We go out every week at least once and sometimes during weekend. We text every day and have since the beginning. But we&amp;#x27;ve never had the talk of what are we. I kinda have the feeling that somehow he does love me. He&amp;#x27;s the kind of guy who is more about actions than words. But he says he misses me while hugging me, and he said he loves the way I touch him. He is sweet, very gentlemanly, and generous. When he went to Japan, he brought me a present. I want to ask him what are we, but I&amp;#x27;m scared as hell that if I do I&amp;#x27;ll lose him and the moment we are having. Please put some sense into my mind because I&amp;#x27;m so confused! From what you&amp;#x27;ve said, things with this guy sound like they are great. But I have to wonder why then you are so afraid to ask him to define your relationship. It seems to me like there must be something making you doubt his feelings for you or his intentions toward your relationship if you are afraid having the Talk would ruin things. Pushing for commitment too early could be a bad move, but I think after nine months, you should both be ready to at least discuss it. I mean, your relationship could have had a baby by now. So, if he really means that much to you, it&amp;#x27;s time to ask him what your relationship is. If it means you lose him, I know that will be very sad for you, but I&amp;#x27;m not sure how much you&amp;#x27;ll really be losing. I know you care about him, but you seem to be missing some intimacy or maturity in your relationship if you can&amp;#x27;t talk about whether or not you&amp;#x27;re a couple. It&amp;#x27;s time to put your bond to the test and find out. Best-case scenario: You&amp;#x27;ll ask him how he feels about the relationship and find out that he&amp;#x27;s on the same page as you and has just been feeling too nervous to ask. But if that&amp;#x27;s not the case, at least you&amp;#x27;ll know to move on to a relationship where you can feel free to discuss your feelings without being afraid to lose the guy. Wishing you luck! Do you guys think nine months is too long to be dating without having the Talk? Relationships can move at their own pace, but I definitely think that&amp;#x27;s long enough to be comfortable getting serious! What&amp;#x27;s your advice for our reader?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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