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" So last night, I had a second date with a guy I met on Match.com. He&amp;#039;s a lighting technician, so let&amp;#039;s call him Lighting Dude, for the purposes of this blog post\u2014unless something more inspiring and creative comes up as I&amp;#039;m typing this! Okay, so our first date were drinks at a bar downtown. We ended up talking for almost three hours, but it was a lot of friend-style talk. Mainly, we had similar backgrounds, and, since I&amp;#039;m interested in theater and that&amp;#039;s primarily what medium he works in, we had a lot of that to talk about too. Turns out, we worked at the same theater festival the same summer\u2014he was working on the lighting design for a show, and I was a college arts management intern, primarily working in the box office. So our paths must have crossed. But is that fate? Anyway, last night our original plan was to go ice-skating. But once we got to the skating rink, we realized that the weather (25-degrees-feels-like-15) wasn&amp;#039;t cooperating, so we ended up going to a bar for drinks and dinner. Which was fun\u2014we had a pretty easy conversation and, while there were no awkward pauses, I had a good time. So what is the problem? Well, I&amp;#039;m just not feeling any spark. Like, none. But I really like how nice he is\u2014he already wants to do a date #3\u2014cooking dinner at his apartment on Monday night. So right now, I&amp;#039;m really torn . . . should I go, since there&amp;#039;s no real reason why NOT to go? Or is going wasting my time and his? I just can&amp;#039;t really get a sense of him. If anything (and here&amp;#039;s where my hunch is), I think that he really wants to be in a relationship (what I want, too!) and he&amp;#039;s sort of going along with it as well, just because of the why not factor. Finally, here&amp;#039;s my biggest concern: I feel like in conversation, he&amp;#039;s a little too timid. For example, we were talking about office politics, and he was, teasingly like, &amp;quot;oh, I bet you&amp;#039;re an instigator!&amp;quot; And I thought I was being teasing back when I was like &amp;quot;really? What would give you that impression? I&amp;#039;m so nice!&amp;quot; Then, he was like &amp;quot;Just kidding! Just kidding! It was a joke!&amp;quot; And I knew that! And I sort of hated how he didn&amp;#039;t let the joke keep going, that he was so afraid of offending me that he couldn&amp;#039;t keep up the humor. I mean, if you decide to bring it into a convo, you have to go with it, right? So, what do you think? Should I go on date #3? Have dates with a guy you&amp;#039;re just not feeling it with ever turned into more? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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