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" Over the last few years, I&amp;#039;ve engaged in certain behaviors that aren&amp;#039;t exactly in line with the conventional thinking about how a husband and wife should interact with each other. And yet, I&amp;#039;m still married \u2014 happily. Turns out there might be something to it. Here, three things I do that seem to work.  I go to bed angry. Scientifical basis: Paula Szuchman, coauthor of Spousonomics, puts it this way: &amp;quot;The costs of arguing at night are huge: a 4:00 A.M. &amp;#039;shame-over,&amp;#039; massive bags under our eyes, and rage at being kept up all night. The benefits are usually nil, since no one can think clearly at night.&amp;quot;  Nighttime bickering is the result of what economists call &amp;quot;loss aversion,&amp;quot; she says. We&amp;#039;re so obsessed with not losing, we act irrationally \u2014 like betting the house when we&amp;#039;re down at the casino.  I bottle up my feelings. Scientifical basis: The whole notion that your spouse should be everything in your life \u2014 friend, lover, shrink, career coach \u2014 is relatively new. Before that, spouses had much more circumscribed roles (i.e., breeding partner). So I try not to burden my wife with all my petty troubles at work. As Stephanie Coontz, author of Marriage, A History, points out: &amp;quot;At the same time we raised our expectations of marriage, we have lowered our expectations of relationships with neighbors, kin, friends, coworkers. And that means we sometimes ask our partner to meet all our needs.&amp;quot;  We sleep separately. Scientifical basis: We started our nighttime separations \u2014 she in the bedroom, I on the living-room couch \u2014 because I snore at leaf-blower levels and thrash around like a marlin on a line. Now we&amp;#039;ve grown to prefer it. Simply put, we sleep better. &amp;quot;There are all sorts of reasons people sleep apart,&amp;quot; says Paul Rosenblatt, a professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota who has written about couples&amp;#039; bed habits. &amp;quot;Different temperature preferences, snoring, long toenails. I don&amp;#039;t think it says there&amp;#039;s anything wrong with the marriage.&amp;quot;  There&amp;#039;s still a stigma, though. I say, Come out of the closet. Maybe even your own closet, in your own room. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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