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" Without fail, every single time someone compliments something I&amp;#x27;m wearing, one of three things happens: 1. I tell them exactly how much it cost (if it was inexpensive) and where I got it. 2. I say: &amp;quot;Oh, I&amp;#x27;ve had this thing forever, it&amp;#x27;s so old,&amp;quot; or... 3. I get really embarrassed (if it&amp;#x27;s a pricier item) and say something self-effacing, like, &amp;quot;I love it, it&amp;#x27;s so comfortable, and it hides all my fat.&amp;quot; Do you do this too? Respond to positive personal feedback with negative deflection? Every woman I know does this! Ladies, WHY do we do this? This morning, I saw this (hilarious) video made by Amy Schumer over at Comedy Central. In it, a group of friends run into each other at Tompkins Square Park here in downtown New York and take turns complimenting one another&amp;amp;#8212;and, then, viciously deflecting each other&amp;#x27;s kind words. Check it out&amp;amp;#8212;does any of this sound familiar? One of my favorite lines from the video? When one of the women gets complimented on her dress: &amp;quot;Oh, I paid like $2 for it. It&amp;amp;#8217;s probably made of old Burger King crowns. I look like a whore locked out of her apartment.&amp;quot; Sure, it sounds ridiculous in a scripted video short, but to be honest, it isn&amp;#x27;t far from the truth! In her spring bestseller Lean In, Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg writes about the &amp;quot;art of feeling confident&amp;quot;&amp;amp;#8212;and her own challenges with accepting compliments. After she was named to Forbes&amp;#x27; &amp;quot;World&amp;#x27;s 100 Most Powerful Women&amp;quot; list in 2011, she writes:Far from feeling powerful, I felt embarrassed and exposed. When colleagues at Facebook stopped me in the halls to say congratulations, I pronounced the list &amp;quot;ridiculous.&amp;quot; When friends posted the link on Facebook, I asked them to take it down. After a few days, my longtime executive assistant, Camille Hart, summoned me into a conference room and closed the door. This was serious. She told me that I was handling the Forbes thing poorly and that I needed to stop subjecting anyone who brought up the list to a diatribe on its absurdity. I was showing too many people how uncomfortable I felt and revealing my insecurity. Instead, I needed to simply say, &amp;quot;Thank you.&amp;quot; Tell me, how do you respond to compliments? I&amp;#x27;ve been working hard to take them in stride and respond in a positive, grateful way. Do you hear women around you deflecting compliments all the time too? Tell me what you think! Sound off in the comments. Photo: Getty Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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