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"  Sixty-nining \u2014 both partners simultaneously performing oral sex on one another \u2014 is a divisive topic. Anna Breslaw and Cosmo Frank are here to debate: is 69ing awful, or is it the best way to foreplay? ANNA: I am sure some women like 69ing, and it&amp;#039;s fantastic that they do. Personally, every time I find myself in a 69, I feel vaguely like I am part of a writhing orgy of medallion-clad hedonists at Plato&amp;#039;s Retreat in the &amp;#039;70s, and I start giggling with a penis actually in my mouth, which is not safe for anybody. I think men see this in porn and think, &amp;quot;Hey, we can both get off at the same time!&amp;quot; They don&amp;#039;t account for the fact that it&amp;#039;s kind of hard for women to focus on the awesome oral sex they&amp;#039;re receiving while an insistent nutsack keeps banging into their lip. The position is tricky too. I don&amp;#039;t have the upper arm strength to be on top of a 69 long enough to get anywhere sexually, and being on the bottom feels a little too invasive. Why can&amp;#039;t we each just wait our turn like grown-ups? I&amp;#039;d much rather get 100 percent of a guy&amp;#039;s oral attention, then give him 100 percent of mine, than just half-heartedly slobber on each other at the same time. I will say that one time I was 69ing and ended up just sitting on the guy&amp;#039;s face, at his insistence, and not having to do anything, which was bomb. FRANK: I am a huge proponent of 69ing. I would lobby for it in front of Congress. I think the world would be a better place if everyone just went about doing standing 69 cartwheels down the street all the time. I realize that it can initially be an off-putting position, but you&amp;#039;re already doing the most physically intimate thing you can with another human being; I feel like good sex requires ditching your inhibition and insecurities. Sex and foreplay should be all about two people getting off on each other without worrying about how weird it is. As far as upper arm strength is concerned, I&amp;#039;m going to go ahead and say it&amp;#039;s OK to put your weight on the guy if you&amp;#039;re on top. You&amp;#039;ve got enough to think about as it is, so take straining your muscles out of the equation. Sure, we can wait our turn, but this is America, where we don&amp;#039;t wait for shit. Synchronized oral sex is the most patriotic thing you can possibly do. Plus, if you both do it at the same time, that means you can get to the sex part faster, without any sort of &amp;quot;cool down&amp;quot; by either party. Go America! Go sex! Go 69ing! Photo Credit: Getty You can follow Anna and Frank on Twitter. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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