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" Masturbation means rubbing your genitals to produce pleasure and often orgasm as well. So it&amp;#039;s the same thing as what most younger people call:  &amp;#039;wanking&amp;#039; &amp;#039;tossing&amp;#039; &amp;#039;jerking off&amp;#039; &amp;#039;jacking off&amp;#039; or, in the case of women, &amp;#039;jilling off&amp;#039;  or perhaps &amp;#039;rubbing up&amp;#039;.   Generally, the word &amp;#039;masturbation&amp;#039; indicates self-stimulation.  But it&amp;#039;s worth noting that some sexologists still use the expression in an old-fashioned way to indicate pleasuring of another person by hand, in phrases such as &amp;#039;the husband can masturbate the wife to help her achieve a climax&amp;#039;.  However, in this article we&amp;#039;ll deal only with self-stimulation.  This is the form of sexual behaviour that most of us learn first &amp;amp;#8211; quite instinctively. And, until recently, it was probably the type of sex least talked about.  In fact, in the early part of the last century: masturbation was widely considered to be a sin &amp;amp;#8211; and something to be avoided at all costs.  Gradually, society became more tolerant of it as an activity, but it still had shameful connotations and was generally seen as a bit sad.  Even today, there are loads of jokes or disparaging remarks featuring the word &amp;#039;wanker&amp;#039;, with the implication that the person in question is pretty useless.  But back in the first part of the 20th century, there were many doctors, educators and youth leaders who strongly disapproved of masturbation and who wrote books which claimed that it had terrible health consequences &amp;amp;#8211; like insanity. This was all nonsense.  Until the 1960s, there were youth leaders and pundits who advised people to avoid masturbation. They suggested that it was immature or undesirable and that if someone got fixated on it, they might not learn more &amp;#039;grown up&amp;#039; responses.  Nowadays, experts have a completely different view of masturbation &amp;amp;#8211; and a very much more positive one. Doctors and scientists recognise that it has no ill-effects, and that virtually all young males, and many females, do it.  Indeed, in the summer of 2013, a Swedish court ruled that it was legal to masturbate in public. Do not try this in Britain, where you would certainly fall foul of the Sexual Offences Act of 2003 &amp;amp;#8211; or its Scottish equivalent.   Why is masturbation more accepted these days? One of the reasons for this is the big change in people&amp;#039;s lifestyles.  In this 21st century, most of us can expect to have a much more changeable and flexible life than our grandparents did.  We will live longer and we&amp;#039;ll almost certainly have far more sexual and co-habiting relationships. But between these relationships we will find ourselves returning to single status.  During these single periods, we&amp;#039;ll most probably continue to have normal sex drives &amp;amp;#8211; and the most obvious form of sexual relief and satisfaction available to us at those times will be masturbation.  So, masturbation needs to be seen in this modern context and viewed as an activity that is pleasant, fulfilling, acceptable, normal &amp;amp;#8211; and very safe.  In fact, masturbation is the safest form of sex there is, and much safer &amp;amp;#8211; and often more satisfying &amp;amp;#8211; than one-night stands.  The only time masturbation isn&amp;#039;t safe is on those rare occasions when young men (or occasionally women) decide to experiment by masturbating with potentially harmful objects &amp;amp;#8211; such as a vacuum cleaner.  This is extremely dangerous and definitely not to be recommended.   Men and masturbation The vast majority of men masturbate sometimes &amp;amp;#8211; even if they&amp;#039;re in a long-term and happy sexual relationship.  It&amp;amp;#8217;s most common if they&amp;amp;#8217;re away somewhere on a trip and have been without female company for a while.  Masturbation comes pretty naturally to most men. Let&amp;#039;s face it: a male child discovers that his penis feels good before he can talk. So, it&amp;#039;s not surprising that boys fondle this area of their bodies a lot, and then, at the age of around 14, discover that masturbation can lead to orgasm and ejaculation &amp;amp;#8211; all of which they find exciting and pleasurable.  There are some men who don&amp;#039;t masturbate. But these are mainly men who don&amp;#039;t want to do it because of religious reasons or because they&amp;#039;re a bit uptight about sex. Also, some guys who have a fairly low sex drive don&amp;#039;t masturbate. Some men - mostly from eastern cultures &amp;amp;#8211; try to avoid masturbating because they believe it depletes their energy and may shorten their lives. But there&amp;#039;s no truth whatsoever in this belief.  Most men masturbate by rubbing the penis with their &amp;#039;dominant&amp;#039; hand &amp;amp;#8211; slowly at first and then more vigorously.  Many guys grasp the shaft of their penis by wrapping their whole hand round it. Others grasp it between their thumb and first or middle finger.  But however they do it, they don&amp;#039;t usually have much doubt that they&amp;#039;ll achieve orgasm as a result. This is quite a contrast to women, who may experience considerable anxiety about whether they will actually &amp;#039;make it&amp;#039;.  Some young men worry that they masturbate too much. The fact is that it&amp;#039;s almost impossible to do this.  Obviously, if a young guy is staying home and masturbating on the hour every hour, one might want to try to persuade him to get out more. But when a teenager first discovers sex, it&amp;#039;s common for him to want to masturbate several times a day, on some days. And this certainly won&amp;#039;t do him any harm.  But masturbating constantly over a period of hours can produce some swelling or &amp;amp;#8216;puffiness&amp;amp;#8217; of this penis. This is called &amp;amp;#8216;oedema&amp;amp;#8217; and is due to fluid leaking into the tissues. It will disappear after some hours because the fluid goes back into the bloodstream. Other boys will masturbate quite rarely, especially if they don&amp;amp;#8217;t have a high sex drive. But this is normal for them. Some men in their 70s and 80s are still masturbating several times a week. But in general terms, men masturbate most in their teens and gradually do it less and less as their life progresses &amp;amp;#8211; depending partly on whether or not they have a partner at the time. As we have already indicated, many men still like to masturbate even when they&amp;#039;re involved with a partner.  They often feel that the orgasm they achieve through masturbation is less complex and more locally intense than climaxes achieved through sexual intercourse.  Furthermore, they can control the pressure and speed of movement very accurately. In recent years, we have encountered a number of couples who achieve considerable satisfaction through the woman watching the man masturbate in front of her (or vice versa).  Also, this practice is certainly helpful when &amp;amp;#8211; for some medical reason &amp;amp;#8211; intercourse is difficult or impossible.    Masturbation and pornography At some point in their lives, almost all men will masturbate while looking at nude images on the internet, newspaper pin-ups, top-shelf magazines or sexy DVDs. For a single guy, viewing porn is seen as a pretty normal activity nowadays.  Some young men do worry that they might get fixated on it, but the majority of them have no trouble in transferring most of their sexual focus to a real, live, warm, sexy female when they meet one.  Masturbation using porn is more of an issue when a man is in a committed relationship. Some of these men worry that what they&amp;#039;re doing is wrong &amp;amp;#8211; even if they don&amp;#039;t want to stop. And of course many female partners really dislike this sort of activity and can feel bitterly rejected and threatened by it.  But most men who are in relationships are able to compartmentalise this kind of sexual behaviour. They may only do it occasionally, and they feel it has no bearing whatsoever on their love and desire for their partners.  But &amp;amp;#8211; and this is important &amp;amp;#8211; this kind of sexual indulgence ceases to be normal when a man actually prefers it to having sex with his partner. When this happens, the relationship is usually in some trouble.  Today, it is increasingly common for Internet porn to create that kind of problem (see below).  In such cases, it&amp;#039;s not uncommon for men to use porn more and more for relief, rather than face up to sorting out sexual or relationship difficulties.  This kind of avoidance behaviour almost invariably worsens an already problematic situation. If a man wants to save his relationship, but feels increasingly dependent on pornography, he should seek help. (See Further information for more details.)   Masturbation and the Internet Since round about the beginning of the 21st century, more and more men have been masturbating while using the Internet.  When this involves viewing the sort of pornographic images that you can also get on video, the situation is similar to when a man uses magazines or blue movies &amp;amp;#8211; in other words, he&amp;amp;#8217;s not getting involved with anybody else. But when the activity involves masturbating to orgasm while &amp;#039;talking&amp;#039; by use of the keyboard with another person, then this cannot honestly be judged as a solo activity, or as simple masturbation.  In fact, it can be seen as an act of infidelity &amp;amp;#8211; if the man in question is married or committed to a serious sexual relationship. Indeed in America recently, a woman divorced her husband because of his &amp;#039;infidelity&amp;#039; on the internet.  In 2015, it&amp;#039;s become surprisingly common for people to install video and audio equipment, so that they can see and talk to others while masturbating. If you&amp;#039;re married, this is not a very good idea.   Women and masturbation Teenage girls do not tend to masturbate as automatically as boys do. Of course, plenty of girls do discover that they get pleasant feelings from their genitals at quite an early age. And many of these girls do discover how to masturbate to orgasm in their mid to late teens.  But a lot of girls and young women simply do not feel many strong sexual urges.  Indeed, it&amp;#039;s quite common for a woman not to reach orgasm until she is about 19 years of age. And there are plenty of females who don&amp;#039;t reach one for years after that &amp;amp;#8211; either through sex with a partner, or by masturbating.  When we wrote our book The Big &amp;#039;O&amp;#039;, our research showed that a few women did not learn to achieve orgasm until their 40s &amp;amp;#8211; but when they did, they were very pleased about it and quickly made up for lost time! So it&amp;#039;s never too late to learn.  But why is there this discrepancy between male and female orgasmic ability?  One reason seems to be that a woman&amp;#039;s sex drive simply appears to take longer to develop than that of men.  Of course a woman&amp;#039;s orgasm is not essential in nature &amp;amp;#8211; that is to say a woman doesn&amp;#039;t need to orgasm to conceive, whereas a man does have to climax to produce the all-important sperm. Another reason for women&amp;#039;s slower development may be that their genitals are much more hidden away than the male genitals &amp;amp;#8211; and this in turn may be why women don&amp;#039;t have the same emotional and mental focus on the vulva that men have on the penis.   Methods of female masturbation  The average woman masturbates by stimulating her clitoris. She usually does this in little circular motions, either with her index or middle finger.  Generally, women begin by touching themselves just above, or below, the clitoris. But as their excitement mounts, they can tolerate more intense stimulation right on top of it. Some women find they like the feeling of &amp;#039;bulk&amp;#039; created by having something in the vagina at the same time. This could be two or three fingers of her other hand or some kind of object.  One word of caution: it&amp;#039;s best to use fingers or a sex aid designed for the purpose.  Women sometimes get into trouble if they use unwashed fruit, or other items, that may introduce infection into the vagina. And they should definitely always avoid anything that&amp;#039;s breakable, like glass &amp;amp;#8211; for obvious reasons. In recent years, there has been a bit of a vogue among some young women for using an electric toothbrush in the vagina. Pleasant though this may be, it could certainly cause damage to those delicate tissues and should be avoided.  Whether or not anything is introduced into the vagina &amp;amp;#8211; and this certainly does increase the excitement in a lot of women &amp;amp;#8211; the vast majority of females need to keep stimulating their clitoris at the same time in order to have a climax. A few women are so highly sexed that they can orgasm simply by rubbing their nipples &amp;amp;#8211; but this is just a small minority of highly-talented females.  Other women discover that they can bring themselves to a climax through squeezing their thighs together. Again they&amp;#039;re in the minority. Vast numbers of women nowadays enjoy using a vibrator, some or all of the time.  When a vibrator is used, sometimes a woman will use it to stimulate her clitoris. At other times she will use it in her vagina.  There&amp;#039;s no right or wrong way of pursuing solo pleasure &amp;amp;#8211; and a woman should experiment to find what she likes best.  Fortunately, it&amp;#039;s now quite easy to purchase good sex aids from reputable companies. (See Further information for more details.)    The use of female masturbation in achieving orgasm  As we&amp;#039;ve already mentioned, the female orgasm isn&amp;#039;t as reliable or as automatic as the male orgasm generally is.  For this reason many women consult psychosexual specialists, family planning doctors and so on in the hope that they can be helped to achieve the elusive &amp;#039;Big O&amp;#039;.  Nowadays, most experts agree that if a woman can reach orgasm through her own efforts, she can then learn to climax with a partner either during love play or intercourse.  Learning to climax through masturbation gives a woman confidence and satisfaction &amp;amp;#8211; and it also educates her about how she likes to be touched and stimulated. Once she knows these things, she can communicate them to a loving partner.  Some females have a real problem in touching their genitals.  This is usually because they had restrictive upbringings where they were taught that &amp;#039;nice girls don&amp;#039;t touch themselves there&amp;#039;. Or that &amp;#039;sex is for beasts&amp;#039;. Or that &amp;#039;sex is dirty&amp;#039;. But if a woman is prepared to give time and effort to learning about her own body, she can often overcome these unhelpful beliefs.  If you&amp;#039;re a woman who has trouble in reaching orgasm &amp;amp;#8211; even through masturbation &amp;amp;#8211; you might like to follow the advice given below.   How to achieve orgasm through masturbation &amp;amp;#8211; even if you&amp;#039;ve never managed it before  Allocate some time &amp;amp;#8211; at least an hour, twice a week &amp;amp;#8211; when you know you&amp;#039;ll have the house to yourself and can guarantee being undisturbed. (Arranging this can be the hardest part of the exercise).  Take a leisurely bath, using your favourite bath oil. Relax. Enjoy soaping your whole body. Give your breasts and your genitals plenty of attention.  Dry yourself with love and care and continue to explore your body as you do so.  Move to the bedroom. Make sure it&amp;#039;s warm and that it looks nice and is a pleasant place to be. Put some favourite music on if you&amp;#039;d like. Lie on the bed and carry on touching yourself, anyhow and any place that you like. All sorts of parts of your body might give you pleasant feelings. Find them! Give them attention. Be aware of pleasure.  Rub baby oil into your breasts and into your neck and throat. Enjoy the feeling.  Gradually, allow your hands to travel lower in your body. Caress your abdomen, and then use some more baby oil and touch yourself between your legs. There&amp;#039;s no wrong or right way of doing this. Just let your instinct take over.  Slip your fingers into your vagina. Try tightening your muscles round your fingers. Then relax. Try gently stretching the vaginal opening &amp;amp;#8211; this is something that gives exquisite pleasure to many women.  Start circling the area where your clitoris is. Don&amp;#039;t hurry this. As you become more focused on your genitals, you may well find that you start applying more and more pressure to your clitoris, and that your breathing is quickening, and &amp;amp;#8211; best of all &amp;amp;#8211; that you&amp;#039;re really enjoying yourself.  Don&amp;#039;t worry if you don&amp;#039;t get any further than this on the first few occasions. So long as you feel that you are loving your body and appreciating it and experiencing some good sensations, then that&amp;#039;s fine.  Don&amp;#039;t forget that the most powerful part of a woman&amp;#039;s arousal equipment is in her mind. So, it can be helpful to introduce some mental stimulation into the exercise. Try thinking of things that turn you on. Or, while you&amp;#039;re stimulating yourself, read from one of those erotic novels written for women. You might even like to try caressing yourself while viewing a sexy DVD &amp;amp;#8211; if you have a DVD player in your bedroom or somewhere else in the house where you can feel uninhibited and comfortable. One of Betty Dodson&amp;amp;#8217;s famous DVDs, on assisting women to reach orgasm through masturbation, may help.  You may like to use a vibrator because many women find this increases their arousal quite magically. If you don&amp;#039;t know where to get good books, videos or sex aids, see the further information section.  Each time you start caressing your body, try to keep going for longer and to increase your delight in what you&amp;#039;re finding out about yourself. Don&amp;#039;t panic if you still sometimes have feelings that what you&amp;#039;re doing is wrong. Just breathe deeply and tell yourself that it&amp;#039;s every woman&amp;#039;s right to love and enjoy her own body &amp;amp;#8211; and that masturbation is healthy and good and normal.  One day you&amp;#039;ll find that your caresses become more insistent and you&amp;#039;re breathing heavier and you feel a desperate urge to carry on what you&amp;#039;re doing. It&amp;#039;s common to feel a bit frightened at the intensity of what&amp;#039;s happening, if you&amp;#039;ve never felt it before. But go with the feelings. You deserve to have them. If rubbing your clitoris alone doesn&amp;#039;t quite get you to your climax, try putting one or two fingers of your other hand into your vagina. Or use a vibrator in your vagina or on your clitoris. Your instinct should take over and tell you what to do.   Hopefully, these powerful feelings will lead to your first orgasm. And once you&amp;#039;ve had one &amp;amp;#8211; you&amp;#039;ll find you can have others &amp;amp;#8211; maybe even on the same day. Many women like to practise having orgasms a few times on their own before involving a partner.  But once you do choose to try with the person you care for, make sure you incorporate what you&amp;#039;ve been doing into your love play. Show your partner what you like, and let him or her help you to experience this great joy.  If you follow this plan, without putting pressure on yourself to succeed, you&amp;#039;ll become more sexually aware &amp;amp;#8211; and it shouldn&amp;#039;t be too long before you join the ranks of the orgasmic. Good Luck.   Further information For women who have not yet managed to experience a climax, there&amp;#039;s more advice and help for you in our article: &amp;#039;Are you having trouble reaching orgasm? A guide for women&amp;#039;.  If you have other specific sexual problems &amp;amp;#8211; including emotional ones &amp;amp;#8211; and you want to get some professional help, please refer to our fact sheet &amp;#039;Who to contact for sex therapy&amp;#039;. For supplies of DVDs, erotic or sex education books, lubricants or sex aids etc &amp;amp;#8211; there are now several reliable and helpful companies run by women, for women (and their partners).  They include:   Passion 8. Now an extensive mail order business.  Sh! This is a shop in North London, for women. It&amp;#039;s also open to any man, so long as he&amp;#039;s accompanied by a responsible woman! It&amp;#039;s also a mail order business. There is also the online store Lovehoney.   Other people also read: Porn and relationships: can it be part of a normal relationship? Delayed ejaculation: what can be done for men with delayed or retarded ejaculation? Premature ejaculation (PE): treatment for mild and severe cases.  Last updated 01.03.2015 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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