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"  &amp;quot;I love dirty talk. My guy likes...silence. How can we reach a happy, sexy compromise?&amp;quot; First, you two need to talk outside the bedroom. &amp;quot;Give your guy the opportunity to share his thoughts by simply asking him,&amp;quot; says REDBOOK Love Network expert Michele Weiner-Davis, author of The Sex Starved Marriage. &amp;quot;Say that talking dirty is a real turn-on for you and that you can tell it makes him uncomfortable. Acknowledge that you know this might be hard for him to talk about but that you&amp;#039;d like him to try.&amp;quot; If he does open up, be understanding and validate his feelings, no matter what they are. &amp;quot;The goal is to recognize that you both can have very different triggers for passion and that&amp;#039;s okay,&amp;quot; says Weiner-Davis. &amp;quot;Talk with him about how you both can feel comfortable and satisfied. Though you might want to scream very racy things every time, concede that you&amp;#039;re willing to be silent sometimes, and suggest starting small: Try asking if he&amp;#039;d call you a certain pet name as a gift to you.&amp;quot; And when he does, no matter how awkward it may seem, bring on the fanfare: &amp;quot;Say how much you appreciated it, because that will help ease his self-consciousness and encourage him to try a bit more,&amp;quot; advises Weiner-Davis. If he balks at your attempts to have this conversation, don&amp;#039;t become discouraged. &amp;quot;Your guy might not talk at first, but that doesn&amp;#039;t mean he&amp;#039;s not taking your concerns to heart,&amp;quot; Weiner-Davis says. &amp;quot;You can still try to talk dirty next time you make love, easing in with tame tidbits and seeing how he reacts. And do bring this issue up again. Both your pleasure and his are important, so it&amp;#039;s a topic worth pursuing.&amp;quot; "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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