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" &amp;quot;Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God!&amp;quot; Those are the words that burst from Cassie Webster&amp;#039;s mouth the night she experienced her first multiple orgasm. &amp;quot;That night changed my life forever,&amp;quot; recalls the 28-year-old lifeguard from La Jolla, Calif. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;d had orgasms before, plenty of them. But I never understood what the big deal was. I&amp;#039;d come, he&amp;#039;d come, we&amp;#039;d fall asleep. Then one night, after I&amp;#039;d had my typical one-shot, my boyfriend kept thrusting. All of a sudden, I felt like I was going to come again. I just gave into the feeling, and my body exploded. It was as though I was rocking on the ocean and every wave drove these amazing pulses of pleasure through me.&amp;quot; Now, Cassie says once is never enough -- and she&amp;#039;s learned how to make multiple orgasms a regular event. Cassie&amp;#039;s not the only one with the potential for plural peaking. You can make multiples part of your sexual repertoire too! &amp;quot;If you can have one orgasm, you can have more than one,&amp;quot; insists Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of Supersexual Orgasm (HarperCollins, 1997). That&amp;#039;s because when it comes to coming, we women have it made. Men -- the poor things -- have what&amp;#039;s called a refractory period. (In other words, they need a break -- and sometimes a nap -- between orgasms.) Not so with women: We can ride wave after wave without a time-out. In fact, most women are actually capable of two different types of multiples. (Why not try for both?)  Sequential multiples are a series of climaxes that come fairly close together -- from two to 10 minutes apart -- with a drop-off in your arousal in between. &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s just like riding a roller coaster: You dip down after the first hill before climbing back up another one,&amp;quot; explains Susan Crain Bakos, author of Sexational Secrets (St. Martin&amp;#039;s Press, 1996). The most common scenario for sequentials: an oral sex climax followed by another climax during intercourse. Serial multiples are an even wilder ride: Your orgasms come one after another, separated by mere seconds with barely any interruption in arousal. &amp;quot;Here you feel wave after wave of pleasure, one on top of the other,&amp;quot; says Bakos. You&amp;#039;re most likely to have your boat rocked by serials during full-force intercourse as he hits one or more of your hottest spots. So, ready to go from &amp;quot;O&amp;quot; to &amp;quot;OOOOO!&amp;quot;?   Here, Cosmo&amp;#039;s eight steps to making your lovemaking a many-splendored thing.  If you&amp;#039;re not enjoying multiple orgasms, it&amp;#039;s probably because you&amp;#039;re simply not seeking them out. Lori, a 27-year-old media buyer from Princeton, N.J., says that her &amp;quot;single-mindedness&amp;quot; was all that was holding her back from having a multiple. &amp;quot;I always assumed I could only come once, so after I had an orgasm, I&amp;#039;d just concentrate on pleasing the guy I was with. Then one night, I was in bed with a new guy, someone who really turned me on. Even after I came I was really aroused, so I tried to have a second one just for the hell of it. And I did! Now I have multiples at least half the time.&amp;quot;   Bonus tip: If you always stop after one orgasm because your genitals become hypersensitive to the touch, try waiting 10 to 15 seconds, and then resume stimulation. &amp;quot;You&amp;#039;ll be astonished at how quickly you come again,&amp;quot; assures Bakos.  Whether you&amp;#039;re going for your first orgasm or your fourth, starting a sexual encounter with oral sex may be all it takes to ring your bell repeatedly. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ve found that for most women, the most successful way to have multiple orgasms is to receive oral sex before having intercourse,&amp;quot; says Bakos.   One oral-sex technique he should try: The Flame. Your lover can set you on fire by imagining the tip of his tongue is a fluttering candle flame and moving it rapidly around the sides of the clitoris, above and below it, as a flame would flicker. &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s a combination of varied and repeated stimuli, and almost everyone will respond quickly to that,&amp;quot; she insists. Since this is a technique for your man to use, we suggest you leave this magazine lying open in a spot where he won&amp;#039;t be able to miss it (like underneath the remote).  For some women, the G-spot -- a highly excitable area in the vagina -- is the secret to having orgasmic encores. Kathy, a 30-year-old aerobics instructor from Syracuse, N.Y., says her climaxes before she discovered the G-spot were anticlimactic. &amp;quot;I never believed the articles I read about the existence of the G-spot until the night my husband and I accidentally found it,&amp;quot; says Kathy. &amp;quot;He was thrusting really slowly and deeply. At first, I almost felt like I had to pee, and then all of a sudden, this unbelievable sensation washed over me. He stayed right there inside me and I just kept on coming. I must have had more than seven orgasms in the span of minutes.&amp;quot;   Since you can only feel the G-spot when you&amp;#039;re aroused -- the area swells with blood and becomes rough and raised -- save searching for it for times when you&amp;#039;re feeling frisky. When you&amp;#039;re ready, lie on your back and reach your index and middle fingers about two inches into your vaginal canal (your palm should be facing up). Rub the pads of your fingers around the top wall of your vagina. Your G-spot will probably feel like a rough patch about the size of a quarter. The first time you stimulate the G-spot -- which some experts say is directly connected to the orgasm center in your brain -- you&amp;#039;ll probably feel like you need to urinate. For most women, that sensation decreases the more the spot is stimulated. If you don&amp;#039;t feel anything, don&amp;#039;t worry, you and your partner might have more luck (and more fun!) just experimenting until you find it.  The angle of your hips determines both the depth and angle of your lover&amp;#039;s penis inside and outside your vagina, so simple adjustments may increase the friction on your hot spots and bring on the multiples. &amp;quot;One night in bed, my boyfriend and I found that if I lifted my rear end off the bed while we were having sex, he could penetrate me much, much deeper,&amp;quot; says Kathryn, 31, a pharmaceuticals salesperson from Tulsa, Okla. &amp;quot;Having my hips propped up with a pillow allowed him to hit my G-spot really hard. Suddenly I just started coming and coming -- it was like nothing I&amp;#039;d ever felt before.&amp;quot; Tricks to try: Position a pillow under your lower back or ask your man to lift your pelvis so that your vagina is slightly elevated, lower back pushed down. Or have him enter your vagina from behind -- many women find doing it doggie-style makes G-spot stimulation easier.  Keesling says she&amp;#039;s found a new trigger site she calls the cul-de-sac deep within the vagina. Located near the cervix, it only becomes accessible to his penis when you become extremely aroused and the muscles around the uterus lift up. To find yours, next time you&amp;#039;re making love in the missionary position, lift your legs up in the air and back toward your body. Then suck in your stomach. This combination of moves should allow his penis access. &amp;quot;When my boyfriend and I first tried sex with my knees pulled back toward my ears, I felt his penis hit a very sensitive place inside of me I had never felt before,&amp;quot; recalls Sue, a 29-year-old clothing-store manager from Duluth, Minn. &amp;quot;Then I had a tremendous rush of pleasure that radiated through my whole body.&amp;quot;  Why waste time toning your tummy when you could be exercising your orgasm muscles? &amp;quot;Studies have shown that the stronger the PC or pubococcygeus muscles -- the ones that contract when you have an orgasm or cut off the flow of urine -- the greater a woman&amp;#039;s orgasmic response,&amp;quot; says Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. &amp;quot;So strengthening your PC muscles with exercises called Kegels is the most important thing you can do to improve your chances of having multiple orgasms.&amp;quot;   Trudy, a 38-year-old physical therapist from Seattle, can testify to the power of PC exercises. &amp;quot;I was dating my future husband when I heard that doing Kegel exercises could boost pleasure,&amp;quot; Trudy recalls. &amp;quot;I started doing 20 of them every day. About a month later, my fiance and I were playing around in bed with different positions, and I suddenly felt a tremendous flood of pleasure. It was as though the most sensation I had previously had was a 3 and this was a 10. Every muscle seemed to contract and release in an unbelievable spasm. Even more unbelievably, the orgasm repeated ... and repeated. That was all it took to make me a Kegel believer!&amp;quot;   To start your own Kegel routine, squeeze the same muscles you would to control your flow of urine for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Repeat 10 times, working your way up to a series of 50, three times a day. &amp;quot;These exercises are great to do during a boring meeting at work,&amp;quot; says Whipple with a laugh. &amp;quot;Because they increase blood flow to the genitals, they can get you pretty excited. People will think you&amp;#039;re really paying attention because your cheeks will be rosy and you&amp;#039;ll have a big smile on your face.&amp;quot; And try working out during sex: not only will the extra flexing boost your arousal, it will give him a squeeze he&amp;#039;ll never forget.  &amp;quot;You can increase your chances of having a multiple simply by observing all the things that happen involuntarily when you approach orgasm and doing them intentionally,&amp;quot; says Keesling. Moaning out loud, breathing faster and harder, and tightening and loosening your pelvic muscles will send your body signals that it&amp;#039;s time for another orgasm, and that will make multiples more likely. &amp;quot;Eventually, you may even condition your body to become excited again automatically,&amp;quot; she says.  Take it from Tess, a 30-year-old Chicago theater manager: &amp;quot;One night, I had just finished climaxing during sex with my husband, but he was just getting started. I didn&amp;#039;t want to just lay there like a log, so I closed my eyes and started making some moaning noises. The more I moaned, the more excited my husband became, so I got even more into it -- breathing heavily and clenching and unclenching the muscles in my pelvis and butt. After about two or three minutes of this, all my playacting actually got me worked up for real! And I had my first orgasmic doubleheader.&amp;quot;  Play With Your Peaks Another way to fool your body into coming back for more is to practice a technique called peaking. &amp;quot;With this technique it&amp;#039;s possible to teach your body a new arousal pattern,&amp;quot; says Keesling. Think about your excitement on a 1 to 10 scale. A 2 or a 3 is a twinge of pleasure, 4 or 5 is low-level arousal, and by the time you get up to an 8, your heart is pounding, your breath is heavy, and your face is flushed. In peaking, you allow yourself to go up to a 4 or 5, then back off, taking a break from thrusting and stopping all other stimulation while you let yourself calm down for a few seconds. Then go up to a 6 and back off, then a 7 or 8 and back off, and so on. Delaying orgasm in this wavelike pattern not only results in an unusually intense orgasm, it sets you up for a second one because your body anticipates another peak.  If you&amp;#039;re trying all these techniques and not getting results, don&amp;#039;t despair: &amp;quot;Try tucking away this article and taking it out again in a few years,&amp;quot; suggests Bakos. &amp;quot;We&amp;#039;re not exactly sure why, but it appears that the closer a woman gets to 30, the likelier it is that she&amp;#039;s going to have multiples.&amp;quot; And no matter what your age, don&amp;#039;t put pressure on yourself to make multiples happen -- that will just be counterproductive. &amp;quot;Relax and focus on the process of making love rather than simply striving for an end result,&amp;quot; advises Whipple. &amp;quot;Sex is supposed to be pleasure-oriented, not goal-oriented.&amp;quot; "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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