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" Q: This guy who has a bad rep just started texting me. I told him what I had heard about him, and now he wants to take me on a date to prove that he&amp;#039;s not a jerk. Should I go?  A: A lot of times the impressions we have of people we don&amp;#039;t know that well are a little (or a lot) off base. If this guy has planned out a nice date, I don&amp;#039;t see any reason for you not to go on it and get to know him better. Maybe you&amp;#039;ll discover that he&amp;#039;s a pretty sweet guy! As long as you don&amp;#039;t have any real concrete reasons to think he&amp;#039;s a jerk, I&amp;#039;d say give this one a chance! Of course, if he&amp;#039;s known for being a player or a heartbreaker, take it really slow, keep your guard up, and don&amp;#039;t get physical too fast. If he&amp;#039;s really not a jerk, he&amp;#039;ll be happy to go at your pace. Q: This guy acts like he hates me when we are around other people\u2014but when it&amp;#039;s just the two of us, he&amp;#039;s super nice. And now I like him! What&amp;#039;s going on?  A: It&amp;#039;s not at all uncommon for a guy who likes a girl to pick on her in front of other people because he&amp;#039;s not sure how to act. That being said, if he&amp;#039;s doing things that are actually hurting your feelings (as opposed to playfully teasing you), you should tell him. Say: &amp;quot;I love being around you when it&amp;#039;s just the two of us, but what&amp;#039;s up with the way you treat me when we&amp;#039;re in a group? So not cool.&amp;quot; If he doesn&amp;#039;t clean up his act after you&amp;#039;ve called him out, then stop hanging out with him one-on-one so that it doesn&amp;#039;t feed your crush. You deserve to like the type of guy who has the guts to treat a girl nicely in public. Q: This guy keeps telling me he likes me, but that he doesn&amp;#039;t want to be my boyfriend because he&amp;#039;s &amp;quot;got a lot on his mind&amp;quot;\u2014and he wants to get to know me better first. Advice?  A: I actually think it&amp;#039;s pretty mature of this guy to want to get to know you better before jumping into something! I mean, you don&amp;#039;t want to be his girlfriend only to break up a week later, right? So just like he&amp;#039;s taking this time to get to know you better, you should do the same, and really think about what you might want from a relationship with him. Nothing bad will happen if you two hang out and take it slow. But if it seems like he&amp;#039;s just trying to hook up with you without a commitment, don&amp;#039;t take the bait. Hooking up can put a lot of emotions on the table, so it&amp;#039;s not something you want to do with a guy who&amp;#039;s unsure of his feelings. Remember, hooking up is not going to make a guy who doesn&amp;#039;t like you fall for you, it&amp;#039;s not going to keep a guy around forever, and it&amp;#039;s not going to make one decide that he wants to be your boyfriend. The real way to catch him? Let him get to know what a fun, intelligent, and interesting girl you are. XO, Amber "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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