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" Is three a crowd if it&amp;#x27;s you, your boyfriend, and his sister/your best friend? Should our reader take a chance on a relationship with a guy...if his sister happens to be her best friend and, also, she&amp;#x27;s kind of not over her ex? Hear her out. She writes: I&amp;#x27;ve been with Max for three years. We&amp;#x27;ve been on and off until I stopped it last year. Then this past November I decided to give it a try again. The thing is, from the beginning he told me he didn&amp;#x27;t wanted to have anything serious. At first I was fine, but then I started to gain feelings, so I stopped it. He was my first man, and I still feel things for him. He is special to me, but he still doesn&amp;#x27;t want to have anything serious. Lately, we haven&amp;#x27;t seen each other very often, we don&amp;#x27;t talk very often, and I&amp;#x27;m the one who constantly start things. What&amp;#x27;s happening now is that I&amp;#x27;ve been spending a lot of time with Eric, my best friend&amp;#x27;s brother. We&amp;#x27;ve been getting very close to the point that we had sex. But my best friend isn&amp;#x27;t aware of what&amp;#x27;s happening between her brother and me. I&amp;#x27;m afraid that if I mess up, I will lose a great person and a great relationship of years with her. Eric is aware of what&amp;#x27;s going on between Max and me. But now Eric told me that I have to make a decision to stay with either him or Max. I really enjoy spending time with Eric; he is a great guy, and I have a possibility of something serious with him, something that Max won&amp;#x27;t give me. But I still feel things for Max, and if I fail with Eric I could also lose my relationship with my best friend. Help! What should I do? OK, let&amp;#x27;s address the two separate parts of this dilemma individually. First, Max. I understand that you still have feelings for Max, which is natural after three years, but you need to cut things off with him for good. He has repeatedly told you he doesn&amp;#x27;t want anything serious, and you do. And what&amp;#x27;s more, he&amp;#x27;s not making any effort to spend time with you. This is not a relationship that&amp;#x27;s going to work, and I think it&amp;#x27;s time for you to let go of it. I know that&amp;#x27;s easier said than done, but I sense that you know deep down that it&amp;#x27;s what you need to do, and you can do it. It just might take some time to get over it. Which brings us to part two: Eric. It&amp;#x27;s always tricky to date a friend&amp;#x27;s family member, but you&amp;#x27;re really playing with fire if you go into it feeling unsure of your feelings for him. It sounds like so far you&amp;#x27;ve been pretty open and honest with Eric about the situation, and that&amp;#x27;s a good start. But I think that you need to take a little time to yourself to process the situation and figure out if you truly care for Eric, or if you&amp;#x27;re just trying to start a relationship with him in response to your hurt feelings about Max. Tell him you&amp;#x27;re going to take some time to think and that you appreciate his patience in the situation. If you do decide you really are interested in dating Eric, then you need to come clean to your friend. If she loves you and can tell you really do care about her brother, I would hope she&amp;#x27;d be supportive, even though it might be hard for her to get used to. But, yes, there is always the potential that if things go wrong, it could mess with your friendship with her. That&amp;#x27;s why you can&amp;#x27;t go into it lightly, and you definitely shouldn&amp;#x27;t go into it if you&amp;#x27;re still hung up on another guy. That&amp;#x27;s a surefire way to hurt Eric and lose your best friend in one fell swoop. Make sure that if you&amp;#x27;re taking a risk, you&amp;#x27;re doing it with the best intentions and for a relationship that&amp;#x27;s worth it to both of you. What do you guys think? Have you ever dated a friend&amp;#x27;s sibling (or other family member)? How did it go? Should our reader risk it with Eric? Need advice on your own dilemma? Email smittenbloggers@gmail.com and tell us all about it! "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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