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"  Every guy dreads the moment his girlfriend, inevitably, asks if he watches porn. He does some awkward stammering, some handwringing, some eye contact avoidance. Lots of &amp;quot;ums&amp;quot; pepper a few awkward, contradictory phrases like, &amp;quot;Well, no... not really, but sometimes. I mean, uh, I guess?&amp;quot; Eventually, every man put in this position forces out the same phrase: &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t really like that stuff.&amp;quot; That&amp;#039;s not true. Guys, including your boyfriend, like porn. So do a lot of women. Men just get off to visuals more easily, which is why it always seems to be guys watching all the porn. It doesn&amp;#039;t mean men are constantly looking at porn and self-pleasuring like fiendish deviants. Your boyfriend (probably) doesn&amp;#039;t have some insane stash of weird fetish porn and Fleshlights hidden somewhere in his walls. But most guys look at porn on a fairly regular basis. Every guy I know looks at it anywhere from once or twice a day to once a week. These are single guys, dating guys, married guys, and guys who have fuck buddies. Maybe the guys who have a lot of sex look at a little less porn, and maybe the ones in a dry spell Google it a little more, but relationship status doesn&amp;#039;t affect guy&amp;#039;s habits a whole lot. It&amp;#039;s funny, when guys talk about how often they watch porn, they assume they are average; anything else is too little or too much. Some men have higher sex drives and more frequent masturbation habits the same way some people might like to have a glass of wine with dinner every night. They&amp;#039;re not necessarily addicts or alcoholics. It not until porn impacts a man&amp;#039;s personal life or sex drive that you should be concerned. &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s porn,&amp;quot; one friend said when I asked why he liked watching it. You would&amp;#039;ve thought I asked him why he&amp;#039;s really into having a functioning central nervous system. &amp;quot;How else am I going to masturbate?&amp;quot; His question is entirely reasonable. It&amp;#039;s pretty rare for a guy to light some candles, lie down on his bed, and explore his body for hours. We&amp;#039;re probably hunched over in front of our computers making a lot of unfortunate faces. It might not be pretty, but anything else seems unnatural. If you&amp;#039;re OK with him masturbating regularly \u2014 and you should be, we all should be \u2014 you should feel OK with him watching porn just as often. &amp;quot;How else am I going to masturbate?&amp;quot; is the porn equivalent of &amp;quot;What is the sound of one hand clapping?&amp;quot; (in this case, &amp;quot;what is the sound of one hand fapping?&amp;quot;) A lot of women get uncomfortable when they find out their guy is watching porn because they see it as cheating. They&amp;#039;re leering after some other woman and getting something out of it. On a superficial level, that&amp;#039;s true. But for a guy, it&amp;#039;s a visual aid because it really is harder for us to get off just using our imaginations. Your boyfriend wacking it to Jenna Jameson a couple days a week does not mean he&amp;#039;s cheating on you with Jenna Jameson. Her boobs just happen to bounce in a pleasing manner. We don&amp;#039;t look at it as cheating any more than women would using a dildo or vibrator (and consider the fact that those sex toys generally intimidate men). They&amp;#039;re components of self-pleasure the other gender doesn&amp;#039;t necessarily understand. And just like a vibrator, porn isn&amp;#039;t necessary for a guy to get off, but it makes the whole experience a whole lot easier. Isn&amp;#039;t that the point of masturbation? It&amp;#039;s easy, no fuss, minimal effort sex by yourself. If you feel your partner&amp;#039;s porn habits are actively and negatively impacting their lifestyle, here are some resources: SASH and SAA. Photo Credit: Getty Want more from Frank? Follow him on Twitter. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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