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"I know I&amp;#039;ve addressed the subject of divorce parties here before, and I have to say that my feelings still haven&amp;#039;t changed. I don&amp;#039;t think a divorce (particularly if you have kids together) is anything to celebrate, in general. That being said, I totally get the need to celebrate the end of daily madness that goes with an unraveling marriage, the sense of &amp;quot;Holy cow, I can do this now,&amp;quot; and the marking of a significant milestone in your life. I had a little get-together just a month or so after Peter left, that ended up being me and a few girls from the neighborhood, talking in a wistful way about life and love and living through it all. It was subdued, it was thoughtful and it was just what I needed. Other people might need more, though. I was put on this subject by this article about the various ways women mark the end of their marriage - everything from sawing cakes apart with hacksaws to jewelry purchases and lavish parties with fireworks displays. I suppose if you have the money to spend, it could be fun to blow off steam with your girlfriends like that. I just don&amp;#039;t think it&amp;#039;s for me. I&amp;#039;m thinking more along the lines of this picture post that appeared on Reddit yesterday. The redditor who posted it says that his mother gets a cake to celebrate her divorce every year. Part of me wonders if that&amp;#039;s applicable to me, though. I can celebrate my &amp;quot;freedom&amp;quot;, but the truth is, I was the one keeping myself in captivity for a lot of that time. Maybe I&amp;#039;d be better off with a cake that says &amp;quot;Empowerment&amp;quot; or &amp;quot;Forward&amp;quot; or even &amp;quot;Better&amp;quot;. I&amp;#039;ll eat a slice quietly on my back deck, with a glass of wine under a sky full of stars and remember how far I&amp;#039;ve come.  Who needs parties and fireworks when you&amp;#039;ve got that? **Follow Ellie on Twitter or Facebook** "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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