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"In a perfect world, your relatives and your in-laws would happily spend every holiday together so you&amp;amp;#8217;d never have to choose just one family to visit on Thanksgiving and Christmas/Hanukkah. Oh, you don&amp;amp;#8217;t live in a perfect world? Then read on for tips for divvying up the holidays. Spend part of the day with one family and the rest with the other. If you&amp;amp;#8217;re high school sweethearts (or just happened to grow up in the same hometown), there&amp;amp;#8217;s a good chance that your families celebrate holidays a brief car ride away from each other. In that case, it&amp;amp;#8217;s totally doable to have a holiday dinner with one family and dessert with the other. Though I could walk to Paul&amp;amp;#8217;s parents&amp;#x27; house from my parents&amp;amp;#8217; home, Paul&amp;amp;#8217;s family tends to celebrate holidays in Brooklyn with his grandma and cousins while my family treks out to southern New Jersey where my grandparents and cousins live. And those holiday homes are at least two hours apart in traffic, which is why we&amp;amp;#133; Give certain holidays to one family, and the rest to the other. When you&amp;amp;#8217;re an interfaith couple like me and Paul, this one&amp;amp;#8217;s a no-brainer. His family gets Christmas Eve, Christmas, and Easter, while my family gets Passover, Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, and Hanukkah. But this method left us totally confused about what to do with Thanksgiving, the one major holiday both of our families celebrate in earnest. In our 15-year-long relationship, Paul and I have only spent two Thanksgivings together--the two of us split up for this holiday while we were dating and even while we were engaged. Now that we&amp;amp;#8217;re married and going our separate ways on Turkey Day seems odd, we do the below. Alternate which family you spend each holiday with year after year. The first Thanksgiving we were married, we went to my grandparents&amp;amp;#8217; house. Last year, we went to Paul&amp;amp;#8217;s cousins&amp;amp;#8217; apartment. Next week, we&amp;amp;#8217;re heading back to my grandparents&amp;amp;#8217; retirement community. The key for this to work: Stick to the rules. Both families have given us minor guilt trips (hey, they&amp;amp;#8217;re Jewish and Catholic, so we&amp;amp;#8217;re thrilled that these guilt trips haven&amp;amp;#8217;t been too severe!) about skipping a Thanksgiving with them, but over time, we&amp;amp;#8217;ll have graced each family with our presence (who knew it was such a hot commodity?) the same amount of times, so we just remind them of the fairness of this setup. I&amp;amp;#8217;m sure things will get more complicated when kids enter the picture, but maybe by then, we&amp;amp;#8217;ll have a big enough home to entertain both families at once. When did you start celebrating holidays with your man? How will you decide which family you go see? Which of the above tactics do you suspect will be your go-tos? More About Life After You Get Married How Kim and Rory Split Up Holidays Some Wedding Fights Carry Over Into Marriage What Married Sex Is Like More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Add us to your iGoogle homepage Photo: Comstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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