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"  THE PROBLEM: Being seen as &amp;quot;just one of the guys.&amp;quot;  MADDY, 23: Ever since I graduated from college, I&amp;#039;ve noticed a pattern with men: I reveal a lot about myself early on. It&amp;#039;s too much, too soon\u2014I become just one of the guys. SIGGY: I want men to see you as a potential girlfriend. You have to learn to be a little bit more sexual. You remind me of Jessica Biel\u2014 MADDY: I&amp;#039;m obsessed with her! SIGGY: When Jessica dumped Justin, he went nuts. Look up pictures of her after the breakup. See how her style changed. She went from being a tomboy to pumping it up. I see you in trousers, a tank top, and a belt, with heels and red lipstick and your hair in a messy bun. Classic. MADDY: OK, I can see that. Another thing is that when I feel a connection with someone, I cherish it. I&amp;#039;ll want to keep hanging out. If I&amp;#039;m feeling the vibe, I jump right in.  SIGGY: If a man is not chasing you, you&amp;#039;re not hooking up with him. Have dinner and a drink, but if you want him to think about you in a romantic way, don&amp;#039;t give him what he wants.  MADDY: So hold back a little. SIGGY: Right now there&amp;#039;s nothing mysterious about you. Men want to unravel you a bit, but you&amp;#039;re giving it all to them right away. MADDY: It&amp;#039;s courtship! SIGGY: Exactly! I also want to see you flirt more\u2014complimenting, smiling, using direct eye contact, and always looking your very best.  Two weeks later, after taking Siggy&amp;#039;s advice . . .  MADDY: I feel like I have this whole new perspective on life. None of what you told me to do was outlandish; it was achievable, which felt empowering. I already feel more feminine\u2014that&amp;#039;s something I could do easily. When I went to hang out in Central Park, instead of just throwing on sweats, I put on a cute outfit. And when you feel good in your clothes and they flatter you, you feel more confident. Then, a guy at my gym whom I&amp;#039;ve talked to for three weeks or so asked me out! So we went to dinner, and he said he sees me as someone he&amp;#039;d like to seriously date.  SIGGY: I am dying!  MADDY: I definitely feel a connection with him, and we have so much fun together, but I told him I want to take it slow. He&amp;#039;s taking me on a fancy date tonight.  SIGGY: I want you to be careful, though. It takes three to six months to get to know someone. Say, &amp;quot;I appreciate your feelings, and in six months, we&amp;#039;ll revisit whether we&amp;#039;re going to get serious.&amp;quot; He&amp;#039;ll freak out when you say that. It&amp;#039;s confident, it&amp;#039;s sexy, it&amp;#039;s mysterious. Anything that happens fast ends fast. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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