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"Bravo TV&amp;amp;#8217;s Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger once told me that when it comes to meeting men, we want to get them to come talk to us without having to speak. &amp;amp;#8220;He who speaks first is male,&amp;amp;#8221; warned Patti, &amp;amp;#8220;so you want to be feminine energy.&amp;amp;#8221; Whether you&amp;amp;#8217;re aiming to give off feminine energy only, or you&amp;amp;#8217;re shy, or you&amp;amp;#8217;re in a really loud club, or you&amp;amp;#8217;re just plain in a foreign country where few people speak your language (like me&amp;amp;#8212;I&amp;amp;#8217;m in Brazil right now), it&amp;amp;#8217;s good to know how to get a guy to come to you without saying a word. It&amp;amp;#8217;s amazing how people react when you hold up a camera in a crosswalk. Play the damsel in distress On my flight to Rio, I sat in the back with a bunch of deportees. (When we landed, there was an announcement that anyone without a passport or visa had to wait while we deplaned. I thought, Who comes to a foreign country without papers? That&amp;amp;#8217;s when I heard about the U.S. Marshals and the handcuffs back at JFK.) Anyway, I&amp;amp;#8217;d been surrounded by a lot of rowdy guys speaking Portuguese, so I just kept to myself. But when I reached for my bag in the overhead compartment, a few of the guys helped me get it down. And then I attempted to stuff my jacket into the bag and zip it up, and I tried about fifty times. The guy next to me reached over, shoved my jacket in with great force, and zipped it easily. I thanked him with a nod. (You know, New Yorkers are so used to minding their own business, it&amp;amp;#8217;s refreshing when other people help you out!) Sometimes you don&amp;amp;#8217;t have to do anything flirtatious to get attention; just struggle&amp;amp;#8212;visually! Then, if these guys weren&amp;amp;#8217;t about to be escorted by the police, you could thank the cutest one and ask him where he&amp;amp;#8217;s going&amp;amp;#133;then maybe share a taxi, get a drink, etc. Smile Only a few signs are universal: it&amp;amp;#8217;s hot (fan the hand), smile, I&amp;amp;#8217;m choking. Men just need a little encouragement. If you can make eye contact, smile at them. If they&amp;amp;#8217;re available and interested, they&amp;amp;#8217;ll come over. I remember just smiling at a guy in a bar once; it was like he&amp;amp;#8217;d been waiting for a green light because he came over immediately and we ended up dating for three months. Use your eyebrows People in general aren&amp;amp;#8217;t that expressive. They look like Mona Lisa when they try to smile. Look in a mirror and smile. Then smile and lift your eyebrows. It brightens your face. You might feel cheesy, but I swear guys really respond to expressive women. Also, in theater, I learned that the one thing people can see from far away is your eyebrows. So lift &amp;amp;#8216;em up! Even in a dim bar. Try winking Winks get a bad rap for being cheesy; that&amp;amp;#8217;s why they&amp;amp;#8217;re so underused. A wink really catches a person off-guard, which makes it super effective. I swear, you wink at someone and that person cannot believe you winked. Down in Rio, my friend Melissa got a wink from the cabana boy after he&amp;amp;#8217;d been mute all week. She was absolutely delighted. Then there&amp;amp;#8217;s always the Slow Wink, a move I patented, which involves a shoulder roll and a toss of the head. It&amp;amp;#8217;s embarrassing but it does the job. Know when to give up If you make eye contact with a cute guy and you appear to be open, friendly, and inviting, and he still doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t come over, you probably don&amp;amp;#8217;t want to waste your time going after him. He knows something you don&amp;amp;#8217;t&amp;amp;#8212;like, that he&amp;amp;#8217;s not interested&amp;amp;#133;or he&amp;amp;#8217;s married. Of course there aren&amp;amp;#8217;t plenty of exceptions, but I like the men who are hunters. That&amp;amp;#8217;s just me. Have you ever lured a man in without speaking? It makes you feel pretty powerful, doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t it? Or do you always make the first move? More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering for or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;amp;#8217;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow us on Twitter!"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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