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"We&amp;amp;#8217;ve all heard the saying &amp;amp;#8220;absence makes the heart grow fonder,&amp;amp;#8221; but in some long distance relationships, it just doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t apply. Today, we&amp;amp;#8217;re helping a reader who is unsure about where her LDR is headed. Writes an anonymous Smitten reader: My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. And things have been going great, but recently we had a talk in person; he was visiting me. He said he still loves me and everything but he is worried that things may not work out for us, he really wants them to work out though. He says he doesn&amp;#x27;t want to break up, he still wants to talk to me and see where things go, but his feelings for me aren&amp;#x27;t growing anymore like mine are for him. He did say that I&amp;#x27;m different than any girl he has ever dated though and he really hopes things work out. I really hope things work out as well because I love him more than anyone and don&amp;#x27;t want to lose him. Should I be really worried or just try and improve our relationship somehow? Or do something else? And here&amp;amp;#8217;s what I think: Thanks for emailing! And sorry to hear that you&amp;amp;#8217;re going though this. Your boyfriend certainly said a mouthful during your last visit together. Rather than analyze what he may or may not have meant by his news, consider how it makes you feel. It sounds like what he had to say really hurt your feelings and that&amp;amp;#8217;s totally understandable. After he voiced his concerns, did you start thinking about the current state of your relationship? Are you happy with the way things are going? Do you still want to be with him in light of what he&amp;amp;#8217;s recently shared with you? You mentioned trying to &amp;amp;#8220;improve&amp;amp;#8221; your relationship, but relationships require work from both parties. If he&amp;amp;#8217;s not willing to join you in your efforts (whether that&amp;amp;#8217;s trying to see each other more often, giving each other more space, talking on the phone more or whatever) then he&amp;amp;#8217;s not worth it. You deserve to be with someone who is as mad about you as you are for him. It&amp;amp;#8217;s one thing to be unsure about where your relationship is going; it&amp;amp;#8217;s something that a lot of couples deal with. But it&amp;amp;#8217;s entirely another to come out and say that you think your relationship isn&amp;amp;#8217;t going to work out. Before you decide what to do, really think about what you want from your love life and what you want in a partner. Also, sit down with a good friend and tell her your situation. Even if you and your pal can&amp;amp;#8217;t come up with a solution right away, sometimes talking out loud about our problems helps us look at them in a new light. What do you think our reader should do? Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? And if you&amp;amp;#8217;re in a long-distance relationship (I know quite a few of you are!) what advice do you have for our reader? P.S. Reader&amp;#x27;s Dilemma: How Do I Deal With a Long Distance Relationship? More Ways to Get Glamour: Chat with celebs, VIP fashion stars, beauty pros and more on our Facebook page! Visit Facebook.com/glamour for this month&amp;amp;#8217;s schedule Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad--print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Photo: Medioimages/Photodisc"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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