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"Religious differences can create strife in relationships, as it has with this reader, whose boyfriend could either be flaking, or trying to nip such a problem in the bud: I just started seeing this guy six weeks ago and we really hit it off. However, he came to me a few days ago and we had a two-hour long conversation about the fact that he&amp;#x27;s worried our different religions (he&amp;#x27;s converting to Judaism, I&amp;#x27;m Christian) will ultimately be a deal-breaker, should we pursue being in a legit relationship. He also said he may be using the religion thing as a front for his true insecurities in getting close to someone&amp;amp;#8212;his live-in girlfriend, who he&amp;amp;#8217;s converting for, dumped him last year, after he proposed. So here I am, waiting for him to &amp;quot;pass judgment&amp;quot;, essentially, on whether he thinks we should continue seeing each other. I&amp;#x27;m so into him it&amp;#x27;s stupid, and I can&amp;#x27;t help but think that the religion excuse is just that&amp;amp;mdash;an excuse. Should I brace myself for the worst? Instead of bracing yourself for the worst, I say take some agency. Why does this decision get to be his? His religious beliefs are so malleable that he was willing to change them for someone, but he can&amp;amp;#8217;t even contemplate a future where he might be able to make those new beliefs coincide with someone of a different faith? That sounds fatuous at best, and disingenuous (or at very least small-minded) at worst. Or, as you so accurately put it, like an excuse. I have my own rule for dating people with different religious beliefs than my own, but that rule works for me. Not everybody. This guy&amp;amp;#8217;s rule seems to be that he can only date people who share his adopted faith; fine. But to present that as a conflict at this point makes me think that his rules are subjugated to his desires, which isn&amp;amp;#8217;t reprehensible, but shouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t put him in any place to &amp;amp;#8220;judge&amp;amp;#8221; you. Your and your guy are smart to talk about potential religious conflicts early on, but his reasoning isn&amp;amp;#8217;t sound. No matter how crazy your are about this fellow, it&amp;amp;#8217;s time to take action. If he were any kind of mensch, he wouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t be making you wait. Has a guy ever made decisions about your relationship based on religious values that you did not agree with? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally Anonymous! More on Dating at Glamour.com Is It Shallow to Judge People on Grammar? Oral Sex: Officially Legal in Louisiana! Plus 8 of Our Favorite Oral Sex Euphemisms Dating: 4 Guys Confess The TV Shows Women Think We Hate, But We Actually Love! More Ways to Get Glamour: NEW! Now You Can Read Glamour on Flipboard! Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad--print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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