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"What do you do when you start dating a guy and he resents your friends&amp;amp;#133;especially when your friends are all dudes? Is it fair for him to ask you to spend less time with them? That&amp;amp;#8217;s exactly what this reader&amp;amp;#8217;s BF is asking of her: My guy and I have been dating exclusively for nearly seven months now and from the start I was honest about the fact that my circle of friends is mostly guys. He was cool with this at first but recently he (very calmly and nicely) asked me to not go to a party because I was going with three of my guy friends. There have been several occasions where he&amp;#x27;s grabbed a drink after work with his mostly female coworkers. I think it&amp;#x27;s a little hypocritical but my guy insists it&amp;amp;#8217;s not. We have both been cheated on in the past but I don&amp;#x27;t think this is a trust issue. Am I wrong for thinking he&amp;#x27;s being a hypocrite about this? --Man Surrounded Girl On one hand, he&amp;amp;#8217;s right, going for drinks with coworkers is less a matter of choice than going to a party with friends (after work drinks involves networking, keeping sane with coworkers, career advancement, etc.). On the other hand, you are completely right and this guy is being a hypocrite. What this comes down to is the following: he&amp;amp;#8217;s either going to trust you or he&amp;amp;#8217;s not. He&amp;amp;#8217;s not comfortable with you going to a party with a bunch of guys? Well what if you went with a bunch of girlfriends&amp;amp;#133;.and then hooked up with a stranger at the party? What if you went with a bunch of girls and then decided that was the night you were going to experiment with one of them? His logic is just bad here. There&amp;amp;#8217;s also the slippery slope argument. Today it&amp;amp;#8217;s &amp;amp;#8220;Please don&amp;amp;#8217;t go to a party with a bunch of dudes who aren&amp;amp;#8217;t me.&amp;amp;#8221; Tomorrow it could be &amp;amp;#8220;Please don&amp;amp;#8217;t leave the house without me.&amp;amp;#8221; The next thing you know you&amp;amp;#8217;re asking permission to take baths and only communicating with your family by email (which he reads). Dude needs to man up. This is a confidence issue as much as a trust issue. He also needs to be smarter and realize that setting boundaries like this are only going to cause resentment and aren&amp;amp;#8217;t going to address any problems you guys might have, or that he might have. Has a guy ever asked you not to hang out with certain people? What was your reaction? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally Anonymous! More on What Men Want at Glamour.com Ask a Guy: My Boyfriend Wants Me to Be Vocal During Sex and I Don&amp;amp;#8217;t Know How How to Twitter Flirt in 4 Easy Steps 6 Guys Confess: The Best End to a Valentine&amp;#x27;s Day Date Is... Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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