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"I really don&amp;amp;#8217;t get people&amp;amp;#8217;s obsession with having the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Seriously, it&amp;amp;#8217;s bizarre! Especially when it goes to THIS extent! Writes Save the Date reader Leila: My cousin recently got engaged. I am very happy for her and was incredibly excited when she asked me to be in the wedding party. Now, due to a disproportionate number of men and women in the bridal party, she has asked me to ask my boyfriend of seven months to be in the wedding party as well. He has only met the couple a handful of times. How do I proceed? Here are my thoughts: Are you kidding me? You know what&amp;amp;#8217;s more awkward than having an uneven wedding party? Having a guy the groom&amp;amp;#8217;s met three times tagging along for the bachelor party! Or hanging out with the groom and his childhood friends while they get dressed together pre-wedding. The point of having a wedding party is to surround yourself with the friends and family members you&amp;amp;#8217;re closest with on your wedding day. It&amp;amp;#8217;s NOT to ensure you have perfectly symmetrical photos in your wedding album. Plus, the second-hand wedding party invitation is almost insulting, in my opinion. (To recap: The bride asked her bridesmaid to ask her boyfriend to be a groomsman!) If the groom wants someone to be a groomsman, he should call and ask himself. Although in this case, it seems like he may not know the potential groomsman well enough to have his phone number! If you MUST have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, I think it&amp;amp;#8217;s better to trim one side than add truly random people (like a cousin&amp;amp;#8217;s boyfriend of less than a year) to the other. As far as your situation goes, Leila, I&amp;amp;#8217;d call the bride and say, &amp;amp;#8220;I&amp;amp;#8217;m sorry, but I feel like it would be weird. I think adding him to a group of the groom&amp;amp;#8217;s closest friends would be uncomfortable for everyone involved.&amp;amp;#8221; You could even offer to step down as a bridesmaid to help even out the numbers. Hopefully at that point she&amp;amp;#8217;ll see how unreasonable she&amp;amp;#8217;s being! Perhaps I&amp;amp;#8217;m being cynical and the bride sees a future for Leila and her guy and wants to really welcome him into the family. But I just don&amp;amp;#8217;t think that&amp;amp;#8217;s the case here! Ladies, what do you think? Should Leila ask her boyfriend to be a groomsman in her cousin&amp;amp;#8217;s wedding? Or is that just, um, crazy? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * Would You Change Your Name If it Meant Having Wacky Initials? * Three Brides, One Dilemma: Should Every Sibling Automatically Be Included in Your Wedding Party? * What Would You Do if Your Future Sister-in-Law Was Stealing Your Wedding Day Thunder? More Ways to Get Glamour: NEW! Now You Can Read Glamour on Flipboard! Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour for your iPad. Print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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