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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: Do guys really believe in love at first sight? Or is it just a bunch of crap? A: Here&amp;#x27;s a better question: does anyone believe in love at first sight? I, for one, do not. But I do believe in lust at first sight, as well as like at first sight. Everyone has experienced that feeling at one point or another; the feeling of instant attraction or connection. But that isn&amp;#x27;t love. Not in my experience anyway. People often say, &amp;quot;I knew we&amp;#x27;d be together forever from the moment we met.&amp;quot; Usually those people are in commercials for eHarmony or Match.com, posing against a white background while some old R&amp;amp;B song serenades them. (Why is it always a white background? Why not put them in a field of flowers, or anything that doesn&amp;#x27;t bring to mind what people see after a near-death experience?) This sort of thinking, that you fell in love the moment you laid eyes on the person, is what I like to call revisionist history. The person thinks back to the first time they met their boyfriend/wife/girlfriend/husband, and all they can remember is instantly falling head over heels in love. Therefore, they must have felt that way from the moment their beloved crossed their field of vision. In actuality, &amp;quot;I am in love with this person&amp;quot; is probably not the first thing that crossed their mind. (If it is, they are either 13 or clinically insane.) Their first thought upon seeing the future love of their life was probably more along the lines of, &amp;quot;Wow, he/she is really cute and/or f-ing hot. I sure hope I don&amp;#x27;t have mustard on my shirt. Do I have coffee breath? Crap! Is that my phone buzzing?? Not now, Mom! Not now!!!&amp;quot; That said, I am enough of a romantic to believe that instant attraction and sparks do occur. I&amp;#x27;ve certainly felt it. There is nothing better than the feeling of meeting someone, and instantly having a goosebumps-but-in-your-stomach connection. (Oh man, now I sound like one of those ads...) But are you in love? Hell to the N-O. Love has to be earned. Love takes time. Love isn&amp;#x27;t something that can just... Oh, hello, turkey sandwich. I didn&amp;#x27;t see you there, all well dressed with nice provolone cheese, lettuce, heirloom tomato, and cucumbers on hearty French country bread. I must say, and I don&amp;#x27;t usually say this to anyone, but I think this is love at first sight. Do you believe in love at first sight? Does your man? Or do you think that love at first sight is crap too?And feel free to leave your own question to be answered by a man in the comments section. Written by Nick Nadel for guyspeak.com More from guyspeak.com: *My bestfriend who is a male tells me that i need to stop searching for a man because he will come to me, now is he telling me this because he wants me? *What should I do to help boost my confidence around guys? *I need some tips for flirting with a bartender. I don&amp;#x27;t think I&amp;#x27;m his type, how can I possibly catch his interest? * Friend Guyspeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;#x27;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow Glamour on Twitter. Photo: Thinkstock Photos "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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