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"Moms always want the best for their daughters, but I think this mom went a little too far&amp;amp;#133; Writes Jeena: &amp;amp;#8220;I love my mom. We&amp;amp;#8217;re so close, she&amp;amp;#8217;s more like a best friend to me. And she likes my boyfriend a lot, too, which is great because I hope he gives me a proposal one day. But he and I are only together for about a year, so we&amp;amp;#8217;re in no rush to get engaged. My mom, on the other hand, seems to want a wedding sooner rather than later. In fact, she bought me wedding magazines for my birthday, had me open the gift in front of my boyfriend, and then asked him, &amp;amp;#8216;Will she be needing these soon?&amp;amp;#8217; My boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s a great guy, but I&amp;amp;#8217;m worried if she keeps this up, he&amp;amp;#8217;ll get scared off. What should I do?&amp;amp;#8221; Here&amp;amp;#8217;s what I think: The good news is that no great guy will run away because of a meddling mother. Then again, no great guy should be subjected to that much pressure to propose. So it&amp;amp;#8217;s time to have a serious chat with your mom. Luckily, you two are close, so having a heart-to-heart won&amp;amp;#8217;t be out of character for your relationship. I know you don&amp;amp;#8217;t want to hurt her feelings, but this is no time to shy away from the subject at hand. Tell her how much you appreciate her looking out for you and how fortunate you feel to have her be such an advocate for you. And then tell her that her behavior on your birthday made you uncomfortable and that you&amp;amp;#8217;d appreciate it if she doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t mention weddings or getting engaged in your boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s presence again. Explain that you&amp;amp;#8217;re thrilled with the state of your current relationship, and you&amp;amp;#8217;re thrilled she likes your boyfriend, but you hope that she can be happy with how things are for now because you and your guy are. While it&amp;amp;#8217;ll always be her job to love and protect you, you&amp;amp;#8217;re an adult in a solid adult relationship that needs to progress naturally, not with prodding from anyone. Ask her to trust you to get out of the relationship when it stops being what you want. She may be a little taken aback, but as long as you don&amp;amp;#8217;t accuse her of trying to ruin things for you (that&amp;amp;#8217;s SO not what she&amp;amp;#8217;s doing), she&amp;amp;#8217;ll get over the sting. She&amp;amp;#8217;ll probably even respect your point of view. If she keeps on pressuring your man to propose, though, have a chat again about how you won&amp;amp;#8217;t bring your boyfriend around anymore if she continues to bring up getting engaged. If she likes him as much as she says, she&amp;amp;#8217;ll clean up her act. What would you do in Jeena&amp;amp;#8217;s situation? Have either of your parents ever pressured your boyfriend to propose? Do you think Jeena should follow my advice or try another tactic? More About Parents and Getting Engaged Who Wants You to Get Engaged More: You or Your Parents? What Would You Do If Your Boyfriend Asked for Your Parents&amp;amp;#8217; Blessing and They Said No? My Boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s Family Won&amp;amp;#8217;t Include Me in Their Events Until We Get Engaged! More Ways to Get Glamour Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter! Add us to your iGoogle homepage. Take Our Survey and You Could Win an iTunes Gift Card! Hey Glamour fans, we need your advice. We want to know what&amp;amp;#8217;s important to you when it comes to Glamour and all things digital--what do you like most? What do you want to see more of? How and where do you want to read all that fun stuff? Please take our survey. As a special thank-you for sharing, you will be entered to win one of 45 iTunes gift cards for taking the survey! See rules for details. Photo: Jupiterimages"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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