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"Something happened yesterday when I found myself locked in the Sex Files studio with Troy, the ridiculously hot producer that Amy Spencer and Anna David (both out in LA) kindly left me with. Thanks ladies! Way to torture a gal that hasn&amp;#x27;t been on a date in... ... ... I had one of those outer bod moments where I found myself looking over my shoulder thinking: WTF am I doing on the radio...on the radio as a mom--a single mom?As I fielded questions from callers I realized I was answering them as Christine, &amp;quot;the single mom&amp;quot; and full confession, when I sit down to write this blog and my book, Rattled! I don&amp;#x27;t do it as Christine, the single mom--I do it as Christine, the writer. And no, there&amp;#x27;s nothing wrong with being a &amp;quot;single mom,&amp;quot; so let me explain: Sometimes I feel it is my full, end all identity, but it&amp;#x27;s not...does that make sense? Any sense? Like, one question was about how a guy should ask a single mom out. A guy should ask Christine, the woman out. Take me to dinner. Don&amp;#x27;t even worry about my kid at first because I&amp;#x27;m not auditioning you to be his dad. I don&amp;#x27;t need a man for him. He has three of those: Poppa Coppa, Carlo and Brian...I kind of need a man for me. Some adult conversation, a drink that doesn&amp;#x27;t come in a sippy cup, some food I don&amp;#x27;t have to chop up into teeny, tiny pieces, ya know? Someone phoned in asking if as a single mom I might consider taking a lover (yeah someone actually did), but prior to getting Storked! and even getting into a relationship with JD&amp;#x27;s &amp;quot;dad&amp;quot;, Christine, the woman living in NYC really wasn&amp;#x27;t the booty-call type. What am I getting at...well after the show I called Maddy&amp;#x27;s dad, Matt, my bud and told him I had a revelation: I don&amp;#x27;t want to be Christine, &amp;quot;the single mom.&amp;quot; I want to be Christine who has a son, JD. I think the blog and the book are bigger than the woman. I told Matt I don&amp;#x27;t want the single mom award. He told me he didn&amp;#x27;t want the widow one. This blog is a little all over the place, today--sorry. It&amp;#x27;s how I feel today...a little removed...a little confused...I started wondering, do people not see me as a writer and rather...a single mom who woke up one day and decided to try her hand at writing? Because I don&amp;#x27;t see myself like that--at all. I see myself as a writer who got pregnant and as a result is a single mom...and since writers write about their experiences, I decided to put pen to paper (like some of my fav writers who were writers before they were moms: Maya Angelou, Rebecca Walker, Anne Lamott)...I feel the same way about the piece I wrote about my experience with my Murderball star ex. Some people thought it was &amp;quot;crazy&amp;quot; I was &amp;quot;cashing in&amp;quot; on his disability. Seriously? Did I not spend a year of my life with him? And uh, several years later still trying to deal with it. It happened to me too and people who don&amp;#x27;t get that need to have their heads examined. I was writing, as a writer, about my experience. I didn&amp;#x27;t sit down and give a sensational interview to a journalist for fun. It&amp;#x27;s an experience I own and quite frankly, one that a lot of young women went through. I&amp;#x27;m glad I wrote about it. I guess with yesterday&amp;#x27;s interview...and the press I&amp;#x27;ll likely be doing come Spring it just got me thinking about how I want to do it as Christine, the writer--not the single mom who writes? Weird? Anyone feel me? I just wonder sometimes if people realize I would have written a book anyway...I worked at a magazine before I got pregnant...I started freelancing for Glamour in 2005...Talking with Amy and Anna on the radio made me think: Damn ladies, I&amp;#x27;m just like you, except I&amp;#x27;m a mom, too...I think my next project should be fiction. Feel free to ramble in the comments section like I just rambled above. XO"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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