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"My dolls, on Monday, you sent me your most pressing dating questions. Yesterday, I tackled the first one, and today is our second! Our reader has a problem: Her boyfriend wants to take a two-week trip around Europe with his best friend. The catch? She&amp;#x27;s female. And cute. What to do?Here&amp;#x27;s our reader&amp;#x27;s question... &amp;quot;I have been dating my boyfriend for about two years and things are pretty good. The only problem in our relationship is that he is really close friends with this girl he knew from college, and I know that he likes her a lot. She lives in Spain, so it&amp;#x27;s not usually a big deal, but now she has invited him to come visit her and then go on a two-week trip around Europe together. I feel very insecure about what to do since I want to be a relaxed girlfriend, but I find her very threatening. Help!&amp;quot; Here are my thoughts.... Hmmm, that&amp;#x27;s a really tricky situation. On the one hand, I can see how these two might have a great friendship and want to travel together. That sounds fun. But on the other hand, that&amp;#x27;s a pretty romantic situation--will they be sharing a hotel room? Having late-night boozy dinners? Strolling through castle gardens and overlooking twinkling city lights? And how would your boyfriend feel if the situation reversed? If it were me, I&amp;#x27;d go pretty crazy for those 2+ weeks that he was away. I&amp;#x27;d suggest telling your boyfriend how you feel--calmly and rationally. Tell him that you love him and want to trust him, but you&amp;#x27;re worried about this trip and ask him to think how he would feel if he were you. See what he says: Maybe he will do an amazing job showing you how much he loves you and how you have nothing to worry about. But he should also realize that he&amp;#x27;s asking a LOT. He&amp;#x27;s in a relationship with you, and relationships do involve compromises. This trip may be something that he will have to give up in order to prioritize his relationship. (Also, if he brushes off your concerns or gets annoyed that you&amp;#x27;re bothering him, maybe you should think about whether this guy is right for you in the first place. Keep in mind: You&amp;#x27;re definitely not overreacting--this trip is pretty far beyond a typical trip and would make any &amp;quot;relaxed girlfriend&amp;quot; feel very nervous!) Then again, I can be a little jealous. So I decided to bring in the special forces: my best guy friend. What did he say? &amp;amp;#8220;I can see the guy on the trip thinking, &amp;#x27;Oh, look at that beautiful vista over the Italian coast. Hmm, it would sure be nice to bone someone if I were here with someone of the opposite sex.&amp;#x27; Don&amp;#x27;t do it.&amp;quot; This was a really tough question. Dear readers, what do you think? Please weigh in! Photo: Sharon Tingley"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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