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" \n Remember at the end of the Wizard of Oz when Dorothy realized all she had to do was say, &amp;quot;There&amp;#039;s no place like home,&amp;quot; and boom \u2014 she&amp;#039;d be back in Kansas? Well, get ready because what you&amp;#039;re about to read is a little like that. We asked the Good Witch of Words (okay, her real name is Lynette Padwa and she&amp;#039;s the co-author of 27 Powers of Persuasion) to clue us in on the phrases every woman should know to deal with these annoying situations.  Get a Bartender to Pay Attention to You There&amp;#039;s no bigger buzz kill than spending 15 minutes trying to order a drink. Short of yelling &amp;quot;Fire!&amp;quot; there&amp;#039;s no way to clear out a crowded bar, so when the bartender spots you try this trick: Overtip for your first drink, be sure he/she sees what you&amp;#039;re handing over, and say with a smile, &amp;quot;Be good to me.&amp;quot; By the time you order your second round, your tipping will even out but your service will be so much better.  Stop Your Roommate from Being a Slob Anyone that&amp;#039;s ever had a roommate has had to stare at a sink full of dirty dishes on occasion. Problem is, everyone has a different standard of how clean their home should be. So try saying, &amp;quot;Hey, I know neither of us wants this place to look like a frat house, so let&amp;#039;s set aside some time to clean together.&amp;quot; This way you&amp;#039;re working as a team to come up with a compromise instead of judging or leaving passive-aggressive notes. Deal with a Disorganized Co-Worker Unless you&amp;#039;d like to join former Jet Blue flight attendant Steven Slater in the unemployment line, you&amp;#039;ve gotta watch you say at work. Next time a co-worker tries to get you to help save her ass on something she should&amp;#039;ve done yesterday, say, &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m happy to help if I can \u2014 I&amp;#039;ll get to it after I do such-and-such?&amp;quot; Basically, you&amp;#039;re managing opposition by giving her nothing to oppose. Nice, huh? Get a Raise We know what you&amp;#039;re thinking: You work hard and you deserve a raise. Unfortunately, you aren&amp;#039;t alone. And while some companies are doing a bit better, they aren&amp;#039;t exactly throwing money around. So start a more forward-thinking discussion with your boss by mentioning a common goal you have and say, &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m willing to make a long-term commitment to help this company grow to new levels of success.&amp;quot; Your boss probably views younger employees as job-hoppers, so saying this (and then mentioning all your hard work) will score you a raise or at least a spot on her short list for a promotion. Make Him Ask You Out Guys these days aren&amp;#039;t exactly known for being big risk-takers. He wants to know you&amp;#039;ll say yes before going out on a limb and asking you on a date. So if you sense he&amp;#039;s into you, it&amp;#039;s as simple as saying, &amp;quot;I really want to see (insert buddy movie starring Will Ferrell or any action flick with Angelina Jolie).&amp;quot; He&amp;#039;ll take it from there. Have &amp;quot;The Talk&amp;quot; with Your Guy This might sting a little: Even if your new guy is crazy about you, he&amp;#039;s still dreading hearing the word &amp;quot;commitment.&amp;quot; It&amp;#039;s going to be a difficult conversation for him, so have it while you&amp;#039;re in the car headed somewhere or taking a hike together \u2014 rather than over a romantic dinner where he&amp;#039;ll be forced to look at you. Once you are in the right setting, start the convo by saying, &amp;quot;This has been really fun for me and I&amp;#039;m not seeing anyone else.&amp;quot; When you set it up like this he won&amp;#039;t feel as intimidated, so he&amp;#039;ll be able to respond in a less defensive way. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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