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" When a friend dates a jerk it&amp;amp;#8217;s the worst. Even if the relationship lasts only a few months, it can feel like an eternity for you, the friend. Do you tell them how you feel? What if they ask for your opinion? Are your feelings valid? I&amp;amp;#8217;ve given the worst excuses as the girlfriend, and simultaneously I&amp;amp;#8217;ve become known as the difficult friend to win over. Here&amp;amp;#8217;s my breakdown of when to rent a skywriter to express your ire, and when it&amp;amp;#8217;s best to just shut up. (Spoiler alert: Usually shut your mouth.) The Leech Jerks come in all shapes, sizes, genders, and dietary restrictions (yes, vegetarian freegans can be jerks too). Hallmarks of this run-of-the-mill jerk, also known as the leech, include ignoring phone calls, flirting in front of a significant other, and always leaving a friend with the bar tab. The major issue with handling this breed is that there is little hard evidence of their jerkiness other than their irksome personality. From experience, I can tell you it&amp;amp;#8217;s best to keep your comments to yourself. There is a high chance that if you do, your friend will form a stronger bond with this person to prove their love. If you really can&amp;amp;#8217;t help yourself and your friend asks for your opinion, give it only once. They won&amp;amp;#8217;t forget what you said. My friends once staged a &amp;quot;He&amp;amp;#8217;s a Douche&amp;quot; intervention for me. It was a great success for me, because I can&amp;amp;#8217;t handle subtlety and we value each other&amp;amp;#8217;s honesty. My favorite argument for why I should oust the guy was his chin-strap facial hair. It was another two weeks before I ended it. 911 Some jerks are dangerous. You should never ignore it if a friend is dating a physically or verbally abusive or manipulative jerks. There&amp;amp;#8217;s always a chance you could lose your friend by expressing discontent, but for their sake and safety, it&amp;amp;#8217;s worth it. Female jerks in this category often get away with their heinous actions for longer than men, so speak up! Ethicist Bruce Weinstein at the Chicago Tribune explains, &amp;amp;#8220;If you have solid evidence that this is the kind of person they are, you not only have a right to tell your friend, you have an obligation.&amp;amp;#8221; Cheating jerks can fall into this category too. Forget about your moral stand for a moment and get some perspective about your sexual health. Fact: The more you have sex with this jerk, the more likely you will get an STI. Your unknowing friend could be exposed to lifelong health problems if their partner isn&amp;amp;#8217;t being careful. It won&amp;amp;#8217;t be a pleasant conversation, and it&amp;amp;#8217;s hard to get proof, but it&amp;amp;#8217;s a valid concern. I&amp;amp;#8217;m 0 for 5 when it comes to friends believing me, even with proof. &amp;amp;#8216;Till Death Do Us Part Some jerks get past the dating stage and become a permanent fixture. Married couples are family. A divorce is not the same as a breakup, and therefore my advice is to tread lightly. Your friend probably already knows about their significant other&amp;amp;#8217;s behavior and has chosen to tolerate it. Until the situation falls into the 911 category, I&amp;amp;#8217;d advise silence. How to Deal Even if your gut instinct is to scream your discord from the rooftops, don&amp;amp;#8217;t repeat your feelings unless they&amp;amp;#8217;ve changed for the better. Even after a couple breaks up, you don&amp;amp;#8217;t want your interim hate-rade to come back to bite you in the ass. Bide your time and the problem will probably sort itself out. If you&amp;amp;#8217;re lucky, the relationship won&amp;amp;#8217;t last, anyway. &amp;amp;#8212;Written by Leigh Lumford for HowAboutWe What have you done when your friend is dating a not-so-nice guy? More From HowAboutWe: *The 8 Kisses You Get in the Dead of Winter *5 Totally Awesome and Really Cheap Dates *19 Free Things You Can Do for Your Boyfriend That He Will Love You For"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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