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"&amp;amp;#8220;Jake, are these your yellow socks?&amp;amp;#8221; It was a Wednesday night and Inez,* whom I&amp;amp;#8217;d been seeing for a few weeks, had come back to my apartment after a romantic dinner out. And she&amp;amp;#8217;d found Natalie&amp;amp;#8217;s socks. (From our tennis date, for the record.) Inez was amazingly laid-back about it&amp;amp;#8212;we hadn&amp;amp;#8217;t had any talks about exclusivity&amp;amp;#8212;but still: dumb, Jake! And then I wondered, what other clues are lying around here, or around most guys&amp;amp;#8217; places? I asked the experts to decode a few. Consider yourself warned. If: His closet is hyperorganized&amp;amp;#8230; Maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;s just: A slightly anal guy who hates to hunt for his yellow tie in the morning. But it could mean: He&amp;amp;#8217;ll bail if things get messy To know for sure which, you have to consider the degree. Are his shirts color-coded? Let it go. Are the condiments in his fridge arranged from savory to sweet? Heads up: Guys who are organized in the extreme often can&amp;amp;#8217;t handle things outside their (small) comfort zone, says Seth Meyers, a relationship expert in Los Angeles. &amp;amp;#8220;If his stuff is always perfectly organized,&amp;amp;#8221; Meyers notes, &amp;amp;#8220;he may be rigid, controlling, and afraid of disorder.&amp;amp;#8221; Does he follow you around, tidying up? Is he short-tempered if you leave your coffee mug in the sink? Real relationships are messy, so if you&amp;amp;#8217;re looking for one, be wary of Mr. Clean. If: He&amp;amp;#8217;s got a PS3 and an Xbox and a Wii&amp;amp;#8230; Maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;s just: A gamer who likes to relax after work with a beer and Halo 3. But it could mean: He&amp;amp;#8217;s not looking for anything real. &amp;amp;#8220;Generally speaking,&amp;amp;#8221; says Douglas Weiss, president of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy, &amp;amp;#8220;if a man spends disproportionate time on video games, he probably isn&amp;amp;#8217;t a master of real relationships.&amp;amp;#8221; How much is too much? Whatever amount makes you feel neglected, Weiss says. Try coaxing your guy away from his Madden NFL and propose other activities. Say, &amp;amp;#8220;In half an hour, can we go grab lunch?&amp;amp;#8221; If he says no, or can&amp;amp;#8217;t tear himself away when the time is up, get your own sandwich, and possibly a new boyfriend. If: His porn tastes are extreme and all over the map&amp;amp;#8230; Maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;s just: A guy who hasn&amp;amp;#8217;t had sex in a while. But it could mean: He&amp;amp;#8217;s a sex addict. I&amp;amp;#8217;m not suggesting you check his computer history, but, well, yes, I am. &amp;amp;#8220;A guy who&amp;amp;#8217;s going from page to page of hard-core pornography,&amp;amp;#8221; says Weiss, &amp;amp;#8220;may be a guy who can&amp;amp;#8217;t be satiated.&amp;amp;#8221; Most guys enjoy porn, but if he partakes obsessively, across many genres: Avoid. &amp;amp;#8220;When a guy&amp;amp;#8217;s looking for diverse forms of stimulation, you can&amp;amp;#8217;t compete,&amp;amp;#8221; says Weiss. &amp;amp;#8220;You can only be one person: one size, one race&amp;amp;#8212;and into only so many things.&amp;amp;#8221; If: He has too many photos of himself&amp;amp;#8230; Maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;s just: An artist who does self-portraits. But it could mean: He&amp;amp;#8217;s a psychopath. Kidding! Kind of. Too many solo photos, or an oil painting of himself, can indicate &amp;amp;#8220;an overblown sense of self-worth,&amp;amp;#8221; says Jon Ronson, author of The Psychopath Test. Too much gold and other flashy objects suggest grandiosity and narcissism, adds Ronson. &amp;amp;#8220;Even if he&amp;amp;#8217;s not an actual psychopath, I would avoid a narcissist because he&amp;amp;#8217;ll be a pain in the ass,&amp;amp;#8221; he says. &amp;amp;#8220;Instead, women should stick to nerdy intellectuals, like me!&amp;amp;#8221; And me! Jake is a real single guy dating in New York City. * Names have been changed"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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