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"  Admit it: You love that giddy, job-well-done feeling of turning your husband into a speechless puddle of satisfied man. The beauty of it is, it doesn&amp;#039;t take a Ph.D. in Kama Sutra studies to wow him time and time again. Simply put, guys crave three kinds of sex. And no, you don&amp;#039;t have to pack all three into one marathon session (whew!). A little variety -- romantic one day, racy the next -- is the key to endlessly satisfying married sex for him and for you. Read on for the scoop... Want to make your guy&amp;#039;s day? Unleash five minutes of furious passion on him when he least expects it. &amp;quot;A quickie screams, &amp;#039;You are so hot, I&amp;#039;ve got to have you right now,&amp;#039;&amp;quot; says Roz Van Meter, sex therapist and author of Sizzling Sex in 30 Days. &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s passionate, urgent and erotic, and men love to feel irresistible, like you can&amp;#039;t wait another second to be with them.&amp;quot; The surprise quickie also injects an element of spontaneity into your sex life -- a crucial component to maintain when you&amp;#039;re married. Best of all, because it&amp;#039;s all about the wham-bam-thank-you-ma&amp;#039;am, it eliminates any anxiety he may feel about needing to impress you with fancy moves or having the stamina for an all-night passion session.  For a great quickie, blindside him when he&amp;#039;s going about his usual business. Set your alarm clock for 10 minutes earlier, and when it sounds off in the morning, snuggle up behind him and slide your hands inside his PJs to let him know you want to get down to business. Or sneak into the bathroom and make his morning shower memorable with some soapy, sensual handiwork. If the a.m. is too hectic in your household, initiate a spontaneous midafternoon romp on the weekend: Give him a chore to do in a secluded spot in the house and surprise him with a speedy sex session.   To make sure you&amp;#039;re 100 percent in the moment with him -- and maximizing your own pleasure -- get into the right frame of mind before you initiate the quickie, says Van Meter. &amp;quot;Build up your own arousal by thinking about the erotic encounter beforehand: how he feels and smells, the way he moves, the look he gets when he&amp;#039;s turned on. This emotional and sexual connection is what makes the sex passionate and pleasurable.&amp;quot; It&amp;#039;s a fact: You like to be wined and dined and romanced before you hit the sheets with your husband. Yet there&amp;#039;s this widespread belief that when it comes to sex, men don&amp;#039;t want all those bells and whistles. Think again. No matter how macho he is, sometimes a married man longs to feel pampered and completely swept off his feet, just as you do. &amp;quot;Contrary to popular belief, men aren&amp;#039;t always &amp;#039;on&amp;#039; and ready for sex,&amp;quot; says Jay Wiseman, author of Tricks to Please a Woman. &amp;quot;There&amp;#039;s all this pressure for him to perform on the spot, but men like to ease into sex too.&amp;quot; Taking your time and wooing your guy gives him a chance to get his game on and get fully into sex, so those distracting thoughts about work, the mortgage and car payments take a backseat to his desire for you.   The key to seducing a guy is building up his anticipation. &amp;quot;If you plant the seeds for sex long before you head to the bedroom, it gives him time to mentally prepare and let his imagination run rampant,&amp;quot; says Wiseman. Goose him a little with a hint of what&amp;#039;s to come: Whisper in his ear about how you&amp;#039;re planning to ravage him later that evening, tuck a naughty note in his briefcase promising him a night of passion or call him during his lunch hour and murmur steamy suggestions into the phone. Trust us, he&amp;#039;ll think all day long about what&amp;#039;s to come.  Next, set the stage. Carve out enough time for a full-length seduction: Unplug the phone and send the kids to the neighbors&amp;#039; so there will be no interruptions during your tryst. Spritz the bedroom with that perfume of yours he loves, lay out his comfy bathrobe and have his imported beer or beverage of choice chilling in a bucket by the bed. (Remember, this is about seducing him, not staging the romantic rendezvous of your dreams.)  When the moment arrives, lead him to the bed for a slow, sensual rubdown with massage oil or treat him to a private striptease. Then spend 10 minutes on the surprisingly sweet move he craves: Gently kiss or nibble spots that make him squirm, such as his earlobes or an often overlooked hot spot, the nape of his neck. &amp;quot;The neck is one of the most vulnerable places on the body -- we&amp;#039;re very particular about who we let touch us there,&amp;quot; says Wiseman. Because touching a man&amp;#039;s neck is such an intimate gesture, it generates hair-raising heat. Try running your fingers up the back of his neck and through the hair at the nape. Or lightly nip at the skin at the extrasensitive nape to get him tingling in other places too.  This drawn-out, full-body foreplay awakens every part of him -- not just below his belt -- and makes him crave you even more. &amp;quot;When a woman takes her time, it tells her man that she wants to savor him, play with him and enjoy all of him,&amp;quot; says Van Meter. So make every touch and stroke last as long as possible. If he tries to grab you and fast-forward to the main event, playfully push his hands away and slow things down again. Says Foster, 38, &amp;quot;Guys are geared for fast, frantic sex because somewhere in the back of our heads, there&amp;#039;s this idea that we have to do it quick or you might change your mind. That&amp;#039;s why sex is so much better when the woman takes over and sets the pace. It&amp;#039;s got that erotic, slow-motion appeal, like a good sex scene in a movie.&amp;quot;   By now your man will be nearly out of his mind with lust. When you finally move on, take it slow and let him smolder. Start in a position where you have total control, such as on top. Run your hands over his face, over his shoulders and down his chest, and look him in the eye while he gets into the groove. If he tries to speed things up, wrap your legs around him to keep the pace slow and steady until you&amp;#039;re both ready to go. Try easing into at least three different positions, not only to make the sex last longer, but to give you both more peaks and valleys of arousal, making for a bigger, better orgasm. Sure, your husband digs your squeaky-clean good-girl side -- you know, the loving wife and mom who reads bedtime stories and makes a good impression on the boss. But your guy also fantasizes about bringing out your inner bad girl in the bedroom. The contrast between your proper everyday lives and the sizzle of slightly naughty nooky makes him feel as if he&amp;#039;s getting away with something forbidden -- a total turn-on for men, says Wiseman.   Your man doesn&amp;#039;t expect to have out-there sex every day. In fact, it&amp;#039;s the novelty of raunchy sex that makes it so exciting. When you greet him at the front door in nothing but a trench coat and stilettos or make a move that&amp;#039;s totally unlike your usual between-the-sheets personality, what thrills him is that it&amp;#039;s unexpected and new. So if you normally prefer to make love under the cover of darkness, leaving the lights blazing signals that you&amp;#039;re in a wild-woman mood; if you usually like to leave the lights on, getting it on in a totally darkened room can feel surprisingly risqu\u00E9.   While all men have different ideas about what&amp;#039;s raunchy, there are a few tricks that are practically guaranteed to push your guy&amp;#039;s hot buttons. Most men like a little role reversal, says Van Meter. &amp;quot;They love seeing their usually ladylike woman doing something a teeny bit nasty and out of character, whether it&amp;#039;s being more aggressive, talking dirty or wearing racy lingerie.&amp;quot; Try some assertive moves for a change of pace: When he&amp;#039;s least expecting it, grab his waist and pull him closer to you; then pin him against a wall and go in for some deep, wet kisses. If he gets all touchy-feely, guide his hands to where you&amp;#039;d like to be touched.   When you&amp;#039;re in the heat of the moment, think variety. Throw in positions you&amp;#039;ve never tried before, especially ones in which he can get a good look at you. &amp;quot;Watching a woman enjoy herself is really the pinnacle of a guy&amp;#039;s wild-sex fantasy,&amp;quot; says Jake, 35. &amp;quot;It makes me feel as if I&amp;#039;m in some voyeuristic dream. There&amp;#039;s nothing hotter.&amp;quot; If he looks as if he&amp;#039;s about to lose it, stop, tell him to sit upright so his back rests against the headboard and do a slow grind against him (like a lap dance).   While you&amp;#039;re at it, give him a play-by-play of how good it feels and what you&amp;#039;re about to do to him. Moan your carnal compliments, sigh or gasp when he hits the right spot and let him know he&amp;#039;s rocking your world. Men love to have their sexual egos stroked, says Wiseman, and dirty talk is extra thrilling because it makes him think you&amp;#039;re so turned on, you can&amp;#039;t help saying things you&amp;#039;d normally never say.   It&amp;#039;s that can&amp;#039;t-control-yourself vibe that ultimately makes raunchy sex so memorable. The message you send doing it: &amp;quot;I wouldn&amp;#039;t normally do this, but for you I&amp;#039;ll do anything.&amp;quot; This over-the-top action shows him that he has the power to unleash your inner sexy beast; what man wouldn&amp;#039;t love that?  Looking for more ways to keep things steamy in the bedroom?  Check out the Red-Hot Sex message board. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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