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" Richard Temtchine has experience with women. &amp;quot;A long time ago, I was a top hairstylist in New York, probably the Fr\u00E9d\u00E9ric Fekkai of my day,&amp;quot; says the Paris-bred Renaissance man, who eventually turned his attention from follicles to films as the founder of Quadrant Entertainment. &amp;quot;I spent 12 hours a day with women\u2014as a straight man\u2014for about 25 years.&amp;quot; There he picked up plenty of material for his forthcoming comedy How to Seduce Difficult Women, which follows French lothario Philippe&amp;#039;s efforts to impart his expertise of affaires de coeur to a ragtag group of romantically challenged New York City men. We consulted Temtchine\u2014who gives seminars on the subject\u2014for some pointers on the art of seduction.  Don&amp;#039;t call a woman difficult . &amp;quot;I ran into a former client who I remembered was a really difficult woman. And I said I was going to do a film about her. She said, `And what would that be?&amp;#039; I said, `How to seduce difficult women.&amp;#039; And she said, `Me? I&amp;#039;m not difficult.&amp;#039; I said, `So, what are you, easy?&amp;#039; and she said, `Oh no.&amp;#039; And I thought, now this is interesting. Here&amp;#039;s a woman who does not want to be labeled difficult...and doesn&amp;#039;t want to be labeled easy. So I said there&amp;#039;s something there. What is the definition of that woman? And I realized that the word that women are really happy to adopt is complex.&amp;quot;  Know what (and who) you want. &amp;quot;What you want wants you. If you want a woman, she&amp;#039;ll be yours; but you&amp;#039;ll have to work hard at it. You really have to want it. If you ask most people `what do you want?&amp;#039; they don&amp;#039;t know. Ninety-five percent of people are doing jobs that they don&amp;#039;t really want to do. Ninety-five percent of guys are with women they really don&amp;#039;t want to be with or vice versa. If you see a woman you really like, just go tell her and really mean it. This woman I just met recently was beyond beautiful; I mean, one would have to invent a word for her. I went up to her and told her that. And I told her at the same time that I&amp;#039;m totally broke. `I worked on the film for three years; I don&amp;#039;t have a penny, so if I can take you out to dinner, we&amp;#039;re going to have a sandwich.&amp;#039; And she said `Fine, let&amp;#039;s do it.&amp;#039; But I was really taken by her. I think that what most people really lack is inspiration.&amp;quot;  The truth is sexy. &amp;quot;Women have an antenna. Bullshit doesn&amp;#039;t go through; they recognize it immediately. So just be yourself. Tell the truth right away, for better or for worse.&amp;quot;  Don&amp;#039;t be in a rush . &amp;quot;In our society today, men want sex right away, and a lot of women don&amp;#039;t. They want to take their time to get to know each other. Men are in a rush, and women are not. That&amp;#039;s what I call jetlag. The one thing that women appreciate most in a man, whether it&amp;#039;s in sex or relationships or just approaching them, is someone who takes his time.&amp;quot;  Talk is overrated. &amp;quot;The other night, we had a party for the film. Three guys said to me, `Give us an example of how you seduce a woman who is very beautiful.&amp;#039; So I said nothing, and I turned to [a woman beside me] and I looked at her. And after a while, she saw I was looking at her and then it was intense. I turned to these guys and said I did nothing, I just looked at her. Men don&amp;#039;t look enough. The eyes are the reflection of your soul.&amp;quot;  Making the first move is the hardest part . &amp;quot;I observed that American men seemed a little fearful of women in general. There was a term thrown at me which I really didn&amp;#039;t understand well: approach anxiety. I thought, let&amp;#039;s get Frenchmen to teach these guys how not to be fearful. Once guys made the first step, it&amp;#039;s okay, so I decided that teaching a class about that first step would be really a good idea if it was done not in a didactic way, but if there was some humanity to it. In the film, the teacher is very tactile with these guys, puts his arm around them; he&amp;#039;s very, very engaging, very reassuring.&amp;quot;  How to Seduce Difficult Women opens Friday, October 30. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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