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"  Have you ever wondered how Redbook&amp;#039;s editors come up with hot new sex tips every month? It&amp;#039;s not easy. We&amp;#039;re as stressed and time-pressed as you are, so we&amp;#039;re just as eager as you to find fresh, realistic ways to keep the passion high in our marriages. We know we&amp;#039;re doing our jobs right when we read our own sex stories and think, &amp;quot;Hmm...gotta try this. Tonight.&amp;quot;  Want to fan that lingering spark into a very large flame? Here are 55 creative ideas.   Q: &amp;quot;Lately my husband seems uninterested in having sex with me. What can I do to &amp;#039;wow&amp;#039; him?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;We once made ice cream sundaes on each other&amp;#039;s stomachs and ate them. The hot fudge and cold ice cream together on your skin creates quite a sensation.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Buy a cheap plastic shower curtain and a bottle of baby oil. Warm the oil in hot water and lay the curtain over your bed or on the living room floor. Squirt the oil all over the curtain and get naked!&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Gently tie and blindfold him while he lies on the bed. Stand at the side of the bed and lightly trail your fingers all over his body. Leave the genital area alone for as long as possible. When you deprive him of his sense of sight, his other senses will kick into overdrive.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Every time we have any kind of sex, we put money in a jar. Oral sex gets a buck plus a quarter; a hand job gets a buck plus a dime; if she comes, it&amp;#039;s a buck plus a nickel; if we videotape it, it&amp;#039;s a buck plus a five-dollar bill. It&amp;#039;s a great incentive!&amp;quot; &amp;quot;My wife always does something unexpected. When I was tending bar, she got in an empty ice bin and started going down on me. It was fabulous -- until I had to move to serve someone.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Make your own movie with exactly what you want in it. Just make sure you lock it up tight when you&amp;#039;re done.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ve heard that dancing for your guy is a big turn-on for him, but I&amp;#039;ve never done it. Any tips?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;I didn&amp;#039;t realize what visual beings men were until I stripped for my husband for the first time. He did everything but drool. I don&amp;#039;t have a model&amp;#039;s body, but his appreciation was evident.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Play some music you like. Give good eye contact while you remove your clothing; focus on his reactions. Just have fun and relax!&amp;quot; &amp;quot;I bought a package of play money to use during a striptease. It was the best dollar I&amp;#039;ve ever spent!&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;I am so self-conscious about my body that I can&amp;#039;t enjoy sex.&amp;quot;  A: &amp;quot;If you&amp;#039;re insecure about your looks, try using a red lightbulb in place of a normal white one. It not only adds a sexy ambience but hides a lot, too.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband isn&amp;#039;t great at giving oral sex, and he doesn&amp;#039;t even like doing it that much. Do you have any tips for improving the situation?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;After showering, dust yourself with powdered sugar. Don&amp;#039;t tell him; he&amp;#039;ll just think you taste wonderful.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;Lie on your back while your husband goes down on you. Have him reach both hands underneath your thighs and up along your sides and play with your nipples. All that stimulation without being able to move much because his arms are holding you still is fantastic!&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Try having him stimulate your G spot with his finger as he gives you oral sex. You&amp;#039;re guaranteed a better orgasm.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;Tell your guy to chew a few Altoids, then lightly blow and suck the air over your clitoris. My wife loves this.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;Try having your man spell out the ABC&amp;#039;s with his tongue, first A to Z, then Z to A. I do this with my wife, and she goes crazy!&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t like the way oral sex tastes. What would make it more palatable?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Try doing it right after brushing your teeth.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;We found these products called Oils of Love at Kamasutra.com that taste great and even get hot when you blow on them.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;Try keeping a glass of soda next to your bed to wash down the taste. I do this and it really helps.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;How can I give him a good hand job?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Using lots of lubrication, start with your right hand at the bottom, go to the top and off; then use your left hand and do the same. Alternate hands about once a second -- not fast, but not too slow.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Some light stroking with your fingertips is nice, but a firmer pressure is nicer; use lubrication if you get really serious. Testicles are a light-pressure, cupping, stroking kind of affair -- no squeezing there.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband gets upset when I turn him down for sex. How important do you think always being available is to a marriage?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;I used to turn my wife down when she&amp;#039;d suggest making love if I thought I couldn&amp;#039;t have an orgasm. But now I know making love is more than an orgasm. Now I love to just be close to her, because that is what sex is all about, anyway.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;For the sake of the marriage, it is critical to not &amp;#039;turn down&amp;#039; your spouse. Regrettably, I did not heed this advice myself, and I rejected her to the point that she quit asking. So sad. What a loser I was.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;If my wife&amp;#039;s in the mood, even if I&amp;#039;m not, I will oblige; and by the end I usually wind up in the mood.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;I learned that to make a marriage work, you need to be -- within reason -- always ready, willing and wanting.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;How do you find time alone when your kids are always around?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;We have a TV in our room, so it&amp;#039;s easy to tell them we don&amp;#039;t want to watch their show and go off to watch our show (yeah, right!).&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ve heard that fantasizing is a great path to a better orgasm. Where do I start?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;I fantasize about things I would never do in reality: making love with another woman, being held against my will. These fantasies help make my orgasms stronger and happen sooner.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;I think of something seductive I saw on TV, something I&amp;#039;ve done with a lover, or maybe something I would like to try but haven&amp;#039;t yet.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband ejaculates prematurely every time we have sex. Any advice?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;To deal with this I have an orgasm first; then I give her one orally or with toys. Seeing her aroused gets me up and running again, and I last much longer the second time around.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;If your man has trouble holding back, ask him to masturbate an hour or so before you have sex.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;For men there&amp;#039;s a &amp;#039;point of inevitability.&amp;#039; You have to take him to almost that point over and over without letting him climax (of course, there&amp;#039;ll be accidents) until he can recognize all the signals.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Condoms are great for reducing sensitivity. If one doesn&amp;#039;t cut it, try wearing two.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Try a product from Kamasutra.com called Pleasure Balm. It has a very mild numbing effect. Apply it a while before entry. It&amp;#039;s fun to use -- flavored and edible, too.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;Do you think sleeping in the nude can affect what happens in bed?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;I got the nerve to ask my wife to switch to sleeping with nothing on -- and she surprised me by accepting. I won&amp;#039;t say it revitalized our sex life, but it&amp;#039;s a good start.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;My wife said she could never sleep naked. Then we went away on an island vacation one weekend and tried it, and now she does, and our sex life is better than ever.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;We both have started sleeping naked. I notice we&amp;#039;re having more sex: We&amp;#039;re doing it practically every night!&amp;quot; &amp;quot;The skin-against-skin thing with my husband is wonderful. It&amp;#039;s almost as good as sex.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;I want to watch my husband masturbate, but he won&amp;#039;t let me. Any ideas?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Start out in a sixty-nine position with you on top, get him really wet, then sit up and move his hand to where you want it.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Tell him you&amp;#039;ll show him how you do yourself if he shows you. This is a great way to learn which technique turns him on.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband wants to try some &amp;#039;kinky&amp;#039; stuff with me. Does this kind of thing help your sex life?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;My husband and I like to push the envelope. We always end up in the &amp;#039;normal&amp;#039; range, but it&amp;#039;s fun to see what we&amp;#039;ll try. It increases our intimacy.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;I got my partner to put me over his knee and play a game where he had to ask me questions about cars (about which I know nothing!) and every time I couldn&amp;#039;t give the right answer, he could spank me once. We&amp;#039;d play that until we were both so aroused, we went on to somewhat more normal stuff.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;My man loves to have &amp;#039;boob sex&amp;#039; with me. Sometimes we use oils; and for a little fun, try pasties! Tassled ones are great. And if that isn&amp;#039;t enough, get some body paints and make designs on your breasts!&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;Help! I&amp;#039;ve never been able to have an orgasm with my husband.&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Make up a sexy story in your head while he&amp;#039;s giving you oral sex, and focus on the next event in your unfolding erotic tale. If you become aware of an orgasm looming, force yourself to continue the fantasy. The orgasm will come.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;If hubby doesn&amp;#039;t mind, try using a vibrator during intercourse. Works for me every time.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Masturbate until you&amp;#039;re just about at the point of no return and then have intercourse. It may push you to the top.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband says he wants to have a prostate orgasm. What do I do?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Insert your finger in his anus and search for a pea-shaped gland on the interior wall toward his genitals. Stimulate it as he likes it -- fast or slow -- while giving him oral sex or a hand job.&amp;quot;    &amp;quot;My wife used a vibrator on me to massage my prostate gland. She inserted it and gave me oral sex at the same time. It was about the best orgasm I&amp;#039;ve ever had -- and it doesn&amp;#039;t mean you&amp;#039;re gay.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;What do you do to prepare for sex?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;We have a drawer full of lingerie my hubby likes. And we try to have a digital camera handy, along with some lotion for rubbing.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;We always have a towel on or near the bed. The toys are in a cedar box next to the bed; the lubes are in a warmer on the nightstand, and the candles are there too. The silk scarf hangs within easy reach.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband travels a lot, and I&amp;#039;m afraid we&amp;#039;re losing touch. Does anyone have any good phone-sex techniques?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Tell him over the phone how much you&amp;#039;re craving him. Follow with all the things you would do to him or would have him do to you if he were with you. Start there, and you&amp;#039;ll find that both of you are enjoying it.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Try calling a 900 phone-sex number and get tips from the girls who do it for a living.&amp;quot;  Q: &amp;quot;My husband wants to try anal sex. Can anyone tell me if they&amp;#039;ve tried it?&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;I always have the most explosive orgasms during anal sex, and my husband loves it because it is tighter. Be sure to use lots of lubrication and tell your husband to take it very slow. Once you&amp;#039;re used to the sensation, try using a vibrator or masturbating while he&amp;#039;s inside you.&amp;quot; Q: &amp;quot;I gave my husband a blow job last night, and he practically fell asleep. I need pointers!&amp;quot; A: &amp;quot;Try humming while you do it to create a unique sensation for him.&amp;quot;   &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t forget to hold or rub his balls.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Swallow. It shows you really love doing it.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;For variety, try sixty-nine, with your guy on top. But since you won&amp;#039;t be able to speak, you&amp;#039;ll need to develop some nonverbal signals to let him know if you want a break. (Pat + squeeze = &amp;#039;Feels great&amp;#039;; two fast pats = &amp;#039;Get up, I&amp;#039;m choking!&amp;#039;)&amp;quot;  Plus, everything you need to know about male orgasm technique. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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