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"This bride&amp;#x27;s parents need to calm the freak down! Writes Save the Date reader Natalie: I&amp;#x27;m getting married in January, and my parents aren&amp;#x27;t going to help pay for the wedding. I&amp;#x27;m a full-time student with a part-time job, but I&amp;#x27;m saving as much as I can. My fiance has a full-time job and is saving, too, but he also has other financial obligations. Meanwhile, my parents are putting an addition on their house with a home theater&amp;amp;#8212;but they expect us to pay for our wedding on our own AND invite all of their friends and co-workers. What are we supposed to do? Here are my thoughts: Um, no. Sorry, parents. That&amp;#x27;s NOT how it works. A wedding is, for all intents and purposes, a party. The people who are paying for the wedding are the hosts, and (as with every party) the hosts determine where the party is held, how big it is, what food and drink are served&amp;amp;#8212;and who is invited. If your parents want any say in who is invited to your wedding, they need to chip in some funds. The next time they mention having their work friends at your wedding, I&amp;#x27;d say: &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;d love to throw a wedding where you guys could invite everyone you know, but unfortunately, that&amp;#x27;s not in our budget. Because our funds are so limited, we need to keep our wedding guest list below 75 people&amp;amp;#8212;and unfortunately that number doesn&amp;#x27;t include room for your co-workers. If you&amp;#x27;re interested in contributing to the wedding financially, we&amp;#x27;d be willing to include more of your guests. But we just can&amp;#x27;t accommodate them with our budget as it stands, and we&amp;#x27;re not willing to go into credit card debt over a wedding.&amp;quot; Stand your ground on this one. It&amp;#x27;s SO not worth it to start your married life in debt because of this! Ladies, what do you think? Does Natalie need to accommodate her parent&amp;#x27;s co-workers? Or can she tell her parents to shove it? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * If You Were in a Friend&amp;amp;#8217;s Wedding Party, Do You Have to Ask Her to Be in Yours? * What if Your In-Laws Refused to Acknowledge Your Engagement? * Can You Be Happily Married&amp;amp;#8212;But Still in Love With Your Ex? Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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