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"  I had coffee awhile back with a friend who wanted to tell me about a serious problem she was having with the boyfriend she&amp;#039;d been dating for about six months: The man was a sex-crazed maniac. To illustrate her point, she told me about an episode in the recent past when, after a very upsetting day at the office, she and Mr. Maniac were lying down in bed together. She had her nose buried in his neck, and after a moment or two, she started to cry. He hugged her and made pigeon noises. But after a couple of minutes, when she was still crying (albeit less violently), he pecked her face a few times \u2026 and then her neck \u2026 and then he kept going down. As he started to unbutton her shirt, she had to laugh through the tears. &amp;quot;What are you doing?&amp;quot; she said. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m sorry, but NOT RIGHT NOW.&amp;quot; He replied with understanding and respect, but he also didn&amp;#039;t entirely understand why she was so surprised \u2014 not to say annoyed \u2014 by his less-than-ideally-timed attempt at seduction. After all, as he explained, seeing someone he cares so deeply about in such a state of vulnerability aroused deep feelings of tenderness.  Sex and tears are rarely a desirable combination, for me. While I&amp;#039;m aware of the phenomenon of &amp;quot;break-up sex,&amp;quot; it&amp;#039;s not really my thing. If I&amp;#039;m very sad about something, it is nice to have a warm body near me, but I&amp;#039;d rather have it lying comfortingly beside me \u2014 fully clothed \u2014 rather than jack-hammering me. When my brain is overwhelmed with sadness, having sex produces cognitive dissonance \u2014 I&amp;#039;m distracted, and I just don&amp;#039;t enjoy it. But what do you guys think? Are tears are turn-on? Or a libido-killer? And should I be more open to having sex during tough times? Is it actually one of the most comforting things a person can do for you, if only you&amp;#039;re open to it? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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