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"Jealousy tends to rear its head in all relationships. Or at least in most of them. What do you do when your significant other doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want you spending time with anyone of the opposite sex, even on Facebook, as is happening with this reader: Dear Single John, I&amp;#x27;ve been dating Ryan for almost a year and a half. At first we dated for about 6 months. Ryan is a bit of a jealous freak! We both have FB profiles and he uses his a lot less than I do. According to Ryan it IS NOT okay for me to have male friends. Is it really okay/healthy for us not to have friends of the opposite sex? I am open to the idea of Ryan having female friends; even though in the past past he&amp;amp;#8217;s encountered problems with staying faithful, which is why he stays away from girls. I on the other hand think that this isn&amp;amp;#8217;t fair. Why do I have to lose my male friends because he can&amp;amp;#8217;t stay true to me if he&amp;amp;#8217;s exposed to that type of freedom? Most of my guy friends don&amp;amp;#8217;t post anything on my Facebook wall anymore but when they do Ryan tends to restate what they said to me. If I go out I can&amp;amp;#8217;t even tell him that guys were there! I love Ryan to death but I just can&amp;amp;#8217;t handle the constant arguments over Facebook or guys. -Facebook Gagged Your boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s behavior is an issue, and his jealousy is nowhere near the realm of acceptability. It is deeply unhealthy for you to make decisions about how you spend your time, and who you spend it with, based on your boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s paranoia. This isn&amp;amp;#8217;t a Facebook problem; this is a Ryan problem. Let&amp;amp;#8217;s say you stay together with this guy: are you going to go through the rest of your life only being friends with, and speaking to, the people he permits you to? You mention that you can&amp;amp;#8217;t even tell him when you hang out with people and some of those people are guys. Are you going to go through your life lying to your boyfriend? Does this sound right to you? Ryan used to cheat so he can&amp;amp;#8217;t be around women? What happens if he gets a job where he needs to work around women, or goes out for a burger and has a female waitress? If he wants to address his problems with fidelity by limiting his contact with the opposite sex, that&amp;amp;#8217;s his decision&amp;amp;#133;but why should that (faulty) logic be applied to you? This guy sounds unreasonable, and, on paper, somewhat threatening. What he is demanding of you is not normal, healthy, or advisable. If he can&amp;amp;#8217;t pull an immediate 180 and stop all this jealous nonsense, I would suggest exiting as quickly as possible. Have you dealt with jealous guys? Have you ever asked a guy not to have female friends? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally Anonymous! More on Dating at Glamour.com The 5 Best Breakup Songs. Do You Agree? 5 Ways to Tell That it&amp;#x27;s Time to Stop Sleeping with Your Ex Dating: 4 Guys Confess &amp;quot;What I Learned About Women in School&amp;quot; More Ways to Get Glamour: Chat with celebs, VIP fashion stars, beauty pros and more on our Facebook page! Visit Facebook.com/glamour for this month&amp;amp;#8217;s schedule Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad--print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Photo credit: Jupiter Images "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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