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"My wonderful, well-meaning friends have zeroed in on a terrific guy that they all think I should be dating, if and when I actually do start doing so. This guy has been a friend of mine for years. He&amp;#039;s funny, caring, responsible, and optimistic. He&amp;#039;s got a strong work ethic, he&amp;#039;s a great role model and has just recently become single after years and years of monogamy. See? He&amp;#039;s perfect. Except. Here&amp;#039;s the issue: I look at him, and I don&amp;#039;t quite feel the &amp;quot;zing&amp;quot;. He&amp;#039;s not an unattractive guy at all - he&amp;#039;s fine in the areas of looks, build and hygeine. I just don&amp;#039;t feel any animal magnetism and I don&amp;#039;t know if that&amp;#039;s because (a) it&amp;#039;s too soon (b) I&amp;#039;m still so used to seeing him as half of the couple he used to be or (c) there&amp;#039;s not a lot of chemistry there. I know, I know. &amp;quot;Zing&amp;quot; can be greatly overrated. &amp;quot;Zing&amp;quot; fades away, and the rest of the package is what&amp;#039;s really important. But after so many years of being taken for granted, so many years of feeling like I&amp;#039;m not what somebody wanted, but I&amp;#039;ll do for now, I feel like I deserve some zing. I deserve to feel butterflies when I see someone or feel a little magic when his hand brushes mine. Is a bit of whirling, spinning giddiness too much to ask? This is all hypothetical, of course, since I&amp;#039;m not dating yet. That&amp;#039;ll be somewhere in the future, but it&amp;#039;s looking like the nearer future now. These are the decisions I&amp;#039;m going to have to make - deciding on the trade-offs and dealbreakers. What do you think? Should I stop being such a dewy-eyed dreamer and concentrate on the whole package and hope the rest will come eventually? How important is &amp;quot;zing&amp;quot;, do you think? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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