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"Does this guy need to get his butt in gear? Writes Save the Date reader Isley: I&amp;#x27;v been with my boyfriend for almost three years, and we&amp;#x27;ve been SO happy since we met. Last year we started talking about getting married, and we decided July of 2013 would be the perfect time for our wedding. My guy said then that he&amp;#x27;d propose between May and June of this year&amp;amp;#8212;but now it&amp;#x27;s September. I was super-excited, but now I&amp;#x27;m feeling so-so about all of it. I know my guy has a ring and that the only thing he&amp;#x27;s waiting to do is talk to his parents. The problem is, they&amp;#x27;re not together. They live in the same house, but they don&amp;#x27;t speak. My boyfriend says they&amp;#x27;ve had problems for years and years, so it&amp;#x27;s not like he and I are the problem. I want to help my boyfriend, but I don&amp;#x27;t know how. I offered to talk to his parents, but he says he wants to do it. Now the waiting is driving me crazy, and I&amp;#x27;ve started to worry that he doesn&amp;#x27;t want to marry me. Deep down I know that&amp;#x27;s not it, but I&amp;#x27;m getting impatient. Am I being selfish? What can I do the help my boyfriend? Here are my thoughts: I&amp;#x27;m kind of confused about the whole &amp;quot;talking to his parents&amp;quot; thing. I get that he wants to let his parents know he&amp;#x27;s going to propose, but can&amp;#x27;t he just sit down with them one at a time and share the news? Is he saying he HAS to tell them when they&amp;#x27;re TOGETHER? If that&amp;#x27;s the case, I&amp;#x27;d say there&amp;#x27;s something else going on. &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;d like to marry you, but not until I can get my parents (who aren&amp;#x27;t speaking) to sit down together&amp;quot; just doesn&amp;#x27;t make sense. Or is he worried about telling them because their marriage is in turmoil, so he doesn&amp;#x27;t want to rub the happy news in their face? Or hear them say negative things about marriage? I&amp;#x27;m assuming his parents are grown-ups who understand that some marriages (including theirs) just don&amp;#x27;t work. But I bet anything that they still want their son to have a happy, healthy relationship. To avoid more bad communication, I think you need to sit down with your boyfriend ASAP: &amp;quot;We talked about getting married next July and now I feel like our plans are off-track. I don&amp;#x27;t want to rush you, but I do need to know when you&amp;#x27;re planning on talking to your parents. It stinks that their relationship is a mess, but I&amp;#x27;m worried that we&amp;#x27;re letting their unhappiness threaten our happiness. Let&amp;#x27;s figure out when you can talk to your parents separately, and exactly what you want to say. Hopefully that will make it easier on you and them.&amp;quot; Ladies, what do you think? Should Isley talk to her guy? Or let him propose at his own pace? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * If You Were in a Friend&amp;amp;#8217;s Wedding Party, Do You Have to Ask Her to Be in Yours? * What if Your In-Laws Refused to Acknowledge Your Engagement? * Can You Be Happily Married&amp;amp;#8212;But Still in Love With Your Ex? Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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