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"  What does it take to make a guy ache for you so badly that it hurts? Surprisingly, not a whole lot. &amp;quot;Overt turn-on attempts sometimes just spook a guy \u2014 he may sense heavy pressure to perform or feel out of control of the situation,&amp;quot; says Robert Francoeur, PhD, professor of psychology and biology at Fairleigh Dickinson University. &amp;quot;Subtle things \u2014 ones that are just enough to get his imagination going \u2014 are often what arouse men the most.&amp;quot; Whether it&amp;#039;s a mildly suggestive phrase or an &amp;quot;accidental&amp;quot; touch that literally gets a rise out of him, teasing and torturing a man can have a massive impact. Here are some teensy turn-him-on actions to add to your seduction arsenal.  Just running your fingers along your collarbone or slowly straightening your dress over your hips instantly draws his attention to your body. &amp;quot;When you touch yourself, a guy subconsciously reads it as a cue that you want him to touch you too,&amp;quot; explains Patti Britton, PhD, president of the Foundation for Scientific Study of Sexuality. So while you might think he&amp;#039;d only respond to a full-on, X-rated self-stroke, the truth is that you can quadruple his pulse rate with gestures you won&amp;#039;t get arrested for making in public. Renetta,* 28, learned this one night by accident. &amp;quot;I wore these great new above-the-knee boots on a date, but one of my socks had slipped down inside. So at dinner, I slid my leg out beside the table, bent down, unzipped the boot halfway, and slowly smoothed the sock back up my leg. My date told me later that it was the sexiest thing he&amp;#039;d ever seen!&amp;quot; Kayla, 26, has a tummy trick she likes to play. &amp;quot;When I know a guy is looking at me but thinks he&amp;#039;s doing it inconspicuously, I stretch one arm above my head so my shirt lifts up and &amp;#039;absentmindedly&amp;#039; rub my other hand across my belly. I know it makes him want to get his hands on me.&amp;quot;  *Names have been changed.  You might think that a guy is always dying for you to make a blatant grab for his package. But even he might be surprised by the power of equally deliberate but much more subtle strokes. &amp;quot;Unnecessary touches are often a turn-on because they can signal a willingness to venture beyond the safe boundaries we usually maintain between ourselves and others,&amp;quot; says Dennis Sugrue, PhD, clinical psychologist and president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. &amp;quot;Even touching his foot with yours in an elevator creates a huge physical response because it seems out of the ordinary \u2014 like you can&amp;#039;t resist touching him right then and there,&amp;quot; explains Marc Salem, Ph.D., an expert on nonverbal communication at Marymount Manhattan College. Copping an unexpected feel often works best when you&amp;#039;re out in public. &amp;quot;I was at a crowded bar with my boyfriend,&amp;quot; says Gina, 28. &amp;quot;I got up to go to the bathroom and, sort of on impulse, brushed my breasts against his back as I squeezed past him.&amp;quot; Nobody else saw her sexy gesture, but he definitely felt it, she says. &amp;quot;I turned to look at him when I got all the way across the room, and he was still staring at me. As soon as I got back to the bar, he put his hand on my thigh, and within half an hour, he was practically begging me to leave with him.&amp;quot; Leslie, 27, found another understated way to bring a guy to his knees. &amp;quot;I was bartending, and a group of hot guys came in,&amp;quot; she recalls. &amp;quot;They were all teasing the cutest one about his perfectly groomed &amp;#039;do. I looked straight at him, reached out, ran my fingers through his hair to mess it up and walked away. He followed me to the other end of the bar to ask for my phone number. Six months later, we&amp;#039;re still dating.&amp;quot;  Kellie, 22, discovered a word game that gets a man&amp;#039;s imagination running wild. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ve found that guys love it when I talk about my own body during normal conversation. One guy asked me if I was a vegetarian, and I said, &amp;#039;I used to be, but since I started eating steak again, I have an ass for the first time in my life. I love it!&amp;#039; His jaw practically hit the table.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Explicit or suggestive language provokes an immediate lustful response in men because it shows that you&amp;#039;re comfortable with your sexual power and that you&amp;#039;re willing to use it around him,&amp;quot; says Britton. So try verbally amping up his sex drive by sneaking saucy words into your vocabulary. No need to swear like a sailor \u2014 simply slip the occasional cuss word into conversation. Or if you&amp;#039;re not comfortable with a four-letter lexicon, try swapping your standard curses with lust-loaded alternatives like &amp;quot;peaked,&amp;quot; &amp;quot;ecstatic,&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;aroused.&amp;quot; Andrea, 22, uses this instant guy-pleaser: &amp;quot;Instead of saying &amp;#039;I love,&amp;#039; I&amp;#039;ll say &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;m hot for,&amp;#039; as in &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;m hot for a mojito right now&amp;#039; instead of &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;d love another drink.&amp;#039; A guy will hang on every word after that!&amp;quot; &amp;quot;The subliminal message is &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;m sexy, and if we click, you&amp;#039;ll get to be part of that,&amp;#039;&amp;quot; explains Sugrue.  Gush over a guy and he&amp;#039;ll squirm. But offer him less over-the-top props and he&amp;#039;ll eat it up. &amp;quot;Giving him a coy compliment lets him know that you&amp;#039;re interested in him sexually without suggesting that you might want something or be playing him,&amp;quot; says Deb Levine, a sex educator and relationship counselor in San Francisco. And letting him in on your longing for him jump-starts his own desire. &amp;quot;Once he has a sense that you want him, he starts thinking about your libido \u2014 a turn-on in itself,&amp;quot; says David Weiss, PhD, a board-certified sex therapist practicing in Newton and Worcester, Massachusetts, and consultant at the University of Massachusetts Memorial Medical Center. One indirect way to spark his ego is to let him know when other chicks check him out. &amp;quot;When my boyfriend and I were at a mall one day, I noticed a bunch of really pretty saleswomen looking him over,&amp;quot; says Donna, 27. &amp;quot;At home later, I told him that they&amp;#039;d given him the eye. He felt totally studly.&amp;quot; Sara, 23, made her man feel like a porn star. &amp;quot;One day, we met some of John&amp;#039;s friends for brunch after a night of partying. A friend of his mentioned that I looked exhausted. I said, &amp;#039;Well, when I spend the night with John, he doesn&amp;#039;t waste a lot of time sleeping.&amp;#039; They all gave him hell about it, but he was psyched that I made him look like a sex machine.&amp;quot;  It&amp;#039;s no secret that guys get off on sexy visuals. But teasing him with a personal peep show can be hotter than simply baring it all. &amp;quot;Men love the idea of the chase,&amp;quot; explains Paul A. Falzone, author of A Single&amp;#039;s Guide to Finding the Right One. &amp;quot;If you just show him a little at a time, he&amp;#039;ll have to use his imagination to fill in the rest.&amp;quot; When you give him mere glimpses of what&amp;#039;s in store, he can&amp;#039;t help but feel like a primal male with a duty to do. Just avoiding tan lines let Alix, 24, make her man sizzle at the beach. &amp;quot;I was lying on my stomach with my bikini top untied when my boyfriend passed me a bottle of water,&amp;quot; she recalls. &amp;quot;When I sat up to drink, I grabbed my top just in time to keep my breasts from showing. His eyes almost popped out of his head.&amp;quot; Jenny, 29, found that being an accidental exhibitionist paid off. &amp;quot;My boyfriend came to pick me up to go to his company&amp;#039;s black-tie Christmas party,&amp;quot; she recalls. &amp;quot;I wanted to finish doing my makeup before I put on my dress, so I was standing at my mirror in my push-up bra and nylons. He said he&amp;#039;d never seen me do anything so sexy!&amp;quot; "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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