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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: I just met a very intriguing guy. However, he doesn&amp;#x27;t like to talk about himself that much because of some things in the past. How do I get this mystery man to open up? Woah there, sister. Pause a minute and think things through. He is intriguing, you say. Why, exactly? Could it be because he doesn&amp;#x27;t talk much about himself, and has a past you don&amp;#x27;t know about? Yeah, I thought so. You are going to remove all the intrigue that is adding a bit of spice to your meetings, if you get him to open up. A lot of guys don&amp;#x27;t talk about their past. Especially if they were badly hurt by something or someone. It just gets walled off, sometimes for years, sometimes forever. It is a coping mechanism in a society that still thinks it is &amp;quot;weak&amp;quot; for a guy to show emotion. Please note: I didn&amp;#x27;t say it was a good coping mechanism, but it is there and you had best get used to the idea. If you absolutely must delve into his past in detail to satisfy your curiosity and do it fast&amp;amp;mdash;well, you could get him drunk and just listen when he talks. That&amp;#x27;ll get you some information. You could always ask him a bunch of probing questions. That&amp;#x27;ll get you a passle of lies and evasions before he heads for the hills at roughly the speed of light. Or, of course, you could do what everyone else does and get him to open up by listening when he wants to talk, and talking when he wants to listen. You know&amp;amp;mdash;the normal way of doing things. Conversations. Slowly discovering new facets of him as he decides he can trust you. Depends if your curiosity is more important to you than where things might lead. --Written by Mystery Man for guyspeak.com More from guyspeak.com: * What should I do to be a better flirt? * Why hasn&amp;#x27;t my boyfriend kissed me yet? * How do I make him unselfish in bed? * Friend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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