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" Q: I&amp;#039;ve been with my husband for six years, married for two. Before we got married, we talked about having kids, but since the wedding, he&amp;#039;s been making excuses--either it&amp;#039;s not the right time, or we aren&amp;#039;t financially ready. I brought it up again recently, and he confessed that he wasn&amp;#039;t sure he wanted kids at all. This is a deal-breaker for me. Should I go off birth control and not tell him, or divorce him and find someone who wants kids as much as I do? --L.G., 27, WYOMING A: Getting pregnant without telling him is not the way to go. This has to be a decision you and your husband make together. If you&amp;#039;re not seeing eye to eye with him now, a baby isn&amp;#039;t going to make that any easier. Having children only intensifies things. Also, your husband saying that he &amp;quot;never&amp;quot; wants kids may not be entirely true--I know plenty of couples who have waited to have children because they don&amp;#039;t feel set up financially or emotionally and they want to make sure they can provide the best for them. In a few months, your husband&amp;#039;s career could be in a different place and his whole outlook may change. If your six-year relationship has been solid, don&amp;#039;t do anything drastic before you lay out what you want in a calm way. Give him a chance before giving up, and if he still can&amp;#039;t help you build the family you want, then you may have to make the hard decision to move on. Ask Soleil anything about your complicated friend, family, marriage, or work situations. Send questions to soleil@redbookmag.com (include your initials, age, and state), or tweet us @redbookmag with the hashtag #Soleil. Questions may be edited for clarity and length. Soleil Moon Frye is the author of Happy Chaos. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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