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"Recently, we talked about guys&amp;#x27; issues with PDA. But what happens when their intimacy issues extend not just to the bedroom, but to the bed itself... Dear Single John, A few months ago I started dating this guy who would not sleep in the same bed as me. Regardless of whether it was a weekday or weekend, whether we had had sex or not, we would start out in his bed and then inevitably he would say he couldn&amp;#x27;t sleep in the same bed as me because my presence was too overwhelming/exciting. At first, even though I didn&amp;#x27;t like the idea (I am a cuddler, especially at the beginning of a relationship) I tried to be receptive, but the more it happened the more hurt I felt. Is this normal behavior in men? Don&amp;amp;#8217;t hate me, but I sympathize with your boyfriend. Not entirely, but I do like my space (in bed, and in life). Always have. Probably always will. That said, I enjoy a good cuddle (in bed and in life), and I believe both have a time and a place, and everyone can have at least some of their cake and eat it too. This is not normal; odds are you won&amp;amp;#8217;t run across another guy whose tastes in isolated sleeping run this extreme. That said, you should be prepared to meet more guys who aren&amp;amp;#8217;t down with cuddling all night, especially at the beginning. Which brings us back to me. I just like space when I sleep. Maybe it&amp;amp;#8217;s because I was weaned off the breast too early. Maybe it&amp;amp;#8217;s because I had to share a room (not a bed) with my brother. Maybe it&amp;amp;#8217;s because I&amp;amp;#8217;m neurotic. I don&amp;amp;#8217;t know. What I do know is that when sex time and cuddling time are done, I like to sleep in my own area of the bed. And this goes double at the start of a relationship. We&amp;amp;#8217;re still getting used to each other, still figuring out how to hold each other and breathe on each other and what we smell like in the morning. The beginning of a relationship is no time so start sleeping like a cete of badgers, unless that&amp;amp;#8217;s what you&amp;amp;#8217;re both into, in which case, have at it. As a relationship progresses, I definitely find myself more comfortable falling asleep with someone in my arms and vice versa, but even at that point, my druthers will still be to sleep alone (that&amp;amp;#8217;s in my own area of the bed, not a separate room). My compromise goes something like this: let&amp;amp;#8217;s cuddle while we watch TV, or while I read, or until you drop off to sleep, and then it&amp;amp;#8217;s time for &amp;amp;#8220;alone sleeping.&amp;amp;#8221; Deal? No? You&amp;amp;#8217;re leaving? Fine. More bed for me. In all seriousness, I&amp;amp;#8217;ve never dated anyone who&amp;amp;#8217;s expressed a problem with this arrangement. While sleeping in an entirely different bed is a little on the extreme side, giving up on an otherwise great guy for this reason alone might be as well. If you like this guy, figure out what the details of the problem are and see if there&amp;amp;#8217;s a way he can overcome it. There&amp;amp;#8217;s no reason not to look for some middle ground, unless you&amp;amp;#8217;re just as adamant about the need for pretzel sleeping as your guy is about the opposite. Does your guy like to cuddle while sleeping? How about you? How much space do you need during sleep? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally Anonymous! More on Dating at Glamour.com 9 Signs It&amp;#x27;s Time To Admit That You&amp;#x27;re Actually Dating Twitter Says It&amp;#x27;s OK to Cheat And We Agree. Sort Of. Poll: Would You Rather Sleepwalk, Sleep-Eat or Have Sexsomnia? More Ways to Get Glamour: Chat with celebs, VIP fashion stars, beauty pros and more on our Facebook page! Visit Facebook.com/glamour for this month&amp;amp;#8217;s schedule Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad--print subscribers, it&amp;amp;#8217;s now part of your subscription plan! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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