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"Don&amp;amp;#8217;t worry, you guys, J and I are just fine. We officially just passed the six-month mark living together (woo-woo)! But, I do have a bone to pick with a very specific lady about the way she broke up with a friend. Let me tell you what went down. It&amp;amp;#8217;s how not to break up with someone. Bear with me as I vent This chick, who I&amp;amp;#8217;ll call P, seemed nice enough during their year-long relationship. We never really hit it off but were always friendly when the group hung out. But, I&amp;amp;#8217;m sorry, my inner mean girl is coming out now to say &amp;amp;#8220;Oh, hell no&amp;amp;#8221; to the way she just broke up with my friend. It was immature and disrespectful. And, simply put, it was uncool. Let&amp;amp;#8217;s rewind a bit. This couple has been doing the long-distance thing for a few months because of work. Things seemed to be going super-duper. He was beaming. Heck, they even moved in to a new place together less than a month ago when she was in town for a few days (about to move back permanently). And a couple weeks back J and I attended a smile-filled housewarming party for them. A week after the shindig, while on the road again, she called it quits with my friend&amp;amp;#133;Over. The. Phone. Oh yes, you read that correctly. She broke up with her serious boyfriend over the phone. Not face-to-face while she was home visiting. What&amp;amp;#8217;s more? She said she had been thinking about it for quite some time. Then, why, I ask, would you move in with someone if you knew you were ultimately going to break up with him? (Maybe because that person would assist your move and you wouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t have to do the bulk of the work. Hmm?) And more&amp;amp;mdash;why on earth would you invite all of your friends to a housewarming party when, at the end of the day, you knew you wouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t be living together much longer? (Good thing we just brought over a bottle of wine that we drank ourselves!) Anyway, now they&amp;amp;#8217;re broken up and my friend is bummed and looking for a new place to live. Okay, so how SHOULD you break up with someone? Because, yes, I know it&amp;amp;#8217;s got to be done sometimes! Be respectful, calm and try it like this: - If you&amp;amp;#8217;re not in high school and your man is a good person (and things just didn&amp;amp;#8217;t work out), I beg of you: please do it in person! Listen, the situation stinks for everyone, but don&amp;amp;#8217;t be a chicken and let a phone call or text message do your dirty work. I don&amp;amp;#8217;t care how technologically advanced we are, it&amp;amp;#8217;s not the same. Especially if you&amp;amp;#8217;ve ever discussed living together or getting hitched. - Be honest. I think this is the time to lay it all on the table. Your partner deserves to know what went wrong (without every painstaking detail) so he can ultimately receive closure. - Talk it through, but don&amp;amp;#8217;t over-talk or over-think it. It should be like pulling off a Band-Aid: say what needs to be said, hug it out, and leave. - Cut off communication. No more texting, phone calls or follow up visits. You both need to move on and constantly checking in or sending &amp;amp;#8220;I miss you :(&amp;amp;#8220; texts is just going to prolong it. If it&amp;amp;#8217;s over, let it be over. Listen, we never want to hurt the person we love. But sometimes a relationship is not meant to be and being honest about what went wrong is part of being an adult. You&amp;amp;#8217;ve got to face tough moments and maturely deal with them. It&amp;amp;#8217;s the only way to move on and eventually find true love. I know my friend is going to meet the girl he&amp;amp;#8217;s really supposed to be with soon enough. Alright guys, sorry for my vent-sesh. I&amp;amp;#8217;m really protective of my friends and I just think this girl handled things the wrong way. Have you ever suffered from a messy break-up? How about a super clean one? Tell me your good/bad break-up stories. And what do you think of breaking up over the phone? It&amp;amp;#8217;s your turn to vent! More on breaking up... * Ending it With a Friend, The Other Kind of Break Up * Breaking Up: 5 Rules For Spending Time With an Ex * The Best Part of Breaking Up * 10 Signs Your Relationship Probably Isn&amp;#x27;t Going to Work Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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