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"One of the fun things about relationships is that that ridiculously giddy feeling you experience when you and your partner become an item. But what if you never have those feelings? We recently received an email from a reader who&amp;amp;#8217;s not experiencing those schmoopy feelings. Should she continue dating her newish boyfriend? Writes our anonymous reader: Here&amp;#x27;s my dilemma: I&amp;#x27;ve been dating this sweet guy for about a month, so as every new relationship starts, now is the time for me to be all excited, nervous and glowing, but I&amp;#x27;m not. Don&amp;#x27;t get me wrong. I do enjoy being with him and getting to know him has been so much fun but it&amp;#x27;s doesn&amp;#x27;t go much more than that. I&amp;#x27;ve had relationships before and I know how it goes. Life is more beautiful when you&amp;#x27;re in love. So, why am I not feeling like that and instead I&amp;#x27;m feeling just...normal? Like it&amp;#x27;s not such a big deal. The real question is, should I keep dating this guy? He&amp;#x27;s really excited about us and he had been crushing on me for a while now. I don&amp;#x27;t want to break his heart but I&amp;#x27;m not sure if I should end things so quickly. What if it turns out to be one of the best relationships I&amp;#x27;ve ever shared? Help! What should I do? And here&amp;amp;#8217;s what I think: Thanks for reaching out! It&amp;amp;#8217;s great that your guy is head over heels for you but I think it&amp;amp;#8217;s more important to consider how you feel about him. Many people fall more in love as a relationship progresses, but if you&amp;amp;#8217;re feeling just so-so about your guy from the start, it&amp;amp;#8217;s hard to imagine that things will get any more exciting than they currently are. On the other hand, think about all the reasons you started dating this fellow. Maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;s incredibly caring or funny or perhaps you two have a lot in common. When you think about the things you like about him, does that change how you feel? For a moment, forget about the fireworks that a new relationship brings and really think about how you feel when you&amp;amp;#8217;re with him. You mentioned that it&amp;amp;#8217;s been fun getting to know him and that you enjoy being with him. Do you look forward to spending time with him? If so, your feelings for him might be stronger than you think. Lastly, think about how you&amp;amp;#8217;d feel if you two did break up. Would you feel sad? Relieved? How would you feel if he broke up with you? What do you think our reader should do? Have you ever found yourself in similar situation? Do you think relationships that start off as just &amp;amp;#8220;meh&amp;amp;#8221; can grow into something a whole lot more exciting? More Ways to Get Glamour: Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Download Glamour Magazine for your iPad! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter! Add us to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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