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" Writes Save the Date reader Karena: I&amp;#x27;m having a very small destination wedding with only 18 guests, and I&amp;#x27;m lucky that my best friend is one of them. However, she just showed me a photo of the dress she bought for the wedding. It&amp;#x27;s very low-cut, short, and tight. (She&amp;#x27;s busty.) It&amp;#x27;s also white. I know etiquette says it&amp;#x27;s OK for guests to wear white to a wedding nowadays, but her dress just bothers me. Not only that it&amp;#x27;s white but also the overall look. Interestingly enough, once when we were at a mutual friend&amp;#x27;s wedding, we had a conversation about how awkward it is for guests to wear white to a wedding. So I can&amp;#x27;t help but feel like she&amp;#x27;s trying to show off. I really do appreciate her taking the vacation days and spending the money to fly to my wedding, so I&amp;#x27;m hesitant to say anything. (When she initially showed me the picture, I was too shocked to say much.) Should I let it go? Or should I tell her how I feel about the dress if it comes up again? Here are my thoughts: Actually, etiquette says it&amp;#x27;s STILL not OK for a guest to wear white to a wedding. (It&amp;#x27;s a total Glamour DON&amp;#x27;T.) Regardless, I don&amp;#x27;t think you can say anything. As you said, your friend is taking vacation days AND spending $$$ to fly to your wedding. (I&amp;#x27;m assuming she&amp;#x27;ll have to pay for a hotel, food, and transportation too.) She&amp;#x27;s already going above and beyond, so I don&amp;#x27;t think you can also ask her to buy another dress. Unless her dress looks a lot like your wedding dress, I&amp;#x27;d keep your lips zipped. I agree she&amp;#x27;s being uncool and attention-grabby, but it&amp;#x27;s not like your guests are going to mistake her for the bride. All eyes will be on you&amp;amp;#8212;except when she&amp;#x27;s getting sideways glances from people wondering what the heck she&amp;#x27;s wearing. If you&amp;#x27;d like her white dress to be less in-your-face in pics, you could always hand out leis (assuming your wedding&amp;#x27;s somewhere warm) or some other colorful accessory to all your guests and hope she embraces the &amp;quot;theme.&amp;quot; Otherwise, I&amp;#x27;d let it go and hope she realizes the faux pas on her own. Ladies, what do you think? Should Karena ask her friend to wear a different dress? Or is it best if she forgets about it? Photo: Thinkstock."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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