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"  Every week, I ask my 83-year-old grandma and a random teen to answer a question about dating. Then I weigh in with my own horrible Generation Y opinion. Having trouble navigating the Gitmo prison yard that is modern dating? Find out what three different generations have to say. The Question: I was walking along the streets of Brooklyn late one night with my girlfriend when a drunk jock randomly punched me square in the shoulder. I didn&amp;#039;t do anything and he walked away. My girlfriend commended my lack of violent reaction, explaining that she finds escalating male violence to be a turnoff. However, when I relayed this story to a female friend, she said although it&amp;#039;s against her better judgement, she would&amp;#039;ve been turned off by my lack of reaction. Had I not been drunk, I probably would&amp;#039;ve run toward him and jump-kicked his spine. What is the right thing to do?  Yours truly, Punch Magnet The Granny: Shirley Cozen is 83 years old, has been married for over 50 years, and raised four kids. She has been proposed to three times, started dating when she was 12, and has been a ridiculous babe her entire life. She knows a thing or two about a thing or two.  She Says: &amp;quot;I would be very fearful if my boyfriend was the kind of person who ran after someone to retaliate physically. I would feel like he probably had an anger management problem and wasn&amp;#039;t able to cope with the indignities of life that impact us every day, in millions of ways. If my boyfriend ran after some drunk bully to get even with him it means he&amp;#039;s not really in control of his emotions.  Your job as a man in this situation is to protect your date and make sure nothing happens to her. Since the guy walked away, you should keep going. You did the right thing.&amp;quot; The Teen: Jenna is a 19-year-old sophomore at The University of Amherst studying to be a vet. She is in a long-term relationship with her boyfriend, Matt, who she says goes to the gym every day and is &amp;quot;physically intimidating to other guys.&amp;quot; She Says: &amp;quot;Manliness is a huge turn-on for me, so if he didn&amp;#039;t do anything when someone punched him, it probably wouldn&amp;#039;t work out between us. I know this is totally sexist to say, but I like being the one protected in the relationship. I want to be the weaker one. If my boyfriend got angry when someone punched him, it would turn me on. I really like anger; I know that&amp;#039;s weird. I would rather have my boyfriend get his ass kicked and at least try to stand up for himself, rather than not do anything.&amp;quot; The Millennial: I&amp;#039;m a 29 years-young lady who has finally learned to stop dating musicians and bartenders. Hurray! Dating is like riding a bike\u2014it&amp;#039;s easy and fun but also you could die. Growing up on the &amp;quot;right side of the tracks&amp;quot; and attending Hebrew Day School, I have to admit I&amp;#039;ve never actually seen a physical fight in person, so I don&amp;#039;t know how they go down. In my fantasy, all fights look exactly like the choreographed rumble sequence in West Side Story between The Sharks and The Jets. Just lots of capri pants and snapping.  If my boyfriend got sucker-punched by a random drunk on the street, I wouldn&amp;#039;t be turned off as much as I would be upset for him. It&amp;#039;s humiliating to be assaulted in front of the person you&amp;#039;re dating. That blows. I would treat my date the same way I would want to be treated if something traumatic happened to me, with compassion and sympathy. The only person to be mad at in this scenario is the lunatic that went bathsalts on my man. I mean, the kind of person that attacks a stranger is not someone you wanna mess with. Who knows what they could do? I definitely agree with my granny on this one: Peace the hell out of there.  That being said, I totally understand why a woman would find it sexy to be with the type of guy that &amp;quot;talks with his fists.&amp;quot; It fits into this macho 1950&amp;#039;s stereotype of how a guy should act. He should fix cars, smoke cigarettes, and be ready to brawl. Basically, he should be Ryan Gosling in Drive. Obviously, RyGoss is mad fine in that movie, but could you imagine actually dating someone like him? He doesn&amp;#039;t even talk! He literally just chews a toothpick and looks sad all the time. BORING.  In conclusion, I don&amp;#039;t think it&amp;#039;s fair to only be attracted to a guy when he&amp;#039;s strong or seems infallible, because no one is strong all the time. We&amp;#039;re just people. Part of being a good partner is loving someone when they are weak and strong, impressive and vulnerable. Otherwise, the relationship is superficial.  Cosmo babes, what do you think about this situation? Leave your comments below and send all dating/relationship/love questions to rsurnow@hearst.com. Photo Credit: Getty Images Want more musings from Rose? Follow her on Twitter. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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