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"Q: My mother told me I have a sister who was given up for adoption. I&amp;#x27;m dying to meet her, but my mom refuses to give me information. What do I do? A: First, stop pushing her to open up&amp;amp;#8212;the intensity of your desire to meet your sister could scare your mother and make her more resistant. Instead, ask gentle questions to get her talking about herself at the time of your sister&amp;#x27;s birth. As she delves into her memories, she may start to express any desires she herself has to know more about her first child. If she agrees to give you information, try contacting an online search and support group, like adoptiondatabase.org. But be prepared: Your mother may not change her mind about her decision. That is her right, and you may just have to come to terms with it. Q: I&amp;#x27;ve read that you&amp;#x27;re not supposed to cry at work, but I can&amp;#x27;t help it; I&amp;#x27;m really sensitive. Will this hurt my career? A: Sorry to say, the answer is yes (please don&amp;#x27;t cry!). To respond to work situations with sobs will definitely derail any chance of a promotion. Too-easy tears only make your supervisor think you&amp;#x27;re not mature enough to handle increased responsibility, manage other people or interact with clients. So why are you so hypersensitive? Even if your boss is a beast, you can learn to control your reactions. Identify the triggers that set you off: criticism, real or imagined? Frustration? Confusion about your status? Often, merely pinpointing the source of a bad habit helps control it. Meanwhile, next time your eyes start to well up, bite your lip and silently count to 10. By the time you get to five the tears should recede, leaving you able to come up with a grown-up response to a grown-up situation. Q: I recently saw a play that a friend wrote, and it was horrible. Obviously I&amp;#x27;m not going to tell her that, but is it appropriate to lie? A: I wouldn&amp;#x27;t. If you do, you&amp;#x27;ll be forced to forever act as if you truly like it. Better to find one small concept, scene, plot twist&amp;amp;#8212;anything you can praise with genuine enthusiasm. Or try this classic line: &amp;quot;You&amp;#x27;ve done it again!&amp;quot;"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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