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"Sex can change things, especially when it can mean the end of something you thought was just starting: Dear Single John, After several relationships that started out hot-and-heavy only to fizzle out as quickly as they began, I had a major epiphany: I rush into sex with new guys. It&amp;#x27;s not like I always put out on the first date, but I don&amp;#x27;t think I&amp;#x27;ve ever made a guy wait more than two weeks to have sex with me! I am determined to wait longer before jumping into bed with a new fella, but I don&amp;#x27;t know how long that&amp;#x27;s supposed to be. Do us all a favor and give us a guy&amp;#x27;s perspective. -- Trying Not To Be That Easy (anymore) Take your age, multiply it by the average amount of weeks you normally wait to sleep with a guy, now divide by the amount of times you&amp;amp;#8217;ve actually had sex, now add 17. That&amp;amp;#8217;s how many days you should make him wait. Wait. What? That&amp;amp;#8217;s ridiculous. And totally arbitrary. You can set whatever rules you like. You could wait until you&amp;amp;#8217;re exclusive. You could wait until X number of dates has passed. You could wait until you get bored of oral. Or until you&amp;amp;#8217;ve met his parents. Or until he calls you his &amp;amp;#8220;girlfriend&amp;amp;#8221; in front of his friends. But none of these landmarks will matter if he&amp;amp;#8217;s just after sex. They just won&amp;amp;#8217;t. If you want a boyfriend and not a hookup I&amp;amp;#8217;d say the best thing to do is to talk to him about what you&amp;amp;#8217;re looking for before it ever gets intensely physical. You don&amp;amp;#8217;t have to throw it out there on the first date, but it&amp;amp;#8217;s something you can bring up as things progress. Then you&amp;amp;#8217;ll have to judge his reactions and make a call. And I don&amp;amp;#8217;t like it that you consider yourself &amp;amp;#8220;easy.&amp;amp;#8221; That&amp;amp;#8217;s bull. You&amp;amp;#8217;re figuring out what kind of sex life you want to have and how it needs to correspond to your emotional and social expectations, and there&amp;amp;#8217;s nothing wrong with that. Doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t make you anything other than sensible. Also, let&amp;amp;#8217;s be realistic, sex is a part of relationships&amp;amp;#8212;makes sense that at some point early on you would want to see how that facet is shaping up. Also, maybe it&amp;amp;#8217;s not the sex you&amp;amp;#8217;re rushing into too quickly, maybe it&amp;amp;#8217;s the relationships. People consistently look for different things in relationships, and sometimes it&amp;amp;#8217;s sex, and sometimes it&amp;amp;#8217;s a girlfriend/boyfriend, and sometimes it&amp;amp;#8217;s something in between. It&amp;amp;#8217;s up to you to establish with a partner where that line is, and how your relationship can tread it in a way that works for you. Do you feel you jump into bed with guys too quickly? Has making a guy wait helped figure out if he was right for you? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. More on Dating at Glamour.com How Do You Feel When Your Guy Doesn&amp;#x27;t Listen To You? Ask a Guy: &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;m a Virgin But My Boyfriend Isn&amp;#x27;t&amp;amp;#8212;How Should I Feel? This Travel Company Makes Their Guests Declare Their Relationship Status With Traffic Lights What&amp;#x27;s With All the Spam in the Comments Section? Sick of all those annoying ads in the comments section lately? So are we! We police the site regularly and delete spam as soon as we can, but recently, the volume of spam has increased dramatically. We&amp;#x27;re working on a way to block them permanently, so please bear with us, and know that we&amp;#x27;re as eager as you are to get rid of these pests. Meanwhile, please continue to use the Report Abuse button to flag spam--it really does help!--and continue to leave your brilliant feedback below. If you have any urgent questions about the spam, please contact us. And a special note to you, spammers; we officially declare you a major DON&amp;#x27;T. Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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