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"Suegra Scenario The Drama Queen Juliet&amp;#039;s mother-in-law has a track record of getting too involved with her son&amp;#039;s partners. &amp;quot;When my fianc\u00E9 and I were dealing with his psycho ex stalking us, his mom was helping her out,&amp;quot; reveals the 28-year-old dominicana from Boston. So Juliet wasn&amp;#039;t too surprised when, years later, her mother-in-law started latching onto her, and even asked for an awkward favor. &amp;quot;She asked me to hack into my father-in-law&amp;#039;s phone to access his pictures because she thought he was cheating,&amp;quot; she recalls. But Juliet had no interest in becoming a bit player in this novela-worthy drama. &amp;quot;I said absolutely not! I really didn&amp;#039;t want to get caught up in another couple&amp;#039;s problems.&amp;quot; Expert Advice: Juliet was smart to stay out of the parents&amp;#039; business. &amp;quot;If the daughter-in-law and [her in-laws] are very close, this may create boundary problems, competition, and distrust,&amp;quot; explains Dr. Ang\u00E9lica P\u00E9rez-Litwin, a practicing clinical psychologist. Her take: Don&amp;#039;t get sucked into the mama drama, and keep her out of yours. &amp;quot;Say, &amp;#039;I appreciate that you feel close enough to tell me this, but is there someone else you can talk to about that?&amp;#039;&amp;quot; Someone outside the family might be a more neutral sounding board. Suegra Scenario Copycat Madre &amp;quot;I think my exsuegra just liked me too much,&amp;quot; explains Angie, a 30-year-old Dominican from New York. &amp;quot;If I bought a purse, she went and got the same one. She even bought a Yorkie because she knew it&amp;#039;s my favorite breed.&amp;quot; Before Angie knew it, their friendship was bordering on Single Latina Female. Expert Advice: As tempting as it is to point out that your suegra is biting your style, P\u00E9rez-Litwin advises against it. &amp;quot;That creates competition and comparison.&amp;quot; P\u00E9rez-Litwin suggests complimenting your mother-in-law on her original purchases \u2014 because when you empower her choices, she&amp;#039;ll hopefully have more confidence in her style and in her life.  Suegra Scenario Busybody Mami Tara&amp;#039;s mother-in-law constantly violates her privacy. She barges into the 32-year-old Puerto Rican&amp;#039;s New Jersey home, eats all of her food, and asks her kids to pretend it was their idea to ask for &amp;quot;Nana&amp;quot; to come along on a family outing. Worse: Tara&amp;#039;s suegra pumps Tara&amp;#039;s own mother for dirt whenever super-private Tara stays mum. &amp;quot;His mom will tell him things about me that my mother told her in confidence.&amp;quot; Tara wants to tell her man&amp;#039;s mom to back off, but she&amp;#039;s afraid of how she&amp;#039;d react. Expert Advice: &amp;quot;Identify your boundaries,&amp;quot; advises P\u00E9rez-Litwin. &amp;quot;Then be clear with your suegra what you&amp;#039;re not comfortable with.&amp;quot; Be firm and consistent so she gets the message. And make sure the only way your mother-in-law can access your home, your personal info, or even your kids is if she asks you herself. Suegra Scenario Shameless Mami Meeting Dani for the first time, her madre-in-law came to the door wearing nothing but a thong. &amp;quot;I knew then this was going to be an interesting relationship, to say the least,&amp;quot; recalls the 32-year-old boricua from San Diego. In the 15 years since, Dani&amp;#039;s mother-in-law has managed to keep things just as lively. &amp;quot;We&amp;#039;ve gone out to a wine bar, just she and I,&amp;quot; shares Dani. &amp;quot;It was bad. I was intoxicated, but she was falling down, cursing, and talking shit about people in the wine bar a few feet away.&amp;quot; Horrified, Dani promised that would be the last time they went out together. &amp;quot;I love my husband&amp;#039;s mother, but I think there is a maturity that isn&amp;#039;t there at times.&amp;quot; Expert Advice: If your mother-in-law views you as her peer, instead of stressing it, use that to your advantage. &amp;quot;Model what you want her to do,&amp;quot; shares P\u00E9rez-Litwin. &amp;quot;Be friendly, be appropriate, and exercise control,&amp;quot; even if that means you have to nix sangria seshes with your suegra. When you&amp;#039;re both sober, you&amp;#039;ll probably see the line between mother-in-law and friend a lot more clearly.  Suegra Scenario TMI Mami   &amp;quot;I have learned so much from my mother-in-law,&amp;quot; shares Yessi, a 27-year-old mexicana who lives in China with her husband and his family. &amp;quot;My mother-in-law is very smart, so I always listen carefully when she speaks.&amp;quot; That is, unless she&amp;#039;s talking about sex. &amp;quot;She feels like she can tell me how good her husband is in bed. Uh, yuck!&amp;quot;  Expert Advice: To avoid hearing the intimate deets of your in-laws&amp;#039; sex life, P\u00E9rez-Litwin suggests speaking up, then shutting up. &amp;quot;Use light humor to convey that you&amp;#039;re uncomfortable with hearing the graphic details of her sex life. You can frame it as a joke and say, &amp;#039;That&amp;#039;s TMI!&amp;#039; or &amp;#039;TMI alert!&amp;#039;&amp;quot; Follow on Tanisha on Twitter. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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