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"Do you have names in mind for your future babies? Well, today, one reader says her friend is stealing her favorite baby name...Here&amp;#x27;s her story: My husband and I are newlyweds and aren&amp;#x27;t planning to have children for a while. But! My sister-in-law recently decided to name her son my husband&amp;#x27;s first name, which is the same as his father and grandfather. It irks me that she has opted to use my husband&amp;#x27;s first name, both without asking and without so much as considering that my husband and I may want to give his name to our own son. Are there rules here? How can I make her understand why I feel this way? Are my feelings petty? Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: Thank you so much for your question, my lovely reader. That&amp;#x27;s a tough one! On the one hand, everyone technically has the right to name their baby whatever they&amp;#x27;d like, and you and your sister-in-law could always give your babies the same names, especially if you don&amp;#x27;t see each other *that* often. But on the other hand, I can definitely understand how your husband might want to name his future son after himself (and his father and his grandfather) and feel territorial about that name. So, while you can&amp;#x27;t force your sister-in-law to scrap the name, and you don&amp;#x27;t want to start a huge family fight, you DO want to be understood. So, I would perhaps ask her if you can talk to her -- or even write her a letter. Tell her that of course she can use the name, technically, but that you and your husband have always planned to name your future son that name and you&amp;#x27;d love her to consider that, as she makes her final decision. I&amp;#x27;ve found that when--instead of going into the conversation with guns blazing--you are calm with people, tell them your point of view, and show them that you want the best for everyone involved, they often back down and become less defensive. Maybe in the end, she&amp;#x27;ll go with another name instead. And who knows? Maybe you and your husband will have all girls! My fingers are crossed for you!!! I hope it works out, my darling! xoxo What about you, my dear readers? What would you do in this situation? And do you have a future baby name in mind? Do you keep it a secret? (My sister claimed &amp;quot;Luke&amp;quot; years ago!:) P.S. What baby names do you like? (We won&amp;#x27;t tell!) More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add us to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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