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"So far, this has been a glorious week of outing: First, Andrew Young outed his former boss John Edwards as having as sex tape. Then a former CIA operative and public defender of waterboarding outed that tactic as ineffectual, just as the military was asked to reconsider its position on soldiers out in uniform. Meanwhile, the National Enquirer was busy outing Anderson Cooper as having a boyfriend, and Mel Gibson outed himself as unreformed, or possibly fed up with entertainment &amp;quot;reporters.&amp;quot; In keeping with this theme, I&amp;amp;#8217;ve polled some of my best guy and girl friends and asked them to come out with the facts of dating that everyone should know (or perhaps already does and refuses to admit it): Keep it Mean, Keep &amp;amp;#8216;em Keen So awful, but so true. Especially as things get going. A little mystery is good. A little reticence is sexy. A few days between dates or calls can build anticipation. A tsunami of texts, calls and attention is rarely positive, usually when it&amp;amp;#8217;s a romantic rescue mission, aka, when someone is desperate. This isn&amp;amp;#8217;t to say that either party being a jerk will be a winning strategy in the long haul (though, unfortunately, it can be&amp;amp;#8212;just think of the relationships you know where you can say &amp;amp;#8220;he treats her like sh*t and she loves it.&amp;amp;#8221;), not falling all over yourself to compliment her, meet up with her or get her number seems to be a winning tact for many guys. Yes. He always pays. Archaic, old-fashioned, and totally the right thing to do. Especially anywhere near the beginning (once you&amp;amp;#8217;ve been dating for a while, she can get the odd meal--but, if you&amp;amp;#8217;re not yet at a stage where you&amp;amp;#8217;re spending most nights together, and you know how each other takes his or her coffee, he should be paying for everything). Oh, and he cannot make a big deal about it. That&amp;amp;#8217;s even worse than letting her pay. It should be his pleasure because, well, it should be his pleasure. This is sexist and makes no sense, but if he has a problem with it he can take it up with the women on the Internet chat group where he will be finding his future dates (P.S. In reality they are actually men). &amp;amp;#8220;Bros before Hos&amp;amp;#8221; is a Crock Simply put: if it&amp;amp;#8217;s the right girl--this becomes much less of a &amp;amp;#8220;rule to live by&amp;amp;#8221; than a quickly discarded inconvenience. Oral Sex is Not a Two Way Street OK. This gets tricky. Oral sex can be lots of things: foreplay, the whole ballgame or a morning treat. The key here is that it should always be treated like a gift. &amp;amp;#8220;There you go. Merry Christmas. You&amp;amp;#8217;re welcome. No, there is no receipt.&amp;amp;#8221; Sure, there&amp;amp;#8217;s a good chance she&amp;amp;#8217;ll be down for more after her turn, but that&amp;amp;#8217;s not the right approach (unless you both know that&amp;amp;#8217;s where it&amp;amp;#8217;s going). Reciprocity does not have to be immediate, nor does it need to be direct, especially in the bedroom. It&amp;amp;#8217;s like a back rub. Know what ruins a great back rub? Having to get up and immediately go to work giving someone else a back rub. These are all facts that you probably already know deep down--the trick is to remind yourself before it&amp;amp;#8217;s too late. We all get caught up in moments, especially moments where we&amp;amp;#8217;re crushing, and forget the simple truths and common sense that tend to guide the rest of our behavior: measured reactions, manners, self-confidence and generosity being just a few. If the person you&amp;amp;#8217;re dating, or trying to date, is pushing the limits of these faculties, maybe it&amp;amp;#8217;s time you saw them out. What dating truths have been outed to you? Do any of these seem more like myths than &amp;quot;facts&amp;quot;? More on glamour.com Victoria Beckham&amp;#x27;s Cover Shoot On The C.L. -- How To Get A Better Sleep Cure For The Boring Khaki Shirt strong&amp;gt;More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;#x27;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow Glamour on Twitter. Photo: Jupiter Images; model is used for illustrative purposes only"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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