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"Here&amp;amp;#8217;s an interesting question ... Writes Save the Date reader Anne: I was wondering if it&amp;amp;#8217;s socially acceptable not to have a maid of honor or best man at your wedding? My boyfriend and I are starting to plan our wedding, and although we each have several friends we&amp;amp;#8217;d like to have in our wedding party, neither of us has one super-close best friend of the same sex. If I had to choose a maid of honor, I&amp;amp;#8217;d probably just have his sister, since I don&amp;amp;#8217;t have a &amp;amp;#8220;best&amp;amp;#8221; female friend. And asking his sister seems a little weird to me, since I barely know her. Likewise, my boyfriend has several close guy buddies, but feels it would be weird to pick out one as his &amp;amp;#8220;best&amp;amp;#8221; man. Will it be totally weird if we each have three or four &amp;amp;#8217;maids and three or four groomsmen, but no maid of honor or best man? Here are my thoughts: It&amp;amp;#8217;s your stinking wedding! If that&amp;amp;#8217;s what you want to do, I say, do it! With so many other aspects of wedding planning, you wind up letting other people weigh in and considering their opinions and what&amp;amp;#8217;s &amp;amp;#8220;socially acceptable&amp;amp;#8221; before making a decision. This is one of the few opportunities you&amp;amp;#8217;ll get to do exactly what makes you happy, so go ahead and embrace it! But there&amp;amp;#8217;s just one thing to consider: The beauty of having a maid of honor or best man is that it automatically puts one person in charge of the group, which often consists of people whose only connection is the bride or groom. It won&amp;amp;#8217;t be natural for them to act as a group if they barely know each other, and it&amp;amp;#8217;ll be harder for them to get anything done when no one&amp;amp;#8217;s officially &amp;amp;#8220;in charge.&amp;amp;#8221; To make it easier on them, I&amp;amp;#8217;d designate the person in charge for each &amp;amp;#8220;activity.&amp;amp;#8221; Ask one &amp;amp;#8217;maid to be the go-to girl for shower organizing, another to plan your bachelorette, a third to speak at the wedding, and so on. If they each have a &amp;amp;#8220;job,&amp;amp;#8221; it&amp;amp;#8217;ll be easier on them&amp;amp;#8212;and easier on you, since you won&amp;amp;#8217;t be the default person they go to when they can&amp;amp;#8217;t agree on something. Ladies, what do you think? Does Anne have to have a maid of honor? Or can she divvy up the responsibilities among her &amp;amp;#8217;maids? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own that needs solving? E-mail me! More reader dilemmas, solved! * How Do You Deal When Your In-Laws Drive You Nuts? * Can You Oust an Out-of-Control Kid from Your Wedding? * Should a Girl Get a Say in What Her Engagement Ring Looks Like? More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Add us to your iGoogle homepage FREE Beauty Stuff! Enter for your Chance to Win a New Prize Every Day! Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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