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" She uses the name Daniella Deviant, and she&amp;#039;s a professional dominatrix. I met her when she was working at a local fetish-themed nightclub in San Diego, CA called Boudoir \u2014the club has since closed. She worked the &amp;quot;wheel&amp;quot;. I was instantly drawn to her easy approachability and her subtly strict demeanor as the stunning Hawaiian beauty inflicted patrons with more pleasure than pain while they were strapped onto the club&amp;#039;s spinning wheel. Today she sees clients in the privacy of the &amp;quot;dungeon&amp;quot; where she works. Dani works as a dominatrix, fetish model, and glamour bondage girl. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m not in it for the money,&amp;quot; she says, &amp;quot;I do it for fun.&amp;quot; I sat down with Daniella and chatted about her &amp;quot;job&amp;quot; and asked her a few prurient questions about how she got started and what really goes on in the dungeon. As you&amp;#039;ll see it&amp;#039;s more about self-acceptance than weird sex. 1. A dominatrix can be married and be a mom She&amp;#039;s been married a couple of times and has a daughter. Being a Dom is something she started feeling as far back as she can remember\u2014having what she calls &amp;quot;perverted thoughts&amp;quot; as a kid. She moved to San Francisco after her first marriage and went from stripping to becoming a massage therapist. She uses her knowledge of the human anatomy in her work as a Dom. 2. Some dominatrix&amp;#039;s can switch back and forth between dominance and submission Daniella says she started as a submissive ala Anastasia from 50 Shades of Grey. She grew into the woman she is today. She&amp;#039;s a Dom in her professional life (very sadistic she says) and likes to be in bondage in her private life. She says it&amp;#039;s a turn on for her to be wrapped very tightly in a latex-like material, to the point she&amp;#039;s unable to move. It both excites her and makes her feel safe. 3. There&amp;#039;s a social networking site called Fetlife.com\u2014 it&amp;#039;s meant for &amp;quot;kinky people&amp;quot; She recommends women who&amp;#039;re interested in BDSM, Bondage &amp;amp;amp; Discipline Dominance &amp;amp;amp; Submission Sadism and Masochism; go to this site and start talking to other like-minded people. It&amp;#039;s all about open communication. No judgment. Women can feel very alone with these unique feelings, but don&amp;#039;t let society stop you from being happy. As long as it&amp;#039;s safe and consensual, then it&amp;#039;s healthy. 4. It&amp;#039;s a business Daniella gets paid via PayPal. She charges between $200-$300, and she always checks her client&amp;#039;s references. There&amp;#039;s even a Yelp kind of review site for Doms to explore.  5. It&amp;#039;s not about sex  Many men want is a powerful goddess to be submissive to, but there&amp;#039;s so much more than sex. She says she&amp;#039;s been paid to have her feet massaged for several hours. I reserve sex for my relationships. I have had sex with women using a strap-on in a film. Keep things legal. There are plenty of men out there who want you to do things to them that don&amp;#039;t include sex. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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