<http://schema.org/articleBody>
"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: I like sex, and when I meet an attractive guy, I usually sleep with him after only two dates. I always enjoy it right then and for a few days after, but then I have Put-Outers&amp;#x27; Remorse, but I&amp;#x27;m not sure why. Should I stop my pattern? The solution seems easy, but I&amp;#x27;m struggling. &amp;quot;Put-Outers&amp;#x27; Remorse.&amp;quot; That&amp;#x27;s funny. And true. If you feel bad about it, that&amp;#x27;s a sign you should slow things down. You like the guy, and are having fun, so you sleep with him. But then you&amp;#x27;ve realized you rushed into things, and you feel bad. Maybe the guy bails, or maybe he sticks around but the magic is gone because you&amp;#x27;ve jumped to the sex part too quickly. Either way, you end up feeling a little icky about it. It happens to all of us. First off, don&amp;#x27;t feel bad. It&amp;#x27;s in the past. There&amp;#x27;s nothing wrong with sleeping with a guy after two dates, just like there&amp;#x27;s nothing wrong with sleeping with him after 10 dates. It just might be time for you to move out of that phase for a while. Try dating one guy for a period of time and seeing where it goes. Make the next guy wait a few dates. He&amp;#x27;ll live. Contrary to what he says, he won&amp;#x27;t die from a severe case of blue ball-itis. He&amp;#x27;ll be fine. Get to know the guy, and sleep with him when it feels right. Plus, the waiting will make it more exiting. It really boils down to finding the right guy. Sex with the right guy will be as great and fulfilling after two dates as it would after, say, nine. For now, try to find that guy and hold out for the right moment. Yes, it will be tough at first to break the pattern. But in the end, you&amp;#x27;ll feel better about yourself. Plus, you&amp;#x27;ll weed out the jerks and douches pretty quickly. The quality guys will stick around and put in the work and time. If a guy really likes you, he&amp;#x27;s not going to bail if you want to wait a few dates (or longer) before sleeping with him. This way you&amp;#x27;ll be able to tell if he&amp;#x27;s just looking for a hook-up or something more substantial. Even if you&amp;#x27;re not looking for a relationship, dating will be more fulfilling and less of a bummer if you try to hold out a little longer. I have faith in you. Good luck! Have you ever been in a situation where you&amp;#x27;d slept with someone faster than you&amp;#x27;d have liked to? Were you able to stop, or did you keep repeating the mistake? What advice would you give someone who always regretted her sexual decisions? --Written by Nick Nadel for guyspeak.com More from guyspeak.com: * Is it okay to have sex on the first date? * Is no sex a deal-breaker? * I&amp;#x27;m in college and haven&amp;#x27;t found Mr. Right! * Friend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
<http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2010/09/ask-a-guy-i-always-have-put-ou>