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"  When you go to see Robin Thicke in concert, you expect a few things: A natty suit. &amp;amp;#147;Blurred Lines.&amp;amp;#148; Maybe even some nearly-naked models. But teary-eyed relationship advice? That&amp;amp;#146;s what Madison Square Garden concert-goers got earlier this month. &amp;quot;We gotta learn to forgive each other, you know, learn to love each other, no matter who it is in your family or relationship,&amp;quot; the recently single star told the crowd. &amp;quot;Hold on tight to the one you love.&amp;quot; A week earlier, he was singing Al Green&amp;amp;#146;s &amp;amp;#147;Let&amp;amp;#146;s Stay Together&amp;amp;#148; at a show in Atlantic City. Days before that, he announced to a different concert crowd that he wrote his song &amp;amp;#147;Lost Without U&amp;amp;#148; for Patton and told the audience, &amp;amp;#147;For y&amp;#039;all that don&amp;#039;t know, me and my wife separated. But I&amp;#039;m trying to get my girl back. She&amp;#039;s a good woman.&amp;quot; Thicke isn&amp;amp;#146;t the only public figure using his platform to try to win back a woman who left him. Aaron Carter, who you may remember as the young brother of Backstreet Boy Nick is also publicly lamenting a lost love &amp;amp;#151; the object of his affection being Hilary Duff. Carter doesn&amp;amp;#146;t attract quite the concert audience Robin Thicke does &amp;amp;#151; he recently declared bankruptcy to clear multi-million dollar debts, and his most notable performance of the past few years was getting eliminated in the first episode of the Food Network reality series Rachael vs. Guy: Celebrity Cook-Off&amp;amp;#151; but he does have 427,000 Twitter followers, who were all treated to his baby-come-back appeals. Rounding out the month of very sad men is Justin Bieber, the teen dream to end all teen dreams. He also went the social media route, calling his ex Selena Gomez &amp;amp;#147;the most beautiful princess in the world&amp;amp;#148; on Instagram for his 14 million followers to see. What the three men have in common (despite an affinity for what appear to be very expensive hair products) isn&amp;amp;#146;t that they all loved perfect women and are destroyed at the prospect of losing them. It&amp;amp;#146;s that they&amp;amp;#146;re a team of adult babies, distracted by whatever shiny thing you put in front of them and then throwing public fits when the disregarded toys are no longer available to them.  According to Jo Piazza, author of Celebrity, Inc., these guys may also be motivated by something even more crass than base jealousy: Maintaining their fan base. &amp;amp;#147;The main thing to remember is that the typical consumer of celebrity is a woman,&amp;amp;#148; Piazza said. &amp;amp;#147;All of the pandering these gentlemen are doing is to brand themselves as the idealized version of a boyfriend/husband, and as far as I can tell, it is nothing but an act.&amp;amp;#148; Social media is a convenient magnifier, and a way for celebrity men to gain wider support, taking the focus off their misdeeds and situating it squarely on their sweet overtures. And even those who don&amp;amp;#146;t use social networks to deliver their message know that fans can use them to help spread it. &amp;amp;#147;The evolution of social media gives a multiplier effect to this &amp;amp;#145;awwww&amp;amp;#146; factor,&amp;amp;#148; Piazza said. &amp;amp;#147;Robin Thicke trying to publicly win his wife back onstage isn&amp;#039;t a man actually trying to win his wife back. It is a brand trying to maintain its female fan base. Even if just one-tenth of that audience tweeted and Facebook about it, that still provides more intimacy for Thicke&amp;#039;s brand than any public statement he can make about it.&amp;amp;#148; As for Bieber, his renewed attention on Selena Gomez may be less about her princess dress and more about his own need for image rehab. &amp;amp;#147;Justin Bieber has done nothing to benefit his brand in the past year except date Selena Gomez,&amp;amp;#148; said Piazza. &amp;amp;#147;She is his saving grace. He has massively alienated his young female fans and the moms who love him just as much by his hard partying, drag racing, swearing, bucket peeing and general punk antics. Selena is the only thing that makes him relatable. Adding Selena to the Bieber brand mix makes it once again palatable to an audience he has done nothing but alienate.&amp;amp;#148; People make mistakes, and sometimes you really don&amp;amp;#146;t know what you&amp;amp;#146;ve got till it&amp;amp;#146;s gone. But if you screw up royally and publicly &amp;amp;#151; say, grabbing another woman&amp;amp;#146;s ass on camera and allegedly cheating in Paris (Thicke), hanging out in a Brazilian brothel and later getting arrested for drag racing and driving under the influence (Bieber), or hooking up with your girlfriend&amp;amp;#146;s friend when that friend is Lindsay Lohan (Carter) &amp;amp;#151; the answer isn&amp;amp;#146;t to use your pining heart for more TMZ headlines. Unless the goal is more TMZ headlines. If a man messed up and wants to reconcile with the woman who kicked him to the curb, &amp;amp;#147;he should go over the issues that led to the breakup and show her that he has a plan for how to handle those issues so that they don&amp;amp;#146;t happen again,&amp;amp;#148; says George Moufarrej, a relationship expert and author of the book Sexual Euphoria. &amp;amp;#147;If he wants his ex back, the first thing he should do is prove that he&amp;amp;#146;s changed. If he doesn&amp;amp;#146;t prove that he&amp;amp;#146;s changed, he won&amp;amp;#146;t be able to get his ex &amp;amp;#151; it&amp;amp;#146;ll be a waste of time. The ex won&amp;amp;#146;t even bother.&amp;amp;#148; But first, Moufarrej says, he needs to actually change. And that requires taking some time out of the relationship to rebuild a strong friendship and reestablish trust. For celebrity men, that means showing their wives and girlfriends that they have the tools to fight temptation in a line of work entirely purposed to create it, and that they&amp;amp;#146;re adult enough to treat their jobs like jobs and live their private lives with dignity. There are few things less dignified than using your smartphone to post a sad-sack tweet rather than just calling the woman you miss. One of them: Sharing details of your private life with a stadium full of people. And relying on Al Green lyrics. Of course, personal, heartfelt and private conversations don&amp;amp;#146;t have the bonus of celebrity publicity. The only thing these three guys seem to pine for more than their exes is the glow of spotlight &amp;amp;#151; and celebrity, sadly, is even more fickle than love. RELATED:  Is Justin Bieber Trying to Reconcile With Selena Gomez? Paula Patton Has Some Choice Words for Robin Thicke Aaron Carter Says Hilary Duff Is the Love of His Life Follow Jill on Twitter. 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