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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: My hubby and I haven&amp;amp;#8217;t had sex in a few weeks because I&amp;#x27;m not satisfied anymore. Long story short, I need it kinky. His idea of kinky is a quick spank, but that&amp;amp;#8217;s not enough for me. Can our sex life be saved? It can be saved. Maybe. You are going to need the three Ts here. Talk You must be totally honest with him about your needs. That means discussing your sex life and preferences with him as openly as you can. There is no right or wrong in any consensual sex act, there is simply works or doesn&amp;#x27;t work. Tolerance One of the big problems you are going to face is that most guys have it very forcefully (and frequently forcibly) imprinted on them at a young age that you simply do not hit women. Like most early conditioning, it is something that is often terribly difficult to overcome, even if he knows it is OK and within your boundaries. He is already open to the idea of spanking, at least, though I bet it makes him terribly uncomfortable. Respect his boundaries, as he respects yours. Time Getting to a mutually satisfying sex life takes time when one partner has a kink and the other does not. Baby steps are in order here, for both of you. --Written by Mystery Man for guyspeak.com Do you openly communicate with your partner about sex? How did you find a compromise that works for both of you? More from guyspeak.com: * How do I become a better kisser? * 5 Basic Rules For Getting It On * Friend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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