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" My boyfriend hates kissing. I&amp;#039;ve asked if it&amp;#039;s me. And he&amp;#039;s usually pretty honest. He says he just doesn&amp;#039;t like to kiss, doesn&amp;#039;t want people in his face. But let&amp;#039;s face it. You can&amp;#039;t get turned on without a kiss. He&amp;#039;s perfect in every other way. But I&amp;#039;m afraid I can&amp;#039;t get past how he won&amp;#039;t kiss me. What do I do?? That is strange. We&amp;#039;ve all dated people who love or hate one thing or another \u2014 whether that&amp;#039;s cats or dogs, sports or dessert, oral sex or PDA. But kissing? What? Is he worried about cooties? Because you can tell him that&amp;#039;s not a real thing. Seriously, though, I can&amp;#039;t imagine a relationship without kissing \u2014 and I can see how this might be a deal breaker for you. It doesn&amp;#039;t sound like he&amp;#039;s suddenly going to change his mind, so don&amp;#039;t hold out hope that he will change. You know he doesn&amp;#039;t like kissing. Now let&amp;#039;s think about what you want: Wanting intimacy isn&amp;#039;t unreasonable. And if you can&amp;#039;t get turned on without kissing, you may just have to ask yourself: Do I want a relationship that&amp;#039;s not intimately or sexually satisfying? Note: The question isn&amp;#039;t, can I deal with this? Of course, you can \u2014 people endure all sorts of hardships all the time. The question is, do you want to? What do you want? I&amp;#039;m sure he&amp;#039;s a great guy, but when you say he&amp;#039;s &amp;quot;perfect in every other way,&amp;quot; I don&amp;#039;t particularly believe you. Nobody&amp;#039;s perfect in every way but one. It makes me think that you&amp;#039;re trying to talk yourself into a compromise you know you don&amp;#039;t want. If you really are wild about this guy, you should at least attempt to have a serious conversation to see if some compromise can be reached. But this is odd. You say you&amp;#039;re afraid you can&amp;#039;t get past this and that you can&amp;#039;t get turned on without a kiss. Well, you don&amp;#039;t have to. You might be able to find another guy who&amp;#039;s a better fit. I have been with my boyfriend for about two years, during which time he has given me oral sex only once. He really dislikes hair &amp;quot;down there&amp;quot; (and mine is kept short but not shaved) and prefers it smooth. Otherwise he refuses to &amp;quot;provide.&amp;quot; I don&amp;#039;t have the time to shave every day, and I don&amp;#039;t want to have a Brazilian. Plus, they are quite expensive. On the flip side, he makes the effort to shave his &amp;quot; downstairs,&amp;quot; but more for his own personal standards and not because I&amp;#039;ve asked for him to do so. It&amp;#039;s also upsetting because I struggle to orgasm with him and know that head would help me. Am I putting him in an unfair situation? I feel like threatening him with the fact that many other guys out there would be willing to go down on me. First off, any guy who only goes down on you once in two years is not really pulling his weight, is he? That \u2014 and not the hair down there \u2014 seems to be the real problem. His demand that you remove all your hair sounds more like a convenient excuse than a deep-seated phobia. You need to have a direct talk about this and make sure he clearly understands that this is a problem. Focus on the idea that it will make it easier for you to come because that places the conversation in a positive light. Tell him that it makes you feel so good when he&amp;#039;s down there \u2014 not that it makes you feel so bad when he&amp;#039;s not.  Don&amp;#039;t threaten to step out on him with someone else. That&amp;#039;s a cheap shot. There&amp;#039;s really only one threat you can make, and that&amp;#039;s to withhold all blow jobs until he evens out the scoreboard. But I&amp;#039;d hold onto that threat until you feel it&amp;#039;s truly necessary. The point isn&amp;#039;t to threaten or demand \u2014 it&amp;#039;s to point out a very easy way to improve your relationship and right this unjust inequity. In the big picture, it&amp;#039;s about finding out how much he really cares about your happiness. So far, it seems like he&amp;#039;s a bit selfish. If he really doesn&amp;#039;t care enough to work around a little hair, you&amp;#039;ve got to realize that your sex life is on his terms only \u2014 and other parts of your relationship might be too. My parents are having problems. My mother wants to divorce my father. I love them both dearly. How can I help both of them? Seeing it with my own eyes, my father doesn&amp;#039;t deserve my mother. I just want to help them both in their decision, but don&amp;#039;t know how??!! That&amp;#039;s such a tough situation. We&amp;#039;re all tempted to try to help the people we love stay together, but sometimes the healthiest possible thing is a divorce. And, in awful situations like this, we&amp;#039;re sometimes tempted to believe that our influence is greater than it really is.  Ultimately, your parents will decide what&amp;#039;s best for your family. So, you should certainly honestly share your feelings with both of your parents. But I think the best thing that you can do is to let them know that you will love and support them, no matter what: married or divorced. Staying together for the kids usually causes more harm in the long run. But parents are almost always tempted to stick it out, hoping that the stability will be good for their kids and worrying that the pursuit of some personal happiness is selfish. They don&amp;#039;t see the stress a frayed relationship can put on their kids, but that&amp;#039;s one thing you can share with them. If your mother really does need to be on her own, it might help her to know that you see her unhappiness and that you want better things for her. She probably doesn&amp;#039;t need your permission, exactly, but she might appreciate your love and respect, now more than ever. Do you have questions about sex or relationships? Ask Logan here. RELATED: &amp;quot;My Fianc\u00E9 Broke Up With Me Over Text&amp;quot; &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m Considering Losing My Virgnity, but I&amp;#039;m Scared&amp;quot; &amp;quot;I Feel Stupid Trying New Sex Positions&amp;quot; Follow Logan on Twitter. Photo credit: Getty "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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