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"   There&amp;#039;s a subtle tactic to make things go your way in your career, love life, and social world \u2014 one that has nothing to do with effort or luck. It&amp;#039;s called priming. Research shows that by exposing people to specific words, body language, and symbols, they can be affected in a way that benefits you without their even realizing what&amp;#039;s going on. Here&amp;#039;s how to use subliminal moves to get an edge. At Work What you want: To seem like a team player How to get it: Put up a picture of your dog (or even of a friend&amp;#039;s pup) in your workspace. Why it works: When people look at shots of a pet dog, they not only tend to presume you&amp;#039;re loyal, but they may also act more loyal toward you. But don&amp;#039;t paper your cube with canines. Research shows that too many personal shots make other perceive you as a less professional worker. What you want: To appear more powerful in the office hierarchy How to get it: Wear a chic all-black outfit to work, and don&amp;#039;t smile as often as you&amp;#039;re inclined. Why it works: You&amp;#039;ll be seen as assertive and directed. Studies have found that people in black uniforms (like sports teams) are viewed as more dominant figures, while the act of keeping a neutral face is associated with higher status and power in a work environment. What you want: To bond with the boss How to get it: Offer to get her a hot cup of coffee \u2014 even if you&amp;#039;re not her assistant \u2014 and chat her up as she&amp;#039;s drinking it. Why it works: A recent study showed that just by holding the high-temp liquid, she&amp;#039;ll implicitly assume you&amp;#039;re an emotionally warm person \u2014 someone very likable. Just don&amp;#039;t hand her an iced latte or you could trigger a frosty reception.  With a Man What you want: To seem more alluring when you meet a guy How to get it: Talk about a beach vacation you took using sensual terms (e.g., &amp;quot;The sun felt so fabulously warm against my skin&amp;quot;) to paint a mental picture about the climate. Why it works: According to psychologists, this seductive I-feel-like-I&amp;#039;m-there speech will make him associate your personality with the lush sensations you&amp;#039;re describing. What you want: Your crush to fall for you on a dinner date How to get it: Subtly touch the back of his hand as you&amp;#039;re reaching across the table for bread. Why it works: It&amp;#039;s a proven way to win someone&amp;#039;s affection: Libraries and car dealerships have higher customer-satisfaction ratings when workers imperceptibly touch their clients. Touch activates the human desire to bond. What you want: To have The Talk without his flipping out How to get it: Take him to a restaurant that has soft, feminine colors and furniture with few angular lines. Why it works: Researchers think that simply being in this kind of an environment can influence a person to behave in terms of communicating. That means that he&amp;#039;ll be more likely to be open and disclose his true feelings to you.  In Social Settings What you want: To impress your guy&amp;#039;s parents the first time you meet How to get it: Casually praise someone whom you&amp;#039;re certain his mom or dad holds high esteem, such as a political figure, author, or celebrity. Why it works: Experts say that as you talk about their hero in a positive light, your targets start to think about all the qualities they admire in that person. And because they&amp;#039;re looking at you, they&amp;#039;ll subconsciously link you with that person&amp;#039;s positive traits. What you want: To make a friend out of an acquaintance How to get it: Start mirroring her behavioral tics, like touching your hair when she touches hers. Why it works: We like to see ourselves in other people. Researchers at New York University found that when you&amp;#039;re sitting across from someone who&amp;#039;s unconsciously shaking his foot, if you start moving yours in a similar but unobtrusive way, then the person feels more positive toward you. What you want: Your slob roomie to clean up after herself more often How to get it: Spray a bit of liquid all-purpose cleaner in the air right before she enters the skanky spot in question. Why it works: A Dutch study recently proved that the faint smell of a cleaning product will spur people to start picking up the area around them. You can also prime her by squirting a little fluid in the bathroom sink before she goes in to use it. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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