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" Is honesty the best policy? Some husbands don&amp;#039;t think so! Though the offenses that follow are all forgivable, they&amp;#039;re easy to prevent. Here, nine of the most common lies husbands tell their wives, why they do it and how to keep your man fib-free.   Lie #1: &amp;quot;You don&amp;#039;t look fat in that dress.&amp;quot;    Why he says it: You asked\u2014and your husband prefers boosting your confidence over telling the truth. How to keep him honest: Rather than ask, &amp;quot;Does this dress make me look fat?&amp;quot; have your husband help you choose between two outfits, suggests Doug Hirschhorn, author of 8 Ways to Great: Peak Performance on the Job and in Your Life.    Lie #2: &amp;quot;Yes, I cleaned up already.&amp;quot;   Why he says it: &amp;quot;Men confuse intention with action,&amp;quot; says Hirschhorn. Your husband plans to do the chore eventually, so in his mind, it&amp;#039;s as good as done. How to keep him honest: Give your guy a specific deadline (&amp;quot;Please hang up your clothes by Saturday morning&amp;quot;) and explain why it&amp;#039;s important that he finishes by then (&amp;quot;My parents are coming over that day&amp;quot;).   Lie #3: &amp;quot;This GPS was half the original price.&amp;quot;   Why he says it: He cuts the cost so you&amp;#039;re less likely to disapprove of his purchase, says Terri Orbuch, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. How to keep him honest: Tell him that being lied to is worse than dealing with a big expense, and that you&amp;#039;d rather discuss buying high-priced items before he brings them home so that you can talk about finances rationally.   Lie #4: &amp;quot;Everything&amp;#039;s OK.&amp;quot;    Why he says it: Even when your husband is clearly worried, he may not tell you what&amp;#039;s bugging him because men prefer to solve their own problems, says Ori Goldstein, a workshop leader who frequently works with married couples. How to keep him honest: &amp;quot;Respond with, &amp;#039;It seems like there&amp;#039;s something on your mind. Are you sure there&amp;#039;s nothing at all bothering you?&amp;#039;&amp;quot; advises Goldstein. Your husband may not share everything then, but he&amp;#039;ll be more likely to open up about one of his troubles.   Lie #5: &amp;quot;I like all of your friends.&amp;quot;    Why he says it: Your closest pal may get on your husband&amp;#039;s nerves, but he won&amp;#039;t flat-out say he doesn&amp;#039;t like her; he&amp;#039;s afraid you&amp;#039;ll be mad that he doesn&amp;#039;t like someone who&amp;#039;s important in your life. How to keep him honest: Let him express his full opinion about your girlfriend (&amp;quot;She complains a lot, but she&amp;#039;s loyal to you&amp;quot;) instead of asking him if he likes her, recommends Hirschhorn.   Lie #6: &amp;quot;I need to go to the grocery store.&amp;quot;    Why he says it: Your fridge is fully stocked, so he doesn&amp;#039;t need to go. What he really needs is some alone time (who doesn&amp;#039;t?!). He assumes admitting that will make you upset, says Goldstein. How to keep him honest: Asking him why he&amp;#039;s really going when he&amp;#039;s already looking to leave won&amp;#039;t get you any answers. A little while after he&amp;#039;s returned, remind your husband that you understand he wants to be by himself occasionally and that telling you when he does won&amp;#039;t offend you.   Lie #7: &amp;quot;I only had two drinks.&amp;quot;   Why he says it: Coming home after a night out and confessing that he&amp;#039;s really had four or five drinks may make you view him as irresponsible. He doesn&amp;#039;t want you to think of him that way or give him a hard time about it, says Hirschhorn. How to keep him honest: As long as this is a rare occurrence, let him know you&amp;#039;re glad he took public transportation, a cab or got a ride home from someone sober and you don&amp;#039;t think any less of him for letting loose. This judgment-free response may get him to talk about his night.   Lie #8: &amp;quot;My mother liked dinner.&amp;quot;   Why he says it: It&amp;#039;s important to your husband that you get along with his family, says Orbuch. Sharing his mom&amp;#039;s unedited thoughts could prevent that. How to keep him honest: Tell your husband it&amp;#039;s OK to mention when his mother is unhappy\u2014or better yet, have him tell her she can voice her concerns directly to you. Let him know you won&amp;#039;t hold her remarks against him and you&amp;#039;ll still treat her kindly.   Lie #9: &amp;quot;I wasn&amp;#039;t out with John or Eddie tonight.&amp;quot;   Why he says it: He knows you think some of his friends are a bad influence, but he doesn&amp;#039;t want to choose between making you happy and being with people he likes, says Hirschhorn. How to keep him honest: Let your husband know that even though you dislike some of his friends, you trust he won&amp;#039;t do anything to upset you. Make it clear that if he&amp;#039;s truthful about whom he&amp;#039;s with, you won&amp;#039;t get mad at him. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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