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"Due to popular demand, we decided to check in with Brian Alexander this week as he&amp;amp;#8217;s on tour for the release of his brand new book, America Unzipped. After all, who better to tell us about our nation&amp;amp;#8217;s (maybe your?) hidden sex lives&amp;amp;#8212;and maybe he&amp;amp;#8217;ll be able to give Mike a few suggestions to help him live up to his &amp;amp;#8220;edgy&amp;amp;#8221; nickname. Mike&amp;amp;#8217;s comment yesterday was fascinating, and it brought up a series of dicey questions. I thought I could hear some of the regular visitors to Man Needs Date howl at the idea of Mike taking the F.A.P. to a swingers club, but hold on a second. As you might expect, I&amp;amp;#8217;m being asked a lot of questions about sex&amp;amp;#8212;you know, sex book and all&amp;amp;#8212;and I find it interesting how uncomfortable a few people still become when the issue is raised. One woman told me she&amp;amp;#8217;d have to have her husband buy the book because she didn&amp;amp;#8217;t want anybody to know she was going to read it. Then she said, &amp;amp;#8220;My husband and I have never talked about sex.&amp;amp;#8221; &amp;amp;#8220;Not ever?&amp;amp;#8221; I asked. &amp;amp;#8220;No. Never.&amp;amp;#8221; At first I thought of asking if they communicate by sign, or pointing or something, but realized going down that road, especially with this woman, could not possibly end well. There&amp;amp;#8217;s no law that says anybody has to talk about sex; believe me, as much fun as it was to report, after finishing America Unzipped, I kind of wanted to avoid the whole subject for awhile. During one part of my reporting, I worked in an adult superstore selling sex toys and porn and found I was the one who was most uncomfortable having the conversations. Later in my journeys, a woman said something like, &amp;amp;#8220;Oh, going to a sex shop is a third-date thing for people I know.&amp;amp;#8221; How about you? How do you start a conversation about sex with a new lover? (&amp;amp;#8220;Uh, babe, is it true you were a gymnast?&amp;amp;#8221;) When&amp;amp;#8217;s the right time? After a week? A month? How specific would you get? Finally, what would you think if the F.A.P. took Mike to a sex shop next week? Or Mike took her to the swingers place? Too much too soon or a good way to get a conversation going?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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