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"  &amp;quot;Have you tried IVF/acupuncture/headstands?&amp;quot; &amp;quot;So often, the instinct is to fix things. What&amp;#039;s more important is to listen,&amp;quot; explains Barbara Collura, executive director of Resolve, the national infertility association. &amp;quot;&amp;#039;If you want to talk, I&amp;#039;m here&amp;#039; \u2014 that&amp;#039;s all I wanted my friends to tell me,&amp;quot; says Colleen Dippel, 39, who struggled with infertility for years before giving birth to her son and adopting her daughter. &amp;quot;Each infertility case is unique, so advice doesn&amp;#039;t help. Knowing there&amp;#039;s someone to talk to is what friendship is really about.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;Just relax and it will happen.&amp;quot; &amp;quot;There are so many myths about fertility issues,&amp;quot; says Kristin Foristall, 34, who used IVF to have her daughter. &amp;quot;I tried relaxing. I stopped drinking coffee. I meditated. Sorry, that didn&amp;#039;t fix my problem. Science did!&amp;quot; In fact, a recent study found that stress does not compromise a woman&amp;#039;s chance of getting pregnant. Plus, such comments risk minimizing a friend&amp;#039;s situation, Collura says. &amp;quot;I know you&amp;#039;re going to be upset, but I&amp;#039;m pregnant.&amp;quot; Sharing pregnancy news \u2014 yours or a mutual friend&amp;#039;s \u2014 is tricky, but don&amp;#039;t assume you know what reaction you&amp;#039;ll get. &amp;quot;Most women want to hear about other people&amp;#039;s baby news, in a matter-of-fact way and early enough so they&amp;#039;re not the last to know,&amp;quot; says Collura. As Peggy Strickler, 39, who went through infertility treatments for seven years before having her son, says, &amp;quot;There is a mix of feelings, certainly, but happiness for a friend generally prevails.&amp;quot; "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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