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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on dating: When I replied to a recent question from a woman who was deliberately helping a man cheat, I have to admit I was a little surprised by how much slack she got cut. People were even trying to divvy up the blame by percentages, like being cheated on hurts only so much due to one specific person. So, I thought I&amp;#x27;d take a look at these apparently murky ethical waters, and see if I could clear them up a bit. First off, the one in a relationship cheating is always, always at fault. There&amp;#x27;s a brilliant country song about people like this by John R. Butler called &amp;quot;She Came On To Me&amp;quot; (that I won&amp;#x27;t link here because it&amp;#x27;s decidedly not work-safe, but you can find it on YouTube) that pretty safely sums up their attitude. It&amp;#x27;s never the cheater&amp;#x27;s fault. Oh no. It&amp;#x27;s the person he or she cheated with. And if the other person is fully aware of what they&amp;#x27;re doing, well...sorry, but I&amp;#x27;ve got zero sympathy. Choosing to trample all over somebody&amp;#x27;s feelings for any reason is a really lousy thing to do, but especially when it&amp;#x27;s something as obviously painful and socially proscribed as cheating...well...there&amp;#x27;s not much excuse there. It doesn&amp;#x27;t matter that he&amp;#x27;s the one in the relationship; that&amp;#x27;s like saying it&amp;#x27;s the fault of the shoe store for selling the pedestrian I backed over some walking shoes. Sure, they enabled it, but I&amp;#x27;m still the one who did it. All of this is provided, of course, the other woman knows in the first place. It really has to be emphasized that there are cheating scumbags who are extremely good at covering up that they&amp;#x27;re in a relationship with someone else. These guys actually form little support groups and give each other tips. It&amp;#x27;s especially common with guys who have a male lover on the side: they&amp;#x27;re more highly motivated to keep that a secret. But cheaters with an awareness they might get caught generally try to keep the woman they&amp;#x27;re cheating with in the dark. Is it happening to you? There are a few warning signs. Just a note: any one of these shouldn&amp;#x27;t arouse suspicion. Some people have different lives. Two or more, though, is not good. 5. He Only Has Imaginary Friends You&amp;#x27;ve never met his friends. He might mention them occasionally, but they never seem to be around or to be available to do anything. It&amp;#x27;s always just you and him, which is nice, but you kind of wonder what the rest of his life is like. 4. He&amp;#x27;s Got A Weirdly Busy Schedule He can only see you after he gets out of work, or on weekends, or on specific times. Surprises are absolutely verboten. You might not even know where he works, because he&amp;#x27;s been vague about it. 3. You Never See His Place It&amp;#x27;s always a mess, or maybe it&amp;#x27;s being fumigated. He&amp;#x27;s got roommates who are &amp;quot;weird about visitors.&amp;quot; Weeks go by and apparently he lives at the gym and his office, not his apartment. Special exception: Living with the parents. No parent wants to hear their child having sex, and no man wants to have a talk with his dad about his sex life over breakfast. So guys currently at home deserve a little slack on this issue. 2. You Stay In One Part of Town No matter where you go, it&amp;#x27;s always in a specific part of town. Maybe it&amp;#x27;s the hip district, maybe it&amp;#x27;s a suburb, but either way, he doesn&amp;#x27;t seem to want to wander far from this locale. 1. He Has Two Cell Phones This isn&amp;#x27;t the mark of doom by itself: many people have a work cell and a personal cell. The key distinction will be what cell he gave you. If it&amp;#x27;s a prepaid cell? That could be trouble. And now I open the floor, especially to any unwitting other women who want to come forward: What are the danger signs of being with a cheater you&amp;#x27;ve seen? --Written by Dan Seitz for guyspeak.com More from guyspeak.com: * I&amp;#x27;m sleeping with a man in a relationship&amp;amp;mdash;is that wrong? * How do you feel about being the &amp;quot;other person?&amp;quot; * I&amp;#x27;m the casual other person and have no guilt. Do I really need to stop? * Friend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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