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"The assignment for the day: Meet four famous guys&amp;#8212;Jerry O&amp;#39;Connell, Chris Smith, Kal Penn, and Tony Shalhoub&amp;#8212;by the pool and have an honest conversation about their new show, We Are Men (premiering tonight!), love, relationships, and first impressions. Not a bad day at work!\nPinterestFacebookGlamour: How long can you guys stay in this apartment complex until you decide to take after The Golden Girls and move into someone&amp;#39;s house on the show?\nKal Penn: I want to live here in real life.\nJerry O&amp;#39;Connell: I lived at the Oakwood for two months. I was an actor, new to L.A., and it was furnished housing. It&amp;#39;s kind of the lap of luxury here. Everything is here. Complimentary breakfast.\nKal: That&amp;#39;s why I want to move here!\nTony Shalhoub: I think I have visited here before to see an acting coach or something.\nChris Smith: I&amp;#39;ve never been here before. I&amp;#39;ve been in Los Angeles for only about three and a half years.\nGlamour: Your characters share quite a bond. In real life, what were your first impressions of one another?\nChris: Jerry and I got lunch together before we started shooting and because we have a mutual sort-of acquaintance with a manager.\nJerry: Yeah, but what was your first impression of me?\nGlamour: Jerry, did you pay?\nChris: Yes, but it was with a gift certificate. He did! He took me to Cafe Stella! I remember because I didn&amp;#39;t feel too guilty that he paid since he used a gift certificate!\nJerry: I still have $9 on that gift certificate! But I didn&amp;#39;t leave my tip on that certificate because I didn&amp;#39;t know if the server was going to get it, so I left a cash tip. There&amp;#39;s $9 left on it, so I&amp;#39;m going to use it. I&amp;#39;m not going to throw it out.\nChris: We had lunch and coffee afterward, and my first impression was this guy has more time on his hands than I thought.\nJerry: Listen, any moment I can get out of the house without my kids, I&amp;#39;ll take it!\nPinterestFacebookKal: I met Tony years ago on a movie, but we&amp;#39;re not close. [Laughs] Tony and I met in September of last year in Charlotte, North Carolina, at the DNC.\nTony: Oh, that&amp;#39;s right! Yes, I went to the Democratic National Convention, and that was my first one. Kal had his own booth set up. He spoke at the convention. I was very nervous going in to meet him.\nKal: I was very excited. Tony was nice enough to come by, and I was so excited to see him, I ran over to him and gave him a hug, which was shocking to you. I&amp;#39;m a high-fiver and a hugger. I think I went in for both.\nTony: He also grabbed my ass. One cheek, not both. I thought he was lonely. [Laughs] No, I thought he was incredibly warm. When we all got together...\nChris: We had a read through and then we went out to dinner. I think the moment that brought us all together was when the check came, and our boss, Rob, paid and I think it just bonded us all together. It was a nice moment.\nKal: I thought it was when we all shared the spinach. For me, that was very special. We&amp;#39;re like an old married foursome.\nJerry: We&amp;#39;re actually really tight. If we have days of work that are somewhat stressful, we&amp;#39;ll all text each other at night about it.\nChris: We have secret texts and not even our bosses are on it.\nTony: We vent. It&amp;#39;s good. It&amp;#39;s like mini-group therapy.\nKal: Except Jerry is the only one without an iPhone, so he can&amp;#39;t get group messages.\nChris: And we&amp;#39;re very talented. I mean, there are three Emmys between the four of us.\nTony: Haha, that is a great line! Sometimes they give me a little attitude or don&amp;#39;t laugh hard enough at something funny or don&amp;#39;t take an acting note that I give them, so I&amp;#39;m tempted to just leave my three Emmys in their trailers the next morning, and they&amp;#39;ll just see it...\n[Everybody laughs].\nPinterestFacebookGlamour: In an episode, Jerry wants to babysit Kal&amp;#39;s daughter. Jerry, who would you trust to most babysit your daughters?\nJerry: You know, Chris has helped me on a flight with my daughters. He was very helpful and very good with them! My daughters like boys. They go listen to them. I mean, my daughters are maniacs, so it went as good as it could have gone.\nGlamour: How much did you charge for your services, Chris?\nChris: Oh, that one was just a freebie. I don&amp;#39;t know how long this show is going to last, and these guys have had careers before this, so if I have to, I might have to dip into babysitting to make money.\nJerry: Joking aside, I would trust any of these guys with my children. They would probably do a better job than I would. I&amp;#39;m not kidding you! Tony has two daughters that are quite successful and older and doing really well. I would be honored if he would impart some wisdom on my girls.\nGlamour: How old are your girls, Tony?\nTony: My daughters are 24 and 20.\nGlamour: So if you had to choose one of these guys, who would you set your daughters up with?\nJerry: Obviously me.\nKal: I really want it to be Jerry.\nChris: No, I really want to hear this.\nJerry: You know it&amp;#39;s going to be Kal.\nTony: Chris. If Chris was single, it would be Chris.\nChris: Aww, how come Tony?\nTony: Because he&amp;#39;s the most deferential to me.\n[Everybody laughs].Glamour: Let&amp;#39;s talk relationships now. For those who are married, what was it about your spouse that made you ask her out in the first place and then make it official?\nJerry: For me, initially, I was physically attracted to my wife.\nGlamour: I can&amp;#39;t see that at all.\nTony: I know. Yeah, what&amp;#39;s the matter with you?\nJerry: After dating her for about a month, I knew it was going to last for a long time.\nGlamour: Match.com really came through for you.\nJerry: Ha! Yeah, I knew after a month. It was her humor, her personality, and I enjoyed being around her. I wasn&amp;#39;t the one doing all the work. I don&amp;#39;t mean physically, but from a friends standpoint. I got more out of my wife than my wife got out of me. These aren&amp;#39;t sexual innuendos, but you&amp;#39;re all looking at me like it could be.\nGlamour: No, we find this very sweet.\nJerry: I will say that my wife and I have been together coming up on 10 years now...\nGlamour: Mazel tov!\nTony: Bravo.\nJerry: It&amp;#39;s really tough when you have kids, especially two at the same time, and I believe my wife and I are going to make it. I believe it&amp;#39;s going to happen.\nGlamour: If not, Chris will take your kids.\nJerry: [Laughs] Wouldn&amp;#39;t it be funny if Chris got custody of my children?\nKal: It&amp;#39;s just hilarious.\nJerry: Oh, and this is a Glamour thing. One of my daughters has only worn pants and only wants to dress like a cowboy, but this morning she asked to wear a dress to school. I was blown away. I didn&amp;#39;t ask her why. I&amp;#39;m sure boys are involved are something. I don&amp;#39;t want to know about it. They&amp;#39;re almost five.\nKal: So I graduated because Match.com didn&amp;#39;t work for me, so now I&amp;#39;m on JDate and Christian Mingle and Black People Meet. I&amp;#39;ll report back when I have something to share from those three websites.\nChris: There&amp;#39;s a site called Farmers Only I think too.\nKal: Is that true? Great, thanks for another Internet addiction, Chris Smith! Oh my gosh, it says, City Folks Just Don&amp;#39;t Get It TM. [Laughs]\nChris: That&amp;#39;s true though.\nGlamour: So how about you, Chris? How did you know you wife was the one?\nChris: The major decisions I&amp;#39;ve made in my life outright I haven&amp;#39;t really thought about. They&amp;#39;ve just been instinctual. I&amp;#39;ve just followed my heart, and that&amp;#39;s what happened when I met my wife, Rebecca. I was attracted to her at first; she&amp;#39;s beautiful. We were also in acting school, and she&amp;#39;s a terrific actor, and I was attracted to that. We were friends first, and then we were rehearsing a scene one day and started kissing and there was no kissing in the blocking of the scene.\nTony: Good choices there. Bold.\nChris: Yeah, we were good because we knew each other very well and were close. We had a close relationship as friends and the transition into boyfriend/girlfriend and then husband/wife was smooth.\nPinterestFacebook[Ed. note: Later in the week, I met Chris&amp;#39; wife, Rebecca, and here&amp;#39;s what she said about him!]\nRebecca: I knew he was into me because he would follow me around. I would test this because sometimes I would walk slower, and I would tell my friends, &amp;quot;Check this out!&amp;quot;[Laughs] He&amp;#39;s just a very kind person, and I knew that he would be very kind to me, and he has been.\nTony: Well, like Chris, I met my wife while doing a play on Broadway. I think the first thing was just the eyes. Her eyes are like brown, deep, glistening pools that just kind of draw you in. She has these amazing eyes that I just couldn&amp;#39;t take my eyes away from. And her smile, but also working together jI thought she was so talented. When you have respect for the person&amp;#39;s work, that&amp;#39;s huge. And like Chris, we were friends too before we got together. But during that whole time, I was really obsessed with her. We&amp;#39;ve been married 21-and-a-half years now.\nGlamour: What is the biggest pet peeve you have about ladies, or what do you wish we as a whole knew?\nTony: One thing for me personally...well, there&amp;#39;s two things. One is: I loathe baby talk, and I think some women think baby talk is fun or funny or appealing. That&amp;#39;s something that I just can&amp;#39;t handle. I just want to hear someone.\nKal: I&amp;#39;m really embarrassed, Tony, because that&amp;#39;s only how I talk to Tony. I didn&amp;#39;t know that was your pet peeve.\nTony: And see, I thought that&amp;#39;s why you did it.\nKal: Gosh, no!\nTony: And then the other thing is when it comes to eating, girls either don&amp;#39;t like to eat [on dates] or talk about food too much. They talk about whether they should eat something or shouldn&amp;#39;t eat something, but just enjoy it! Don&amp;#39;t turn it into a bad thing, it&amp;#39;s a good thing. That makes me nutty.\nKal: Mine is very quick. If you&amp;#39;re going to get drunk and cry at a bar, go home. Don&amp;#39;t come up to strangers and ask them if they want to do shots &amp;#39;cause it&amp;#39;s your birthday and then cry. Just go home. Cry at home.\nChris: I think both genders can stand to self-analyze less and be themselves more. From my perspective, girls that I&amp;#39;m friends with are the least self-analytical or appear to be that way.\nJerry: I&amp;#39;m a lot simpler. I think it&amp;#39;s overdressing for casual things. I have kids now; I go to a lot of kids functions, but let&amp;#39;s say hypothetically at soccer practice, these women get too overdressed. You can look attractive, but don&amp;#39;t push it.\nWe Are Men premieres tonight on CBS!\nWhat&amp;#39;s your favorite piece of advice from the guys?\nPhotos: Sonja Flemming/CBS"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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