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" Men! We love &amp;#x27;em to death, yet they drive us crazy all the time. But when do the little things that bug you cross into doomed-relationship territory? One reader isn&amp;#x27;t sure, so let&amp;#x27;s help her out. She writes: I&amp;#x27;ve been dating a wonderful man for seven months, and we&amp;#x27;re talking about having me move into his apartment when I graduate from college. We have amazing conversations and see eye-to-eye on everything, and we both love trying new and exciting things. But there&amp;#x27;s a problem. He does some weird little things that I absolutely cannot stand, such as making a saliva slurping sound every 30 minutes or so (seriously). He also talks about inappropriate sexual stuff around my friends, which makes me, and I&amp;#x27;m sure them too, uncomfortable. There&amp;#x27;s an age gap going on here (he&amp;#x27;s 36 and I&amp;#x27;m 21), but that&amp;#x27;s never been the source of a problem. My family adores him, and I love him, but these little things that he does, and there are several, drive me bonkers. I haven&amp;#x27;t been in many serious relationships, and I&amp;#x27;m wondering if that&amp;#x27;s normal at this stage. Or is it a sign of a bigger issue: that deep down I&amp;#x27;m unhappy with him? Are these little annoyances something that everyone has to bite the bullet on in serious relationships, or does this seem like something bigger? There&amp;#x27;s no way anyone but you can definitively answer this question, because every relationship is different, and you&amp;#x27;re the only person who has to live in this one if you choose. But here are a couple of points that might help you sort through it. First, is it &amp;quot;normal&amp;quot; at this stage in your relationship to be annoyed with little things about your guy? &amp;quot;Normal&amp;quot; is a relative term, but probably. Seven months is long enough, especially if you&amp;#x27;re serious enough to be considering moving in, to have spent a lot of time together and therefore to start grating on each other&amp;#x27;s nerves occasionally. But, is there also a chance that you&amp;#x27;re noticing more annoying things as you become disillusioned with the relationship? Yes. Maybe take a step back and analyze how much and how often this stuff annoys you: Is it only when you&amp;#x27;re in a bad mood or stressed? OK, we all take it out unfairly on the people closest to us once in a while when things are rough. Or are you constantly annoyed or irrationally angry in proportion to a minor offense? Then it might be indicative of a larger issue. Yes, anyone who wants to be in a serious relationship has to accept that some things about her partner will bug her. But no one should live with someone who constantly drives her bonkers! Second, little tics like the saliva thing are one (kind of gross and definitely annoying-sounding) thing, but you just have to decide where you can live with them in exchange for all the good stuff. On the other hand, saying things that make you uncomfortable and make your friends uncomfortable? I don&amp;#x27;t like it. This is one you should definitely discuss with him and then expect his behavior to change or else. Learning to live with an annoying habit is compromising together; learning to live with disrespectful values is selling yourself way too short. If you&amp;#x27;re still feeling unsure of the situation, I hope you won&amp;#x27;t rush to move in together. Seven months isn&amp;#x27;t that long in the grand scheme of things, and there&amp;#x27;s no reason you can&amp;#x27;t keep on with the relationship without that step if you need more time. And while I do think couples can make an age gap work, you&amp;#x27;re so young. You have plenty of time to live with a guy later in life; maybe it would be best to take some time just to figure things out before you take the domestic plunge. Best of luck with whatever you decide! What do you guys think? Is it too soon for our reader to be feeling annoyed, or is it normal? And are these things she should learn to live with, or a sign that she needs to get out? Have a dilemma you need to discuss? Email me at smittenbloggers@gmail.com. I&amp;#x27;d love to hear from you!"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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