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" \nQ. What should I do if I accidentally climax too quickly during sex?  First, there&amp;#039;s no need to apologize or be embarrassed. Unless it happens all the time, most women are understanding about a fast finish and may even take it as a compliment. Just don&amp;#039;t think that sex is over when you orgasm-she can still catch up. Take a few breaths to clear your head, and then turn your attention back to her. Kiss her deeply, massage her breasts and belly and thighs, run your fingers through her hair, and slowly bring her to bliss using the other tools at your disposal. Your penis may no longer be cooperating, but you still have 10 fully functioning fingers and a perfectly capable tongue, right?  Q. My girlfriend wants me to say &amp;quot;I love you,&amp;quot; but I&amp;#039;m just not there yet. How can I handle the situation without losing her? You have to make it clear that while you&amp;#039;re not ready now, you do think you will be in the future. How direct you need to be depends on how blatantly she asks what&amp;#039;s up. If she&amp;#039;s just saying &amp;quot;I love you,&amp;quot; don&amp;#039;t say it back, but don&amp;#039;t leave her hanging either. Give her a big hug, tell her that she&amp;#039;s wonderful, and say you feel closer to her every day. If she&amp;#039;s asking point-blank why you won&amp;#039;t drop those three little words, then gently explain that you&amp;#039;re falling hard, but you want to make sure you really mean it when you finally do say it\u201A you just need some time. She won&amp;#039;t like it, but she&amp;#039;ll have to accept it. Q. My wife wants to role-play. How do I do this without feeling and looking like an idiot?  I totally understand the sexual stage fright-any kind of acting gives me sweaty palms, which is not exactly a turn-on. The good news is that you don&amp;#039;t need to don full-on Renaissance Fair garb and call her a lusty wench right off the bat. Start slowly. Watch a sexy movie together, and perform whatever sex acts the characters do (try 9 1/2 Weeks, Y Tu Mam\u00E1 Tambi\u00E9n, or Basic Instinct for starters). Or rent a hotel room, and then go to the hotel bar to pretend that you&amp;#039;re meeting each other for the first time, and just see what happens from there. The key is to kick back and have fun, not stress about staying true to character. Q. When a woman offers to split the bill on a first date, should I take her up on it? At your own risk, buddy. I always reach for my wallet at the end of a date, but it&amp;#039;s only because I don&amp;#039;t want the guy to think I feel entitled or am unappreciative, and I&amp;#039;ll be disappointed if he doesn&amp;#039;t wave me off, at least on date one. (By date two, it&amp;#039;s a different story.) It&amp;#039;s old-fashioned, sure, and I can see why these expectations are technically unfair. But the truth is that when a guy pays, it says that he wants to do something nice for me, which makes me feel special; when he doesn&amp;#039;t, it makes me feel like he doesn&amp;#039;t really like me. Is that the message you want to send? Q. I&amp;#039;m renting a room in my apartment, and the most trustworthy candidate is a woman. My girlfriend is not happy. How can I make her relax? Honestly? By finding a dude to live with instead. Barring that, you need to make her feel like the new girl isn&amp;#039;t a threat to your relationship. So whatever the next step is, consider taking it: Buy her a toothbrush to leave by your sink, give her a drawer in your bedroom, or hand over a spare key and let her know she&amp;#039;s free to barge in on you playing video games any time she wants. Prove to her that you&amp;#039;re thinking about your future with her, not about Miss Craigslist in a towel, and she&amp;#039;ll feel (slightly) placated that she&amp;#039;s still the woman of the house. But again: To avoid the drama, just find a guy. Q. Which is more important, width or length? Gun to my head: Width, and surveys show that most women agree. The most sensitive part of a woman&amp;#039;s vagina is the first few inches, so the more stimulation in that area, the better sex tends to feel. However, penis size is only one factor in a woman&amp;#039;s pleasure, and the perfect penis (whatever that is) can&amp;#039;t make up for a guy who doesn&amp;#039;t know what to do with it. Worried you don&amp;#039;t measure up? For deeper penetration, try doggie-style positions. For a snugger fit and maximum stimulation, grind your hips in circles during sex. Whatever you do, don&amp;#039;t ask her if your member is big enough. Lack of confidence is far more of a turn-off than smaller-than-average anatomy. Xo, Carolyn  Get More Sexy Insight: How to Look Sexier Online News Flash, Not All Women are Relationship Obsessed For more tips just like these, check out CFG: Cosmo For Guys, a monthly app for men on the iPad. Download CFG for him here. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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