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" Writes Save the Date reader Eliana: I&amp;#x27;m close with my fiance&amp;#x27;s sister (I was her maid of honor; she&amp;#x27;s one of my bridesmaids) but I&amp;#x27;m getting sick of dealing with her attitude. Nothing nice comes out of her mouth EVER. For example, she was married in October of 2011. When my boyfriend and I started looking at engagement rings in May of 2012, instead of being happy for us, she said, &amp;quot;Well, I hope he waits to propose. I know I&amp;#x27;m not ready for another wedding yet.&amp;quot; Now we&amp;#x27;re engaged and looking at venues. She was with us when we brought our parents to see our top choice. As soon as she stepped out of the car, she started insulting the venue&amp;amp;#8212;which she KNEW was our top choice. Her onslaught of negative comments wrapped up with, &amp;quot;Well, I know you guys are probably going to go with this place, anyway, so you&amp;#x27;ll find some way to make it work.&amp;quot; Needless to say, I&amp;#x27;m hurt by her senseless and selfish remarks, and I&amp;#x27;m worried I&amp;#x27;m going to flip out on her. Every time she opens her mouth, I&amp;#x27;m on the verge of screaming, &amp;quot;I don&amp;#x27;t give a CRAP what you think!&amp;quot; which I don&amp;#x27;t want to do. How do I draw the line now so I don&amp;#x27;t have to listen to hurtful comments throughout the entire wedding planning process? What do I say? Help! Here are my thoughts: Clearly your future-sister-in-law has NO filter, but I think you can, erm, encourage her to keep her opinions to herself. I think before she joins you on any more wedding-related field trips, I&amp;#x27;d preface your outing by announcing to the group, &amp;quot;Obviously everyone&amp;#x27;s going to have a LOT of opinions. Right now, we&amp;#x27;re only interested in positive ones. You know, &amp;#x27;If you don&amp;#x27;t have anything nice to say ...&amp;#x27;&amp;quot; Then if she starts on one of her Negative Nancy rants, I think you should plaster a HUGE smile on your face and say, &amp;quot;Right now we&amp;#x27;re only interested in positive opinions. So if you don&amp;#x27;t have anything nice to say ...&amp;quot; [shrug, smile][end scene] If you go a few rounds and she&amp;#x27;s STILL being snippy (I&amp;#x27;d try the kill-her-with-kindness tactic for a week) I think your last option is to be blunt. Cut her off mid-critique with: &amp;quot;PLEASE stop being critical. You&amp;#x27;re hurting my feelings.&amp;quot; You may have to do this a few times in a row, which will feel aggressive, but as long as you&amp;#x27;re calm and keep your voice down, I don&amp;#x27;t think she&amp;#x27;ll fight back. And if she STILL can&amp;#x27;t keep her trap shut, you can&amp;#x27;t cut her out of your life, but I think you should definitely cut her out of wedding planning as much as possible. Ladies, what do you think? Should Eliana tell her future sister-in-law to shut it? Or does she need to grin and bear the constant criticism? Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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