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"Five or six years ago, my then-boss had one little problem with her nanny.  My boss and her husband didn&amp;#039;t get home until around 7, so the nanny would bathe the children, which was great. And then after bath time, she would put coconut oil in the children&amp;#039;s hair, like she had done with her own children&amp;#039;s long, thick, frizz-prone curls. But my boss&amp;#039;s kids didn&amp;#039;t have long, thick, frizz-prone curls. They had baby-fine wisps of hair that barely brushed their shoulders. They didn&amp;#039;t need the ultra-moisturizing (ultra-greasy!) coconut oil that was soaking their little heads\u2014and their pajamas, pillowcases, and anything else they came in contact with before bedtime. (Including my boss&amp;#039;s clothing, on more than occasion.) &amp;quot;So ask her not to use the coconut oil,&amp;quot; I said. &amp;quot;You&amp;#039;re paying her! You&amp;#039;re the boss.&amp;quot; She smiled and shrugged. And now I&amp;#039;m sure she was thinking, &amp;quot;You have NO idea how complicated it is.&amp;quot; And I didn&amp;#039;t! Having a nanny is great. I love that Emmett gets so much one-on-one attention. But navigating the relationship is WAY more complicated than I had anticipated. It&amp;#039;s hard to give direction to someone who you&amp;#039;ve hired as a childcare expert! By turning my baby over to the nanny, I&amp;#039;m saying I trust her implicitly, and when I give her direction kind of feels like I&amp;#039;m questioning her authority, if that makes sense. (&amp;quot;I trust you, but \u2026&amp;quot;) For example, this morning I dropped Emmett off with our friend&amp;#039;s nanny (ours is away for three weeks) and she was tilting his sippy cup up toward his mouth. The problem? It&amp;#039;s not exactly a sippy cup. It&amp;#039;s a straw cup, so she should&amp;#039;ve been holding it straight up and down. The thing is, I pointed this out when I dropped him off on Monday. And I didn&amp;#039;t want to harp of the fact. So I didn&amp;#039;t say anything. I mean, I&amp;#039;m sure she eventually figured it out \u2026 Right?  Is your relationship with your nanny (or babysitter or daycare center) more complicated that you anticipated?  "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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