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" We asked you if women can-and should-have casual sex without emotional attachment. Here&amp;#039;s what you said: SOMETIMES &amp;quot;It is possible to have sex without catching feelings; it just depends on the person you are. I recently moved to Chicago and have been hooking up with this incredibly handsome guy who lives across the street from me. He&amp;#039;s not the brightest crayon, but trust me when I tell you that his body is what the Greek gods must have looked like under their togas. I met him through match.com, and we went out a couple of times and had a lot of chemistry-but not dating chemistry-and since he&amp;#039;s just across the street, we hook up now. Once I meet someone I want to have a relationship with, I won&amp;#039;t hook up with him anymore. I&amp;#039;m not sure if this philosophy came with age, or perhaps it&amp;#039;s just where I am in my life, but I know that when you&amp;#039;re younger, it&amp;#039;s harder to detach. During my senior year of high school and throughout college, I hooked up with this really handsome guy. Whenever he would come over and stay the night, I would play the part of the girlfriend-cook breakfast, snuggle-but we never dated. It killed me. In fact, he got engaged recently and called to tell me, and to my surprise, five years after our last hookup, I still felt that little pang in my heart.&amp;quot; -Gena, 25, recruiter NO &amp;quot;Just after college, I had sex with a guy I barely knew because I felt like I needed the experience of having sex for sex&amp;#039;s sake. It wasn&amp;#039;t horrible, but it certainly wasn&amp;#039;t fulfilling emotionally or sexually. We went to a Mexican restaurant, got drunk, and had hazy, intoxicated sex later. We had an awkward conversation when we woke up, and he took me home. For a long time, I thought no guy would stick around and want to get to know me if we weren&amp;#039;t on the fast track to sex. But now that I am older, I realize that sex is rarely good on a one-night stand. True sexual satisfaction is getting your needs met by a man who knows how to please you, someone you&amp;#039;re comfortable expressing your needs and desires to. Somehow, our generation&amp;#039;s gotten it all wrong. We&amp;#039;ve started to believe that &amp;#039;sexual empowerment&amp;#039; and &amp;#039;sexual promiscuity&amp;#039; mean the same thing. I see so many girls disrespecting themselves and sleeping around, trying to fill a void with sex. It&amp;#039;s much harder to be alone and to have to challenge yourself to satisfy your own needs and figure out why you feel lonely. It&amp;#039;s easy to get drunk, go to a bar, and pick up a guy.&amp;quot; -Danielle, 27, reporter  YES &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ve been having sex with one of my guy friends for about a year now. He&amp;#039;s not overly ambitious, and he would be a terrible boyfriend, but the sex is so hot! I work really long hours and don&amp;#039;t have much time to date, and the few dates that I have been on are less than memorable. I do want a relationship one day, but I don&amp;#039;t feel like I should have to wait until then to have sex. Who knows how long that will be? I think as long as there&amp;#039;s communication between two mature adults who just want to have no-strings-attached sex, it works out great-whether it&amp;#039;s a one-night stand or a longer-term friends-with-benefits situation. The key is being honest with each other and not playing games. A problem only arises when one person has more feelings for the other or someone starts lying; then someone&amp;#039;s bound to get hurt. As for me, my friend knows what I want in bed, we respect each other, and I leave satisfied and happy, with-out worrying about whose turn it is to unload the dishwasher or having to have lunch with his mother when she&amp;#039;s in town. At this point in my life, it doesn&amp;#039;t get much better than that.&amp;quot; -Lynn, 26, massage therapist  *Some names have been changed "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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