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" Making the match  You may have ups and downs along the relationship road, but 63 percent of you say, &amp;quot;My guy is the best choice I could have made!&amp;quot; The other fundamentals: When did you know he was the one?  9% dated less than 6 months before getting married; 27% dated 6 months to a year; 35% dated 2 to 3 years; 15% dated 4 to 5 years; 10% dated 6 to 9 years; 4% dated 10 years or more. &amp;quot;My husband slept over on the first date and just never went home! We were married after nine months and have been married for over 12 years. We both felt that it was more than enough time before we got married.&amp;quot;  \u2014 Jennifer Bull, 35, Murphysboro, IL &amp;quot;We dated for three and a half years before getting married. I wanted to get rid of my debt beforehand so I wouldn&amp;#039;t go into marriage with that baggage. We&amp;#039;re glad we waited so long. It just proved that we were truly committed to each other.&amp;quot;\u2014 Rachel Rule, 32, Alexandria, VA  &amp;quot;I was living in Chicago when I was contacted by my now-hubby for a work-related matter. We began emailing, and six months later we were talking on the phone every night and decided to meet. So he flew out to a conference of mine. The second time we met, he flew up to Chicago to meet my three sons. The third time, I flew down to Atlanta to meet his four sons. The fourth time was our wedding day.&amp;quot; \u2014 Cherie Miller, 53, Acworth, GA How similar (or not) are you?  &amp;quot;Our personalities are night and day. He is a clean freak, and I am... not a clean freak. He won&amp;#039;t do anything without making a spreadsheet first, and I go with the flow. He&amp;#039;s an engineer, and I&amp;#039;m all about the arts. He loves boy things like fishing and shooting, and I love romantic comedies. We&amp;#039;re opposites, but it works!&amp;quot; \u2014 Megan Marlena, 30, San Francisco &amp;quot;We like to do the same things, and most of the time we think the same \u2014 and we can&amp;#039;t work out whether that has happened because we&amp;#039;ve spent so much time together or if that&amp;#039;s how we always were!&amp;quot;  \u2014 Marsha Sharpe, 29, New York City &amp;quot;My husband and I have personalities that are diametrically opposed: He&amp;#039;s outgoing, I&amp;#039;m introspective. He&amp;#039;s loud, I&amp;#039;m quiet. I find that our differences provide a crucial balance. There&amp;#039;s a reason opposites attract! We use our combined strengths for the common good of the family, and we happily coexist.&amp;quot; \u2014 Joanne Rock, 40, Peru, NY  Love and sex  So Stevie Wonder wasn&amp;#039;t the only one \u2014 sometimes your guy does just call to say &amp;quot;I love you,&amp;quot; and nearly as much as we women do! A whopping 50 percent of men say &amp;quot;I love you&amp;quot; lots of times during the day, compared with 51 percent of women. Now, the other ways you speak the language of love, with and without words (wink, wink).  Sex every night?! Yep, 3% of you do the ultimate love workout that often. &amp;quot;My husband and I have sex twice a week, but I want more! Our sex life before was wonderful, almost every day. Since he turned 50, he&amp;#039;s slowed down. I hate having to wait for him to be in the mood. But our sex life is great, always has been.&amp;quot; \u2014 D.W., 52, Thonotosassa, FL &amp;quot;As often as we both want to have sex. It just depends on our body clocks. If he wants to, we do it! If I want to, we do it! We both knew when we married that sex is a function of life and love, and we both understand that it is a stress reliever and it keeps us in &amp;#039;soul-mate mode.&amp;#039;&amp;quot; \u2014 K.M.C., 47, Louisville, KY Who gets it going? For nearly half of you, he&amp;#039;s the one making advances most often; 15% of you ladies come on to him more; the rest of you initiate about as often as he does.  &amp;quot;My husband has mostly initiated sex, at least since we&amp;#039;ve had kids. He kisses my neck or ear, and if we&amp;#039;re in bed he&amp;#039;ll roll over and tell me how beautiful I am. When I initiate, I surprise him with a &amp;#039;come hither&amp;#039; look, or I just undress and ask if he&amp;#039;s too tired or can he handle a little entertainment. Corny, huh? But we have sex at least four times a week and we have been married for 15 years.&amp;quot; \u2014 C.R., 36, Chalfont, PA &amp;quot;I initiate! I&amp;#039;ll send him text messages, grab his hand and lead him to the bedroom (when our child isn&amp;#039;t home), and occasionally I just tell him flat out. But if he came on to me, it would make me feel sexy. We don&amp;#039;t need to have sex five times a week \u2014 not that I wouldn&amp;#039;t like to sometimes!&amp;quot; \u2014 S.M., 42, Port Orange, FL  What do you call your sweetums? 71% percent of you have nicknames for each other: &amp;quot;He likes to call me Mrs. Darcy, from Pride and Prejudice. Of course this melts my heart.&amp;quot;  \u2014 Jennifer Braun, 39, McFarland, WI &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m called Meatball because I sing &amp;#039;On top of spaghetti...&amp;#039;&amp;quot; \u2014 Megan Capone, 34, Dracut, MA &amp;quot;My husband nicknamed me PITA: pain in the a**. I call him Oscar, as in the grouch!&amp;quot; \u2014 Laurie Zeck, 42, Cleveland &amp;quot;I call him Pot Roast, because he is hot and juicy!&amp;quot; \u2014 Kristina Daggs, 32, Terrytown, LA &amp;quot;He calls me LOML, which stands for Love of My Life.&amp;quot;  \u2014 Adriane Schuster, 62, Floral Park, NY How often do you snuggle without sex? &amp;quot;We snuggle at least once a day, though I admit we&amp;#039;re not a normal couple: He&amp;#039;s a farmer and I&amp;#039;m a freelance journalist, so we get to spend quality time together after we eat lunch!&amp;quot; \u2014 LuAnn Schindler, 47, Ewing, NE &amp;quot;My hubby and I are in a constant state of snuggling, or as we embarrassingly call it, &amp;#039;snoogling.&amp;#039; It&amp;#039;s disgustingly dorky, but he&amp;#039;s &amp;#039;Snoogle Bear&amp;#039; and I&amp;#039;m &amp;#039;Snoogle Bunny.&amp;#039; At the end of the day, no matter what we&amp;#039;re doing, we cuddle up on the couch for about an hour. Needless to say, we don&amp;#039;t have any kids!&amp;quot; \u2014 Kayla Craig, 22, Des Moines, IA &amp;quot;My husband and I snuggle and huggle and spoon and fork all the time. I have never felt so loved and so beautiful. It&amp;#039;s great to be with a man who is so loving and affectionate.&amp;quot; \u2014 Randee Feldman, 56, Boca Raton, FL Have you cheated? (Or been tempted?) 45% of you have never been tempted to cheat on your partner; 32% have fantasized about being unfaithful but would never actually do it; 12% of you have come close; and a mere 11% admit they&amp;#039;ve cheated. Life&amp;#039;s (annoying) little details  You guessed it: It&amp;#039;s time to talk money and housework.  Do you share bank accounts?  57% of you share it all, 29% have both separate accounts and a joint one, and 13% keep everything separate. Holy housework! When it comes to keeping house, you and your hubbies divvy up tasks traditionally: 88% of wives tidy up and 85% do the laundry. Meanwhile, 81% of husbands do the yard work and, yep, 84% of them take out the trash. As for who gets dinner on the table each night, 65% of you take care of it, 15% of your hubbies do, 18% both make it equally often, and \u2014 restaurants, rejoice! \u2014 4% of you hardly ever make dinner. &amp;quot;We each gravitate toward our strengths. He vacuums; I wash the clothes. I cook on weekday mornings; he cooks on weekends. He feeds the dog; I feed the cat and the hummingbirds. Our deal is part of what we call &amp;#039;mutual spoilage.&amp;#039; We each try to do more for the other than is done for us. A list like this reminds me how lucky I am!&amp;quot; \u2014 Mary Westheimer, 54, Phoenix &amp;quot;Our chores are in a constant state of renegotiation, but right now it feels even! We both have jobs we prefer (I declutter more and he gardens more) and jobs we dislike (I dislike mopping and mowing, and he dislikes wiping stoves and cleaning the bathroom). The other stuff (laundry, cooking, dishes, and bills) we try to split evenly.&amp;quot;  \u2014 Catherine Adams, 45, Brooktondale, NY  Time together  If chillaxing were an Olympic sport, you&amp;#039;d be getting high marks in the couples competition \u2014 because through all the hard work, you&amp;#039;ve mastered how to make the most of your leisure time (and share the remote fairly!). From staying in to getting away, here&amp;#039;s how you bond. Do you do date nights? &amp;quot;We usually have a really nice dinner where we can have an uninterrupted conversation without having to tell someone to sit down or chop up someone else&amp;#039;s food! It&amp;#039;s really nice to reconnect and gaze at each other and just enjoy each other&amp;#039;s company.&amp;quot; \u2014 Marijo Tinlin, 41, Superior, CO &amp;quot;We have a standing date night every Monday at 8. We buy a bottle of malbec and some good cheese or dark chocolate, and watch Anthony Bourdain No Reservations on the couch. Staying in avoids the stress of calling a sitter and deciding where to go. Our date night isn&amp;#039;t very glamorous, but it&amp;#039;s pretty close to perfect in my book!&amp;quot;  \u2014 Carrie Stallwitz, 38, Houston  &amp;quot;My husband and I rarely have date nights. We&amp;#039;re very independent people and, while we love each other dearly, we&amp;#039;re not joined at the hip.&amp;quot;  \u2014 Nicole Canfora Lupo, 31, Nutley, NJ Which couch potato controls the remote? 38% of couples take turns deciding what to watch; 27% of your hubbies rule the remote; 4% of you do; 21% of couples like the same shows and almost always agree on what to watch. Need a couples getaway?  40% of you say it&amp;#039;s been so long that you can&amp;#039;t even remember the last time you skipped town together without the kids. But some of you are packing your bags: 30% take a couples trip once a year, and 3% go away constantly. Fits and fights  When your issues hit the fan, you have your own ways of unplugging and cleaning it up. Here&amp;#039;s the lowdown on your showdowns. What do you fight about? &amp;quot;The only thing we ever disagree about is that I live in the house that Jack built but never finished. I would like him to fix the things that need fixing, but circumstances dictate that it isn&amp;#039;t going to happen any time soon.&amp;quot; \u2014 K.D., 47, East Hanover, NJ &amp;quot;We don&amp;#039;t fight. If there is conflict or hurt feelings, we talk about it, apologize, and go from there. Our &amp;#039;not fights&amp;#039; are about stupid stuff, like Stu being messy. But I&amp;#039;ve learned to live with that, and I wouldn&amp;#039;t trade Stu for anyone else.&amp;quot; \u2014 D.M.S., 51, Fairfield, CT I told you so! Who&amp;#039;s right when you fight? 76% of wives say, most of the time, they are! READERS REVEAL:  &amp;quot;People are shocked when I tell them _____ about my marriage.&amp;quot;  &amp;quot;People are shocked when I tell them that my husband and I play World of Warcraft together. No one expects me \u2014 a very &amp;#039;vanilla,&amp;#039; responsible teacher \u2014 to play an online game that features warriors, elves, mages, and orcs. But it&amp;#039;s a hobby he enjoys, so I thought I&amp;#039;d give it a try, and it turns out it&amp;#039;s a lot of fun (great stress relief)!&amp;quot; \u2014 Alethea Massey, 35, Jackson, MS &amp;quot;People are shocked when I tell them that there&amp;#039;s a 19-year age difference between my husband and me. My husband acts so young \u2014 and apparently I act older \u2014 that they assume we&amp;#039;re close to the same age. Having a 2\u00BD-year-old and another on the way probably adds to the confusion, but he does have a 30-year-old daughter.&amp;quot; \u2014 Kristen Shear, 30, Richardson, TX &amp;quot;People are surprised when they hear that my husband and I are together basically 24 hours a day! We live and work from a big blue RV and promote the shoe charity Soles4Souls. We love it! We&amp;#039;ve been married 32 years and are still best friends.&amp;quot; \u2014 Silvana Clark, 56, Bellingham, WA &amp;quot;People are shocked when I tell them my husband and I don&amp;#039;t plan on having kids. We both enjoy our nieces and younger cousins, but we have decided as a couple that we are going to enjoy each other, and our family unit will just be the two of us.&amp;quot; \u2014 Rachel Rule, 32, Alexandria, VA &amp;quot;People are shocked when I tell them my hubby still calls me his &amp;#039;bride&amp;#039; after 27-plus years of marriage. And that I still feel like a newlywed!&amp;quot; \u2014 Liz Moore, 46, Carson City, NV "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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