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" \n It&amp;#039;s hard to bring up, but you need to set the record straight because guys can get weird about commitment. &amp;quot;When it seems like time to define your couple status, men often freak and wonder if there&amp;#039;s someone better or if they want to give up their carefree single-guy role,&amp;quot; explains relationship expert Harlan Cohen, author of Getting Naked. You deserve to know if your guy&amp;#039;s going to waste your time. Here&amp;#039;s your three-step plan. 1. Choose the Right Time Unfortunately, there isn&amp;#039;t a magic formula that determines when you should have the talk. But generally speaking, it&amp;#039;s go time when you have your first &amp;quot;You&amp;#039;re killin&amp;#039; me, Smalls&amp;quot; moment\u2014i.e., you get a sense that you two may not be on the same page, and the where-are-we suspense is nagging at you so freaking badly that it&amp;#039;s all you can think about. 2. Choose the Right Place Bring it up during an active moment, like when you&amp;#039;re walking in the park or making dinner together\u2014that way, the question isn&amp;#039;t the center of the universe, which eases the intensity. FYI, fancy dinners out are a terrible idea\u2014the formality adds pressure, and if the talk doesn&amp;#039;t go well, you&amp;#039;ll both want to leave, but you&amp;#039;ll still have to deal with the bill. Pillow talk also isn&amp;#039;t ideal. If he says he doesn&amp;#039;t want to be your BF, you&amp;#039;ll feel extra vulnerable since you&amp;#039;re naked and just did intimate things\u2014so it&amp;#039;s best to do it fully clothed. 3. Choose the Right Words The key is to stick with open-ended phrases that give him a chance to share his thoughts without forcing him into an answer. Say, &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m dating only you right now, and I want to know if we&amp;#039;re in the same place,&amp;quot; or &amp;quot;My cousin&amp;#039;s wedding is soon, and people will ask what we are\u2026.I&amp;#039;d like to know what to say.&amp;quot; If he says he&amp;#039;s down to commit, sweet\u2014Grandma will be tickled pink to meet your BF. If he gets all &amp;quot;Uh, I don&amp;#039;t know\u2026,&amp;quot; then move on, and wear your flirty best to that wedding. SOURCE: Matthew Hussey, relationship expert and author of Get the Guy "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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