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" This reader needs help, but I might be too jealous to answer her question. She writes: I live in Paris and am from Bermuda. I&amp;#x27;ve been dating a lovely Frenchman for almost two months and I have a big problem! He is lovely, but when we get &amp;quot;busy&amp;quot; he constantly says my name (yay!) [Ed. note: So people really do that! Huh!] followed immediately by &amp;quot;I love you.&amp;quot; So let&amp;#x27;s say my name is &amp;quot;Tiffany&amp;quot; and he says &amp;quot;Tiffany, I love you, Tiffany I love you...&amp;quot; over and over again! Here&amp;#x27;s my dilemma. I&amp;#x27;m wise enough to know it&amp;#x27;s not true because it&amp;#x27;s so soon, but do I tell him?! I have a feeling it&amp;#x27;s a totally unconscious reaction, and I don&amp;#x27;t know if it&amp;#x27;s cultural, but when we&amp;#x27;re out of the moment of passion, should I ask him what the heck he means by saying &amp;quot;I love you&amp;quot; over and over again?! HELP! Tiffany, Tiffany, Tiffany, (I know that&amp;#x27;s not your real name, but let&amp;#x27;s go with it), my dear girl... PLEASE GIVE ME ALL OF YOUR PROBLEMS. You&amp;#x27;re living my dream life, and I&amp;#x27;m green with envy. OK, but seriously, here&amp;#x27;s how I&amp;#x27;d handle it in your shoes. I&amp;#x27;d let the relationship be the guide. There&amp;#x27;s no technically appropriate time to say &amp;quot;I love you,&amp;quot; so it&amp;#x27;s entirely possible that a guy could truly feel that way after two months and it wouldn&amp;#x27;t be too soon. However, for lots of people, that would feel too rushed. Either way is fine. So, if things have been casual between the two of you&amp;amp;#8212;i.e., no emotional talks or plans for the future at this point, just fun and evidently great sex (you lucky beast)&amp;amp;#8212;I&amp;#x27;d ignore his heat-of-the-moment declarations and not bring it up, at least for now. From what you&amp;#x27;ve said, it doesn&amp;#x27;t seem like he&amp;#x27;s purposely lying to you in bed, and guys have been known to say strange things in the throes of passion that they don&amp;#x27;t necessarily mean. (Fictionally, remember that SATC episode where a guy said the rudest things to Charlotte and then didn&amp;#x27;t remember? At least your guy is saying nice things while his mind is being blown!) If you&amp;#x27;re pretty sure he&amp;#x27;s not actually in love with you yet, then I wouldn&amp;#x27;t bring it up for two reasons: 1) You don&amp;#x27;t want to make him feel like you&amp;#x27;re pressuring him to say it for real, and 2) You don&amp;#x27;t want to make him suddenly self-conscious in the sack, you know? For the love, what if he stops talking with that delicious accent? I&amp;#x27;m assuming that would really hinder the foreplay. On the other hand, if you feel like your relationship is getting serious by now, then maybe you can read a little more into it. He could be too nervous to say it in a regular situation, but maybe he loosens up and says what he means when he&amp;#x27;s all hot and bothered. Still, even if you&amp;#x27;re ready for him to say it for real, I wouldn&amp;#x27;t be all, &amp;quot;Remember that thing you said in bed? Didja mean it or what?&amp;quot; You could try to get him to open up during regular activity by talking about your own feelings and see if he reciprocates. But if he doesn&amp;#x27;t, don&amp;#x27;t throw it in his face that he says it during sex. If it gets to the point where you feel that you&amp;#x27;re not getting what you need from him emotionally except for what he says during sex, then you should bring him up and ask him to try to control his urge to say things he doesn&amp;#x27;t mean when he&amp;#x27;s thinking with his crotch. Or you know, stop sleeping with him. But for now, it seems like you&amp;#x27;re having a great time, so I&amp;#x27;d just go with it and enjoy! F&amp;amp;eacute;licitations on all the French good times. What do you think, ladies? Should &amp;quot;Tiffany&amp;quot; bring up her guy&amp;#x27;s declarations of love when they&amp;#x27;re out of bed, or just ignore it? Has a guy ever said things he didn&amp;#x27;t mean to you during sex? Does anyone know if this is a cultural thing? The French guy I, uh, spent time with in Paris never said that to me, dang it! More pillow talk: *6 Things He (Probably) Wants You to Say to Him in Bed *Three Sexy Things to Say to Your Boyfriend in Bed... *&amp;quot;Can You Keep It Quieter Down There, I&amp;#x27;m Trying to Read My Book&amp;quot; And a Hilarious Video Full of Other Things NOT to Say in Bed"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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