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"Elvis staged a comeback&amp;amp;#8212;so can you! It&amp;amp;#8217;s all about bouncing back (solo). This economy is getting people down. My friends are getting laid off. First your job goes, then your self-esteem, then your boyfriend.... It&amp;#x27;s like an avalanche.Related: Let me tell you a story about Elvis when he was in a rut. Well before he was fat and wearing a cape, The King was doing drugs, dissing Priscilla, and filming too many cheesy movies. By 1968, he hadn&amp;amp;#8217;t been on TV in eight years. Anyway, somehow he got his ass in gear, went to Burbank, and televised a concert now known as the &amp;amp;#8217;68 Comeback Special. It was huge for him. Fast-forward to mid-2006, New York City. Yours truly had what I called a Setback Year, in which I lost my job, apartment, car, and serious boyfriend. Everything was unrelated, but I mean, still, I hit rock bottom. My dad said I sounded like an upscale version of a country song, since he pointed out I was losing a fashion magazine job, a lease to a huge pre-war Manhattan apartment, a Harvard boyfriend, and I was pocketing the money from selling a car that had been a gift. So I followed my dad&amp;amp;#8217;s example and made light of it. I compared myself to Elvis. Mid-2007, I launched what I called my Comeback Year. I hired a personal trainer, found a better-paying job, read a lot of self-help, signed up for Italian classes, flew myself to Rome for the weekend, had a fling, came back to NYC, dated with renewed interest, and even made out with my lifelong crush at my high school reunion in San Diego. Whew! It wasn&amp;amp;#8217;t all easy, though. Moving apartments in NYC nearly killed me, and I did it without the help of a boyfriend or any family (all my relations live in California). That was my main complaint: no guy to lend me emotional support or help me move my old couch out to the sidewalk. I&amp;amp;#8217;m terrified that if I have another Setback Year someday, and there happens to be a man in my life, I will whine, complain, allow him to do all the work for me, and make him resent me. When you&amp;amp;#8217;ve had it rough, did you lean on a man for help? In troubled times, how do you control how much you&amp;amp;#8217;ll lean on/involve/use/annoy the guy in your life? Photo: Michael Ochs Archives/Getty Images "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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