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" The 1950&amp;#039;s are over...kind of. Even in this modern tweet-text-Google-glasses-Grindr generation beliefs about a woman&amp;#039;s sexuality are still pretty damn traditional. Who can forget that wonderful saying, &amp;quot;Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?&amp;quot; In this scenario, a human woman is a farm cow and her value is based on a man wanting to purchase her. Winning!   Today, if a woman chooses to sleep with a variety of partners, she is still considered a &amp;quot;slut,&amp;quot; someone who is trashy, undesirable, and low-class. Not really a compliment. As a member of the slut caste, a woman&amp;#039;s value as a friend, wife, or girlfriend is dramatically compromised. Is this fair? Hell no. Is it still happening? Most def.   According to an article in Science Daily titled &amp;quot;Women Reject Sexually Promiscuous Peers When Making Female Friends&amp;quot;, a new study out of Cornell University found that &amp;quot;College-aged women judge promiscuous female peers -- defined by bedding 20 sexual partners by their early 20s\u2014more negatively than more chaste women and view them as unsuitable for friendship.&amp;quot;   I think this study can be filed under mucho-depressing.gov/sadness. A woman&amp;#039;s sex life is her own business and she has the right to pursue pleasure wherever she wants, from a sex dungeon in Berlin to a swinger&amp;#039;s party in Palm Springs. My life philosophy can be summarized simply as, &amp;quot;Get that dick, girl!&amp;quot; Just kidding, kind of.   However I have to admit that I kind of understand why girls would be wary of getting very close to a promiscuous woman. I know it sounds super judgy but let me explain. I had a best friend in high-school who slept with a ton of dudes. Married guys? Check. Drug dealers? Check. Somebody&amp;#039;s dad? Check. She did it for attention, she did it for validation, she did it to escape her awful family life. But the point is she did it...a lot. The worst part was that she did it with guys I was in love with. She kissed the high school love-of-my-life at my birthday party. That friendship totally destroyed me but it also taught me a valuable lesson: You can&amp;#039;t be close to a girl who is desperate for male attention. You will get hurt.   The lead author of the Cornell study Zhana Vrangalova validates my point. She proposes that &amp;quot;evolutionary concerns may be leading men and women to disapprove of their bed-hopping peers as friends. They may actually be seeking to guard their mates from a threat to their relationship.&amp;quot; If someone has a voracious sexual appetite it&amp;#039;s easy to feel threatend. What if she tries to charm my husband? What if she flirts with my boyfriend? It&amp;#039;s not crazy to be worried about that. However, I realize that there is a difference between someone who sleeps around a lot and a disloyal person.   The Cornell study which is called, &amp;quot;Birds of a Feather? Not When it Comes to Sexual Permissiveness,&amp;quot; finds that &amp;quot;such social isolation may place promiscuous women at greater risk for poor psychological and physical health outcomes.&amp;quot; It makes me think of the tragic suicide of Felicia Garcia, a 15-year-old girl who was literally slut-shamed to death. After allegedly sleeping with four football players on the same night at a party, she was aggressively bullied at school. According to an article on Jezebel, &amp;quot;two days before she killed herself, Garcia tweeted, &amp;quot;I can&amp;#039;t, I&amp;#039;m done, I give up.&amp;quot;   Slut-shaming is a very real problem and as women we have got to support each other through this battle. Women like Sandra Fluke, who spoke in Congress in defense of birth control, and Katelyn Campbell, a high school student who fought against abstience-only education, were both called &amp;quot;sluts&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;prostitutes&amp;quot; by media figures. I think what these people meant to call them was &amp;quot;inspirational heroes.&amp;quot; Oh, semantics.   On a more practical note, I would advise ladies who like to sleep with a large variety of partners and don&amp;#039;t have a lot of female friends: If you&amp;#039;re trying to make new amigas, make sure to prove to them that your sex life is not a threat to them. Show them you are trust-worthy and have excellent boundaries. Wear a turtleneck, not daisy-dukes, when you meet their boyfriends. If you do that, you&amp;#039;re in the clear. Good luck ladies, and let the friendship begin!   Want more musings from Rose? Follow her on Twitter. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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