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"When Jake&amp;amp;#8217;s new book, Always Hit on the Wingman, landed on my desk on Tuesday (woo hoo!), I skipped right to Section Two: Dating Him. As I&amp;amp;#8217;ve mentioned before, I&amp;amp;#8217;ve been seeing a guy for a little while, but it&amp;amp;#8217;s still in that Kinda-Sorta-What-Is-This phase, so I&amp;amp;#8217;ll take any advice I can get, especially from Jake. When I hit Rule #5, though, I almost glossed over it: Rule #5: Please Don&amp;amp;#8217;t Pretend to Know What the Infield Fly Rule Is, a.k.a. Be yourself. He likes you that way. Really. (I must, for the record, interject that I do know what the infield fly rule is. My father would disown me otherwise.) Why would I want to skip Rule #5? Well, if you spend even a little bit of time with me, one of the things you notice pretty quickly is that I&amp;amp;#8217;m not afraid to be myself. Some of you probably even know that from reading my posts! I&amp;amp;#8217;m kind of the resident punk rock-listening, thick book-reading, science-obsessed geek in the office, and I don&amp;amp;#8217;t hide it. But, the more I started to think, I realized: maybe I&amp;amp;#8217;m not so relaxed around new guys&amp;amp;#133;especially when I think I might really like one. So, I read, and thought about my dynamic with J. We&amp;amp;#8217;re very different in some big ways: He&amp;amp;#8217;s a scientist and I&amp;amp;#8217;m an editor, and though we&amp;amp;#8217;re both left-handed, we use very different parts of our brains during the day. I completely embrace that imbalance. But I admit I&amp;amp;#8217;m a little self-conscious of the fact that he&amp;amp;#8217;s 100 percent vegan, and has been for about 15 years (yep, really). I&amp;amp;#8217;m about 85 percent vegan myself, but do wear leather things, too. Occasionally, I feel like comparatively, I&amp;amp;#8217;m not as invested in my ethics as I should be, or that my convictions and beliefs are somehow less meaningful than his. And that&amp;amp;#8217;s very not me. So, I took Jake&amp;#x27;s advice: the next time I saw J, I stepped into my cute new nude heels and told myself I&amp;amp;#8217;d scuttle away any insecure thoughts during dinner. I stuck to it&amp;amp;#8212;and found myself in the most relaxed, open evening I&amp;amp;#8217;ve had with him yet. The moral of the story? Even if you think you&amp;amp;#8217;re always yourself around guys, stop and re-evaluate for a sec&amp;amp;#8212;you might find there&amp;amp;#8217;s an even better version of you waiting. (Oh, yeah, and the other moral is listen to Jake&amp;amp;#133;but you already knew that one.) Are you 100 percent yourself around new dates, or could you take a cue from Jake&amp;amp;#8217;s Rule #5, too? Download a free preview of the first two chapters&amp;amp;#8212;plus a bonus dictionary that decodes the secret dating language of men at amazon.com, bn.com, Apple&amp;#x27;s iBookstore or Sony&amp;amp;#8217;s ebook store now! P.S. See what Always Hit on the Wingman taught married old lady Lindsey, and Lindy&amp;amp;#8217;s 18-year-old self! P.P.S. Don&amp;amp;#8217;t feel like reading? This video will tell you all you need to know. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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