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" Alright guys, I&amp;amp;#8217;m in need of your opinions on a subject I&amp;amp;#8217;ve been scratching my head about since coming home from a first date last night: The rules of discussing other dates while ON a date. Last night, I went on a first date that almost didn&amp;amp;#8217;t happen. In a pre-date text conversation trying to make plans, I mentioned that my schedule was flexible that week. My potential date replied that he had gone on four dates. Um, thanks for sharing? And congrats? I got weird and stopped responding for a bit, but eventually agreed to the date since text tone is tricky. But on the actual date, he told stories both of recent dates and of an ex-girlfriend (I think it&amp;amp;#8217;s OK to share this with you guys since he flat out admitted he had no filter) and I have some questions about that . Here&amp;amp;#8217;s my thing: I&amp;amp;#8217;m certainly not offended to know that someone I just met is dating, even a lot, or has had past relationships. But I&amp;amp;#8217;m not real sure I want to talk about it either. Particularly when it makes me feel like I&amp;amp;#8217;m just one in a cycle of daily dates. Maybe I&amp;amp;#8217;m just being sensitive though; I have been known to pack a lot of dates into a short amount of time myself. But in general, I try to avoid that and I certainly don&amp;#x27;t share my dating schedule while on a date. (I just share with you guys!) And as for talking about former relationships on a date, I don&amp;amp;#8217;t actually mind that much since I&amp;amp;#8217;m kind of an oversharer myself, except that one time&amp;amp;#8212;ONE TIME&amp;amp;#8212;I mentioned my ex on a date (months ago, not last night) and it blew up in my face. For the record, I only mentioned it in passing to explain how I ended up leaving New York and my old job, and becoming a relationships writer. The story doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t make a lot of sense without the fact that I had a huge breakup during that time period. But I limited it to a brief sentence, i.e. &amp;amp;#8220;Around that time, I got out of a long-term relationship&amp;amp;#8221; and didn&amp;amp;#8217;t mention specifics or bring it up again for the rest of the night. No big, right? Wrong. After I had declined a second date, the dude sent me a series of increasingly condescending and clueless emails, in which he basically told me I was obviously not over my ex since I&amp;amp;#8217;d talked about it on a first date. It was so rude. But since then, I make it a point to edit out that part of my background story lest anyone accuse me of mooning about my ex on a date. So I guess I&amp;#x27;m confused on what other people think is acceptable when it comes to discussing exes and/or other dates. What do you guys think? What&amp;#x27;s the rule on first dates? Can you talk exes? Can you talk about other recent dates? Or are both off limits? Other questionable date behaviors: *First Date FAIL: He Conveniently Forgot to Mention His Girlfriend *10 Nasty Habits That Can Turn Someone Off on a First Date *The First Date DON&amp;#x27;T That&amp;#x27;s Sometimes (Okay, Often) a DO Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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