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"Save the Date brides have the trickiest problems! Read on, for today&amp;amp;#8217;s sticky situation. Reader Caroline writes: I have a friend, K, who has been there for me for the last 10 years. There have always been aspects of her personality that irritated me, but I overlooked them because she is a fun-loving person who&amp;amp;#8217;s always up for a good time and has stayed in touch with me no matter what. In the past few years, however, I have had a harder time overlooking her personality flaws. I have tried to do less with her as I always seem to be irritated afterward, but she continually invites me out because she considers me to be one of her best friends. I have had to strategically plan things to not mix her with my other friends because they cannot stand her; she can be very bossy and a drama queen. My dilemma: While discussing our boyfriends and possible future weddings a few months back, K seemed to indicate that she assumes she is one of my bridesmaids. That is definitely not the case. I just don&amp;amp;#8217;t consider us that close, but she seems to think we are as close as we were 10 years back. Now that the time has actually come for me to choose bridesmaids, how do I let her down easy without hurting the friendship? Here are my thoughts: My first instinct is to just be honest with her. Take her for coffee, mention your wedding, and say, &amp;amp;#8220;Look, I think you may have been under the impression hat I was going to ask you to be a bridesmaid. I&amp;amp;#8217;m sorry to disappoint you, but I&amp;amp;#8217;m keeping my bridal party to the people I&amp;amp;#8217;m closest with now.&amp;amp;#8221; If you&amp;amp;#8217;d rather not hurt her feelings out of respect for your old friendship, you could make it a numbers thing and give her a less important job. (&amp;amp;#8220;My fiance and I are each only having four attendants&amp;amp;#8212;but we&amp;amp;#8217;d love for you do a reading.&amp;amp;#8221;) You could also just not say anything. Eventually, she&amp;amp;#8217;ll get the hint. It&amp;amp;#8217;s not the kindest approach, but I feel like you don&amp;amp;#8217;t really want to be friends with K&amp;amp;#8212;certainly not close friends, anyway&amp;amp;#8212;so a bridesmaid brush-off kind of seems like the perfect way to take your friendship down a notch without having to confront her. What do you guys think? Do you think there&amp;amp;#8217;s a nice way to brush off a former friend? Has anyone had to let a friend know she&amp;amp;#8217;s not in the wedding party? Or have you ever assumed you&amp;amp;#8217;d be an attendant only to realize you were way wrong? More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I Can&amp;amp;#8217;t Afford the Wedding I Want!&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! We Want to Elope&amp;amp;#8212;But How Will We Tell Our Families?&amp;amp;#8221; * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! Registering Is So Overwhelming!&amp;amp;#8221; More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;amp;#8217;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow Glamour on Twitter. Photo: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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