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" Men may not need foreplay to have sex -- hell, many guys are good to go after a gust of wind. But a new study proves that guys ache for a little presex action. However, most women have never learned this key lust lesson. &amp;quot;Our research shows that men are as interested in foreplay as women are and that they want more than they&amp;#039;re having,&amp;quot; says Sandra Byers, Ph.D., study author and professor of psychology at the University of New Brunswick. The reason is simple. &amp;quot;Men appreciate foreplay for the same reasons women do -- it feels good physically, and the extra anticipation makes their orgasm more intense,&amp;quot; explains Laura Berman, Ph.D., sex therapist and codirector of the Female Sexual Medicine Center at UCLA. So it turns out that the common consensus that men like it fast and furious is only a myth. But now that you&amp;#039;re clued into this covert carnal craving, you can give him the bedroom buildup he&amp;#039;s jonesin&amp;#039; for. Start by following these foreplay-for-him tips.  &amp;quot;Men like intense, down and dirty, rough and raw kissing -- they are turned on by women who feel comfortable with all the messy trimmings,&amp;quot; says Gabrielle Morrissey, Ph.D., author of Urge: Hot Secrets for Great Sex. Morrissey&amp;#039;s suggestion for a passionate, gotta-have-it-now lip lock: Tease him by tracing the outside of his lips with your tongue, gently tugging his bottom lip with your teeth, and lightly biting his tongue when it&amp;#039;s in your mouth. Dan,* 33, is so fond of the way his girlfriend aggressively takes his tongue into her mouth and sucks on it that he gave the move an X-rated name. &amp;quot;I call it tongue fellatio ... and I love it,&amp;quot; he says. Another mouth-pleasing trick: Try sucking on an ice cube prior to your pucker. And you&amp;#039;ll really make him drool if you put your whole body into the act of making out, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Stock Market Orgasm. &amp;quot;The more body parts involved, the more intense the experience.&amp;quot; Her formula for an earthshaking smacker he&amp;#039;ll never forget: Cradle his face with one hand and grab his butt with the other while you simultaneously press your breasts and pelvis against him. *Names have been changed.   Too often, touch is the only sense that takes center stage during preintercourse play. But to graduate from basic to mind-blowing foreplay, you have to incorporate all of his passion receptors. &amp;quot;Every type of sensory stimulation -- the sight of a woman&amp;#039;s body, her whispers and the smell of her skin -- activates parts of the brain responsible for sexual arousal,&amp;quot; says David Rowland, Ph.D., psychology professor at Valparaiso University, in Indiana. And creating a combo platter that treats several senses at the same time is the key to a beyond-divine buildup, especially for men. Just ask Josh, 25. &amp;quot;The girl I&amp;#039;m dating introduced me to aromatic flavored massage oil. We rub it on, then lick it off each other. It smells amazing, but my favorite part is seeing her all slicked up and shiny.&amp;quot; Other ways to make foreplay a full-body experience: Leave the lights on and listen to an extra-sexy CD, take a shower together by the light of scented candles or drizzle each other with champagne and lick it off as it fizzes on your skin.   In bed, guys are often so focused on pleasing their partners that they don&amp;#039;t get to bask in being a sex object. By taking the reins, &amp;quot;not only does it show him that you&amp;#039;re as into the action as he is, but it also feels great to him to have somebody concentrating on his pleasure,&amp;quot; says Cadell. You know the feeling, right? Chris, 30, is thrilled to report that his girlfriend has found a way to take control in a titillating way. &amp;quot;She&amp;#039;ll physically move me into a different position -- like if she&amp;#039;s lying beside me while we&amp;#039;re kissing, she&amp;#039;ll grab my shoulders and roll me on top of her, and I&amp;#039;m more than happy to follow her lead,&amp;quot; he says. So take a cue from that ballsy babe and call some shots in the sack. For instance, if he makes a move to head down below, pull him back up and instead give him the oral affection he deserves.   Guys tend to be tougher than us, so feel free to manhandle. &amp;quot;Men get turned on when women seem animalistic -- they take it as a sign of lust,&amp;quot; says Felice Dunas, Ph.D., author of Passion Play. So pinch his nipples (an often-overlooked nerve center), scratch your nails down his back or massage his chest. &amp;quot;Apply deep pressure with your fingers and the heels of your palms,&amp;quot; suggests Morrissey. &amp;quot;Then, using a kneading motion, slowly work your way down to his waist and back.&amp;quot; David, 27, can testify to what a turn-on it is when you don&amp;#039;t handle him with care. &amp;quot;Most girls stroke my face or chest when I&amp;#039;m on top and we&amp;#039;re about to have sex,&amp;quot; he says. &amp;quot;But my current girlfriend kneads the sides of my butt, digs her fingers into my chest or grips the sides of my waist. I love that she knows I&amp;#039;m strong enough to take it.&amp;quot;   Once you&amp;#039;ve gotten him to a combustible point, he&amp;#039;ll be begging to get to the main event. Ignore him. It&amp;#039;s a guaranteed way to drive him out of his head with horniness ... and amplify his orgasm later. &amp;quot;The more someone anticipates sex, the more aroused they get, and therefore, the intensity of their sexual experience increases,&amp;quot; explains Rowland. Dave, 33, agrees. &amp;quot;Before sex, my girlfriend sometimes climbs on top and rocks her hips as if we were doing it but without penetration. No matter how much I beg to enter her, she makes me wait. When we finally do start having sex, it feels like a triumph!&amp;quot; To send your guy into a similar frenzy, act out the suggestion of his favorite sex acts. For example, &amp;quot;almost oral sex,&amp;quot; which turns on Edward, 25, like a megawatt lightbulb. &amp;quot;Sometimes my girlfriend heads south, gets real close and then passes by with just a hot breath. By the time she finally does put her mouth on me, it feels so good that I almost cry with relief.&amp;quot; You could also try the same move with sex -- teasing him for just a few moments with the old in-and-out. &amp;quot;While you&amp;#039;re on top, let him enter you only halfway, alternating shallow and deep thrusts in a way he can&amp;#039;t predict,&amp;quot; suggests Berman. After this cruel-to-be-kind treatment, we promise when you return to foreplay with less body contact, he&amp;#039;ll be begging for mercy. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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