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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: My ex broke up with me a few months back. However, he&amp;#x27;s acting like I broke up with him and hurt his feelings. Can you shed some light on this for me? Smart man. He pulled a classic chick move. I can&amp;#x27;t tell you how many times I&amp;#x27;ve witnessed a woman basically pull the plug on a relationship via an ultimatum or just a steadfast declaration of being done&amp;amp;mdash;usually a bluff, mind you&amp;amp;mdash;then decide that even though she actually is the one who ended the relationship, the man&amp;#x27;s lack of determination to fix or address their problems was the reason the relationship died. Basically, she breaks up with him, but because he didn&amp;#x27;t do anything to stop her, (to women) technically, he is the one who ended the relationship and therefore she is the one entitled to be hurt and morose. It&amp;#x27;s happened to me. At least twice. I find it humorous. So he&amp;#x27;s effectively laying the guilt trip on you. When he broke up with you, he expected you to stop him or do something to make him think you still wanted to be there. It&amp;#x27;s the ultimate passive-aggressive a$$hole move...the bluff. When the bluff doens&amp;#x27;t work, they get in their feelings. If anything, I&amp;#x27;d just remind him that, &amp;quot;Hey buddy, you pulled the trigger, not me. Get over yourself.&amp;quot; But the truth is, you probably just didn&amp;#x27;t break up with him so as not to be the bad guy, so he&amp;#x27;s probably right to feel how he does. You only win by technicality when the truth is, he just did the heavy lifting for you. The acceptance of the breakup is usually just as bad to the other party as their suggestion of it. That gives them the leeway to flip it around on you. In their minds, they didn&amp;#x27;t break up, they put it out there as a possibility and you accepted. --Written by Panama Jackson for guyspeak.com How&amp;#x27;s that for reverse psychology, ladies? Have you ever pulled this move on an ex, or has anyone ever done this to you? More from guyspeak.com: * My boyfriend of three years and I broke up. Now he wants to get back together. What should I do? * I broke up with my boyfriend to prove a point, but now I want him back. Help! * How do you break up with someone without looking like the bad guy? * Friend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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