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" I cry after having sex with my husband. It may have something to do with being date raped when I was 15. I love my husband and want to be able to pleasure him, but I don&amp;#039;t know how to overcome the crying. What should I do? You need to address the date rape, a traumatic event for you (or anybody). The reason you cry is because you are reliving the date rape every time you have sex with your husband. To get over it, you need to discuss this traumatic event with a professional. Although I usually recommend discussing all sexual topics that bother you with your husband, I wouldn&amp;#039;t discuss this one with him. He didn&amp;#039;t have anything to do with it, doesn&amp;#039;t need to know all the details, and shouldn&amp;#039;t get involved because you don&amp;#039;t need to traumatize him and make him feel awkward when he touches you. This is something you should work on with someone who deals with these issues, someone with whom you can discuss it in detail and work out your feelings. Victims often feel anger, shame, and even guilt. You will feel better when you deal with those difficult emotions and move on. The good news is that this issue is easily solvable if you confront it. A few sessions with a psychotherapist or, even better, a sex therapist who specializes in sexual issues, will help you &amp;quot;de-program&amp;quot; the anxiety and forget about it once and for all. You may even want to talk with a female therapist. It will be a great relief to replace your negative associations with sex with positive ones. For a list of sex therapists in your area, check out aasect.org. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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