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" Whether it&amp;#039;s chance, timing, an exact alignment of stars \u2014 hell, who cares what it is! \u2014 you&amp;#039;ve found yourself on the receiving end of a man monsoon. From the Luke Wilson look-alike at last night&amp;#039;s bash to your hottie neighbor who inspires naughty thoughts to the hunky trainer at the gym, guys are coming out of the woodwork to ask you out. For some reason, you can&amp;#039;t seem to find it in your heart to turn any of them down. And why should you? Dating a slew of studs simultaneously does wonders for your ego, your social life and (duh!) your chances of meeting Mr. Right. &amp;quot;The more men you date, the better your odds of finding your perfect match,&amp;quot; confirms Jodie Gould, coauthor of Date Like a Man. The ideal setup, she says, is to have &amp;quot;a pair and a spare,&amp;quot; meaning you should keep at least three Romeos in rotation at once. You&amp;#039;ll never get hung up on whether any one man will call, and guys you go out with will pick up on that decidedly undesperate vibe and clamor for you even more. Of course, juggling multiple men takes some skill. Read on for all the instruction you&amp;#039;ll need to avoid potential pitfalls and maximize your man hot streak.  Juggling Rule 1: Cram Your Calendar You may be tempted to play it safe and spread out your dates so that you can get to know each of your suitors one by one. But being so politely planned out \u2014 limiting yourself to one guy per weekend or even per day \u2014 could cause you to lose momentum. So go ahead and pack your PDA with appointments as tightly as you can swing it. You&amp;#039;ll get a rush from the excitement and gain a sexy, dating-queen confidence at the same time. &amp;quot;There are plenty of benefits to having lots of dates, not the least of which is that you&amp;#039;ll project a self-assured, carefree attitude when meeting new people, men in particular,&amp;quot; says Gould. When Geena,* 24, was on a romantic roll, she filled her schedule with as many back-to-back dates as possible. &amp;quot;One day, I had lunch with a hot coworker and went dirty dancing that same night with a guy I&amp;#039;d met at my salsa class. The next evening, I invited a group of friends out for drinks, including a guy I wanted to get to know better, and I flirted like mad with him and the babe bartender,&amp;quot; she admits. &amp;quot;I felt so full of sexy energy, and I think it showed: The boys couldn&amp;#039;t get enough of me. It was like being in love, but I was in love with life \u2014 not with any one guy.&amp;quot; Really want to flex your multimanhandling muscle? Don&amp;#039;t just double book for the same day; do it for the same event. For example, if you&amp;#039;re going to get a gang together to tailgate at this weekend&amp;#039;s football game, ask both guys you&amp;#039;re drooling over to come. Or throw a dinner party and include two of your pursuers on the guest list. You&amp;#039;ll get to play flirty hostess, and no doubt, your suitors will detect a hint of mystery about you. They&amp;#039;ll wonder, Is she feeling that guy more than me? Or is he just her friend? Guys come alive in the face of competition. Your job? To eat it up.   *Names have been changed  Juggling Rule 2: Be Discreet...but Honest  You may have bolted out of Rob&amp;#039;s bed in order to meet Jason for brunch and then run home just in time to go to a movie with Dave...but they don&amp;#039;t need to know that! &amp;quot;Resist volunteering details about who you&amp;#039;re dating,&amp;quot; advises Josey Vogels, author of Dating: A Survival Guide from the Frontlines. &amp;quot;You&amp;#039;ll only make the guy jealous and yourself feel awkward.&amp;quot; As long as you don&amp;#039;t agree to exclusivity or say you&amp;#039;re not seeing anyone else, what you do with your time is your business. Of course, it&amp;#039;s tough to dodge the subject when a guy asks you outright if you&amp;#039;re dating anyone else. Vogels suggests being honest but keeping it vague. Say something short and simple, like &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t want anything exclusive right now.&amp;quot; End of story. Amy, 26, found that giving a truthful, sly reply actually made her more alluring. &amp;quot;One night, Jeremy asked me point-blank if I was dating other guys. I didn&amp;#039;t hesitate, saying, &amp;#039;I guess I&amp;#039;m not in a monogamy state of mind right now.&amp;#039; He didn&amp;#039;t push it any further,&amp;quot; she says. &amp;quot;Then, oddly, he started calling more and asking me out more often \u2014 as if he were trying to say, &amp;#039;Pick me! Pick me!&amp;#039;&amp;quot; But beware: Not every guy will take the news so well. He may press you for particulars on the competition (what they do for a living, how much they can bench-press). If he does, make it clear, says Vogels, that you aren&amp;#039;t going to spill. If he can&amp;#039;t accept that, then you should say sayonara. &amp;quot;The best thing about juggling is that you get to call the shots,&amp;quot; says Vogels. &amp;quot;If you lose a few while they&amp;#039;re in the air, well, that&amp;#039;s part of the game.&amp;quot;  Juggling Rule 3: Curb Your Jealousy If you haven&amp;#039;t already thought of it, let us remind you: The nonexclusivity clause works both ways. In other words, if you&amp;#039;ve made it clear to a guy in your life that you&amp;#039;re not willing to settle down, chances are, he isn&amp;#039;t either. &amp;quot;Anytime you date without a commitment, you risk being wounded,&amp;quot; warns Vogels. What to do if you find yourself suddenly realizing that you aren&amp;#039;t the only chica on a guy&amp;#039;s calendar? Suck it up. You can&amp;#039;t change the situation (unless you want to give up your own roaming privileges), so make the best of it. &amp;quot;The more nonchalant you act about a guy&amp;#039;s other dates, the more secure and confident you&amp;#039;ll feel about yourself, which in turn makes you more attractive to men,&amp;quot; says Vogels. Jasmine, 31, found that keeping her cool \u2014 and her sense of humor \u2014 allowed her to get through an awkward other-woman moment. &amp;quot;I was at a bar with my date when a gorgeous blonde walked up to him and kissed him smack on the lips,&amp;quot; she says. &amp;quot;My stomach dropped. When my date tried to introduce me, she looked me up and down and refused to shake my hand. After my initial shock, I had to giggle \u2014 this woman was making an ass of herself, while I was totally chill. My date blew her off and apologized profusely to me.&amp;quot;  Juggling Rule 4: Be a &amp;quot;Big O&amp;quot; Opportunist When it comes to sex, you know the drill \u2014 get tested, get birth control, get condoms. Once that&amp;#039;s taken care of, use your discretion about who to slip into the sack with. If you want to have more than one mattress mate, go for it. &amp;quot;Part of the fun of dating several men is the variety of booty,&amp;quot; says Vogels. Meaning, you get to sample more than one sexual style at once. If guilt dares to permeate your brain, consider this: Men do it all the time without shame or fear of judgment. Most important, do what you&amp;#039;re comfortable with. Not every woman can feel good getting carnally connected with more than one man. &amp;quot;For a lot of women, it&amp;#039;s tough to separate the emotional from the physical,&amp;quot; says Vogels. Ask yourself if having sex with two guys is going to make you feel doubly vulnerable or doubly sexy. Then make your decision accordingly. Jaime, 22, gauged her sex-readiness by going with her gut. &amp;quot;I was really horny for this guy Rafe, with whom I&amp;#039;d been on three dates. I was already sleeping with John, whom I&amp;#039;d been dating on and off for a year, but I figured that as long as I had safe sex, I was free to go for it. Plus, I didn&amp;#039;t have an emotional attachment to Rafe, so bedding him wasn&amp;#039;t such a risk. It was more like a wild adventure.&amp;quot;  Juggling Rule 5: Slip Out with Style  Odds are good that if you&amp;#039;ve followed all of the above man-managing mandates, at some point you&amp;#039;re going to stumble upon someone worth keeping. That also means informing the rest of your suitors that they&amp;#039;re out of the running. So how do you break things off gracefully without coming off as a coldhearted bitch? Be quick and honest, suggests Steven Carter, author of What Smart Women Know. &amp;quot;Everyone&amp;#039;s sick of the &amp;#039;You&amp;#039;re a really great guy and I know there&amp;#039;s someone perfect out there for you&amp;#039; speech. Just say, &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;ve really enjoyed this, but I&amp;#039;ve decided to date someone else exclusively.&amp;#039; It might sting a little, but most men will appreciate the straightforward approach.&amp;quot; Emma, 26, narrowed her pool of paramours from three to one with a couple of carefully calculated phone calls. &amp;quot;I reminded myself that none of these guys was my boyfriend, so I didn&amp;#039;t owe them apologies. I rang up each of them and blurted out the truth one by one \u2014 that I&amp;#039;d met someone I wanted to be with and I wasn&amp;#039;t available to go out anymore. They all handled it pretty well \u2014 and I loved how in control it made me feel.&amp;quot; "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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