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This is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel
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4.26  ·  Rating details ·  71,224 ratings  ·  8,117 reviews
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This is how a family keeps a secret…and how that secret ends up keeping them.
This is how a family lives happily ever after…until happily ever after becomes complicated.
This is how children change…and then change the world.
This is Claude. He’s five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and love Alternate cover edition of ASIN B01HW6Z3FG
This is how a family keeps a secret…and how that secret ends up keeping them.
This is how a family lives happily ever after…until happily ever after becomes complicated.
This is how children change…and then change the world.
This is Claude. He’s five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.
When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl.
Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They’re just not sure they’re ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude’s secret. Until one day it explodes.
This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it’s about the ways this is how it always is: Change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don’t get to keep them forever. ...more
Kindle Edition, 336 pages
Published January 24th 2017 by Flatiron Books (first published January 4th 2017)
This Is How It Always Is
Goodreads Choice Award Nominee for Fiction (2017)
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What is with this author and long-winded sentences? Is it just me? How can people put up with sentences like this? "Later, when it turned out Penn and Rosie were going to have to catalog for doctors in a focused, specifics-filled way a life they were living by more of a skin-of-their-teeth/seat-of-their-pants/bundle-of-their-nerves approach, they were glad for the formative moments that coincided with birthdays..."
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Rhonda Banford I think it was written exactly as Rosie and Penn thought things in their heads. They are complex characters with non-linear ways of thinking--other…moreI think it was written exactly as Rosie and Penn thought things in their heads. They are complex characters with non-linear ways of thinking--other related thoughts intruding upon their initial thoughts and needing to be expressed, and multi-descriptors to flesh out the nuances of their thinking. Notice that the children's language is much simpler, as children's language is apt to be. I loved the long, involved sentences--even if I had to go back and re-read them a time or two.(less)
Every so often Penn refers to the DN, but I must have missed what this acronym stands for?
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Jacqui Anne The Damn Novel, I listened to the audio book and it seemed easier to catch in this format
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Aug 11, 2018 Marietjie Steyn rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Hierdie boek is een van daardie boeke wat jou hart breek, maar jou ook met soveel hoop laat.
Hier word die verhaal van 'n transgender seun/dogter vertel, basies oor hoe hierdie seun/dogter vanaf geboorte tot 10 jaar oud 'n klomp lewenslesse leer en saam met ouers en vier broers probeer oorleef. Die dag tot dag bestaan van hierdie gesin is wonderlik om te lees, lag met 'n traan in die oog.
Die ma is 'n mediese dokter en die pa 'n skrywer in wording. Hy vertel elke aand vir s Hierdie boek is een van daardie boeke wat jou hart breek, maar jou ook met soveel hoop laat.
Hier word die verhaal van 'n transgender seun/dogter vertel, basies oor hoe hierdie seun/dogter vanaf geboorte tot 10 jaar oud 'n klomp lewenslesse leer en saam met ouers en vier broers probeer oorleef. Die dag tot dag bestaan van hierdie gesin is wonderlik om te lees, lag met 'n traan in die oog.
Die ma is 'n mediese dokter en die pa 'n skrywer in wording. Hy vertel elke aand vir sy vier seuns en sy een seun/dogter 'n sprokie en hierdie sprokie is so wonderlik dat as dit as 'n boek alleen gepubliseer sou word, sal ek dit beslis verslint! Die hele boek is basies 'n metafoor van hierdie sprokie, of andersom: Die sprokie is 'n metafoor van die hele boek? Die "parenting" styl van hierdie ouers is fenominaal, maar steeds nie sonder foute nie, net ons eie "parenting" pogings.
Ek was so bang dat hierdie weer 'n gay boek gaan wees, hoe 'n seun moet stry teen sy gay gevoelens en dan heel waarskynlik daarmee vrede maak, maar dit was nie so nie. Die skrywer self is die ma van so 'n transgender kind en ek was verstom oor wat ek alles geleer het.
Ek beveel die boek ten sterkste aan. Dit is nie net 'n storie nie, dit is 'n reis - 'n hartseer en blymoedige reis, waar mens as 'n sterkter mens anderkant uitkom. Natuurlik in pragtige taal en wonderlike "prose". ...more
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Laurie Frankel is the New York Times Bestselling author of three novels, THIS IS HOW IT ALWAYS IS, GOODBYE FOR NOW, and THE ATLAS OF LOVE. She lives with her family on a very steep hill in Seattle, but she's an east coaster at heart. She is also a baseball fan, a soup maker, a theater lover, a yoga practicer, a comma expert, and a huge reader. Welcome!!
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“You can’t tell people what to be, I’m afraid,” said Rosie. “You can only love and support who they already are.” — 51 likes
“This is how it always is. You have to make these huge decision on behalf of your kid, this tiny human whose fate and future is entirely in your hands. Who trusts you to know what's good and right and then to be able to make that happen. You never have enough information. You don't get to see the future. And if you screw up - if with your incomplete contradictory information you make the wrong call - nothing less than your child's entire future and happiness is at stake. It's impossible. It's heartbreaking. It's maddening. But there's no alternative."
"Sure there is," she said.
"Birth control.” — 33 likes
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