I have kids. My husband abandoned us. I am a single mother. I live in Oklahoma. I live in a rural area. I don't like crowds.
My favorite food is spaghetti and meatballs. I have 2 moms. My biological mother struggled financially. I have a rocky relationship with my boyfriend. I live in Florida. I don't like crowded cities.
I just heard that my estranged husband want to meet with me. Uh oh. When was the last time that you saw him? It was several years ago, back when my oldest was still a toddler. I'm not sure I want to see him after four years, and I definitely don't want him in my kid's lives. All I want now is a divorce. What's the hold up on the divorce? I'll bet your racking up quite the legal bills. No, it's not that. He just up and left one day I never saw him again. It's kind of hard to get a divorce when the other person isn't around, so I haven't tried. If he wants to meet for a divorce I'd be fine, but I'm worried he wants to reconnect. That sounds like such a tough situation. Does he ever have any contact with your children? He was around for the older one's first three years, and left a few months after my daughter was born, so the kids don't really remember him. So no, he really hasn't had contact with them. I'm also still close with his parents, who helped support me, and he hasn't been in contact with them either, it's so strange. He basically just disappeared. I can't believe that someone would just up and leave their children like that. You're certainly better off without him. Do you ever go on dates? Not really. I feel uncomfortable going on dates while still legally married, even if the man I married disappeared. I have learned that I actually like women, not men, and there is a woman at work I quite like, but I just don't feel like it's right to pursue anything until the divorce. As you know, I had two moms. I think the most important thing is that anyone you seriously date loves and respects your kids. That's really what matters the most. Yeah I knew you'd be understanding, which was why I felt comfortable coming out to you. Do you think I'm doing the right thing though, waiting for a divorce? I know I want to date but I also feel shame around it. I don't think there is a universal right or wrong decision here. You just have to do what feels right to you. But my opinion is that you should go out and get you some!