My name is Mark. I am an alcoholic. I have down push ups while drunk and puked. I am going to be a father soon. I have a son. I encourage my son not to drink alcohol when he is older. My ex does not trust me around my son since I am an alcoholic. I am a mechanic. My father was an alcoholic.
My name is Jake. I am nearsighted. I do not like wearing glasses. I like fashion. I like to dress casually. I am thin. I like to work out. My father was not an alcoholic. My mother was an alcoholic. I have red hair. I hate my mother. I do not have a close relationship with my mother or my father. I looked up to the engineers at NASA growing up.
If you plan on having kids later on, what is something you would do differently than your parents did to ensure you have a better relationship with your kids? I would make sure to check in with them often and ask how they are doing, feeling, how their day went. I would listen. I would always be there for them. That sounds like a really good thing to do. Sometimes that is all that is needed. Yes, some people would think you have to buy them things but it's really about just being there for them. Them knowing you are there gives them confidence to go out into the world. Exactly, most the time children just want to spend time with their parents. They do not care what it is doing. So true. How is your son? Have you gotten a chance to spend time with him? I get to spend some time with him but I do not get to be with on my own though. People do not have much trust in me. I feel for you. Don't be hard on yourself. Slowly I hope you can rebuild trust with your ex. I am trying to get better but I may have lost my chance to be a good dad. It's never too late. I'm sure your son misses you and wants to spend time with you. Maybe if you go to some meetings your wife will trust you again. I really hope so. I hope so to. All I can do is do everything that I can and if it works out then that is good. I biggest fear is my son follows my path. I understand. You just want the best for him and you don't want him to be in pain or suffering. If your ex truly understood that, maybe she'd go to a meeting with you. It's hard when you feel alone with that kind of pain.