question: am I abused? it is not like most abused wife knew their husbands did to(beat-up) them. I got nightmares about needle shot on my arms and legs, some one twisted my right feet, hit forehead 3 times,...all happened after I slept without knowing. over 17 years can t catch anyone did to me with security systems bought by my husband. in the meanwhile frequently things disappeared/stolen, some of them would return... we did visit family doctor when our marriage worse and worse but she didn t believe anything I said such as showing knife-cut my finger and wanted me take depression-related medicine and to visit mental doctor (both I refused)... we invited my 2nd brother lives with us (over a year) but making worse that he believed I should see mental doctor 9himself didn t have job over 15 years). I didn t lose my confidence in myself and knew bad things won t stop. I thought there is 3rd person involved to abuse me because something disappeared I m pretty sure is not my husband did(he may know/agree but not all of them). in the beginning I thought my husband seemed was abused and wanted me to go thru what he suffered.. all over my body was hurt except my left front ribs/head/foot not suffer heavy painful yet. the 1st time I felt right arm was needle shot we went to emergence room the doctor can t tell but a warning... becareful in private short seconds with me. am I in danger?