question: my son, 25 years old has big big outbursts of anger,throwing things, blaming every one on his bad things in life, very poor cleaniness, very low enery, no job, now lives with grandparents. he makes his sister feel sooo bad, he blames her for most things. early on there were very close. she has a job, and doing well. I had his birdthday last nite with cake and pizza, thought had a good time but he thought it wasnt enough. He is middle child older brother 30 and sister 21. I have been divorced from their father for about 19 years. he was drug and achol aburser.