question: I m very depressed. I ve been fixated and obsessed with the same woman for almost 30 years. I separated from my wife a year ago. This woman contacted me a few weeks ago. I thought she might be single. We talked today and she is still married. I professed my obsession and love for her. I know this is going no where, but I can t help but feel like there is no one else for me and that I will be alone for the rest of my life. How do I put her behind me.