question: My boyfriends 18 yr old son seems to have many issues that his father doesn't know how to handle. He is totally disrespectful of his dad's wishes and feels that he should be able to live his life his own way with no rules. He smokes pot in his room constantly even though his dad had asked him many times not to. He has his girlfriend sleep over pretty much every day of the week when his dad told him it was only allowed on weekends. There are times when he just totally loses it and screams and swears at his father and blames him for not disciplining him. Then will break down after awhile and start crying and saying that he is just a screw up and nobody loves him. He has at times mentioned suicide and has tried choking himself. I have seen and heard a lot of things in this household in the past 6 months and it infuriates me to witness it. My boyfriend has tried so many times to get through to his son but it just goes in one ear and out the other. He has no respect or regard for anyone but himself and his world seems to revolve around his girlfriend. They spend 80% of their time in his room playing video games and eating everything they can get their hands on. They cook in the middle of the night and then forget to shut off the stove. It has been told to him that this could cause a fire and he just doesn't seem to understand the importance of anything. They constantly hoard dirty dishes and garbage in the bedroom and then when they do decide to bring it out they just leave the mess for us to clean up. My boyfriend has tried taking him to a doctor but the end result was nothing. I know this seems like a lot but I'm hoping you might have some answers that might help. Thank you.