I have two kids and I don't know how to get them to obey me.
That doesn't make you a "bad parent". Parenting skills can be different from person to person.
Yeah, I have tried everything.  I tried timeouts but maybe I did it wrong.
Have you considered PMT or Parent Management Training? It can help teach positive reinforcement methods for improving common behavior issues.
I have never even heard of PMT.  Where can I take Parent Management Training courses?
There are several institutions that offer the course. I am sure you could find a local resource by searching online.
I will have to check them out.  What do you learn at PMT classes?
You can learn about positive reinforcement methods, how to change your own parenting behaviors, and how to handle tantrums. Among other things.
Sounds like the things I see on the show Supernanny.
parents alternative ways to discipline their children and regain order in their households. Frost is a proponent of the "naughty chair" theory of discipline and is strictly opposed to smacking.
In the United States, it aired on ABC, Style Network and Up TV. The series ended in the United Kingdom on 8 October 2008 and ended on 18 March 2011 in the US. A spin-off of the show was produced and was titled "America's Supernanny".
On March 27, 2019, it was announced
he could become a success story along the lines of Chris Doleman, another Peters conversion. Although privately unhappy he accepted the position, and tried to make the best of it, claiming "Teams won't take me lightly. I can tell you that...I can play any position on this football team, except maybe quarterback. When this season is over, I could be in the Pro Bowl. You don't know how hungry I am. It doesn't matter what position I'm playing. What matters is me