text: Restraining orders may not get HIM to mind, but, the law will have authority to lock him away.  Also, if he commits a crime against you, then the penalty will be greater because of the restraining order was violated.\n\nA friend of mine was murdered by her hubby.  He had a restraining order, but violated it many times.  Finally, when it came to sentencing him for murdering her, the judge added 4 extra years to his sentence.\n\nYou may need to video tape his behavior, get statements from friends and family of his behavior, or any other means to document the character of this guy.  He may back off after a while, but in the meantime, you need to be aggressive back.  Carry mace or pepper spray - talk to the police about any self defence courses they have that you can take.  Go to the gym and get strong.  Take dance classes to be light on your feet.  \n\nDon't let him control you thru intimidation or his mere presence.  You need to take your life into your hands and be as strong as you can be - both physically and emotionally.  \n\nI've always thought that if someone was stalking me, I would reverse it and begin stalking him, frightening him to show him how it felt and to back off.  I can't hide in a corner and just wait for the attack.  I can't live my life in a shell.  Fight for your independence from him and make it clear to him that he's messing with the WRONG LADY, and you're not going to let him get away with ANYTHING.