text: My wife and I have been swinging for several years.  We've both had good sex with others and sex between us is great, too.\n\nAnyone who thinks they are the best they're partner has ever been with is fooling themselves.  Anyone who has been with more than two partners has had great sex with other people, too.  Some people mesh well and others don't.  Someone who rocks your world may do nothing for someone else.  The other wife may think your hubby is pretty dang good, too.  ;-)\n\nI know that there have been guys that have done certain things better than I, and I know that I do certain things better than them.  Also, there have been women that do certain things better than my wife.  The key here is that we can talk openly between us (my wife and I) that when this happens we can say something like "I really liked this thing thing so-and-so did and here is how he/she did it."  By doing this I have all the tools in my tool box PLUS his, now.  :-D  \n\nYou don't have to tell your hubby or the other folks that this guys is that good for you.  All you have to do is tell your hubby "Hey, Bill did this thing I really liked, try doing it like this."  Let him know he is getting it right.\n\nYou don't even have to tell him Bill did it better (if you think this would upset your hubby), but maybe take what Bill did and teach your hubby how to do it.  Kind of "A little over here."  "Move your tongue like this", etc.\n\nGood lovers are made, not born.\n\nDon't feel guilty for enjoying it.  That's the idea of swinging.  To enjoy it.  Besides, someone may come along that will rock your husband's world and he can return you the favor by teaching you what the other woman did that he liked so much.