text: I think you need to be there for him now. He wouldn't be smoking pot behind you back if you would let him be. If it causes no harm to you nor the family, what's the big deal. He would feel free to do it at his own house and believe me if you would toke up with him, you would be both reallyyyyyyyyyy happy. Unless he uses other stuff, honey, you don't have to worry the least he would get is aggressive on the contrary reallyyyy pasiveeeeeeee! Not that I'm a user, I have friends that do and are married couples and are very happy. Unless he goes further than doing pot, I think it's really not a big issue. He lies because he does not have an alternative. If he tells you the truth, you'll be upset, if he does'nt the same, so I think you should talk. About the "baby", make sure it's not your imagination that your husband & the baby look shockingly similar but in any event, go for the DNA test, it's the only way you will ever know and personally, I rather have him do it than live with the doubt. GOOD LUCK