text: STOP!\n\nThis can only lead to disaster unless you guys have thought it out together.\n\nBefore introducing a third into a relationship you need a firm, agreed upon set of rules to manage behaviors, and to set expectations.\n\nIf I were you I would have a conversation with my lover and discuss whet she wants from this relationship, how she expects you to participate, and where it will go.\n\nSome questions to ask right up front in my mind are:\n1. Is this a temporary fling or are we developing a polyamory relationship?\n2. Is the expectation that you and the other female play together - and if so, how? Does it include your current lover?\n\n\nYou need to read the articles on creating rules located at:\nhttp://www.swinglesonline.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=1