text: That's really harsh on his part; you'd think he would at least be discreet about it since you aren't divorced, yet.\n\nI am in your shoes, with one difference...my soon-to-be ex is telling everyone that I am sleeping with "every guy in town" and chasing off any potential relationship I may have (but don't have time for) while he is secretly dating multiple women.  And, right now I have 100% custody of our children, am receiving no child support, and he cant even see the kids due to a restraining order.\n\nOne part of me is upset (and a little jealous) that he is living the life of a bachelor, while I have all the responsibility - especially because HE is the one who destroyed our marriage (domestic violence)..........\n\nHowever - and I hope you feel this way too - a much larger part of me feels such pride that I am doing it all on my own; that I get the bath times with my children, and I get to read them books everyday; that I am corresponding with their teachers and helping with homework; that I get to be the one to kiss their boo-boos, and celebrate their milestones (like my littlest learning how to ride a bike without training wheels!), pack their lunches, and sing and dance around the house with them...\n\nAnd I have a full-time job with a lot of responsibility.\n\nI know what he's missing out on, and truth be told, I feel sorry for him.\n\nGood luck to you!  Hang in there, I wish you the best!