text: Last question first: and how can one know whether they r in true love \n\nBeing "in love" is like an orgasm--when it happens you'll know.  If you're not sure it's probably some similar features but not the real thing.  If by "true love" you mean the love that's deeper than an exciting infatuation, then you can tell that by the feelings that come in as the excitement ebbs.  If the excitement dies down and you feel empty, used, bored, disinterested, then "true love" isn't on the way and you can't force it.  If comfort and satisfaction fill in as excitement ebbs, then you've got a keeper.  That kind of true love is so good for me I don't miss the excitement that much (I've been married forever).  It sounds weird, but it really does feel deep, like a river, while infatuation feels like a rushing mountain stream.  If you're willing to give up the pleasures of the stream for the pleasures of the river, I'd say that's true love.  It might sound like a bad trade-off, but with the right person it feels like a natural change, not a loss.  I know I thank my lucky stars every day for getting to the point we're at now.\n\n\n>how to know whether someone loves u or not?\n\nIf the other person is hiding it and doing a good job, you may never know.  If the other person is faking it I don't think they could pull it off for long unless they're a psychopath or something, in which case there would be other symptoms like excessive controlling and maybe abuse.  Between total faking and total compatibility there's lots of room for innocent ignorance and ineptitude.  If I had to pick one acid test I guess it would be how the other person handles situations where not everybody's needs get met.  For a love relationship to work, both people have to graciously put themselves second a reasonable percentage of the time.  That doesn't mean being a doormat, but it does mean thinking beyond themselves.  Someone who can't do that, or won't learn how, isn't capable of loving someone, even if they have strong feelings that they call "love".