text: Here is the BIGGEST problem with this situation:  You wrote::\n\n"I'm very bitter supporting him all these years living with all his rules due to the OCD.And he still won't marry me."\n\nTHAT MY CHILD IS BEING A HYPOCRIT.  You are angry and resentful and WANT TO GET MARRIED?  What is wrong with you and millions of others???  Is marrying him going to magically fix this?  Hell no!  I would say go to counseling alone and let your therapist talk some sense into you.  You are failing to see that you can't trap people into making you feel better about something.  Make a choice about what you want "FOR THE RIGHT REASONS" not because of your insecurities.   This is absurd and it's what's hugely wrong with the world.  People get married to FIX things and MARRIAGE DOES NOT FIX ANYTHING.  IT PERPETUATES AN ALREADY EXISTING PROBLEM.