text: Well it depends on the circumstance.I have a 14 year old,10 nearly 11 year old,and a 3 year old.When my daughters were younger,I would give them time out,or take away their favourite toy for a day or 2,and explain to them why I have done this. this is what I do with my son now too.Now that the girls are getting older,again depending on what they have done,I either,take away their phone privileges,computer privileges, t.v privileges,take their stereo out of their rooms,or if my eldest is late without a good explanation,I don't allow her to go to whatever her next outing is,whether it's a party,if if she had planned to stay at a friends house on the weekend.Thank god I haven't had to do these  very often,because I think from a very early age they have learn that there are always going to be consequences for their actions,whether the consequences are bad or good.I have never raised a hand to my children,not because I don't believe in it,I have never had a need to.I hope I was of some help.take care.