text: This is a hard situation on all accounts, and I know how you feel, because I was the one that initiated the divorce.\nYou are feeling like a failure that you gave up because you took the initiative in the breakup.\nYou feel stupid because you did not want to face the cause of the breakup until it happened, and you feel you have lost time.\nYou feel the hurt, because of the emotional investment that has been lost.\n\nBut, know this.  You know it was a horrible situation.  If there was ever a doubt in your mind regarding anything, you did the brave thing and took the initiative.  The pain is bad, yes, but remember, every rose has thorn, every joy of birth has it's pain of labor, every day off earned at work is sweat on your brown.\n\nThis, too, shall pass, but in the meantime, play the radio, crank it loud, and rent the goofiest guy-bashing movie you can find.\n\nGood luck!