text: Whew, tangled web...first, he is going through a separation with his wife and if you care about him at all, you will be his friend and tell him you are there for him in that capacity but don't want to complicate his ability to sort through by you getting involved on top of it.  You are growing more fond as you daydream about him, because that is always the case, "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and that is true, we fantasize about the coulda, woulda, shoulda's in our lives. The best thing you can do is keep going in your world and though you keep a special place in your heart for him, wish him and his family the very best.  If when he works through everything and time goes by, it all works between the two of you, that will be glorious and at least you will know you weren't the reason for his marriage's failure.  Nothing like coming into a relationship on an equal footing for all the right reasons.  Good luck.