text: have you  ever heard the expresion"You have to be a friend to have a friend". Women can tell when a guy is seeking to find someone. I know that is hard to find someone in this day and time. Try to find someone that interest you. Don't always base your preference on looks. Start out by being friends.Spend time together with no pressure to date.That is a good way to get to know someone. No sexual contact or pressure.Sex always changes your relationship. If you can be friends then you have found someone to try and bring your relationship up one level with them.Do you know a girl that has the same interest in sports or art or what ever you like. And try to be honest in a relationship.Always speak your mind with love not sarcasm. I my self always found love when I wasn't looking for it!