text: I do not know either of you personally, so please don't take this personally.  I speak to you as I would a family member and it is only my opinion.\n\nWhat you are describing sounds like a typical green card marriage.  It has all the symptoms, 10-15 year age difference between the parties, usually the party from another country wants to get married soon as possible.  There is also a requirement that in order to get your green card that the person brings back their bride or groom to their own countries embassy, therefore the "Christmas family trip. \n\nWhat is particularly ugly about these situations is that many times the parents of the foreigner are complicit in the marriage scam and encourage their children to marry Americans so they can get the green card and find jobs.\n\nBut of course this is probably not your scenario.  I'm sure the person your marrying already has their green card.  If they don't, I would tell you if you were my family member to tell him, you love him but not interested in getting married any time soon.  If he really loves you and it's not green card game he will stick.\n\nIf it is green card game, he will do everything in his power to get you to marry him and make it your responsibility to get his green card.  It ain't.  They will eventually turn abusive and leave.\n\nthink...you have a good brain.