text: huh? assertive women have been around forever. we just have more of them now. i think that's a good thing. if you're also tactful then that just means you're polite and a nice person as well. who doesn't like a nice person? the real problem isn't that you had to ask, "may i go infront of you. i have only one item." it was that they didn't ask you to. the problem wasn't that you said i won't be your 24/7 driver. it was that he wasn't responsible enough to pay his fine and then not have to impose on another. the problem wasn't that you had to tell unexpected guest that you were busy. it was that they were so inconsiderate and assuming.\nb*tch is definitly not the right word for you. i think it should be..... hmmmm? "unused/rational/fair" yes, i like "fair" the best. fair to others and most of all and importantly, fair to yourself.