text: I understand homosexuality is not illegal in S.A., but his situation is very difficult from what you say. In my opinion, what he could do –I know it can be difficult- is keep aside his sexual trends for the time being so that his father may regain confidence in him and at least, allow him to get a degree in some career or other. And when he has finally being able to start an independent life of his own then he will be able to openly show his sexuality in South Africa or wherever he chooses to live.\nAfter all, there are thousands of young men that do not start having any sexual activity until they get married, although you may find it hard to believe, and that means finishsing their studies first and finding a job afterwards.\nLife is not always easy, and you can tell this youn boy he will not die if he tries to disguise his true feelings for a few years and behave accordingly.\nCurious98