text: If he is actively looking for men, there can be little doubt he would like to at least explore bisexuality.\n\nYou definitely need to talk to him about it; this is far too big an issue to let pass.\n\nHow you deal with it depends greatly on your attitude toward bisexuality.  Your marriage is your marriage and there must a resolution that will make you both happy.\n\nI would recommend you ask him to see a marriage counselor with you.  *NOT* because there is anything wrong with being bisexual, *nor* because there is anything wrong with your reaction.  A counselor can often help facilitate discussion that might get bogged down between the two of you on your own, and help you reach resolution.\n\nI wish you luck, and if you need someone to talk to, you may email me.  I would gladly discuss more with you in a private manner.  (I am married and bisexual.  My situation will certainly differ from yours, but I'm a good listener if you need one!)\n\n.