text: If you are still sensitive to what your ex is doing and what his intentions are, you need to explain to him that you are not comfortable with him at this time.  Whether he is genuinely trying to be cordial and remain friends or he actually has ill intentions, this course of action should keep the two of you civil.  \n\nIf he is trying to be friends, you explain to him your position, with severe honesty, that you arent comfortable.  As a friend, he should grant you your distance until you are ready to begin a friendship type relationship.  If he has ill intentions, he will feel 'spotted' when you ask for time and should lay off.