text: I think that you need to talk to your husband.  It seems like maybe his accident has made him feel less of a man and having to do something to be able to make love only makes him feel worse.  You are going to have to convince him that you still find him desirable and very much want to have a physical relationship with him.  I am sure that there are a few things that your doctor can prescribe, but not much point unless you can get your husband in the frame of mind where he wants to.  Tell him how much you want him and how good he makes you feel.  Hopefully he will respond without having to point out the obvious - that you have needs too.