text: "Hotness" is very subjective. Every person's tastes differ. Personally, I've always had a bit of a thing for redheads and Asians, but I've been completely struck by a couple women who didn't fall into either category, so easily. Physically, every man can debate whatever physical trait they find aesthetically pleasing, but I think that there's one personality trait that's universal: CONFIDENCE.\n\nThere is absolutely nothing sexier than a truly confident, self-assured woman. One of my ex-girlfriends I dated for three years, and I loved her, but she was so cripplingly, self-deprecating, that it truly ruined our relationship. You can only compliment someone and assure them so many times before you let their negativity destroy you. Apparantly three years was pretty much my limit, and I'll never make that mistake again. If you've got a healthy dose of self-esteem and you exude that (but don't flaunt it to the point of narcissism), we come running.