text: Your boyfriend needs to step up to the plate and stop this behaviour that his ex wife has. To me he is so use of this from being in her web so long,she is a control freak and he is allowing his ex-wife to run his life. He had better wake up and smell the coffee before he looses you.My son was manipulated by his ex wife for eight yrs. and didn't even realize what was normal in a relationship. A person like this has major issue's with themselves and needs medical help. I suspect the children have visiting rights with there dad,so tell him only too be in contact with his wife when it applies to him getting the kids. The best measure for him is to cut all ties with her. Then she can't play games anymore with you two.He could also go to court for mental harassment. He needs to keep documentation of everything she does to you two.Tell him he has his rights to his children and she cannot hold them from him. There is a charge in the courts for this kind of behaviour. Tell your boyfriend to get with the times,and over power this manipulation thing. The (ball is in his court) because she is the one causing the upsets. Hope this helps!   Cocoa