text: You are so sweet.  Being a gentleman is nice, but you need to romance the girl if you want her to think of you as a boyfriend. I mean, its great that you are friends first. You can then gradually go into the "courtship" phase. But you have to tell her frankly, you being a gentleman and all, that you are "courting" her. Take her dates. Send her flowers. Do things together. Try to enflame her desire. But if there's no spark - well, you might be trying to light wet wood. Find someone else....