text: I would say that perhaps he feels a bit embarressed making a baby and leaving the woman while she is going through the pregnancy alone. that does not mean that  he should stick around in a relationship that sounds doomed ,as it will not help the baby in the long run.\nit's great that you are willing to be part of the baby's life ,but you will need to remember that it is not just his, there is a mother who quite possibly resents your presence a bit. so as romantic an idea it is to love a new born baby ,he might be thinking ahead of complications, especially if him and her are having communication problems. perhaps he does also think that a paternity test is in order before giving the news to family.explaining this to family and friends can be difficult if they have known the ex well,and he may be scred of being judged.