text: This is a complicated situation for you to be in. and it is a situation that depends a lot on why she chooses to remain a virgin (maybe she wants to remain a virgin until she is married, or is she afraid of having sex?)\nThe most important thing is for you to be understanding and patient. My first time was not a good memory mainly because the guy was a bit pushy. this has had the affect of making me close up very quickly when anybody pushes me around. so avoid pressuring her at all costs! \nwhen it comes to explaining sex... well, i think theres only so much you can talk about- you learn the most by actually doing it. \nwhen it comes to oral... well, the best way to convince her is to give her oral. \ni could help u a lot more if i knew a bit more more about the problem (a lot depends on the current state of your sexual relationship, and on why she chooses not to have sex) if u told me more, i could probably help more...