text: Wow - are you really a Southern Belle? I think that you lot have gorgeous accents. (Big 'Gone with the Wind', Scarlett O'Hara, Clark Gable, Marlon Brando, Blanche Dubois fanatic - but that's a different story ...) so, on with your problem:\n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he doesn't know what he wants at all. He likes to be in control of you and his ex and is messing with your heads because it gives him a sense of power. \n\nIf you are determined that you want to stay with this bloke (I'm not sure why you would - if it comes down to it you can come and live with me in England and just talk to me in your lovely voice .....) then a lot is going to have to change. If I were you then I'd give up on him, but failing that I'd suggest that the pair of you move away to a new town, far from his ex. I'd also get him to change his phone number so that that he can't keep in touch with her and make sure that he knows that if he tries to call her again then the your relationship is over.\n\nIf he really is stealing money from his own mother then you have a much more serious problem, because it means that he has no moral standards, so he's not going to respond to ultimatums or care who he hurts. Of the two things, I'd say this was the most worrying.\n\nAnyway, that's my advice. Good Luck, Scarlett!!