text: You may find this funny, but the very WEEK that I told myself that all the good ones were taken or gay, I found my husband.  \n\nLike you, I had been through liars, cheaters, and abusers...  I thought that all men did it, and that I was going to have to settle.  I would rather be alone.\n\nI wrote a blog that stated that all men could go to hell, and that I was done.  The very next night, I met my husband.  I wasn't looking, either.  I just wanted to sing karaoke, and I ended up meeting an honest man who would NEVER cheat on me, and would die before he hurt me.  I got lucky, too, because he made a great living for himself...  ::winks::  (I'm not at all a gold digger...  I just wanted an honest man who would love me, and ONLY me...  The good living was a bonus.  If I met another man who stayed with his mother at 30, I was going to scream)...\n\nGood men are out there, but I think that you may be looking to hard, and settling on the first thing that you come to for either fear of being alone, or in hopes that this may be "the one".\n\nLet him come to you.