text: Hi,\n\nLet him do the talking - as much as he wants;  be there for HIM.\n\nI found this article to be very good and true.  When I was diagnosed I had people in each of the groups. \n\n http://www.cancerlynx.com/angels_bolters.html\n\nIt is very hard to get your mind around "terminal cancer"; it is a huge set of words.  Everyone goes through life thinking that they will live to a 100 or so then a guy in a white coat comes in and tells you that your "demise" is right around the corner.  \n\nBy being there for him, you are helping him;  he will have "lots" of open issues that he want to clean up and he needs to talk to someone;  it may be you, it may not.  As I said,  let him run the conversation.  \n\nAnd remember;  docs can be wrong,  2 years can stretch to 4 and 4 to 8 etc.  \n\nHere is a resource from hospice net - for the friend of someone who is dieing;  hope it helps\n\nPeace be with you and your Friend,\n\nJewells\n27 months and still here