text: Animal Lover's right: You should see a therapist, if it's consuming so much of your time, energy, and happiness.\n\nAnd yes, you should face those fears head-on. I'm not saying you should deliberately try to drown yourself for instance, but try taking a good swimming course. Afraid of hieghts? Climb up ladders a lot (but let your husband be your spotter, so to speak!) And yes, you might even try some basic rock-climbing. Instead of focusing on those fears- which gives them way more importance than they should have- you should work on convincing yourself of one phrase: "I Can Do This."\n\nAnother thing I used to do that helped me work through some situations: Lucid Dreaming. It is actually possible to seize control of your dreams if you don't like the direction they're going, and change them. So if you see yourself falling, for instance- change that to a dream of flying instead. That is a very crude example of course.\n\nGood luck!