text: People who say they don't want a relationship - then end up calling you, being with you, having sex, etc are usually people who like to have their cake and eat it too.  He wants the freedom of not being in a relationship, but enjoys the benefits of being with someone at the same time.  \nYou should tell him that you wanna give him time to figure out what he wants - and whether he wants you as a girlfriend.  There is nothing wrong with being his friend - but don't treat him any different than you would your other friends (i.e. no 2am booty calls).  Saying he has too much going on right now doesn't make sense - if you really like someone you want them in your life, and usually having a significant other helps things because you have someone there for you.