text: i have always considered it to be 50/50. no its not her job to keep someones marriage happy but she should have her morals in check just like he should have too!\nmaybe both parties should put themselves in the wives shoes...\nwho cares who initiates it. it still happened.\n\n(I'm not speaking of women who do not know he is married, but to the one who do.)\n\nboth are at fault!