text: However much you want it, you can't force a person to be with you, or change their mind.  If she wanted to be with you, she would have stayed, and she would be with you now.\n\nIt sounds like she is very confused and going through some troubles of her own.  I would suggest just leaving her alone and giving her some space.  Perhaps when she has had time to get her head sorted out, she may decide to come back.  I think calling her and writing to her just adds pressure and may drive her away.  Try reverse psychology here.  If you just stop trying to contact her, she may contact you.  Then you have more control over the situation.  You can then tell her to either make up her mind or leave you alone.