text: Believe me that is an age old problem and a rough one too.\nIf you give her an ultimatum…well he’s there and you’re not. On the other hand if you just keep putting you best foot forward. Keep precise notes, always remember her birthday, all the anniversaries (the day you first wrote her and her you, fist met, anything and everything), don’t forget birthdays valentines day and whatever else you can think of to give you that upper edge. \nYou know every now and then you could send her flowers “Just to say I love you.” Women love that stuff.\nThere is something else to consider: She isn’t that exactly that tight with the other guy if she is interested in you, which is a point in your favor.\nRemember though when you talk to her carefully, very carefully try to find out where you stand. If you think, and can confirm that you are falling way behind then dump her, on your terms. \nI have been there twice myself I found out that one was after my money and the other was married.