text: I think that your relationship lacked a proper closure.  You were left hanging at that moment when your feelings towards him were still fleeting.\n\nI believe that talking to him and focusing on the reason/s as to why the whole thing did not work out for him would give you that sense of understanding that you lack at the moment.  Ask him to be as honest as possible and don't make him sugarcoat his explanations.  Just make him give you the hard truth about the matter.\n\nIf, after all of his explanations you still don't get where he's coming from, then my suspicion may be true altogether - he is not the kind of man who you should be wasting your time and affection with at all.