text: Yes, it is as normal for a guy to have emotional baggage as it is for a girl.  If he really cared for her, he is probably still dealing with those feelings.  As for his past relationship being in a "destructive," just remember that love is often blind.  He probably didn't see it that way if, in fact, he was truly "in love" with her.  \n\nNow, as for your comment about starting up some sort of a "lover" situation with him, here is my suggestion:  Just go slowly, it may take him a little time to put the last one behind him.  So, be there as a friend...albeit a friend with occasional benefits...and wait for him to come around.  He will eventually, though it may take longer than a few weeks.  Just remember, the quickest way to get over a past lover is to find a new lover.  So, it sounds like you are in the perfect position to achieve what you are hoping to start up.  \n\nBest of luck!