text: You make it sound like it's something arranged or orchestrated.  Who do you think does it?\n\nPeople--all people--fall in love because it happens.  Just because those two people happen to both be men or women doesn't make it any less real.  And it happens because those two people have found a connection between them--a spark.\n\nHomophobia's greatest danger is the unwillingness to believe that gays are capable of real human emotion.  That their "urges" are unnatural and strange, and whatever happens between "them" is some kind of perversion.\n\nTwo men fall in love with each other because they wanted it to happen or they just couldn't stop it from happening.  You know--just like normal people.\n\nI don't mean to sound harsh or judgemental, but your question suggests that you at least have some preconceived notions about gays.  Why don't you start now by trying not to think of gays as different.  It will give you a whole new perspective on things.