text: people only have the ability to upset us if they mean something to us.  so, obviously, she definately loves you.  \n\nShe may be deeply hurt at the extent at which you lashed out, especially if she's never seen that side of you before. which would also add shock to the equation, by the way.\n\npersonally, I would ask for a sit-down time with her, and just get it out on the table, the what happened, the why, and the how not to let it get to that point again.\n\neven couples need time to themselves as individuals, in order to make the couple work better.\n\nhonesty, and open-minded communication- the 2 most important keys to a good relationship.  oh, and let's not forget mutual respect.\n\ngood luck.