text: You guys have a difficult task at hand. Cheating for three years... that's a big deal.\nBut, if you guys have decided to work it out, then do just that. Stop reading the emails, cards, etc. It happened and you can't take it back. If you're devoted to making the marriage work, you'll both have to put the past behind you, learn from it and work to make sure it doesn't happen again.\nThis will probably take some counseling. That's a difficult situation for a couple, especially with children.\nGood luck!