text: it's a give and take situation.  Weight is usually not an issue, but for health issues you might want to consider losing at least 70 of that lbs.  Sometimes presentation counts a whole lot. \nI for one, look for a woman with a great attitude, and also present herself diligently in public. Someone who can hold out on her own, and not lean on others.  Looks is just 5% of my qualities i look for, compared to 50% for attitude and 20% for presentation.  Real men look for the qualities in a woman, not looks. \nBuild your confidence up first, then start from there.