text: If enough is enough and you absolutely want to move on then.. yes move out  or make him move back home. \nIf he made a choice to move in with you then he should do his part. Id suggest talking to him, finding out whats the deal, telling him he needs to do more around the place or get a better job. Why is he uncapable of being the guy he once was...? Motivation can be really rough of an issue but its something that can absolutely change a relationship...\nWhat are his goals? what does he want for you two? does he plan to be their like he is in 5years... whats he doing to not be their?\nAttempt to set goals (realistic ones) with him and let him know that its important.. write them down.. things you want to change and where you want to be at. If he doesnt work towards them forcem out!\n\nLook up some ways to motivate a boyfriend/husband.. its pretty common that people fall into an unhappy state. \n\nand ultimately never stay with someone becuase you fear hurting them, its unhealthy for you and him.