text: If your spouse is open to 'letting you play' with others of the same sex.. then I guess that would be a personal decision.  I would make sure if you are female that he doesn't have the hidden agenda of 'hoping for a 3some'.. since that is 'man's #1 fantasy'.  If he does and you do too, then it's fine for whatever you two decide as long as it's honest and open.\n\nAs for telling someone else.. I would ask them.. if they have ever had a bi experience.  Their answer would pretty much tell me, if it was 'safe' to tell them.  For example if they went No, I haven't had one of those, but I have a lot of friends who have.  Or No, that's wrong.. (I don't agree but it's an example of when I wouldn't share that)  Or Yeah, Bi is cool, I have done it and with the right person it's great!  Any positive answer would open the door for you to say that you are.  :)  I wish you the best with that :)