text: I think your last statement says it all, you've been so hurt that you no longer want anyone to see you how you really are, unless you are sure they will not hurt you.\n\nThis is not the way to love people, and it's not the way Jesus would want you to live.  Yes, people will hurt you, in mental and physical ways sometimes.  But you will survive.  That's part of why Jesus says we should turn the other cheek.  Because loving someone means letting them hurt you on occasion ... because they are hurting too.\n\nPeople hurt me all the time, they say mean and vicious things to me and I let them, because it's just a hurt, it's not my soul.