text: You have to decide how much you really love or want to be with the new guy you are with because it is not fair to him. It is ok to stay in touch with your ex's as friends but if you are accepting gifts and talking to him all the time then that does not sound like a friendship thing. I stay in touch with all my ex's but I only talk to them once in a while I certainly would not accept gifts from them. My suggestion is for you to sit down and put yourself in you soon to be husbands shoes and see if you would honestly be ok with him doing that to you. As far as your kids liking your old guy better there is nothing you can do about that but if you are really going to get married to this guy the kids have got to develop a relationship with the new guy. \nHope the advice helps all I can say is treat your soon to be husband with the respect and love you expect from him.