text: It is very cool of you to continue to be his friend. Please try to be thankful that he was finally able to admit it before you two got married. Some people do know they are gay from childhood and never have any straight relationship. SOme people know it from childhood but have been raised to believe it is sick and wrong, and so work hard to subvert those feelings. That's why some people end up getting married, having kids and coming out of the closet many years down the road. It really isn't a conscious choice to be gay or not to be gay. He can't help preferring men any more than you can. \nIt is best for you to try to distance yourself romantically... I know you don't want to turn your back on him, but you also don't want to hurt yourself.