text: I don't want it so much, but again, this goes back to that other question I answered on why people aren't hooking up after they're married, and I think much of the answer is contingent on what people are, and are not, bringing into the bedroom to begin with.  For so long I did want to do stuff, and then I did, and now I'm sort of over that, and really challenged to want to get back into it again.\n\nI'm not quite so sure what it is that I want anymore from that aspect of it, if anything.  Yeah you could spend time with him in other ways and build up those other aspects of the relationship but quite honestly if it just isn't there one would have to ask if there aren't deeper issues plaguing the relationship. Perhaps I should ask myself that question ...