text: Uh, are you able to lean on him while he's doing the other chick?\nuh, I think not.\n\nSo you need to get a grip and realize once and for all the person you need to be leaning on is your own self !!!\nLearn to be strong for yourself.  No one is going ot make you happy better than you.\n\nTake a deep breath, and then start down a new path to independence, and loving yourself in the right way, before you are ready to love someone else.\n\nMake TWO lists.  I mean it...do this.\nList One:  What Do I Want for My Whole Life &\nWhere do I want to be exactly 10 years from now &\nMY plans to make that happen under MY OWN POWER.\n\nList Two:\nThis list is two sided > draw a line down the middle of the page\nLeft side:   What I Really Want in a Man\nRight side:  What I absolutlely will not tolerate in a man.\nKEEP THE LIST, the best place is in your bible if that is where you turn when your heart hurts... the list will remind you what you REALLY wanted.\nOn the Left side include these traits \na.  a best friend,  \nb.  someone I can really trust,  \nc.  someone I laught and have fun with, d.  someone\nd.  someone that I'm sure is honest with me\ne.  someone that turns me on, BUT I'd stay with if for some reason we couln't have sex.\n\nOn the right side ya wanna put things like \nno drugs, little alcohol, no emotional or physical abuse,\n\nOther things you want on your list somewhere is about him and his friends, him with your family, you with his family and things that are really important to you.\n\nDump this guy...he doesn't meet the TRUST test, and he doesn't meet the HONESTY test, and I'm sure he fails some other tests if you think about it.\n\nGet smart.  Know what you want, and don't accept less, or you will never have the KIND OF LOVE that will make your heart really happy.\n\nI wish you Love\nSTW