text: How old are you?\nIf you don't want to be looked at as someone you're not then you better start figuring out who you are! It's easy to tell that you have no clue. If you did you wouldn't be wanting to run from this situation. \nYour priority right now should be to focus on just that-- finding out who you are. Naturally this takes years and years, but you can jump start this by:\nConcentrating on improving your health, body, mind, spirit, and soul.\nGet a better education\nVolunteer and help those less fortunate than you are\nTake some "fun" classes\nRead some self help books\nKeep a journal\nPray daily\nLearn to be more musical\nWrite about fifty essays beginning with the words "I believe..."\nSpice up your social life by getting involved in some new activities or clubs (not party clubs-- clubs that promote growth and learning) \nJoin a yoga class.\nMeditate daily.\nWrite a list of the principles you call your own and hold most dear\nStart a new exercise\nConcentrate on learning and loving YOU for now.\n\nAnd about the ex:\nIf you have kids together your s.o.l. You are stuck together for life to one degree or another unless-- God forbid-- something happen to the kid(s).\nIf you don't have kids together then just grab hold of... your courage... and tell the lady you are moving on. Tell her you tried. It didn't work. You see now that it will not work. You do not need her drama games. You are going to stop contacting her. You want her to stop contacting you. And you should both move on with your lives and (eventually) see other people.\nBut be sure this is what you want before you do it!\nHave you guys tried counseling? \nP.S: Don't date the 38 year old... Why?\n1. It's TOO SOON!\n2. She's an opportunist and probably a barracuda (gold digger/clingy emotional drama game player and general sucker of men's time/money/etc.)\n3. Any 38 year old that tells you you're a "hottie" is trying too hard to be "hip".\nP.P.S: Don't date "girls". \nDon't date ANYONE until you stop calling grown women "girls".