text: I think it is cheating no matter what sex they are.  I think you might very well be gay and the love you have for your wife is genuine, but  you might be using your marriage as a front because your afraid of the truth being exposed due to peoples reaction in your life.That isnt fair to her or your children, better they know now than later , being gay in this day and age is no big deal at all.  What is a big deal is hurting the people you love.