text: Pick your battles.  Does it really matter that he left the towels on the floor or that he is ten minutes late for the fifth time in a row?  No it doesn't not really.\n\nOnly discuss things that are important issues.\n\nAnd start right from the beginning.  Find a mutually okay time and schedule a babysitter and a date.\n\nWorking 90 hours a week is a problem so have a nice dinner ready at home if you have to and take time to get to know each other.\n\nDon't sweat the small stuff.. and don't sweat the big stuff.. life is too short.\n\nWork on being friends first and the rest will follow.\n\nAnd don't focus on the negative with him all the time even if he does with you.  Teach by example not nagging as we woman are prone to do. Hold you tongue more often than you let it go. You'll be surprised by the result.