text: I'm sorry for your loss.  It's hard to lose any relationship when it isn't your idea for it to end.  It's also hard to lose a relationship that isn't working out for you--and you have to end it.  \n\nYou want to get over your boyfriend and get him to talk to you??   \n\nI would say to do one thing at a time.  Invest some time in things in your life that are more permanent:  your friends, family, hobbies, classes, church, and pets.  This is the time for you to be good to yourself and not trying to get something from someone who has nothing to give you now.\n\nGet a new boyfriend and enjoy discovering this person.  I think young people sometimes think that because the relationship ends they are not good enough for one.\nThat's not true.\n\nYou will discover more about yourself through an ended relationship sometimes than you will when you are in one.  It's that hindsight thing.  Always easier to see things better when you have some distance.\n\nThe bad news is that you can't make someone talk to you, or want you, or love you.  It will be his choice.  There are lots of reasons he may not have wanted to be with you that have nothing to do with you or your qualities as a person.  His reasons to leave are about him and his thinking, not you.\n\nTry not to imagine that it is all about you.  Each person has their inner voice they have to listen to and that sometimes is directed by their own fears.  \n\nAn example; you have a friend that is scared to death of flying in a plane.  You may talk to them and reason with them and offer things to them that are way beyond generous in order for them to get over their fear.  But it just doesn't work.  They have to manage those fears in their own time and get to the root cause of things when they are ready. \n\nYou can't force this.  It has nothing to do with how nice or wonderful a person you are.  They simply will deal with those issues when and if they decide to do so.  If you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't get them over their fear of flying you are needlessly hurting yourself.\n\nFind someone who enjoys to "fly" as much as you do.  Meaning, find a boyfriend that looks at you the way you look at him.  Someone who feels happy to be with you, not stressed.  It is much nicer to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be there and work on it with you.\n\nTrying to make this other person talk to you will only erode your self-esteem.  If and when this guy is ready he will call you and see about getting back together.  He may not ever (sorry to say because I know you hurt).\n\nIn the mean time you have moved on to more positive things and had some new experiences.  Maybe you won't want him back if he decides to try again.  That is your choice about what is best for you!\n\nFeeling sad and lonely right now is normal.  Get with your friends and have some fun.  Hurting means you are a caring person and feel a loss.  Hurting doesn't mean that you were "meant to be" and that you will never find someone who cares for you again.  You will find many good experiences ahead and good people as well.\n\nThere will be joy in your life again.  Be gentle with yourself and I hope you feel better soon.  :)