text: Wow, I went through something similar. I would mail the card and continue to be a good friend. So when you reach the point of confrontation you could say that you upheld your end of the bargain by being a loyal friend. Any chane in attitude will lead to both sides being bitter. Remember, be who you were and do what you normally do until you can find out why things are the way they are. Relax, and think it through.