Slogans like, be an adult  may seem just talk but I can assure you they are not. I know some things about change but certainly not all there is to know in regards to overcoming life challenges and especially those that accompany pathology. But, after 45 years in the mental health profession and several dozen clients who were court ordered or opted for therapy to seek a reduced sentence, it's this basic level of adult expectations and self responsibility that provides a beginning foundation for change.  Anger, disappointment, rage, depression, hate for self and others...and blame. Initially visiting any and all of those elements until reaching some degree of understanding and insight of ownership. And then the therapy for change and acceptance of responsible behavior begins. Long for some but with a no excuse model, a shorter time for others. But rest assured, taking ownership and doing the right thing independently is a powerful thing to see. All on their own - no blaming or excuse.