You've just described what many DEMS do as well.
You may want to reconsider what makes or does not make a person DEM or CONS.
I think you will find most people want the same thing, and, you will find the people that you are arguing with and fighting about are the same people that the CONS are concerned about.
Remember the line (DEM-----------------------------------------CON) is very long and there is really a small percentage that fall on the extremes of this line. 
I think 90% of the whole country could fall within the agreeable area of needs and wants, but you tend to group the whole population into 2 groups and label them.
Again, I'm very middle of the road, but, the media will not tell you this. They have brainwashed you into thinking only left or right.
We need media to be OBJECTIVE.