Where does Gustafson "tell victims how they should feel, act or move forward" or assert "any rights over the injured party"?

In fact, Gustafson says, "I have learned from victims' advocates that seeking out victims — even to make amends and express my sorrow — could very likely result in re-victimization. So I wouldn't do that. If they ever contacted me, I would be very happy to talk with them, in whatever way would be safe and appropriate."