Now,this might come as a shock to you but every university or college has their own point of view. Evidently you feel that the U of O doesn't do a good enough job for you. Name one university or college that would make you happy, please!
I have to disagree with you on the tax money, you can call it whatever you like but it is listed as a tax. You can call it Girl Scout Cookies if it makes you feel better. If you consider it your money and feel that it is being wasted, get involved.
Btw, gender identity is very real. One in ten people suffer from it. It is in everyone's family. Some hide it in shame but it is very real.