text: True enough, I am 35 pounds overweight as a male and I feel slightly gross everyday with my belly; it truly is bad for the confidence.  And I would be considered obese by most standards, not overweight (which is say 10-20 pounds) so I can only imagine 80 pounds and on a smaller female (I am 6').   Having said that he does seem shallow for not including all the good things about her that he should love.  But he is not wrong to expect some effort on her part (with the exception if there are health issues etc.).    Now I better work harder for mine.  :)