text: What one woman may consider a frivolous flirt that she finds complimentary, a  lesbian may consider an outrageous transgression of unthinkable sexual horror.  The act itself may be perfectly  benign, but the reaction completely hostile. How are police to balance the two attitudes towards one act?  There needs to be a standard of what defines sexual assault based on intent and  definable  harm, not merely the emotional  reaction to it.