text: And if one says "the Church teaching is hogwash", what then? When my wife was told, after a literally life-threatening pregnancy, that she should not get pregnant again, we decided I should get a vasectomy. My mother-in-law insisted we see her pastor. He told us that the Church taught that it was better that my wife die than I get a vasectomy. It should not surprise you that we rejected what he had to say.