text: Yes.  But if the intention of our relationships...the motives for each and every act isn't the love of God, isn't to give glory to God, then they are disordered to that extent. 
  
  If our desire for reconciliation is to "feel good"..to "smooth the air" and not to correct ourselves and atone for our failings out of love of God, then our reconciliation..our act of re-union is defective to some extent.