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Eat, Pray, Love - Searching Oneself I was told, if you want to know whether THAT someone is really THE ONE that you could spend your lifetime with, grab your bag and go for a trip together. If, at the end of the trip, both of you remain yearning for each other’s company, rest assured THAT someone is THE ONE.

Life is, indeed, an endless trip. Literally. Along the way, at various stops in life, we bump into strangers, make friends and decisions. As we are the driver of our life, we determine which direction we are going and how we are going. Once these have been identified, we pick who and what we will bring along, using the concept of 3Ps – Practicality, Proactivity and Patience.

This brings me to Elizabeth Gilbert (Liz) and her “Eat, Pray, Love” (saya suka terjemahan buku ini di dalam Bahasa Indonesia bertajuk "Makan, Doa, Cinta"). Suddenly, her search becomes my business.

She came into the picture when I reaffirmed my gut feelings to someone that he IS one of my soulmates.

I must say I have broken a few beautiful hearts but I am not saying that with proud or grudge. Hurting someone so dear only hurts us back. Somehow, as life has better purpose for us to fulfill, there are relationships that we have to remodel into lasting spiritual friendships. They live forever in our heart. My brief encounters with my soulmates have enlightened me the real soul inside this façade and ignited the real potentials in me. For being my soulmates, they are like bitter pills I have to swallow every now and then, the beacons lighting up vast lands and open seas strange to me so I could stay true to myself.

“People think your soul mate is your perfect fit and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, someone who shows you everything that hold you back, the person who brings you to your attention so you can change your life.

~ Richard from Texas to Liz

Having broken these hearts, I caged mine in return, out of fear that it, too, will be broken by another. With God’s blessings (because I do not have such strong willpower to undo sorrows I caused them nor strength to overcome my own), my soulmates held my hands wading through my life, instilled in me that I deserve the best, so I must seek my happiness and live up my purpose in life – with or without them. Because of them, I am truly, genuinely happier now.

~ Liz
Because of them, I am ready to love and be loved, with the kind of “love that moves the sun and the other stars” (Liz) and I am, even, willing to be alone and lonely, at times because I would “never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for [my] own unfulfilled yearnings” (Liz).

Liz’s book, for me, is liberating. It is not about celebrating romance or comical side of life of a divorcee. This is a book about searching oneself, understanding why one behaves like one and finding the real meaning of one being given a life by The Almighty.

If you are reading this book for chicklit-kind of romance, you’d be disappointed but if you could pass through the rigorous explanation on Hinduism, Yoga and all, you would find a startling gem at the end of it. That is, life isn’t all about finding someone to love but it is about finding oneself and loving it (with all its imperfections – acknowledgment of this would normally propel one to improve oneself), giving meaning to everything and everyone around us. If we could do that, we find love right at our doorstep, every single day in our lifetime.

This book is Liz’s memoir and interestingly, it could well serve as a relevant psychology material reading as it shows how our past experiences, as early as toddler, could shape who we are today and amazingly teaches us that we could always rewrite our Lifescript. We are after all, with God’s guidance and grace, are the master of our destiny.

Universal as it can be, Liz shares one of the most important truths on mankind. Liz writes, “I met an old lady once, almost a hundred years old, and she told me, 'There are only two questions that humans have ever fought over, all through history: how much do you love me? And, who’s in charge?’”. Indeed, insecurity and doubts are men’s best enemies as they are capable of wrecking a relationship, drowning one’s future, silencing democracy and in the end, killing oneself, painfully, bit by bit.

Although I adore Julie Roberts, I don’t think watching a movie would be sufficient to immerse oneself with the wonderfulness of Liz’s book. It’s soul-searching worth reading!

My trip has been quite a rugged one. If I am blessed with THE ONE, I pray THE ONE that rivals a companionship between the Late Paul Newman and his beloved, Joanne Woodward. God please guide me, for I do not wish to take up ‘passengers’ along the trip, like the one of Dame Liz Taylor.
p.s. Oh, Joanne Woodward, Dame Liz Taylor and yours truly share the same birth date. History tends to repeat itself so I should wisely choose whose history I wish to repeat.
Posted by Fi-sha at 12:35 PM Labels: Book, Finding Meself, Humanity, Love 
We can't all have everything we want in life. Blessings there are for everyone if only we would but be conscious of them.

Thus, we should be comforted in each moment with what is presented before us. Even if doing so seems not right because we think what we want are only natural.

A Story To Live By

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone except her loving boyfriend because he was always there for her. She told him, "if i could only see the world, i will marry you."

The girl looked at here boyfriend and saw that he was blind.

The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her.

She hadn't expected that.

Her boyfriend left in tears.

Days later, he wrote her a note:

"Take care of you eyes, my dear. For before they were yours, they were mine."

October 9, 2010 at 6:35 PM zorro said...

Baring your soul girl?
Awaiting your response to BLOGGERS FOR NURUL.

October 10, 2010 at 6:14 PM Fi-sha said...

Dear Sir Anon

Thanks for the story, which riles me up :D.. How a pure loving soul like that man could not see the real character of that girl? Character never manifest itself in a day or two. Anyway, I just told someone we should make time and make most of the time and I think i am delighted to know that we share that common ideal.

Hi Uncle Zorro,

Baring me soul? If that makes me more human... :)

October 12, 2010 at 8:01 AM ian yusof said...

can't wait for the movie to be out ...

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