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Looking for You Here is a link for you to go to and read.  It’s a great post/article.  I got a lot from it.  Read it then finish my post.

Rules for Being You

Today has been a rough day for me.  My new girlfriend (I had just gotten used to that term again) and I broke up.  I am not going to go into great detail as that would simply cause friction and anger and it’s not the point of this post.  So, we will leave it at the fact that each of us are individuals, a person.  That’s important and should be held onto and nurtured.

I grew up being everyone else’s version of me.  I didn’t have a real identity, I was Clark Kent.  I was who everyone else thought I was.  Because of that, I had to be pretty flexible, passive, and understanding.  So much so that I could change my basic being at will to be either liked or wimp out if they were strong personalities.  This allowed me to survive in that people, generally, left me alone or, at least, didn’t hurt me physically.

Doing this had another effect, though:  It stifled my very being and made me weak and shallow.  All this thought down inside, but not much to my outside.

Let’s just move ahead about 30 years, past two marriages, raising children, working, and go to now.  I have come into my own.  I write; I run a decent blog; I help our local library; and I love people.  By love I mean accept, help, befriend, listen to them, and care about what’s going on in their lives. I am a writer; I am not what I write.

Now, I write.  What I seem to write well is horror.  That’s not all I write, but it is what is selling for me.  That also may define me, right or wrong.  When I tell someone what I do to try and earn money, they form an opinion.  A lot of that opinion is based on how well they already knew me.  All of you on here, you have your opinions of me and they seem to be pretty good.  I have also formed mine about each one of you that I know.  It’s based on my thoughts about you and could be right or wrong.

I keep thinking of an interview I saw somewhere with Alice Cooper.  Now, I had it in my head that Alice was nuts; I felt that the man had a screw loose somewhere and it would be really scary to be around him.  So, when he walked out onto stage in a three-piece suit, sat down, and calmly began talking about himself, I nearly freaked.  They talked about the snakes in his show and his outfits and his songs.  He waved all that off and said, “That’s showmanship.”  Or something a lot like that.  His point being, that was only the him that people knew who didn’t really know him.  It’s the one that they let form in their heads based on knowledge about rock stars and people who acted crazy on stage and people who wore strange makeup.  It wasn’t him; it was who he was when he was working (acting).

I am a writer; I enjoy writing horror; I enjoy writing suspense, drama, and science fiction.  I am not really any of those.  I am a person who enjoys seeing others succeed and will sit quietly while someone hurts and shares or needs quiet time.  I am full of compassion, caring, and a hope that all people will be given a chance to love and be loved, that includes me.

What I have to remember is that article at the beginning was all about “being you” because, you see, I am all those things and I write.  Not only that but I write horror and I watch action, horror,  and suspense movies.  But, I also love “The Little Mermaid” and “Benny and Joon” and “Bicentennial Man”.  I am a complex individual.  I do have a lot of sides, but they all fit into and become me.  That’s what that article was about:  accepting yourself and loving yourself and being you.


Do you love yourself?  Why or why not?  Is there a part of you that you do not fully accept?




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By kindredspirit23, on November 30, 2012 at 10:00 pm, under Opinion, Spirit and Beliefs. Tags: acceptance, Alice Cooper, being you, Clark Kent, love, The Little Mermaid, writing. 20 Comments
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