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I Didn’t Choose the Blog Life, the Blog Life Chose Me

Published by Amy B. Chesler on March 16, 2018
 I've always dreamt of being a writer. As a child, I devoured book after book, traveling to far off lands and through life-threatening mysteries (from the safety of my bed), while the rest of the late eighties kids played outside from sun up to sun down. I think I was subconsciously studying for my dream career: creating tales that would allow people a taste of escapism, in the form of two hundred-something pages.

However, I always maintained a diary. Sure, most of the entries I scrawled in puffy, pubescent handwriting were laments about one crush or another, but I became used to expressing myself. I found words for my feelings and wrote them down, because I've always been a little extra, and so have my thoughts.

Now, fast forward to adulthood, and more specifically my experience with Motherhood. It has been rich with love and fear and light and dark. My head swims daily with thoughts: Am I good enough? Am I alone? Is everyone else as crazy with anxiety about their children as me? Am I fucking up my kids? And conversely, are they fucking me up?

And in these moments, I am so thankful for blogging. I originally kept at it with two intentions: expression and catharsis. But as time went on, I realized that as I exposed my experiences, I found others with similar sentiments. This community of authenticity is liberating. It allows readers to draw strength in a positive, supportive way. And at a time when our country feels so broken, I am even more thankful.

But, it's hard. And it's scary. And when people ask me, "What does it take to be a blogger? How can I become one?" I say, "you just have to do it. You have to write.” But more specifically, you have to be OK with pouring your heart and soul into a piece. You have to embrace being yourself. You have to know the value of being authentic and raw. You have to know that by doing it, you’re allowing others that same liberty.

Blogging isn’t about selling a product or an idea. It’s about expressing yourself and finding common ground. In this day and age, that is becoming increasingly important. Bloggers and truth tellers alike are at the forefront of important social movements. If you feel that impulse, that need to express yourself, or an itching to express feelings you have trouble verbalizing, nothing should hold you back. Don’t fear failure. Fear absorbing your feelings and not expressing them. Write, and post, even if it’s kept private.

Five years in and I'm still getting used to the idea that I'm creating a writing career in a drastically different arena than I first imagined. And each day I write, I’m allowing pieces of myself out into the world, not some fictional tale I made up. But, it’s become clear that I didn't choose the blog life. The blog life chose me. 
Amy B. Chesler is an author and content creator born, bred, and breeding in Southern California. She discovered her passion for the literary and film worlds as early as she can remember, and has been voraciously reading, writing, and acting ever since. Over the last decade, Amy has contributed work to many popular publications. This list includes five different non-fiction stories to six different best-selling Chicken Soup for the Soul anthologies, as well as content for the DVD Netflix blog, Home & Family TV, BluntMoms, Elephant Journal, Life of Mom, & more. She is also celebrating the recent win of the title, “BlogHer17 Voice of the Year,” for her previous work in “Expressing Motherhood.” Her current writing projects include a memoir based on her award-winning ExMo entry, a fictional, futuristic feminist novel, and a musical comedy. Feel free to follow her on social media (@abcauthor) or Facebook. For a full collection of her published works, visit Amy’s Amazon Author page.