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The quest to find true direction and purposeful meaning is within you. You know that. The only thing holding you back is self-doubt, time and personal resources.

Yet, that trio will always stand in your way if allowed. Change happens when you make decisions to finally live the way you want to. In a way that serves both yourself and others. We are not placed on this earth to only serve ourselves, BUT ... we do need to put on 'our own oxygen masks on first' before we're ready to be of service.

This is what the School of Modern Psychology is about: helping you prepare yourself for the journey you're so ready to take.

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Change begins with hope of what's possible in your life. Hope leads to a sense of expectancy. Combine this with setting short term goals and the likelihood of being more happy and successful moves from possibility to reality.

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