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Why you must let go of an unreciprocated crush

by Hemchhaya De | May 17, 2018, 12:00 AM IST You might get inspired by all the great poems, novels and films which glorify unrequited or unreciprocated love. But, in real life, no matter how deeply you crush over your high school sweetheart or a good-looking coworker, the fact of the matter is, it is actually not love until he whom you love loves you back! And that's not a conundrum, really. So, here are some reasons why you should stop wasting time on that ever elusive liaison:

Think about it. You might feel that you should not stop hoping; you might even feel convinced that your crush is going to reciprocate sooner or later, such is the power of your devotion. But while you wait, chances are you would be halting the progress of any promising or blooming relationship that has come your way. So, in other words, waiting for reciprocation can be a veritable trap that stops you from putting yourself out there.

You don't have magical powers
You simply can't force anyone to love you back. Period. You need to keep an open mind. What will be will be. Therefore, unless you have some extraordinary powers to win people's hearts, don't waste time.

Count the hours
Here's how you can do a reality check. Of course you can't stop thinking about your crush - you might even be stalking him on social media, for all we know. And if he happens to be around, you just feel frozen and unable to move a single finger to get your jobs done. So, take a timer and start counting the moment you fall into a reverie about your crush. You'd then know precisely how much time you are wasting on your crush daily.

Friends will be bored
If you talk incessantly about your unreciprocated crush, you are wasting not only your own sweet time, but also that of others. Your friends and peers are likely to get bored and irritated if you oversentimentalise things and refuse to stop chasing impossible dreams. Beware.

Why him?
Ask yourself again and again why you have developed a crush over the object of your desire in the first place. Imagine a situation where the two of you actually get connected - are you really a perfect match? Make a list of things that are common between you and your crush - if you don't find any common ground, stop wasting your precious time!
