Why do I hate sex?
I love my boyfriend and everything that leads to sex, but when it comes to the actual penetration, I hate it. I don't know why, but I just want it to be over. I feel like crying. I don't know why I don’t like it because all of my friends enjoy it.
Intimacy,Human Sexuality,Relationships
Although I am not entirely sure why you might be struggling in this area, an initial question I have is do you want to be sexually active at this time or is this something that you feel pressured into doing.? &nbsp;If you feel pressured into being sexually active by your friends or boyfriend it is understandable that you want it to be over. &nbsp;I would encourage you to ask your boyfriend to be patient with you at this time &nbsp;until you figure out what is going on. &nbsp;I encourage you to then think very deeply about what your reservations, if any, &nbsp;about being sexually active. &nbsp;Do you fear pregnancy? &nbsp;Are there problems in the relationship? &nbsp;Are you afraid of the emotional intimacy?&nbsp;<div><br></div><div>Another question that comes to mind is whether or not you have any history of sexual activity that you did not consent to that might be getting in the way. &nbsp; When these types of traumatic events occur, &nbsp;people can essentially become triggered negatively by anything that reminds them of past trauma. &nbsp;Such events can cause an aversion to sex even if there is now a loving relationship whom one wants to be sexually active with. &nbsp;If this is the case I strongly recommend individual therapy to begin working through some of these issues.&nbsp;</div><div><br></div><div>A final area that you might explore would be whether or not you are experiencing pain with penetration. &nbsp;If so, I would recommend that you schedule an appointment with a gynecologist to rule out any type of medical issues that might be causing these problems. &nbsp;Although pain can also be associated with emotional issues, it is always good to rule out possible physical causes. &nbsp;</div><div><br></div><div>I hope that these ideas help to point you in the right direction. &nbsp;Take care.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div>