Am I somehow stressing myself out?
I think I'm annoying and bothersome, but my girlfriend says I'm just fine. I don't think so, I think I'm stressing everyone else out
Anxiety
Interesting: &nbsp;How much of your issue is your own self-judging and how much of your perception is real?<div><br></div><div>There are many ways to stop judging and self-judging using Cognitive Theory (CBT). &nbsp;You could find a (CBT) counselor/ therapist to help you reduce your judgments. &nbsp;In addition, I've written extensively about this in my book, LIVING YES, A HANDBOOK FOR BEING HUMAN (www.LivingYes.org). &nbsp;I recommend you visit the webpage and pick up a copy.<br><div><br></div><div>As to your own perception: &nbsp;You seem okay being who you are, and your girlfriend agrees. &nbsp;Instead, you appear to be upset by your own guess at what others may be thinking. That's a trap that stresses a lot of folks out. &nbsp;Consider this: &nbsp;Many happy people don't mind what others think of them. &nbsp;And consider this: &nbsp;Many heroic characters in literature and movies are unlikeable. &nbsp;("Colombo" is annoying and bothersome, but we love him. &nbsp;So is Johnny's Depp's Jack Sparrow and many of the roles played by George Clooney, Sandra Bullock, and Jack Nicholson.) &nbsp;Would it be okay with you to be an "antihero" in your own life? &nbsp;If you don't want to be an antihero, you have the power to be the person you want. &nbsp;</div><div><br></div><div>Your behaviors and thoughts are completely under your control. &nbsp;What other people think of you is not under your control. &nbsp;You are completely in the driver's seat here. &nbsp;The choices are all yours. &nbsp;Enjoy who you are, and use your will power to make yourself who you want to be! &nbsp;~Mark &nbsp;(www.MarkMorrisLCSW.com and www.LivingYes.org)</div><div><div><br></div><div><br></div></div></div>