How do I get my sex drive back after my rape?
I was raped by multiple men, and now I can't stand the sight of myself. I wear lingerie to get my self excited enough to have sex with my wife.
Self-esteem,Marriage,Trauma,Intimacy
<p>I am very sorry to hear about your rapes. &nbsp;Traumatic events, such as rape, can have some lasting effects. &nbsp;Issues with sex drive are one of these effects. &nbsp;Therapy can help to decrease the impact that traumatic events have upon our lives as we process through some of our experiences. &nbsp; EMDR can be a particularly effective modality of treatment to address this issues. &nbsp;</p><p>I would also encourage you to have an honest conversation with your wife about this concern. &nbsp;Sometimes it is helpful to have that conversation with a therapist so that the therapist can help educate &nbsp;your wife in regards to effects of trauma. &nbsp;This may help her understand that your feelings are more about the trauma and less about her as a person. &nbsp;</p><p>Best of luck to you! &nbsp;</p>