How can I have a normal sex life with my significant other when I keep having triggers from past sexual abuse?
I'm fine when we start becoming intimate, but out of nowhere, I will get a flashback of what happened to me in the past. I start hysterically crying and freaking out when my boyfriend obviously has done nothing to hurt me.
Intimacy,Trauma
<p>&nbsp;Sexual intimacy can be very triggering for survivors even when it is both wanted and consensual. &nbsp;You may want to consider seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma to work through the abuse if you have not already done so. Often times triggers still hold such a powerful effect when the emotions related to the abuse &nbsp;have not been fully processed. &nbsp;In the meantime, you may want to consider coming up with a Safe Word to let your partner know that you are being triggered or to communicate your physical boundaries to him. &nbsp;Often times, the experience of communicating &nbsp;your physical boundaries to your partner, having those boundaries respected and validated, and having a partner who is understanding and &nbsp;willing to engage in intimacy in such a way that does not violate your physical boundaries &nbsp;can reinforce a sense of safety with him.&nbsp;</p>