How can I improve my relationship with my daughter?
Me and my adult daughter just do not get along.  She's very belittling to me when I don't agree with her. It's almost like she scolds me. We get into all out war. She's said I don't support her in what she does and that I've never loved her. She calls me horrible names, and she pushes my buttons to the point I call her names.
Family Conflict,Parenting
<p>As frustrating and probably hurtful as your daughter's comments sound, there's also a message in them about how she genuinely feels.</p><p>To some degree, your daughter and you may both feel similarly misunderstood by the other.</p><p>Developing ways of listening and talking to one another to better understand how you each feel, would probably help a lot.</p><p>One major point to be aware, is that the mother/daughter relationship dynamic, because it is strong, may slow the new dynamic of relating as two adults.</p><p>Watch for your own tendency to expect your daughter to consider you as a parenting authority, instead of considering her as a grown person.</p><p><br></p><p>The same is true of your daughter. &nbsp;She may need to remind herself to talk to you as the adult she is.</p><p>Her needs from you are real, they just need to be spoken to you in an adult way.</p>