How should I handle the child I had with my ex-wife?
My ex-wife married and used me to have a child. She now uses that child as a pawn. I know my child misses me, but I need to move on and not live in the past. How do I do this? Do I see my child as much as possible or very little? Is it more confusing for the child?
Parenting,Relationship Dissolution 
What are the ways your ex-wife uses your child as a pawn?<div><br></div><div>This answer determines the best ways to handle particular situations.</div><div><br></div><div>Basically, distinguish that your father relationship to your child lasts has great meaning for your child and as the adult, the responsibility for managing this relationship falls on you.</div><div><br></div><div>Your relationship to your ex wife took place between two adults and therefore you are only responsible for your own actions to repair the damage done to you.</div><div>From what you write, you already have a plan in progress to do this by separating yourself as much as possible from contact with the ex.</div><div><br></div><div>In a way the challenge of keeping active as a parent while also distancing and clearing your emotions of the hurt and betrayal done to you, will establish both a solid relationship with your child and grow more acceptance and self-forgiveness of having been taken advantage of and tricked.</div>