Because they lack a model of a successful marriage, this severely affects their intimate relations with the other person and their ability to find balance. "It is like asking a person who has never seen anyone dance to take a partner around the floor," is the metaphor used by Wallerstein.
由於欠缺成功婚姻的榜樣，嚴重影響了他們與另一個人親密共處與求取平衡的能力，「就好像要求一個從未見過人跳舞的人跳舞一樣，」朱蒂絲比喻。