To many couples in love, such questions are almost blasphemy. They keep their thoughts on these issues to themselves until after they are married, then begin what becomes a never-ending domestic battle, both overt and covert, as they struggle to resolve them. Both sides feel "tricked" and put upon, and the more they fight, the more damage they do to their relationship.
許多熱戀中的男女覺得愛情不能被「俗務」褻瀆，婚前什麼事都悶著不講，婚後才開始無止盡的明爭暗鬥，結果雙方都覺得自己受騙吃虧，感情也越「鬥」越薄。