As the children get bigger, the mother should allow them to take care of them selves. This will save the mother from exhaustion with the added bonus of teaching the children to be more independent.
而如果孩子長大了，就應該放手讓他們料理自己的日常生活，讓小孩學習獨立，而不是一味代勞，弄得自己疲累不堪。