The way Mrs. Lee sees it, she is fortunate to be in the US without too many relatives around to voice their endless opinions and criticisms. This has allowed her to discuss the matter with her son, calmly weigh the benefits and drawbacks, and make a decision which "while it may not adhere to traditional Chinese concepts of filial piety, is really the best choice for all concerned."
她認為，幸好這是在美國，沒有太多親族的指指點點、說長道短，才能讓母子倆平心靜氣地斟酌利弊，做了一個「可能不符合中國人傳統孝親觀點，但實際上對大家都最好」的選擇。