She was trying too hard even as she wrote this book, for in it she forces herself to forgive her mother, yet she cannot acknowledge that she was never loved. She hasn't faced the hatred she feels. She can't come right out and shout, "I hate what she did to me!
但如果受創者強迫自己原諒，卻不願正視自己恨的情緒，大聲說出討厭、憎恨母親對她的作為，從心理治療而言，受創者並未度過最重要的一關。