But after my father passed away, I deeply felt what Professor Hsiao had said: "One of the most important functions of a [funeral] ceremony is to ease grief. But [the way the] custom [is traditionally practiced] cruelly ignores women's needs and deprives them of their rights."
可是我爸走後，從喪葬儀式到現在，我深切感到蕭教授所說的「儀式最重要的功用原在『釋放悲傷』，可是習俗卻粗暴地剝奪了女人哀悼的需求與權利！」