When men want something, they will say so, whether or not they can get it. Women, however, are held back by long-held ideas that "lack of talent is a virtue in women." They are ashamed to show their ability and desire for power, and would rather play the hard-done-by role of a person whose talents are not recognized than talk openly about what they want.
男性想要什麼，不管能不能得到，都會勇敢說出來；女性則囿於「女子無才便是德」的觀念，羞於展示自己的實力和權力慾，寧可當「深宮怨婦」，也不願意明白說出內心的期望。