According to Little Feet, Western Clothes, in the five short years they were married Xu and Lu hardly had a family life. "Because it was easier to obtain opium in Shanghai, Xiaoman refused to move to Beijing, forcing Zhimo to shuttle back and forth between the two cities.
根據《小腳與西服》的描述，徐陸婚後的短短五年間，幾乎沒過過什麼家庭生活，「因為上海比較容易要到鴉片，所以小曼執意不肯赴北京，使得志摩只好京、海兩地奔波」，作者張邦梅似乎也有「志摩之死，小曼也應負責之意」。