The Chinese have a saying that "It takes 10 years [of cultivation in past lives] to [create the bonds of fate to] cross a river in the same boat with someone. and 100 years to share the same pillow for life." But though fate may destine people to meet or even to marry this does not guarantee that it is a good or kind fate.
中國人說「十年修得同船渡，百年修得共枕眠」，固然修得相遇或相守的緣，卻不保證是善緣或良緣。