"Friends know when they can talk about it," says Hsiao-Y, "and when they can't." Hsiao-Y lives with her boyfriend near campus, but there's no way she'll say so around people older than herself or her coworkers. As for friends of her age and her classmates, "They know," she says. "It's no big thing."
「『可做不可說』，朋友自然而然知道什麼時候可以談這件事，什麼時候不行，」和男友租屋在大學旁同住的小 Y 說，長輩和工作上的夥伴絕對不能說，至於同輩和同學，「知道了，也沒什麼了不起。」