Some say, "They met some bad friends," "His classmates made them do it," etc. In other words, many families will blame a child's running away on external forces that "pulled" the child away, yet very few will think seriously about what things in the family were "pushing" the child out.
「孩子交到壞朋友」、「孩子被同學帶出去」…… 等等，家屬多半把孩子離家的原因歸咎於外來的「拉力」，較少虛心檢討家庭的「推力」。