She notes that one common denominator of all affairs is that they happen in marriages that were already having problems long before. For spouses up to their neck in a sea of unhappiness, an affair is like a passing piece of driftwood-they grab on in a desperate effort to escape their marital torment.
她指出，外遇者的共同特徵，是早在發生外遇前，婚姻就已出現裂痕，外遇只是偶爾漂過的一根浮木，成為擺脫婚姻苦海的一個助力罷了。