Tom J. feels that his marriage hit the rocks due to purely personal factors rather than cultural differences. In his opinion, the biggest hurdle facing spouses from different cultures is linguistic. Even though he speaks Mandarin so well that one cannot detect any hint of a foreign accent, he confides that when tempers flared, he and his wife still had problems with communication.
梅漢強認為自己的異國婚姻觸礁，無關東、西文化差異，完全是個人因素，若要說異國婚姻有什麼障礙，他認為語言上的障礙比較難突破，雖然梅漢強的中文好到連口音都沒有，但他表示，在激動的時候，與太太仍有溝通上的問題。