If you really can't learn the American way of "not backing down if you're in the right," then by calmly facing circumstances at least one can live happier, not always complaining that one is living in a foreign land and not "creating friction and disaffection" in the limited circle of overseas Chinese society.
如果真的學不來「有道理就不要讓步」的美國社會運行規則，隨遇而安的心境至少可以讓人活得比較愉快，不自怨自艾是個外國移民，也不在有限的華人圈子裡「人比人，氣死人」。