Wu relates, "I asked them 20 questions, including their most painful, embarrassing, and distasteful experiences. I even asked them what they would want engraved on their tombstone and other questions they didn't like. Their first response was total bewilderment. After they began thinking about them, some started to cry.
「我一口氣問了學員廿個問題，其中包括：最痛苦的、最尷尬的、最不喜歡的經驗等，甚至問到諸如：如果你死時，墓碑要刻那兩句話等讓人不愉快的問題。