He avers that married couples have been through a long process of falling in love, marriage, and living together, which provides a foundation of emotional attachment and understanding. When divorce becomes inevitable, the two people have already been through repeated internal struggles.
他認為，離婚的雙方經過戀愛、結婚、共同生活的感情和理智的基礎，到了不能不離時，雙方都歷經反反覆覆的心靈交戰，所謂恩愛在這個時候已經世俗化，比較可以心如止水的劃下休止符。