You need to have these things clear in your own mind, and, when the time comes, you have to express them clearly to your partner. Those who marry to advance themselves shouldn't complain that their spouse worships money and has no soul; those who catch themselves a handsome husband or beautiful wife shouldn't then moan that their spouse is narcissistic or self-centered.
不但要想清楚，必要時還應該「說明白」。換句話說，躍登龍門者，不要嫌配偶拜金、沒有靈性；被才子、美女所擄獲的人，也不要怪配偶自戀、自我中心。