In such circumstances the fathers often have extreme reactions. Some refuse to face the problem and totally disregard it, causing even greater pain for the mother. And others seek outside help with the attitude, "My wife's down, if I don't get up myself, our family is never going to recover."
而父親在這種情況下表現也很極端，有的拒絕面對，置之不理，對母親造成再度傷害；有的則是在「太太已經倒下，自己若不站起來，這個家將一蹶不振」的理智驅使下，尋找外援。