No wonder then that many people having problems with their marriages "deal" with them by having an affair, becoming violent, turning into a workaholic or shopaholic, or even consulting a fortune-teller or fengshui expert-anything but sitting down and calmly analyzing their marriage and themselves.
無怪乎多數人面臨婚姻問題時，會以外遇、暴力、工作狂、購物狂、甚至算命改風水做因應，就是拒絕平心靜氣坐下來，把自己的婚姻──以及自己──好好剖析一番。