And when they became excited, they would chastise them, "Don't get carried away." If their boy was weeping, parents would tell him, "Men don't shed tears lightly." When one has the habit of suppressing emotions, feelings are held back until they can be held no longer, at which time they erupt. This is the source of violent behavior and psychosomatic illness.
吳娟瑜舉例，孩子生氣時，父母會說：「不要那麼容易動怒」；高興時會罵：「不要得意忘形」；甚至孩子哭泣時，會要求：「男兒有淚不輕彈」，亦即慣用壓抑的方法來處理情緒，直到壓抑不住便爆發出來，這是暴力行為或身心疾病的根源。