Chang says that many parents use praise without making it clear to the child just what he is being praised for, and this "cheats" the child rather than showing him true respect.
她指出，很多父母在讚美孩子時並沒有明確的告訴孩子為什麼讚美他，好像在「騙」孩子似的，並沒有真正的尊重孩子。