While serving as an objective third-party negotiator, Child Welfare League Foundation social work supervisor Sung Chia-hui discovered that in the course of their divorce proceedings many people try and superficially focus the disputes on their catchcries of "I love my kids, I can't bear to lose them!" However, in reality this is just a means for them to vent their anger, shame, and frustration at their perceived failure.
兒盟「離婚協議商談」社工督導宋家慧在協談中擔任客觀的「第三者」時發現，許多離婚當事人表面上把爭議的焦點放在「我最愛孩子，我不能失去孩子」身上，但實際上卻是自己對這段失敗婚姻產生的憤怒、愧疚、希望扳回一城等情緒的發洩與投射。