The vanishing of a life involves a process, and if we wait until the last moment before confronting this, then only a passive form of relief can be obtained. If the living, and the dead, are to be spared too much regret, they should deal with death together, in advance.
「生命的消逝有其過程，到了臨終才來面對，事實上都只有消極性的救渡，」林谷芳提醒，若要生者、死者都減少遺憾，更應該積極地在生前共同參與。