They were together almost every single day for the first month they knew each other, but had hardly any erotic interest in one another. Ko wanted only to help her find herself artistically, and when they married in 1985 they kept it a secret from their families.
樊潔兮笑說，他們初見面的那個月，幾乎天天膩在一起，卻少有情慾；他只想幫助喜歡跳舞卻還找不到方向的她，尋找藝術的出路。