For example, people often say "should ..." "never ..." or "always ..." Some family norms require that children never show anger and that no matter what anyone says, they should always be obedient. But, whether they know it or not, this is not congruent with human nature. For instance, long-term suppression of anger can easily lead to physical or mental harm.
比如，人們常常會說許多「應該」、「永遠不可以」或「永遠要… …」，有些家庭規條就要求孩子永遠不可以憤怒，不管人家說什麼，都應該要聽話、要乖；卻不自知這些是很不人性的，像長期壓抑憤怒就很容易使身心受創。