She used this observation in teaching her children. She admonished them not to get angry in discussions with others if they felt something was wrong, but to find an excuse to break off for a while and cool down. They should also put themselves in the other person's shoes to help him be more imaginative; each side can then take a step back and gradually find a position both sides can accept.
她把這樣的觀察放在教育上，並告誡子女，和人家談事情，如果覺得不妥，不要當場翻臉，應該先找個適當理由離開，冷靜一下，同時要站在對方的立場上幫他設想，彼此各退一步，再慢慢「喬」出一個雙方都能接受的方案。