The women advance confidently to stand at the sides of their husbands or older brothers. It's said that young women, according to tradition, could stepup to the man of their choice, but now they stand off to the side, slightly embarrassed, waiting to be drawn into the dance. Their coyness seems to be an affectation picked up from the Han Chinese.
女子也隨即跟進，那要加入自己丈夫或兄長身邊的，大大方方就走了進去；據說按傳統，年輕的小姐可以主動插在意中人的旁邊，現在卻都略帶害羞地站在場外，等著被拉進去共舞，看來這份「矜持」是被漢化的。