Hsieh herself came to realize that understanding "pure love" meant learning to love herself and to love others. Loving herself meant accepting and affirming her true self, as well as sometimes letting herself off the hook. Over the years, she has seen too many people make themselves miserable by forcing themselves down dead ends. Loving others meant giving them hope and joy, and allowing them to be themselves.
她的體悟是：要學習「淨化的真愛」，包括愛自己和愛別人──愛自己是接納、肯定自己，還要適時放過自己，她看到很多人因為把自己逼到死角而不快樂；而愛別人，就是要給人歡喜、希望，讓每個人成為他自己。