"You ever heard the phrase "It's all fun and games until someone gets hurt"?" Inga said softly.  "I love your confidence, Ana.  And I'm proud of what you've accomplished.  But you have a cavalier attitude when it comes to fetish play.  Like you believe no one ever dies of erotic asphyxia.  Or from electrocution or heart attack during electrical play.  Or...from...trusting...the...wrong...person<b>."  </b>She spaced out the words and emphasized them in that last sentence.<br/><br/><b>"</b>Over 60% of newcomers will experience an injury.  That number is cut in half with people of intermediate experience.  But then shoots back up to over 60% for those who consider themselves advanced, mainly because they become overconfident and try riskier behavior. Half of those injuries are minor, but half are more serious.  If you intend to play the sub role, be aware that you're twice as likely to get injured than a switch or a dom."<br/><br/>"And then there's those oh so important safe words you speak when you feel in danger.  Women have their safe words ignored twice as often as men.  Which makes it important that you choose wisely who you want to indulge in fetish play with.  Your life could depend on who you trust your body to."<br/><br/>"Now, I know I haven't given you a "valid reason" why you shouldn't indulge in fetish play.  More like I've given you a valid reason why I SHOULDN'T be doing it myself.  I suppose I'm predisposed to being whipped and abused by Lisa because of an abusive drunk of a father. He whipped me mercilessly until the modeling agency discovered me.  He couldn't inflict cuts and bruises on me after I started modeling because I'd become the money-maker of the family.  So he took his anger out on mom.  I'm sure you think I was too strict on you growing up, but I never hit you.  And I cringe at the thought of someone else hitting you."<br/><br/>"Just to be clear, the intensity of the beatings from my father are different than the whippings I receive from Lisa.  His caused pain. Hers are of a more playful and erotic variety, and cause a mixture of pain and pleasure.  Ana, I know you're going to do what you want to do, no matter what I say. I'm just hoping and praying you'll make smart decisions.  As for Lisa, don't let her rush you into anything. Take some time to think this through carefully.  Bondage and fetish play is risky, even with the right person."