Hello, everybody
哈喽大家好
I'm Jasmine. Welcome to my channel
我是Jasmine，欢迎来到我的频道
That today?
那今天呢
It's a good day
是个好日子
Because the outbreak is under control
由于疫情的控制呢
Finally sent the child back to day care
终于把孩子送回了日托
So what about today
所以今天呢
Just do what you promised
就履行一下之前的承诺
Let's talk about the post-natal Diablo series
跟大家来聊产后的暗黑系列
So, I know. What about the immune decline
那我知道其实对于什么免疫力下降之类的话题
What you might be more interested in is that the body is something that's visible
你们可能更感兴趣的是身体就是可见的一些变化
So here we are today
所以我们今天呢
Let's start by talking about whether breasts sag or not
就首先来聊一聊胸到底会不会下垂
So that's the question
那这个问题
What if you went to the doctor
如果你去问医生呢
The doctor will tell you about it
医生一定会跟你说这个问题呢
In fact, it varies from person to person
其实是因人而异的
That depends largely on your personal situation
那主要是看你个人的情况
And then the nursing
然后喂奶的情况吧
I'm telling you, liar! Let me translate it for you
我跟你说，骗子！我给你翻译一下
His subtext is that it's definitely going to sag
他的潜台词就是其实肯定是会下垂的
It's just that everyone has a different degree of droop
只是每个人下垂的程度不一样
As long as you get pregnant and give birth
只要你怀孕生孩子
Whether you're nursing or not
无论你有没有喂奶
No matter how long you milk
无论你为多久的奶
Your breasts are gonna be flat. What does sag look like really vary from person to person
你的胸都一定会扁。下垂成什么样真的是因人而异的
There's someone he might have been fat before
那有人他可能以前很胖
Then suddenly lose 50 jin
然后忽然减肥五十斤
He also has loose skin on his body
他也会身体的皮肤会松弛
And then the chest goes down
然后胸也会下垂
And there's a man
那有个人呢
She nursed for a long time
她喂奶很长时间
And the nursing position is very incorrect
并且喂奶姿势非常不正确
And then, like me, the posture of pumping milk was never quite right
后来就像我一样就是泵奶的姿势一直非常不正确
Because you've been so edgy
因为你一直在很急躁的
You want to milk your udder like you milk a cow
想给给奶牛挤奶一样的挤你的乳房
So he's bound to grow
所以他一定会越长越长
Is well
就是恩
It's just like that so it's drooping
就那样所以就是下垂的
This state varies from person to person
这个状态是因人而异的
But it's bound to deflate
但是一定会瘪
So Let me tell you something
那我就跟你们说一下
The way my breasts used to be
我以前的胸部的状态
What he means is that the standard water drop shape is exceptionally full
他其实就是说那种标准的水滴型特别的饱满
When I was in college
我当时大学的时候
He's from the dorm
他就是宿舍的人嘛
Every once in a while you get a chance to be honest
时不时你就有坦诚相见的机会
Like you change clothes or something
比如说你换个衣服呀什么的
And then I was a rather slovenly person
然后我这个人又是挺不修边幅的一个人
And then sometimes
然后有的时候
The little sister of my dormitory can say wow good envy I can touch
我的宿舍的小姐妹就会说哇好羡慕我能摸一下吗
Many young girls envy others for their big boobs
很多年轻的女孩子就会羡慕别人胸大呀
Straight ah once can attract the eye of opposite sex ah of what
挺拔呀一下就可以吸引异性的目光啊什么的
I'll tell you what
其实我告诉你
Really don't envy
真的不要羡慕
After you've given birth and after you've breastfed your baby
就是当你生完孩子哺乳完了之后
You'll find small breasts
你会发现小胸
The advantage of small breasts is that they don't have that much content in the first place
小胸的优势的就是首先因为你的胸没有那么多内容
Maybe you don't hang too much
可能你也不太会垂
Well, that's what happened to me because I was so big
那我后来的状况就是因为我太大了嘛
And then you are bigger than you
然后就是你大的是你
And then when you're pregnant
然后到你怀孕的时候呢
It is also very full
就是也是非常的就是饱胀
But when you were -- when you were pregnant
但是你那个你那个怀孕的时候
That feeling of bloating is not what you feel when you're young
那种胀奶那种感觉就不是你年轻的时候
The fullness of a little girl
小姑娘的那种饱满那种感觉
I think it's time to be a girl
觉得就是少女的时候
Your breasts are full
你的乳房很饱满
It's a beautiful feeling
是那种很漂亮的感觉
But when you get pregnant and give birth
但是你当你怀孕生孩子
A swollen breast during lactation is a swollen sensation. Is the child that hands and feet are very chubby feeling and adult that because of this diabetic ascites what is the body swelling
哺乳期那个乳房很肿胀就是肿了的感觉。就是小孩子那个手脚都是很胖乎乎的感觉和大人那种因为这个糖尿病的腹水什么的就是身体肿胀
The feeling is different
那种感觉是不一样的
Do you know?
你们懂吗
So this is the same thing for girls
所以这个对于女生来说也是一样的
When you're pregnant or when you're breast-feeding
就是当你怀孕的时候或者是这个哺乳期
Especially when she's milking
她特别是涨奶的时候
And then the feeling is that your areola is going to be stretched out indefinitely
然后那种感觉就是你的乳晕会被无限制地撑大
Then turn black
然后变黑
And then there's hair growing on it or something like that
然后上面还会长毛之类的就是那种感觉
You'll think I understand a lot about moms
你会觉得我理解很多妈妈
They would say I really didn't like my body at the time
他们都会觉得说那个时候我真的很不喜欢自己的身体
Because there's a transition from being a very pretty girl to being a very middle-aged woman
因为会从一个就是很漂亮的一个少女的那个阶段一下过渡到了这种就是很中年妇女的阶段
Many mothers find it impossible
很多妈妈会觉得很不可
I can't stand it.
很不能承受
That's actually what I want to talk to you about
那其实我想跟你们说的是
Everyone is the same
其实每个人都是一样的
No matter how big or small your boobs are
无论你胸大胸小
And then there's breast milk and there's no breast milk
然后有有母乳和没有母乳
He's all the same
他都是一样的
I'd been nursing for a few months
那我当时就是喂完了几个月的奶
The way I feel is every time I use the milk pump
我的感觉就是我每次在用那milk pump的时候
I feel like I'm milking a cow
我就感觉我是在给牛挤奶
It's just that you know where you're going
就是你知道只是方位不一样
And then you're sitting
然后你是坐着的
And then we have this chest going in this direction
然后是这个胸部是这个方向
And then you milk the cows
然后你给牛挤奶的话
You could be in this direction
你可能是这个方向
But you really want to squeeze in this direction. Because it's convenient
但是其实你很想在这个方向挤。因为就很方便了
Because you think it might be a little smoother that way
因为你就会觉得那样子的话可能会更顺畅一些
And then you feel like when you get dressed and you sit up maybe it's not that dramatic
然后你就会感觉到就是当你穿上衣服坐起来的时候可能还没有那么的夸张
But sometimes you just lean over
但是其实你有的时候就是你俯下身去
When you're like this
就是当你这个样子的时候
You'll feel like talking about your boobs
你就会觉得说你的这个胸
Blessed by gravity
由于地心引力的加持
You will feel your two breasts
你会觉得你的两个胸
Like two pendulums just like that
像两个钟摆一样就那样
The idea in my head at that time was that I hadn't said anything about frost beating eggplant
我当时头脑里面的想法就是还没有说什么霜打的茄子啊
what
什么的
I know it could be something like that
我知道可能是就是大概是这个样子
But the picture in my head is really of a man milking a cow
但是我头脑里面的画面真的就是一个人在给这牛挤奶
But I have never milked a cow
但是我从来没有给牛挤过奶
I've only seen that picture
我只看过那个图片
But what I did was give me a visual shock
可是我当时的就是给我的视觉冲击
That gives me the intuition
给我的直观感受就是那个样子的
I don't know if you ever saw it as a kid
我不知道你们小时候有没有看过
Is very old
就是很老
The way an old man in his 70s or 80s takes a bath
七八十多岁的老人洗澡的样子
Some boys will laugh
有的男生就会笑
They are. How do you put your chest over your shoulder
她们。说就是怎么把胸搭在肩膀上
I've actually seen it
我是真的亲眼看到过
It's the kind where an old man actually puts his chest over his shoulder
就是老人是真的把胸部搭在肩膀上的那种
That's where they want to get under their breasts
就是他们要洗到就是胸部之下的地方嘛
And I've been ignoring the commentary how could this be
然后我之前一直不理解说怎么会这个样子呢
How can someone be the skin is flabby to that degree
怎么会有人就是皮肤松弛到那种程度呢
But when I gave birth
但是当我产后的时候
I'm really going to go into my head and say if I'm going to get there someday
我真的脑袋里面就会想说是不是我有一天也会到那种程度
Probably not now
当然可能现在是不会了
Because as you can see I had a breast reduction surgery that I talked about in the previous video
因为你们也看到我之前是我之前的视频里有说过做了一个缩胸的手术
Ordinary people would say
普通人就会说
So if it's a girl with small breasts, will it sag
那如果是胸小的女孩子会不会下垂啊什么的
I feel like I'm actually surrounded by girls with small breasts
我会觉得其实我身边一些就是小胸的女孩子
She probably won't feel that bad
她可能不会感觉到就是那么难受
It's just so obvious that it feels like a pendulum hanging from your body
就是那么明显的就是像钟摆一样挂在上身上的感觉
But they can also be very upset
但是他们其实也会很苦恼
It felt like there wasn't much chest shrinkage to begin with
感觉就是本来就没有多大的胸部缩水了
In fact, I will understand a lot of new mothers
其实我会很理解很多新妈妈
It is when they suffer such changes in their bodies
他们在就是遭受身体的这样变化的时候
You have very little confidence in your body
就会对自己的身体很没有自信
And then you feel like, "Oops.
然后就会觉得说哎呀
How did I end up like this
我现在怎么变成这个样子
I feel a deep sadness
就觉得深深的悲哀
Then including with the husband together also very worried that the husband will abandon their own
然后包括跟老公在一起的时候也很担心老公会嫌弃自己
And then it's very insecure
然后也很没有安全感
Have no confidence
没有自信
And then what I want to say is this
然后我想说的是
well
嗯
Actually,
其实
Whether you have children or not
无论你有没有生孩子
And then your body will have one
然后你的身体都会有一个
From very young
从非常年轻
And then there's the phase where the hormone that's going to bloom is going to come out
然后就是就是都要开花的那个荷尔蒙往外冒的那个阶段
And then gradually mature
然后当初逐渐成熟
Gradually aging
逐渐衰老
We all have one
我们所有人都会有一个这样的过程
Then it's not you
然后不是你自己
Going through this phase
在经历这个阶段
All of us are with you
我们所有的人都陪着你一起
Going through this phase
在经历这样的阶段
The first thing you have to do is accept yourself for who you are
那首先你其实一定要接受自己的状态
Then be sure to still love yourself
然后一定要依旧爱着你自己
I remember that it was Tao Who said something before
我记得之前就是陶晶莹说过一段话
He said he hated his body for a while after he had a baby
他就说他而生孩子之后有段时间就是特别讨厌自己的身体
Because you'll notice your breasts are sagging too
因为就会发现胸也下垂了
And all that meat on the stomach
然后肚子上的那些肉啊
Just because they have stretch marks
就因为就是又有妊娠纹用
Then it was dark again
然后又是黑黑的
And then it becomes very relaxed
然后变得很松弛
Heap up there
堆在那边
He felt particularly ugly
他又觉得特别的丑
And then but one day
然后但是有一天
It suddenly dawned on her
她忽然就想明白了
Then one day he was in the shower and all of a sudden he felt his belly
然后有一天他在洗澡的时候就忽然一下就摸着自己的肚皮
And then say you're tired
然后就说你们辛苦了
Then I think it is a very unpleasant not to accept
那我觉得这就是一个从非常的讨厌不接纳
And then to the process of full acceptance
然后到完全接纳的过程过程
I want every new mom to have a process of self-acceptance that you actually want your body to go through a lot of fun with
我希望每个新妈妈就是都要有一个这样的自我接纳的过程就是其实你要想你的身体陪你经历了很多很多开心也好
Unhappy is a good experience
不开心也好的经历
And then you have to think
然后你要想
In fact, they are your most loyal companions
其实他们是你最忠实的伙伴
You can do it later
你可以之后再通过锻炼呢
Or through some means such as medical treatment
或者是通过医美呀等一些手段
Or like me
或者像我这样
They can be surgically transformed back into something very beautiful
干脆就通过手术一些手段把他们再变回非常漂亮的阶段
But when you're the one
但是当你还是这样的一个
When you feel a little out of step with yourself
你自己觉得有一点不OK的阶段的时候
I also hope that you can just from the heart to accept their own body, do not feel inferior.
我也希望你可以就是发自内心的接纳自己的身体，不要自卑。
So here's what I'd like to say to any new dads out there who might see this video
所以这里我也想跟可能看到这条视频的新爸爸们说
Really go out of your way to compliment your wife
真的要不遗余力的去称赞你的老婆
Because everyone is once that young and fresh girl
因为谁都是曾经那个年轻水灵的小姑娘
When you marry her
你娶她的时候
She is bright and beautiful
她都是鲜亮美好的
But I've been through the big thing of giving birth
但是就是经历过生育这件重大的事情
after
之后
She will actually have a flower that blooms until it bears fruit
她其实会有一个从鲜花盛开到结了果实
Then the flowers fall in such a process
然后鲜花掉落的这样的一个过程
That's actually the process
那其实这个过程的话
In her heart there is a great deal
在她的内心是有很大的
Touch is
触动的是
Plus hormonal influences
再加上荷尔蒙的影响
He may have seen such a changing state of his body at that time
他可能在那个时期看到自己身体这样的一个变化的状况
In fact, the mood will be very low
其实情绪会很低落的
This time more need you to spend with him
这个时候更需要你跟他一起度过
Need your praise more
更需要你的赞美
You need to appreciate from the bottom of your heart
更需要你发自内心的去欣赏
Her beauty at this time
她在这个时期的美
In fact, women in any period have his unique beauty of this period
其实女人在任何一个时期都有他这个时期独特的美
Maybe compared to when I was younger
可能跟年轻的时候相比
We don't have that little girl kind of water that's full of collagen in every part of the body
我们就没有了那种小姑娘的那种水里那种满满的胶原蛋白就是在身体的任何一个部位
The collagen is going to spill over
胶原蛋白都要溢出来的
That feeling of fullness
那种饱饱满感
But?
但是呢
We may also be less impetuous
我们可能也少了那份浮躁
Less of that heart of high pride. And much more
少了那份心心高气傲。而多了
Some maturity and calmness
一些成熟冷静
And then you get this age
然后多了这个年纪
This poise and certainty in life that you deserve
该有的这个沉着和对生活的笃定
And then the sense of control that our lives involve
然后对这个我们生活包括对自己的掌控感
And then at this point
然后在这个时候呢
We will be just a mother's love
我们也会就是多了一份母爱
More is the whole person will have a sense of landing
多就是整个人会有种落地了的感觉
In fact, this was right after I gave birth
其实这个就是当时我生完孩子之后
A lot of friends will tell me
很多朋友会跟我说
ah
哎
I found out before you had the baby
我发现你生孩子之前
It's just not going to be the same
和之后你的状态就是不一样了
Is that your character is not so impetuous
就是你的性格就没有那么的浮躁了
Then your whole personality will be less grumpy
然后你整个人的戾气也没有那么重了
And then you have more peace
然后你更多的是一种平和
The other thing to say is don't be afraid of your breasts going in a worse direction
还想说的就是不要因为怕自己的乳房会有一个更不好的走向
And there is some psychological pressure when feeding
而在喂奶的时候有一些心理压力
That's not necessary. Because the length of time you are nursing is not positively correlated with how droopy you are
这个没有必要。因为你喂奶的时间长短跟你下垂的程度其实是并不是正相关的
Then breast-feeding is a good one
然后喂奶是一个很好的
State by state with the baby. It's just that you feel really good
跟这个baby连接的一个一个状态。就是你那时候的感觉会特别的好
The special feeling of satisfaction is that you and the baby will have a strong bond
特别的满足就感觉，你跟这个小baby会有一个很强的这个纽带
And then that satisfaction is a very special kind of satisfaction that you don't get in anything else
然后那种满足感是你在其他事情上都得不到的一种非常特殊的满足感啊
How can I describe it here
我这里怎么形容呢
I don't know how to describe it
我也不知道怎么形容
But I know that any mother who has breastfed will have that experience
但是我知道母乳过的妈妈应该都会有这种体会
So I also particularly understand why there are so many moms
所以我也特别理解为什么有很多妈妈
They may be over a year old
他们可能到了孩子一岁多了
Even two years old
甚至两岁都舍不得断奶
Of course!
当然啦
If your own situation is like mine
如果你的本身的情况就像我一样
Is the milk
就是奶水
It's not very nutritious either
也没有什么营养啊
And then it was very painful
然后也非常的痛苦啊
Don't let this moral pressure around you
不要因为周围的这个道德压力啊
What must force oneself to nurse
什么的一定要逼着自己去喂奶
And then endure the pain that you don't need to
然后去承受这样本不需要承受的痛苦
Okay
好啦
Today's topic
今天的话题呢
So much for that
就聊到这里了
What if you've had a similar experience
如果你也有相似的经历呢
You are also welcome to leave me a comment at the bottom of the video
也欢迎你在视频的下方给我留言并且呢
Don't forget thumb up follow me
不要忘了点赞关注我
And click on the little bell next to it
并且点击旁边的小铃铛
So you won't miss my interesting topic later
这样就不会错过我后面有趣的话题啦
See you next time
那我们下期再见咯
Bye bye
拜拜