She is in love and it has affected her – should she go to a psychologist?
Question

                I am a nineteen-year-old girl, and I am love with someone, but I know that this love is haraam according to Islam, and I know that he does not love me, but there is no point in trying to forget this sickness, because when I tried to forget it, I found myself looking for a new love. I started to think of married men, single men, friends and cousins, etc, until I lost a lot of self-confidence. Thinking too much about this subject has started to bother me, and I started to think that there was some witchcraft, and I wanted to go to a Shaykh, but I am a bit hesitant. I do not know what to do. Now I want to go to a psychologist, but is that haraam and is it turning to someone other than Allaah? But I do not know what the solution to this problem is.
Praise be to Allah.Your 
    situation is not one of witchcraft or spells, such that you need to go to a 
    raaqi to perform ruqyah for you, and it is not a mental or nervous illness, 
    such that you need to go to a doctor. Rather it is the case of a heart that 
    has been affected by the shaytaan and his waswaas (whispers), who has 
    instilled ideas of haraam love, so that you started to inflame your desire 
    by means of poisonous (i.e., haraam) looks, wrong thoughts and false hopes, 
    until you have reached this state of sickness, as you are aware. 
Ibn 
    al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Chapter: The teachings of the 
    Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on how to deal with 
    love. 
This is one 
    of the diseases of the heart, which are different from other diseases in 
    their causes and remedies. If they take hold, they become too difficult for 
    the doctors to treat and they cause a great deal of trouble for the sick 
    person. 
Then he 
    said: Love of images only affects hearts that are void of the love of Allaah 
    and that turn away from Him and are content with things other than Allaah. 
    But when the heart is filled with love of Allaah and the longing to see Him, 
    that wards off the sickness of attraction to images. Hence Allaah said 
    concerning Yoosuf (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Thus it 
    was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. 
    Surely, he was one of Our chosen, (guided) slaves”
[Yoosuf 
    12:24]
This 
    indicates that sincerity (ikhlaas) is a means of warding off love and the 
    evil and immoral actions that it leads to. Protecting oneself against the 
    cause is also protecting oneself against what it leads to. Hence one of the 
    salaf said: Love is the sign of an empty heart. Zaad al-Ma’aad 4/365, 
    268 
You should 
    note, may Allaah protect you from the things that incur His wrath, that the 
    source of this sickness is in haraam looks, which are the harbinger of 
    calamity and which bring the sickness into the heart. Then the heart begins 
    to imagine things, until that leads to wishing for or imagining haraam 
    things. The Messenger of Allaah  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon 
    him) said: “Allaah has decreed for the son of Adam his share of zina, which 
    he will inevitably get. The zina of the eyes is looking and the zina of the 
    tongue is speaking. The heart wishes and hopes, and the private part 
    confirms that or denies it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6243) and Muslim 
    (2657). 
In that 
    case, you have to block the way that leads to this sickness and keep away 
    from places of danger and contagion. Hence Allaah commanded His believing 
    slaves to lower their gaze (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Tell the 
    believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and 
    protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for 
    them. Verily, Allaah is All‑Aware of what they do.
31. And 
    tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden 
    things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts)”
[al-Noor 
    24:30-31]
The greatest 
    means of protecting one’s chastity is by directing one's desire in the way 
    in which Allaah has permitted, which is by getting married if possible. If a 
    person is attracted to a specific individual, then he can marry that person, 
    as it was narrated that the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be 
    upon him) said: “There is nothing like marriage for two who love one 
    another.” Narrated by Ibn Maajah (1847) and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani 
    in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah. 
If a person 
    wants to get married in order to guard his chastity, without being attracted 
    to a specific person, then this is easier. In that case you can look to get 
    married quickly and overcome the obstacles that are in your way. There is 
    nothing wrong with seeking to keep yourself chaste. You can also seek the 
    help of people you trust in trying to achieve that, such as a righteous 
    sister or relative, or a mother who understands your needs. 
Until you 
    can manage to do that, keep yourself busy, mentally and physically, with 
    acts of worship and obedience, and do not give the shaytaan any opportunity 
    to reach your heart or distract you. The Prophet  (peace and blessings 
    of Allaah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, 
    let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and 
    guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it 
    will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1905) and Muslim 
    (1400). 
You should 
    also note that one of the most effective remedies for one who is affliected 
    with that is to turn sincerely to the One who answers the prayer of the 
    needy when he calls upon Him and to persist in seeking His help with 
    submission and humility. This is the first step, then he should strive to 
    remain chaste and conceal the feelings that are in his heart. 
The Prophet 
     (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “ … whoever seeks to 
    be independent of means, Allaah will make him independent, and whoever is 
    patient Allaah will bestow patience upon him, and no one is ever given 
    anything better and more generous than patience.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari 
    (6470) and Muslim (1053). 
You know 
    that the other party does not share your feelings, and you know that there 
    is no way you can marry him, and what you are doing is haraam and foolish. 
    You still have your life ahead of you and it will be easy for you to find 
    halaal love from a righteous husband, so do not concern yourself with that 
    which Allaah has forbidden to you. 
In the 
    answer to question no. 21677 we have explained the best way to treat 
    anxiety, and given some important advice which you have to ponder. We also 
    state there that it is permissible to seek treatment from a psychologist, 
    but we do not think that you need to do that, because your problem is well 
    known and you are the cause of it; the remedy for you is what we have 
    mentioned and suggested above. 
In the 
    answer to question no. 10254 we have discussed the case of a woman who was 
    in love with a young man at school and wanted a solution. Look at this 
    answer too, and perhaps you may benefit from it. 
We ask 
    Allaah to make faith dear to you and to make kufr, immorality and sin 
    hateful to you, and to guide you to the best of words and deeds, and to 
    bless you with a righteous husband and good offspring. 
And Allaah 
    knows best.