He is hesitant to marry this girl because of her lack of religious commitment
Question

                I am a 27 years old man and I have a very strong desire to get married. This made me think of marrying any woman regardless how she looks like as long as she is religious. My cousin is very religious. She offered me to marry her daughter who is 15 years old but not as religious as I was hoping for. She prays on time, and she wore niqab after I engaged her because I asked for this. But she watches TV and she puts musical tones on her mobile phone.  

They day of proposal she said to me that she does not like religious people. I talked to her about this and her view started to change. Four months after our engagement she called me and said that she told her mother that she does not love me because when I visit them I sit with her family and not with her because she still is a non-mahram to me.  

She asked me if I can compensate for her not going to university; as we will marry in 3 year’s time, after secondary school and before university. I said to her: “I do not understand what you mean”, she said: “my friends and I want to go to university, know boys and love them and live the stage of university to its full. I do not think of getting married before this” I dealt with the situation considering her young and does not know what she is saying. She wants to imitate her friends because of they watch day and night love stories on TV. I tried to convince her that I can compensate.  

I am very afraid of what she is saying, I am very confused, I am writing this after two hours of my last phone call with her.  

Her mother and father and all her family want me to be their daughter’s husband. I was inclined to her initially. But now I fear she is not the religious woman I lived my life dreaming of marrying her. But at the same time I say to myself: “do not think bad of her, she still is young and she does not know what she says actually means” 

I wish you advise me to protect my deen, knowing that my financial circumstances are very weak now, none will accept me as a husband, they accepted me because they are my family and they know me well.
Praise be to Allah.
    There is a grave error that is committed by many of those who 
    want to get married and who are looking for life partners, both men and 
    women, which often leads their plans to failure, because both parties fall 
    victim to stress and grief, and society bears a new burden as the result of 
    divorce and its consequences. 

    The reason for this mistake is fanstasy, whereby one of the 
    couple wishes that his or her partner would change in the future to become 
    their dream partner which they always imagined when they were younger, and 
    that every shortcoming is going to be replaced with perfection. 

    These people try to ignore the present and look to an unknown 
    future, shunning reality and hoping to avoid confronting it. They forget 
    that what is required of everyone who gets married – if they want it to 
    succeed – is to be realistic in their conditions and choices, and realistic 
    in accepting or rejecting; they should not base it on illusions or 
    fantasies. Rather they should see the present as it is and base their 
    decisions on that foundation, so that they may bear direct responsibility 
    after that. 

    The reality of this girl indicates that she is not 
    religiously committed, and she is not suited to you. Your Prophet  
    (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) advised you to marry the one who 
    is religiously committed, and this is what you should do. Your claim that 
    her family have accepted you will not benefit you, because you are going to 
    live with the girl, not her family, and all they can do for you is to ask 
    you to be patient with her, regardless of how she treats you. 

    It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with 
    him) that the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
    “Women may be married for 
    four things: their wealth, their lineage, their beauty and their religious 
    commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be 
    rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5090; 
    Muslim, 1466. 

    Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
    What this means is that a man who is religiously 
    committed and of noble character should make religion his focus in all 
    things, especially with regard to long-term matters. So the Prophet (peace 
    and blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoined finding a wife who is 
    religiously committed, which is the ultimate goal.   

    Fath al-Baari (9/135) 

    Al-San’aani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  

    This hadeeth indicates that keeping company with 
    religiously-committed people in all things should be the priority, because 
    by keeping company with them one may benefit from their good attitude, 
    blessing and ways, especially one's wife, because she is the first one whose 
    religious commitment should be considered, because she is to be his close 
    companion, the mother of his children, the one with whom he trusts his house 
    and his wealth and herself. 

    Subul al-Salaam (1/146). 

    Secondly: 

    We advise you to seek the help of your Creator, may He be 
    exalted, to get married. Do not think that marrying this girl will never 
    cost you a great deal, because it seems that she would make many demands 
    even if that leads to your being poor. Do not worry if you forget about 
    marrying her and marry someone else, because Allaah has promised to help the 
    one who wants to get married in order to preserve his chastity. 

    It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with 
    him) said: The Messenger of Allaah  (peace and blessings of Allaah be 
    upon him) said: “There are three who are all entitled to Allaah’s help: the 
    one who fights for the sake of Allaah; the mukaatab who wants to pay (the 
    price of his freedom); and the one who gets married seeking chastity.” 
    Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1655), al-Nasaa’i (3218) and Ibn Majaah (2518); 
    classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 

    Al-Mubaarakfoori (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  

    “the one who gets married seeking chastity” means chastity 
    from zina. Al-Teebi said: The reason why he said that was because these are 
    difficult matters that may weigh heavily upon a person and break his back, 
    and unless Allaah helps him he will not be able to do them. The most 
    difficult of them is remaining chaste, because that means suppressing the 
    desire that is created in him and because it is an animalistic desire that 
    may pull be down to the lowest level, but if he remains chaste by the help 
    of Allaah, he will attain the status of the angels and the highest part of 
    ‘Illiyeen. 

    Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi (5/242). 

    To sum up: 

    As this girl is now, she is not suitable for you to marry 
    her. If she resolves to change for the better and tries hard to achieve 
    that, then marry her, but if she insists on carrying on as she is, and is 
    not sincere about changing, then leave her and look for someone else. We ask 
    Allaah to help you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. 

    And Allaah knows best.