The reprehensible tradition of the husband’s family showing the virginal blood
Question

                Is it permissible for the husband’s family to show the virginal blood?.
Praise be to Allah.
    Firstly: 

    This is a reprehensible tradition and an abhorrent action. It 
    is not permissible for the husband to go along with his family in this 
    matter or to agree to it in word or deed, for a number of reasons, including 
    the following: 

    1.

    This is one of the marital secrets that are to be kept. 
    Whatever goes on between the spouses in their private relationship, it is 
    not permissible for them to spread it among people or to tell anyone about 
    it?  

    2.

    This blood is not the sign that distinguishes between a 
    decent woman and others, as is well known, therefore the whole exercise is 
    pointless. 

    Please see the answer to question no.
    40278. 

    3.

    If we assume that the husband discovers that his wife is not 
    a virgin, then he is enjoined to conceal that fact and not disclose it to 
    people. What his family are asking him to do is helping in haraam 
    disclosure, not in concealment which is obligatory. 

    4. 

    Another of the evil effects of this reprehensible custom is 
    causing anxiety and stress to both spouses, because the husband is rushed 
    into breaking the hymen and the wife may not be ready on the first night, so 
    he may cause her to bleed heavily and cause resentment in the marital 
    relationship. 

    5.

    This reprehensible tradition implicitly accuses the woman of 
    immoral action, as they demand her to produce proof of her innocence. 

    6.

    The least that may be said of this reprehensible tradition is 
    that it is contrary to modesty, because the intimacy that occurs between the 
    spouses should be concealed and it is not permissible to disclose it or 
    announce it. 

    This reprehensible tradition should be prevented and fought 
    against. 

    Shaykh ‘Ali Mahfooz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

    One of the bad traditions is parading around the village with 
    the bride’s chemise stained with virginal blood, and indeed the blood of the 
    crime against this delicate organ on the part of that beast who does not 
    remember that Allaah is watching him with regard to how he treats this poor 
    woman at the most difficult of times. When they parade around with the 
    chemise and when the hymen is broken they say words that would shame anyone 
    who has any shred of humanity. This reprehensible innovation has died out 
    among the rich and the middle classes, but it still remains and is treated 
    as sacred among the poor and lower classes. It is one of the remnants of 
    Jaahiliyyah. End quote. 

    Al-Ibdaa’ fi Madaar al-Ibtidaa’ 
    (p. 265), Dar al-I’tisaam. 

    And Allaah knows best.