Advice for one who suffers from premature ejaculation even though he is using a special du‘aa’
Question

                I am a young man who is about to get married, but I have a problem, namely premature ejaculation. I know that this is a problem that will cause me a lot of difficulty when having intercourse after marriage. At present I am taking steps to deal with this matter myself by reciting Qur’an. When going to sleep, I place my hand over my penis and recite al-Faatihah and “And We send down from the Quran that which is a healing and a mercy…” [al-Isra’ 17:82] and “And when I am ill, it is He who cures me” [ash-Shu ‘ara’ 26:80], each one seven times, then I say: “I ask Allah, Lord of the Mighty Throne, to heal me” seven times, then I offer supplication (du‘aa’), then I blow on my penis three times. And every morning – when I am going to work in my car – I place my hand over my penis and recite the last two verses of Soorat al-Baqarah, Aayat al-Kursiy, al-Faatihah, al-Mu‘awwidhaat, and Ikhlaas and the two verses I mentioned above, in addition to the supplication that I mentioned, then I blow three times on my penis. I do that three times, then after that I ask Allah to heal me from this. Is what I am doing something correct or are there other means or other verses? I do not want to get married when I am in this state.
Praise be to Allah.
      Firstly: 

    We do not know how you can suffer from premature ejaculation 
    when you are not married! Such a thing only becomes apparent after getting 
    married, so how can you be suffering from it? 

    What appears to us to be the case is that, if this is not 
    something imaginary that is not really happening, you may have come to know 
    about it from practising the secret habit! If that is the case, you should 
    realise that you have to hasten to stop doing it, for it has many harmful 
    effects, one of which is that it causes premature ejaculation merely as a 
    result of the penis touching something provocative. 

    Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) 
    said: It is medically proven that masturbation leads to a number of 
    diseases. For example, it weakens the eyesight and reduces sharpness of 
    vision to a great extent. It also weakens the penis so that it becomes 
    partially or completely flaccid, in such a way that the one who does that 
    becomes more like a woman because he loses the most important characteristic 
    of manhood with which Allah has favoured men over women. Thus he is unable 
    to get married and if it so happens that he does get married, he is not able 
    to perform his marital function in the manner required, so it is inevitable 
    that his wife will look at other men, because he is not able to keep her 
    chaste. And that has negative consequences as is quite obvious. 

    It also leads to nervous weakness in general as a result of 
    the exhaustion that results from doing that action. And it leads to problems 
    in the digestive system, leading to poor digestion. It also leads to stunted 
    growth, especially in the penis and testicles, which do not grow to their 
    full natural size. And it leads to infection in the testicles, so that the 
    individual develops the problem of premature ejaculation, as he ejaculates 
    if something merely brushes against his penis.  

    Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/122, 123 

    You should not be anxious about this matter. As we have told 
    you, if the cause is doing the secret habit, there is the hope that when you 
    give it up, Allah will make things easy for you and this symptom will no 
    longer be present after you get married. If it does continue after marriage, 
    then you are advised not to go ahead with penetration until you have engaged 
    in foreplay and pleasure with your wife, and aroused her, so that when she 
    reaches climax, you can penetrate after that, so as to keep yourself and her 
    chaste. But do not overdo it either with regard to foreplay, because that 
    may be one of the causes of premature ejaculation. 

    If that does not work, then you can consult a specialist 
    doctor who can tell you about medicines to delay ejaculation. Perhaps when 
    you get used to sex, especially after the initial period, this problem will 
    go away without any need for medicine. It is well known that the one who has 
    been unmarried for a long time will have intercourse many times a day when 
    he first gets married and he may ejaculate quickly, but it will not be long 
    before things settle down. 

    There are da‘eef hadeeths which suggest that it is mustahabb 
    for the husband to engage in foreplay with his wife before penetration, and 
    warn against satisfying his desire without making sure that she is also 
    satisfied. Although the isnaads are da‘eef, the meaning is acceptable and 
    they offer good advice in that regard. 

    Ibn Qudaamah al-Maqdisi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

    It is mustahabb to engage in foreplay with one’s wife before 
    intercourse, so as to arouse her and so that she will get the same pleasure 
    from intercourse as he does. It was narrated from ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez 
    from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) that he said: 
    “Do not have intercourse with her until she is aroused as you are, lest you 
    finish before she finishes.” I [the narrator] said: Are you telling me? He 
    said: “Yes; you should kiss her and touch her, until you see that she is 
    aroused as you are, then have intercourse with her.” 

    If he reaches climax before she does, it is not right for him 
    to withdraw until she reaches climax, because of the report narrated by Anas 
    ibn Maalik who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be 
    upon him) said: “When a man has intercourse with his wife, let him pay 
    proper attention to her. Then when he has fulfilled his desire, he should 
    not withdraw from her until she has fulfilled her desire.” And because that 
    may be harmful to her and prevent her from fulfilling her desire. 

    Al-Mughni, 8/136 

    Both hadeeths are da‘eef (weak), but they are correct in 
    meaning, as we stated above. 

    Al-Mannaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

    “When one of you has intercourse with his wife, let him pay 
    proper attention to her” i.e., let him have intercourse with her 
    energetically and vigorously, doing it properly and with love and sincerity 
    towards her. This is what is recommended. 

    “If he finishes before her” i.e., if he reaches climax first 
    and she is still aroused. 

    “He should not withdraw from her” i.e., before she reaches 
    climax and fulfils her desire; rather he should give her time so that she 
    could fulfil her desire as he fulfilled his desire. So he should not move 
    away from her until he is certain that she has fulfilled her desire, because 
    that is part of kind treatment, keeping her chaste and being considerate 
    towards her. 

    From this hadeeth and others we learn that if the man is 
    quick to reach climax, such that he cannot give his wife time to reach 
    climax, it is recommended for him to seek treatment that will delay 
    ejaculation, because this is a means of doing something recommended, and 
    means come under the same ruling as ends. 

    Fayd al-Qadeer, 1/325 

    Secondly: 

    With regard to the du‘aa’s that you are reciting as a remedy, 
    what is sound of that is what is proven to be sound in the saheeh Sunnah. 
    Anything other than that it is permissible to use, but on condition that you 
    do not make it a regular wird as one may do with the dhikrs narrated from 
    the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). With regard to your 
    reciting the verses “And We send down from the Quran that which is a 
    healing and a mercy…” [al-Isra’ 17:82] and “And when I am ill, it is 
    He who cures me” [ash-Shu ‘ara’ 26:80], there is nothing wrong with 
    that, although it would be better to treat yourself by reciting that which 
    is narrated from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and 
    to treat yourself with ruqyah as narrated from him. 

    We have discussed what is proven of such du‘aa’s in the 
    answer to question no. 75399. 
    That should be sufficient and good, in sha Allah. 

    With regard to placing your hand over the private part or 
    touching it whilst reciting the ruqyah and the Qur’anic verses it contains, 
    we do not think that you should do that; we are afraid that using the Qur’an 
    in this manner may be disrespectful. Moreover, the problem that you mention 
    is not an obvious sickness such that you could do that when treating it with 
    ruqyah. Even if it is a sickness, the sickness is not in the private part, 
    as you think and because of that you have been using the ruqyah that you 
    mention. Rather it is, as is proven, a problem that is rooted in your 
    nervous system that cannot control ejaculation in the normal manner. 

    To sum up, we do not advise you to delay marriage in order to 
    solve this problem; the real situation will not become clear until after you 
    get married. Perhaps it is imaginary or an excess of desire, because you are 
    unmarried, and it will soon disappear after you get married. If it so 
    happens that the problem remains, then you can use some appropriate medical 
    treatment after consulting a specialist. 

    And Allah knows best.