He said to his wife, “I am sorry that I am a Muslim”; has he apostatised by doing that and what is the ruling on his marriage?
Question

                I am a muslim by birth and I recently got married to a girl who had reverted to Islam. i am from india and many muslims here are very backward in their practices etc.. She was continously asking me questions about my relatives and why muslims are so backward etc.. I lost my temper and I am ashamed to say that in my anger I told her that I was sorry that I was a muslim. I immediately realised my mistake but I said what I said. I am terribly ashamed of myself for saying such a thing. Does this make me a apostate (kafir). I am a muslim and i truly believe in islam in all its glory. I am ashamed and sorry for what I said. Am i a kafir. Do i have to say the shahadah again? Is my nikah nullified as she is still a muslim. Do i have to do the nikah again. Please answer at the earliest. I am really sorry for beingsuch a bad muslim.
Praise be to Allah.
      Firstly: 

    The Muslims are not backward; rather the one who is backward 
    is the one who worships idols, cows and rats. The one who is backward is the 
    one who does not worship Allah, the One, the Almighty, and worships his own 
    whims and desires, thus turning from a human being whom Allah has honoured 
    to an animal who follows his whims and desires and his evil inclinations. 

    The history of Islam and the Muslims is a glorious history, 
    filled with great events that stand out in the history of all of mankind. 
    The one who studies the history of the middle ages and the dark ages that 
    non-Muslims lived through will become certain that the origin of these human 
    civilisations, noble principles, refined manners and attitudes, and 
    beneficial sciences, all came from Islam and its people. 

    What any Muslim who hears anyone attacking Islam or the 
    Muslims in general must do is respond to him and explain to him that the 
    mistakes of some Muslims should not be the basis for passing judgement 
    against the religion of Allah and its followers, who include noble leaders, 
    honourable and righteous people, and courageous commanders and troops. 

    The people of India in particular have no right to speak of 
    backwardness until they kill the rat that they worship instead of Allah, and 
    they slaughter the cow that they call upon instead of Allah, and they reject 
    their numerous idolatrous religions and begin to worship Allah, the One, the 
    Almighty. 

    Secondly: 

    You should not have been embarrassed about belonging to your 
    religion and you should not have felt sorry for being a Muslim; rather you 
    should be proud of it and praise Allah for this blessing that Allah has 
    bestowed upon you and with which He has favoured you, unlike millions of 
    people around you who disbelieve in Him and worship things other than Him. 

    Thirdly: 

    The one who mocks the religion of Allah, or despises it, or 
    makes fun of its laws, or disavows the Muslims out of resentment towards 
    their religion, has gone beyond the pale of Islam, whether he said that in 
    earnest or in jest, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation 
    of the meaning):

    “If you ask them (about this), they declare: ‘We were only 
    talking idly and joking.’ Say: ‘Was it at Allah, and His Ayat (proofs, 
    evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His Messenger 
    (SAW) that you were mocking?’

    Make no excuse; you have disbelieved after you had 
    believed. If We pardon some of you, We will punish others amongst you 
    because they were Mujrimoon (disbelievers, polytheists, sinners, criminals, 
    etc.)”

    [at-Tawbah 9:65-66]. 

    See also the answer to question no.
    175838 

    Fourthly: 

    Your words to your wife, “I am sorry that I am a Muslim” may 
    be interpreted in two ways: 

    1. 

    That you said that out of resentment and hatred towards the 
    religion of Allah and rejecting it, in the sense that you wished that you 
    had been born and lived as a non-Muslim. This is apostasy from Islam, so if 
    this is what you meant by what you said, then you became an apostate 
    thereby, so you have to repent sincerely, ask for forgiveness and regret it, 
    and you have to enter the faith anew by reciting the shahaadatayn (twin 
    declaration of faith). 

    With regard to your wife, if you uttered these words before 
    consummating the marriage with her, then the marriage was annulled with 
    immediate effect. If it was after consummation, if Allah enabled you to 
    repent before the end of the ‘iddah, then she is still your wife and the 
    marriage remains valid. If your repentance and return to Islam came after 
    the end of the ‘iddah, then the marriage was annulled from the time the 
    apostasy occurred. 

    For more information on the impact of apostasy on marriage 
    before and after consummation, please see the answer to question no.
    134339. 

    2.

    That you said that out of resentment towards some of the 
    Muslims you saw around you who were doing objectionable things and 
    committing acts of embarrassing foolishness; they were not people who adhere 
    to the teachings, rulings and etiquette of their religion and they were not 
    striving to live their lives in a way that would benefit them or others, so 
    you wanted to express your resentment towards these people and the 
    embarrassment you felt at belonging to the same group as them, out of 
    resentment towards them and their objectionable deeds, situation and 
    attitude, not out of resentment towards their religion. If this is what you 
    meant, then you did not become a kaafir thereby and your wife did not become 
    irrevocably separated from you. But you have to ask Allah for forgiveness 
    for these words and not say such things again, because it is obviously wrong 
    and because it implies hatred of Muslims and resentment towards them in 
    general, which is unfair and unjust. 

    Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: 

    Is making fun of the religion by mocking beards and 
    shortening of the thobe regarded as kufr? 

    He replied:

    That depends; if his intention is to make fun of the religion 
    itself, then it is apostasy, as Allah, may He be exalted, says 
    (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Say: ‘Was it at Allah, and His Ayat (proofs, evidences, 
    verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His Messenger (SAW) that you 
    were mocking?’

    Make no excuse; you have disbelieved after you had 
    believed.”

    [at-Tawbah 9:65-66]. 

    But if he was making fun of a particular individual for other 
    reasons having to do with the beard or shortening of the thobe, meaning that 
    he is strict, making fun of other matters concerning which this person is 
    strict but is careless about other matters even though he knows that they 
    are part of the religion, but it was not his intention to make fun of the 
    religion itself, and he only intended to make fun of that person, then it is 
    not apostasy. End quote. 

    Majmoo‘ Fataawa Ibn Baaz, 
    28/365. 

    We ask Allah to pardon you and forgive you, and to guide you 
    to the straight path. 

    For more information, please see the answer to questions no.
    14231 and
    178354

    And Allah knows best.