Treating premature ejaculation
Question

                My question is concerning premature ejaculation. I suffer from this “illness”. I have been married for nearly two years and this illness has prevented me from having normal intercourse with my wife. I can not satisfy her. Maybe this is a punishment from Allah?
However, I read that this is a very widespread illness, and that it can be treated.

There seems to be medical treatment as well as a kind of training/practice. This includes, among other things, that a person stimulates himself by rubbing his penis to learn to deal with the sexual arousal, and even to ejaculate. I know that this is normally forbidden to do, but I do not see a solution for the problem without treatment. I have tried other things before like a special ointment and other stuff, but without success. I am afraid, if I do not treat this illness that I might fall back into sin. There is so much information on the Internet, but I do not know what is trustworthy and what is just a way of making money. What can I do? Please give me advice!.
Praise be to Allah.
    The view that masturbation is haraam is the view of most of 
    the scholars and is supported by shar‘i evidence; in fact all sexual 
    gratification is limited in our sharee‘ah to the wife or concubine (and the 
    latter is not available in our time). Any other means of pleasure used by 
    people is only a means of immorality and spreading mischief in the land, let 
    alone the fact that it is contrary to the fitrah (sound human nature) with 
    which man has been created with regard to the way of fulfilling physical 
    desires. Whatever the case, we find it strange that masturbation is regarded 
    as a means of treating premature ejaculation. What we have read and learned 
    from dozens of medical websites and suggestions for treatment is that 
    masturbation is one of the causes of premature ejaculation; this is 
    according to the testimony of doctors first of all, and also that of those 
    who are suffering from this problem. Hence we do not advise this method of 
    treatment. 

    But if what you are doing, which requires rubbing the penis, 
    whether maniy (semen) comes out of it or not, if this is a medical treatment 
    that you need, then you can use this method of treatment in a manner that is 
    permissible according to sharee‘ah, by means of intimacy with your wife and 
    masturbation by her hand. The fuqaha’ have stated that masturbation with the 
    wife’s hand is permissible for the husband, because the husband may enjoy 
    all parts of her body – with the exception of anal intercourse – so there is 
    nothing wrong with masturbation with the wife’s hand. 

    Al-Hattaab al-Maaliki (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

    Study of the madhhab and the hadeeths indicate that that – 
    i.e., masturbation with the wife’s hand – is permissible. And Allah knows 
    best. 

    End quote from Mawaahib al-Jaleel, 3/406 

    Al-‘Allaamah Zakariya al-Ansaari al-Shaafa‘i (may Allah have 
    mercy on him) said: 

    Masturbation with the wife’s hand is permissible for him as 
    he may enjoy all parts of her body, but with his own hand (it is not 
    permissible) because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And 
    those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual 
    acts).

    Except from their wives or 
    (slaves) that their right hands possess, - for then, they are free from 
    blame; 

    But whoever seeks beyond 
    that, then those are the transgressors”

    [al-Mu’minoon 23:5-7].

    This is among that which is beyond that. 

    End quote from Asna al-Mataalib, 3/186 

    Abu’l-Naja al-Hajaawi al-Hanbali (may Allah have mercy on 
    him) says: 

    He may engage in masturbation with the wife’s hand.

    End quote from al-Iqnaa‘; see commentary thereon, 
    Kashshaaf al-Qinaa‘, 5/188 

    And Allah knows best.