Their daughter commits major sins and evils deeds. How should her family deal with her?
Question

                I know a family that is religiously committed – praise be to Allaah – but they are suffering because of a daughter of theirs who is sinful and does haraam deeds, in fact they are major sins, namely disobedience towards her parents, immoral actions, drinking alcohol and smoking. This girl does not go back to her family’s home; she runs away from home and sometimes she goes back and stays in the house for a short while, but she soon leaves the house again. Her mother is heartbroken by what she does and now she wants a shar’i fatwa stating what the parents must do when she comes back home. Should they throw her out or keep her in the house? Please note that she poses a danger to her younger siblings. 

Please advise me, may Allaah reward you abundantly.
Praise be to Allah.We ask Allaah to relieve 
    this family of their distress, and to reward them for their patience in 
    bearing the calamity brought by the daughter. We also ask Him to guide this 
    daughter and to help her to repent. 
Her family should realize 
    that what they are seeing of evil deeds committed by their daughter must be 
    denounced and prevented. 
In al-Mawsoo’ah 
    al-Fiqhiyyah (39/123,124) it says:  
The fuqaha’ are unanimously 
    agreed that evil is forbidden and the duty to forbid evil is proven in the 
    Qur’aan and Sunnah and by scholarly consensus. In the Qur'aan, Allaah says 
    (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Let 
    there arise out of you a group of people inviting to all that is good 
    (Islam), enjoining Al-Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam 
    orders one to do) and forbidding Al-Munkar (polytheism and disbelief and all 
    that Islam has forbidden)”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:104]

    In the Sunnah, the Prophet  (peace and blessings of 
    Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever among you sees 
    an evil action, then let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if 
    he cannot, then with his tongue [by 
    speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart – and that is the 
    weakest of faith.”.
al-Nawawi narrated that 
    there was consensus that it is obligatory to forbid evil. End quote. 
The hadeeth “Whoever 
    among you sees an evil action, then let him change it with his hand… 
    ”, which was narrated by Muslim (49) from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri, enjoins 
    parents to take charge of their sons and daughters and prevent them from 
    committing evil actions, and to change them with their hands (by taking 
    action), because they have authority over them, as the ruler has authority 
    over the people. 
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have 
    mercy on him) said: 
Moreover, enjoining what is 
    good and forbidding what is evil is a communal obligation (fard kifaayah). 
    If some of the people do it then the rest are absolved of blame, but if they 
    all fail to do it, then each of them who was able to do it with no excuse or 
    fear is guilty of sin. It may also be an individual obligation, such as if a 
    person is in a place and no one knows about it but him, or no one is able to 
    remove it but him, such as one who sees his wife or child or slave 
    committing evil, or falling short in doing good. 
Sharh al-Nawawi ‘ala 
    Muslim (2/23). 
It is essential – first of 
    all – for this family to understand three important points: 
-1- 
It is a serious mistake to 
    allow their daughter to leave the home, even to go to school, or even to go 
    to the mosque. Rather they should prevent her from doing so, even if that is 
    by force, or by keeping her in her room, without allowing her to do anything 
    by which she may harm herself or allowing her to contact anyone, lest she 
    bring harm upon her family, as happens in some Muslim countries that imitate 
    the kaafir countries that are devoid of all morals and virtues, and prevent 
    parents from raising their children Islamically and prevent them from using 
    strictness in child-rearing, and may even imprison the father or brother if 
    it is proven that he prevented one of his sisters from exercising her 
    freedom, as they claim. 
-2-
They should not throw their 
    daughter out of the house. If they do that, they will be the cause of her 
    falling into the sins that she commits outside the family home, and they 
    will have enabled her to meet bad friends; whatever leads to that is also 
    haraam. It is not permissible for them to denounce her by throwing her out. 
    It is well known in Islam that denouncing evil must not lead to a greater 
    evil, otherwise it is haraam. 
-3-
It is not permissible for 
    anyone in her family to carry out the hadd punishment against her or to kill 
    her, as some families do. We have discussed this matter in detail in the 
    answer to question no. 8980. 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn 
    Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about a woman who was 
    married to a good husband and had children, but she fell in love with 
    someone else and started to commit immoral actions with him. When she was 
    found out, she tried to leave her husband. Does she have any rights over her 
    children after doing this deed? Is there any sin on them if they cut off 
    ties with her? Is it permissible for the one who found that out about her to 
    kill her in secret? If someone else does that will he be sinning? 
He replied: 
What her children and 
    relatives on her father’s side must do is to prevent her from doing haraam 
    deeds, and if she cannot be stopped except by being detained, then they must 
    detain her. If she needs to be chained up then they must chain her up, but 
    it is not appropriate for a son to strike his mother. With regard to 
    honouring her, they have no right to stop honouring her, and it is not 
    permissible for them to cut off ties with her in such a way that she will be 
    able to continue doing evil, rather they should do that according to what 
    they are able to do. If she needs provisions and clothing then they should 
    supply her with provisions and clothing. It is not permissible for them to 
    carry out the hadd punishment against her by killing or otherwise, and they 
    will be sinning if they do that. 
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa 
    (34/ p. 177, 178) 
The answer of Shaykh 
    al-Islam includes all three matters to which we have drawn attention, as he 
    (may Allaah have mercy on him) issued a fatwa stating that the mother should 
    be detained and chained up, so a fatwa to this effect is more applicable in 
    the case of a daughter, for the rights of a daughter are much less than 
    those of a mother. 
We also advise the family 
    to do the following: 

    1.Keep advising and exhorting the 
    sinful daughter and use various methods for that, sometimes from them and 
    sometimes from their relatives or her friends; sometimes by means of audio 
    tapes, sometimes by means of videos and sometimes by means of books, or by 
    mentioning the fate of others who previously followed a path of evil and 
    immorality, and how it led to loss in this world, let alone that which 
    Allaah has warned of for those who disobey Him and transgress His limits.

    2.Move away altogether from the 
    place where they are living, if the atmosphere of that place is having a 
    negative effect on her attitude and behaviour. If that is not possible, then 
    some of her family should move somewhere else with her and live in a 
    different environment, if her family think that this will help to set their 
    daughter straight.

    3.Not allowing bad friends to 
    visit their daughter or meet her.

    4. Whilst she is being detained 
    in the house, there is nothing wrong with bringing useful material that will 
    benefit her, such as documentaries or useful discussions on trustworthy 
    channels. This is for two reasons:

    (a)So that she will not be bored 
    to death by thinking and feeling lonely, and her thoughts will not wander to 
    things that will harm her.  

    (b)There may be something in this 
    useful material that will have an effect on her and play a role in setting 
    her straight.

    5.There should be no disagreement 
    among the family members about detaining her in the house, and they should 
    not be moved by pity for her before they are certain that she has mended her 
    ways. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with 
    a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment 
    prescribed by Allaah, if you believe in Allaah and the Last Day. And let a 
    party of the believers witness their punishment”

    [al-Noor 24:2]. 

    If Allaah has forbidden us to let pity affect us whilst a hadd punishment is 
    being carried out, then it is more apt that this ruling should apply in the 
    case of a ta’zeer punishment. 

    6.The whole family should be keen 
    to say du’aa’ for her with sincerity, especially her poor mother. They 
    should trust that their Lord is Able to change her and make her better, so 
    they should turn to Him and beseech Him.
We ask Allaah to help them 
    and relieve them of this calamity, and we ask Him to guide their daughter to 
    that which He loves and which pleases Him. 
And Allaah is the Source of 
    strength.