How can she rid herself of lesbian desires?
Question

                I have a question my friend is a lesbian and has been all her life she tried to change wear girl clothes got engaed to a guy whod didnt knwo she was one but the engamgent broke off becuisae she coudnt do it felt sick aorund him etc she did really try.

She does not want to be alone and does not want to sin for the rest of her life what can she do?

have a marrige of convience atleast then with a gay guy they wont have no pressure but can try and make it work then no one has decieved anyone?
Praise be to Allah.
    The advice we can give to this girl is 
    that haraam desires and addiction to immoral practices must be confronted 
    with all decisive measures, which may be bitter and difficult, but they 
    offer protection against that which is worse and more evil, and they guard 
    against doom in this world and the hereafter. In order to achieve that, it 
    is not sufficient to take some measures that are doomed to failure. Any 
    attempt that does not begin by cutting off the causes of temptation from the 
    root does not deserve to be called an attempt and it does not give an excuse 
    to carry on with that sin. 

    Therefore – if that girl is really sincere 
    in her wish to deal with the problem – we state here that the first remedy 
    is to shun the other girls with whom she is engaging in the sin of 
    lesbianism, and to keep far away from the places where they live, and to cut 
    off all means of communication with them and erasing all contact 
    information, such as emails, phone numbers and the like in such a way that 
    it will not be possible to retrieve them after that. She will feel some pain 
    and psychological distress because of what she is going to give up the bad 
    habits of the past. But she must be patient, put up with it and persist in 
    making progress with this remedy, and she should try to keep herself busy 
    with permissible beneficial actions that will take up her time, or with 
    study and seeking knowledge, or training in professional skills that are 
    appropriate to her age and gender. Expert psychologists confirm that six 
    months after giving up the sin is sufficient to forget it and be able to 
    move on, and to protect oneself against easily going back to it. 

    Islamic scholars prefer this kind of 
    remedy, which involves cutting off ties, as we see in the hadeeth of Abu 
    Sa‘eed al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him), according to which the 
    Prophet of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Among 
    those who came before you there was a man who killed ninety-nine people, 
    then he asked who the most knowledgeable man on earth was, and he was 
    directed to a monk. He went to him and told him that he had killed 
    ninety-nine people; could he repent? The monk said no, so he killed him, 
    thus completing one hundred. Then he asked who the most knowledgeable man on 
    earth was, and he was directed to a man of knowledge and said that he had 
    killed one hundred people; could he repent? He said: Yes, who could stand 
    between him and repentance? Go to such and such a land, for therein there 
    are people who worship Allah, so go and worship Allah with them, and do not 
    go back to your own land for it is a bad land. So he set out, then when he 
    was halfway there, death came upon him. The angels of mercy and the angels 
    of torment disputed over him. The angels of mercy said: he came repenting 
    and turning wholeheartedly towards Allah. The angels of torment said: He 
    never did anything good. Then an angel in the form of a man came to them and 
    they appointed him (to decide) between them. He said: Measure the distance 
    between the two lands, and whichever is closer, that is where he belongs. So 
    they measured it and they found that he was closer to the land that he was 
    heading for, so the angels of mercy took him.”

    Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3470) and Muslim 
    (2766) 

    Imam an-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on 
    him) said: 

    The scholars said: This indicates that it 
    is recommended for the one who has repented to leave the places where he 
    committed sins and the friends who helped him to do that; he should cut off 
    ties with them so long as they are still sinning, and instead keep company 
    with good and righteous people, knowledgeable people and pious worshippers, 
    whose example he can follow and he can benefit from mixing with them and 
    consolidate his repentance.

    End quote from Sharh Saheeh Muslim 
    (17/83) 

    Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy 
    on him) said: 

    This highlights the virtue of moving from 
    the land in which a person committed sin, because it is most likely that 
    habit will overtake him in such a place, either because he will be reminded 
    of the things that he did in the past and be tempted to do them again, or 
    because of the presence of those who used to help him and encourage him to 
    commit those actions. Hence the last person said to him (the repentant 
    sinner mentioned in the hadith): “and do not go back to your own land for it 
    is a bad land.” This indicates that the one who repents should leave the 
    situations and places that he used to frequent at the time when he used to 
    sin; he should leave all of them and focus on other things.

    End quote from Fath al-Baari 
    (6/517) 

    This is the remedy indicated by the Holy 
    Qur’an before the prescribed hadd punishments were ordained, in order to rid 
    society of the effects of sexual immorality, as in the verse in which Allah, 
    may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And those of your women who commit 
    illegal sexual intercourse, take the evidence of four witnesses from amongst 
    you against them; and if they testify, confine them (i.e. women) to houses 
    until death comes to them or Allah ordains for them some (other) way”

    [an-Nisa’ 4:15]. 

    We have previously mentioned some of the 
    means that may help one to give up this sin. Please see fatwas no.
    101169 and 104078 

    Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on 
    him) said: 

    The remedy to the problem of emotional 
    attachment and falling in love may be discussed from two angles: 

    1.Prevention before 
    it happens

    2.Eradication after 
    it happens

    Both are easy for the one for whom Allah 
    makes it easy, and are difficult for the one whom Allah does not help, for 
    Allah is in control of all things. 

    As for the means that will prevent this 
    problem from happening in the first place, there are two things: lowering 
    the gaze and focusing on that which will prevent one from falling into such 
    things.

    End quote from al-Jawaab al-Kaafi 
    (178-181) 

    With regard to what this girl is asking 
    about, namely the ruling on her marrying a gay man so that after that she 
    will be able to continue lesbian practices without anyone watching her or 
    criticising her, that would lead to her doom and being prevent her from 
    taking steps to repent, because by doing that she is planning to continue in 
    her sin and make it easy to do so, and even to look for new partners. This 
    means that she will be able to get to know gay men and marry one of them 
    after agreeing on each spouse having the freedom to engage in perverse 
    practices. But Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is watching them and 
    giving them more time to repent, whilst they are indulging in sin. It is as 
    if they have never read the words of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, 
    (interpretation of the meaning):

    “This is because they defied and 
    disobeyed Allah and His Messenger. And whoever defies and disobeys Allah and 
    His Messenger, then verily, Allah is Severe in punishment”

    [al-Anfaal 8:13]

    “And those who invoke not any other 
    ilaah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such person as Allah has forbidden, 
    except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse __
    and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.

    69. The torment will be doubled to him 
    on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;

    70. Except those who repent and believe 
    (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will 
    change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful

    71. And whosoever repents and does 
    righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allah with true 
    repentance”

    [al-Furqaan 25:68-70]. 

    Our message to this girl is that she 
    should fear Allah, may He be exalted, with regard to her own self, and her 
    religion and community, and indeed all of humanity, lest she be a cause of 
    people being led into this perversion and deviating from sound human nature. 
    She should constantly bear death and the grave in mind, when she will be 
    alone beneath the soil for ever, and there she will have nothing to comfort 
    her but her righteous deeds. As for perverse desire, it will be a cause of 
    loneliness, darkness and punishment. 

    It was narrated that Abu Hamzah said: I 
    said to Muhammad ibn ‘Ali ibn al-Hanafiyyah: Did Allah punish the women of 
    Loot’s people for the deeds of their men? 

    He replied: Allah is too just to do such a 
    thing; the men were content with men and the women with women. 

    Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) 
    said: Punishment became due for the people of Loot when the women were 
    content with women and the men with men. 

    Both reports were narrated by Ibn 
    Abi’d-Dunya in Dhamm al-Malaahi (no. 145, 149) 

    In fact this woman is weak and poor, and 
    in need of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. So advise her not to 
    hesitate to raise her hands in supplication and ask Allah, may He be 
    glorified, to help her to obey Him and to refrain from sin, to forgive her 
    for what has happened in the past and to protect her in the future. Allah, 
    may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And those who, when they have 
    committed Fahishah (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) or wronged themselves 
    with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; - and none can 
    forgive sins but Allah - And do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, 
    while they know.

    For such, the reward is Forgiveness 
    from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath (Paradise), 
    wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is this reward for the doers 
    (who do righteous deeds according to Allahs Orders).

    Many similar ways (and mishaps of life) 
    were faced by nations (believers and disbelievers) that have passed away 
    before you (as you have faced in the battle of Uhud), so travel through the 
    earth, and see what was the end of those who disbelieved (in the Oneness of 
    Allah, and disobeyed Him and His Messengers)”

    [Aal ‘Imraan 3:135-136]. 

    Let her try again, when she repents 
    sincerely and starts to implement the correct remedy, to get married in the 
    permissible manner, and let her ask her Lord to bestow upon her guidance, 
    piety, chastity and independence of means, and to help her find in that 
    which He has permitted that which will leave her in no need of that which He 
    has prohibited. 

    And Allah knows best.