She used to do the “secret habit” when fasting, out of ignorance
Question

                I am sending you this letter on behalf of my friend who needs someone to advise her. When she was a small child she was abused by one of her father’s friends who used to come and wait for him, and he forced her to be intimate with him when she was five years old, and she thought that this was something new, but he must have been a pervert. This led to her doing that all her life, without realizing what it is. Is that what is called the “secret habit”? This need would come to her when she was fasting and she would do it. When she does it she feels compelled to do it, because that is what she had been accustomed to all her life. Are the fasts of those days not valid? Is the expiation only to fast, since she did not know anything that was called the secret habit? 

Please pray for healing for her. 

My question is: 

1 – How can she expiate for committing this sin whilst fasting?

2 – How can she be healed of this thing?

3 – She recites Qur’aan before she sleeps but feels that she needs to do that.  

She is 34 years old and is not married.
Praise be to Allah.Firstly: 
We ask 
    Allaah to forgive and pardon your friend, and to heal her from this disease, 
    and to bless her with a righteous husband and righteous offspring, for He is 
    Able to do that, may He be exalted. 
Secondly: 
What her 
    father’s friend did is a serious offence and a major crime against this 
    child. He is an evil pervert who has wronged both father and daughter. We 
    ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound. There is no sin on her for what 
    happened to her, because she was not accountable at that time.  
Wise people 
    learn a lesson from such calamities. A man should be careful about the 
    friends to whom he entrusts his secrets and his household. Some of them may 
    appear to be sincere friends, but in fact they are among the devils of 
    mankind. The Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) 
    advised us of that when he said: “Do not keep company with anyone but a 
    believer and do not let anyone but a pious person eat your food.” Narrated 
    by al-Tirmidhi (2395), classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh 
    al-Tirmidhi. 
Thirdly: 
What is 
    meant by the “secret habit” or masturbation is playing with the private 
    parts and provoking desire to the point of climax, whether that is using the 
    hand or some other means. This is an evil habit and a haraam action. The 
    evidence for its being haraam is explained in the answer to question no.
    329, which also includes 
    suggestions for treating this disease. 
Fourthly: 
If a person 
    does the “secret habit” whilst fasting, and semen is emitted, then his fast 
    is invalidated according to the majority of scholars, but if he was unaware 
    that that invalidates the fast, is his fast invalidated and does he have to 
    make it up? 
There is a 
    difference of opinion among the fuqaha’ on this point. A group of scholars, 
    including Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) are of 
    the view that it does not invalidate his fast. This view was also favoured 
    by Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him). You will find this 
    explained in more detail in the answer to question no.
    50017. 
This sister 
    should pray a great deal for forgiveness and do a lot of acts of worship, 
    and she should avoid haraam things and adhere to righteousness, so that 
    Allaah may forgive her, as Allaah has promised (interpretation of the 
    meaning): 
“And 
    verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, 
    and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and 
    then remains constant in doing them (till his death)”
[Ta-Ha 
    20:82]
Fifthly: 
Marriage – 
    as is the case with all of a person’s affairs – is subject to the decree of 
    Allaah, and it is not known what is better, delaying it or hastening it. A 
    person has to accept Allaah’s decree and submit to it, and follow the means 
    that lead to provision and relief from distress, which include making du’aa’ 
    and praying and obeying Allaah. See also question no.
    21234. 
May Allaah 
    help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. 
And Allaah 
    knows best.