She asked her husband not to have intercourse with her because she suffers from genophobia, and she is asking for a solution
Question

                I have a friend, she is a very simple hearted person; she is married to a good man who takes care of her. The problem is that they have been married for 8 years. She hasn’t had any sort of relationship with her husband- and by that i mean, they don’t come near each other. She said to me she is very afraid and doesn’t want to do any kind of stuff like that. When she was first married she told her husband not to come near her at all , and she was crying; her husband said he won’t force anything upon her. So he also doesn’t go near her because he loves her and doesn’t want to see her upset. He does want children with her... and the family have been wondering why they are not having any children. My friend really likes her husband and he likes her to, but they don’t have that kind of close relationship . She is worried because she knows that in Islam having children is a blessing... and Allah may be upset with her as she is not having any sort of physical relationship with her husband. Could you please give me some advice about this?
Praise be to Allah.
	Unjustified fear of sexual 
	relations between the spouses is a medical condition that is known as 
	genophobia. It is a psychological condition that appears in the form of 
	extreme fear and anxiety, accompanied by increased heart rate, difficulty 
	breathing and spasms in the muscles in the context of sexual relations 
	between the spouses.

	It may be that these fears are 
	the result of her hearing about sexual assault or harassment during 
	childhood, or they may be because of compulsive thoughts and whispers in 
	which a woman sees herself in this context in an ugly or off-putting form, 
	or there may not be any clear reason for them.

	The way in which to remedy this 
	problem and the symptoms that result from it is well known to doctors, and 
	includes the following:

	·        Cognitive behavioural 
	therapy (CBT) which involves speaking with a psychiatrist or a specialist in 
	clinical psychology, in which negative behaviours are changed by analysing 
	and discussing negative thoughts and the negative feelings that result from 
	them. That is because the individual’s psychological well-being is based on 
	these three foundations: thoughts, the emotions that result from them, and 
	the behaviour that results from both.

	·        Relaxation therapy, 
	which refers to various breathing and relaxation exercises that help to calm 
	one down and reduce anxiety and what results from it of muscle tension, 
	difficulty breathing and so on. This treatment is one of the very effective 
	means of getting rid of the symptoms of genophobia.

	·        Medicinal treatment, 
	which means taking some type of antidepressant or antianxiety medication, 
	under the supervision of a specialist doctor.

	Based on that, her husband – may 
	Allah reward him abundantly for his understanding of her fear and for his 
	kindness towards her – should seek treatment for her, by convincing her of 
	the necessity of consulting a doctor who is specialised in this field, so 
	that they may attain the aims of marriage, namely maintaining chastity and 
	having righteous offspring, and other means of drawing closer to Allah that 
	may result from the solemn covenant of marriage.

	And Allah knows best.