Can he force his family to move far away from him so that they will not live in a kaafir land?
Question

                I am married to muslim lady from one of the Muslim's land. I want her and my children to live only in the Muslin coutry. Presently I live and work in the USA which I was born. I have about 3 years to work then I plan to live and study in the Muslim land of my wife family insha'Allah. I would like to know if I make her return and order her to stay in that Muslim land (not to return to visit me here) and rise our children there only while I stay here but vist them (about eight weeks a year)is this action haraam. Do I have to let her stay with me here knowly that Dar Kufr is very bad. This position that I have taking is she to submit? Then what's the evidence from the Qur'aan and the sunnah that can be applied parphaps she will understand better.
Praise be to Allah.
    Firstly: 

    It is not permissible to take lightly the matter of living in 
    a kaafir land, because that has bad effects on the Muslim’s religious 
    commitment and beliefs (‘aqeedah). Hence the Messenger  (peace and 
    blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned us against settling among the 
    kuffaar, and he said: “I disavow myself of any Muslim who settles among the 
    mushrikeen.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2645; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani 
    in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 
There are some 
    situations in which a Muslim is allowed to stay in a kaafir land, but that 
    is subject to specific conditions, such as the condition that his religious 
    commitment should not be harmed by staying among them. For more information 
    please see questions no. 13363 and 
    27211. 

    Secondly: 

    You have to compare the benefits of keeping your family close 
    to you, where you can took after them and serve them and bring them up, and 
    protect yourself from falling into temptation, and the costs of keeping them 
    in that kaafir land, which may affect their religious commitment and 
    attitude, and the costs of your staying there alone, far away from them. You 
    should do this in consultation with your wife, and you should both be keen 
    to fear Allaah, may He be exalted, and to choose that which will please Him. 
    If you think it is better to send them away from that country, and send them 
    back to their Muslim country, then there is nothing wrong with your doing 
    so, and your wife is obliged to obey you. 

    The evidence that the wife is obliged to obey her husband – 
    so long as it does not involve sin – is narrated in several texts, such as 
    the report narrated by Ahmad (18233) and al-Haakim from al-Husayn ibn 
    Muhsin, who said that a paternal aunt of his came to the Prophet  (peace 
    and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to ask about some need. When he had 
    finished talking to her, the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be 
    upon him) said to her: “Do you have a husband?” She said: “Yes.” He said: 
    “How are you with him?” She said: “I do not fall short in giving him his 
    rights, except that which I am not able to do.” He said: “Look at how you 
    are with him, for he is your paradise and your hell.” The isnaad of this 
    hadeeth was classed as jayyid by al-Mundhiri in al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 
    and it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb 
    wa’l-Tarheeb, 1933. 

    And the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon 
    him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is 
    present except with his permission.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5195. 

    Al-Albaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, commenting on 
    this hadeeth: If a woman is obliged to obey her husband with regard to his 
    satisfying his desire, then it is more apt that she is obliged to obey him 
    in matters that are more important than that, such as raising their children 
    and paying attention to the well-being of the family, and other rights and 
    duties.” End quote from Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 282. see also question 
    no. 43123. 

    Thirdly: 

    The husband may travel and be absent from his family for the 
    purpose of study, work and other legitimate purposes, for no longer than six 
    months. If it will be for longer than that, then he must ask his wife’s 
    permission. The basis for that is that ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with 
    him) asked women: “How long can a woman be away from her husband?” They 
    said: “Two months, but in the third month patience decreases, and in the 
    fourth month patience disappears.” He wrote to the commanders of the troops 
    telling them not to keep a man away from his wife for more than four months. 
     
According to another 
    report: The time for people to be away on campaigns is six months: they 
    travel for a month, then they stay there for four months, then travelling 
    back takes another month. 

    See al-Mughni, 7/232, 416. 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen 
    (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: There is nothing wrong with a man 
    travelling away from his wife, so long as she is in a secure place, and if 
    he allows him to stay away for more than six months, there is no sin on him. 
    But if she demands her rights, and asks him to come to her, then he should 
    not be away from her for more than six months, unless there is an excuse 
    such as sickness for which he is being treated and the like, because cases 
    of necessity come under special rules. Whatever the case, the wife has the 
    right to decide. If she lets him go and she is in a secure place, then there 
    is no sin on him, even if the husband is away a great deal. End quote. 

    Fataawa al-‘Ulama’ fi ‘Ushrat al-Nisa’, 
    p. 106 

    And Allaah knows best.