She is asking a number of questions about al-hoor al-‘iyn in Paradise
Question

                I know that the man goes to Paradise he will have two wives from among al-hoor al-‘iyn in addition to his wives in this world. Which of them will be more beautiful – the women of this world or al-hoor al-‘iyn? Who will the man be more inclined towards, to the one who was his wife in this world or to al-hoor al-‘iyn? Will he meet these wives on a daily basis, and who will the husband sleep with at night?
Praise be to Allah.
      
      Firstly: 

    It is 
    proven in as-Saheehayn (Bukhaari 3033; Muslim 2835) from Abu Hurayrah, 
    from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “The first 
    group to enter Paradise will look like the moon when it is full, and those 
    who come after them will look like the most brilliant star in the sky. Their 
    hearts will be as one, and there will be no rancour or envy among them. Each 
    man among them will have two wives al-hoor al-‘iyn whose marrow can be seen 
    beneath their bones and flesh.” This version was narrated by al-Bukhaari. 

    The 
    scholars have answered what some may think, that what is meant by this 
    hadeeth is that the blessings of the believer will be limited to two wives 
    from among al-hoor al-‘iyn, even though the hadeeths prove that there is 
    more than that. Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said: What 
    is meant is that the minimum that each of them will have is two wives. End 
    quote from Fath al-Baari, 6/325 

    Imam 
    Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Undoubtedly the believer 
    in Paradise will have more than two, because of the hadeeth of Abu Moosa al-Ash‘ari 
    in as-Saheehayn, who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and 
    peace of Allah be upon him) said: “In Paradise the believer will have a tent 
    made from a single hollowed-out pearl, sixty miles high (or wide), in which 
    the believer will have wives and he will go around among them and they will 
    not see one another.” (Haadi al-Arwaah, 1/504). End quote. 

    
    Secondly: 

    With 
    regard to the differences between the women of this world and al-hoor al-‘iyn 
    in Paradise, in terms of status and beauty, the scholars differed concerning 
    this issue and there are two views. Some of them said that al-hoor al-‘iyn 
    are superior, and some of them said that the women of this world are 
    superior. There are hadeeths and reports concerning that, but none of them 
    are saheeh; if there were any saheeh reports, that would definitively settle 
    the dispute on this matter.

    What 
    appears to be the case – and Allah knows best – is that the situation of the 
    believing woman in Paradise will be superior to that of al-hoor al-‘iyn, and 
    she will be higher in status and more beautiful. If a righteous woman from 
    among the people of this world enters Paradise, she will enter it as a 
    reward for righteous deeds and as an honour to her from Allah for her 
    religious commitment and righteousness. As for the hoori, who is one of the 
    delights of Paradise, she was only created in Paradise for the sake of 
    someone else, and she is made as a reward for the believer for his righteous 
    deeds. There is a great difference between the one who enters Paradise as a 
    reward for her righteous deeds and the one who was created to be a reward 
    for the man who does righteous deeds. The former is like a queen with power 
    and authority, whereas the latter – no matter how great her status and 
    beauty – is of a lesser status than a queen; she is subject to her master, 
    the believer for whom Allah created her as a reward.

     See:
    Tafseer al-Qurtubi (16/154); at-Tadhkirah fi Ahwaal al-Mawtaa wa 
    Umoor al-Aakhirah (3/985) 

    
    Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: Do the 
    descriptions of al-hoor al-‘iyn also include the women of this world? 

    He 
    replied: What appears to be to be the case is that the women of this world 
    will be better than al-hoor al-‘iyn, even in terms of outward appearance. 
    And Allah knows best.

    See:
    Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb

    
    Thirdly: 

    With 
    regard to the wives of a believer in this world meeting one another, the 
    hadeeth of Abu Moosa al-Ash‘ari (may Allah be pleased with him) in as-Saheehayn 
    indicates that they will not see one another. The Messenger of Allah 
    (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “In Paradise the believer 
    will have a tent made from a single hollowed-out pearl, sixty miles high (or 
    wide), in which the believer will have wives and he will go around among 
    them and they will not see one another.” According to another report: “In 
    each corner of it there will be a wife whom the others will not see, and the 
    believer will go around among them.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3243 and 4879) 
    and Muslim (2838). 

    
    However what will benefit the questioner here is to know that one of the 
    blessings that Allah, may He be exalted, will bestow upon the people of 
    Paradise is that He will remove from them the resentment and envy that 
    exists in the hearts of people in this world, and He will take away from 
    them the worries, sorrows and pain of this world, for Paradise is the realm 
    of everlasting pleasure which will never be spoiled by anything. 

    
    Fourthly: 

    With 
    regard to your question, “who will the husband sleep with at night?”, you 
    should understand – may Allah bless us and you with Paradise by His grace 
    and mercy – that in Paradise there will be no night or day, no sun or moon. 
    Rather it will be perpetual light and its people will be in eternal light, 
    with some indications to show the passage of time. It was said that they 
    will know that from various lights; it was also said that they will know 
    morning and evening and the length of the night from light that emanates 
    from the Throne, and by the dropping of curtains and the closing of doors.

    See:
    Tafseer al-Baghawi (5/243); Tafseer al-Qurtubi (11/127); 
    at-Tadhkirah (3/1026); Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa by Ibn Taymiyah 
    (4/312); Tafseer Ibn Katheer (5/247) 

    Once 
    you understand this, you will know that the man in Paradise will have the 
    enjoyment of his wives from this world and al-hoor al-‘iyn, in a manner that 
    will suffice him and give him everlasting and unceasing pleasure, and will 
    also give his wives joy and pleasure, without anything to spoil it, and with 
    no end to the pleasure and no tiredness or boredom. 

    We 
    ask Allah the Almighty, the Lord of the mighty Throne, to enable us to reach 
    His Paradise and to bless us as He blessed His righteous slaves, and to 
    forgive us. Ameen. 

    For 
    more information, please see question no. 60188.