He made her divorce conditional upon her disobeying him, and she disobeyed him concerning something that came before his making it conditional; does the divorce count as such?
Question

                I am a young married man, working in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, and my wife is in Egypt. Some differences developed between me and my wife, and as a result of these differences she began not to obey me in some matters. I said to her: If I tell you to do something that does not involve disobedience to Allaah and you do not obey me in it, then you will be divorced, and if you lie to me a second time, you will be divorced. One week later she disobeyed me with regard to some matter that I had told her not to do before I swore this vow of divorcing her. Has divorce taken place or not? Please note that I am travelling and I will not go back until six months have passed, and the matter in which she disobeyed me did not involve any disobedience to Allaah. This is the first time I have sworn this oath to her. What is the solution?.
Praise be to Allah.
    Firstly: it is not appropriate for the husband to hasten to 
    make divorce conditional upon something that the wife does. If he does that, 
    then she is divorced. In many cases the husband regrets it after that, but 
    at a time when this regret does not benefit him. 

    You made a mistake when you made your wife's divorce 
    conditional on her not obeying you. That is not part of treating her kindly. 
    It is something that is very harsh on the wife, because you may tell her to 
    do something that harms her or something that is not pleasing to her or 
    something that is very difficult for her, then the wife will be caught 
    between a rock and a hard place: either she obeys you reluctantly, and that 
    will undoubtedly have a negative effect on the relationship between you, or 
    she will not obey you and then divorce will happen. 

    Secondly: 

    If a person makes divorce of his wife conditional upon 
    something, if his aim in doing so was merely to frighten her and threaten 
    her, then it comes under the ruling on oaths, and he has to offer expiation 
    for breaking an oath (kafaarat yameen) if she does that on which her divorce 
    was made conditional, but it does not count as a divorce. If his aim was 
    indeed that divorce should happen, then it does count as a divorce if she 
    does the thing on which divorce was made conditional. 

    See the answer to question number
    82400. 

    With regard to whether divorce has taken place because she 
    disobeyed you with regard to something that came up before these words were 
    spoken, it depends on your intention. If when you said that, you meant all 
    your commands to her, past and future, then divorce has taken place; but if 
    you meant whatever commands came after stipulating this condition of 
    divorce, then divorce has not taken place. 

    And Allaah knows best.