His mother treated him badly after he got married
Question

                One year ago I got married to my neighbour and Allaah knows that the girl whom I married is of good character, well mannered and respectable. She came to live with my family in the same apartment. There are five young men in my family and a girl who is 17 years old. Since I got married, my mother has started to change completely. She has started to insult me and swear at me in front of my wife and in front of my siblings. I am the oldest of my siblings and she insults me for the silliest reasons. If I try to speak to my brothers she comes and creates a reason to insult me. She has thrown me out of the house a number of times. I do not know why this change has come over my dear mother, despite the fact that I am not stingy towards them in any way. I am not of the type that prefers his wife over his family, but my mother is very irritable. I hope that you can explain things to me because I am not able to rent an apartment as my salary is barely sufficient. I hope that you can advise me, may Allaah bless you.
Praise be to Allah.We ask 
    Allaah to help you to honour your mother and treat her kindly, to set her 
    straight and to reconcile between you and help you both to obey Him and 
    please Him. 
What you are 
    suffering may be caused by feelings of jealousy on your mother’s part, or 
    because she feels that she has lost you after you got married and someone 
    else has taken possession of you. Some mothers have these feelings when 
    their sons get married, but they are inappropriate feelings and she should 
    strive to rid herself of them. 
You should 
    try to help her to go back to the way she was before. You can do this in 
    several ways: 

    1-Strive to treat her kindly, by 
    honouring her, taking care of her and making her feel that you still care 
    about her as you did before and are still keen to respond to her wishes.

    2-Avoid praising your wife or 
    paying her attention in front of your mother, but still give your wife her 
    rights to good treatment and respect, doing that out of your mother’s sight, 
    until your mother’s situation  improves and things go back to normal.

    3-Encourage your wife to get 
    close to your mother, by speaking to her, taking care of her, giving her 
    gifts and so on.

    4-Be patient with her insults, 
    swearing and throwing you out, for you are commanded to honour her, and it 
    is not permissible for you to respond to her bad treatment in kind. If you 
    bear that with patience, then you will find a way out, for good consequences 
    are for those who are patient, and support comes with patience, and with 
    hardship comes ease. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Repel 
    (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allaah orders the faithful 
    believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat 
    them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will 
    become) as though he was a close friend” [Fussilat 41:34].  Every time 
    she mistreats you, you should hasten to be kind, honour her and treat her 
    well. That guarantees that the negative feelings in her heart will go away, 
    in sha Allaah.

    5-Pray for her, that Allaah will 
    guide her aright and set the situation straight. She is the person who most 
    deserves your du’aa’s and kind treatment. No matter what you do, you can 
    never repay her for her kindness and previous good treatment. 
    

    6-Strive to be a good example to 
    your siblings, so that they may learn from you the best way of dealing with 
    this problem which may happen to them too after they get married. Be an 
    example of patience, good treatment and respect. Beware of letting the 
    shaytaan gradually make you scorn her or be rude to her or rebuke her, for 
    you will never find any good in such things. Allaah says (interpretation of 
    the meaning): “say not to them a word of 
    disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour” [al-Isra
    17:23].

    7-You should discuss the problem 
    with one of your siblings, for perhaps there are other aspects of the 
    problem that you are not aware of, or you have done something that has made 
    your mother angry without realizing it. Finding out the reason will make it 
    easier for you to deal with the problem.
We ask 
    Allaah to guide us and you. 
And Allaah 
    knows best.