He divorced her before consummating the marriage and wants to take her back without her father knowing
Question

                I am from an Arab country and my husband did the shar‘i marriage contract with me, then the civil marriage. Now we are waiting for a visa so that I can join him in America. My husband is very hot-tempered and he does not know what he is saying when he gets angry, but he always regrets it after that. Whilst we were arguing over the Internet and he was very angry, he said to me “You are divorced (anti taaliq)”, one time only. Now he wants to take me back but he does not want anyone to hear about what happened, especially my parents. Is there any way to put things right without the family knowing?.
Praise be to Allah.
    Firstly: 

    If this divorce took place before the marriage was 
    consummated and before you were alone together, i.e., he was not alone with 
    you in a place where no one could see you, then this is an irrevocable 
    divorce, according to the consensus of the scholars, and it is not 
    permissible for you to go back to him except with a new marriage contract 
    that fulfils all the conditions, namely the consent of the wife and the wali 
    (guardian) and the presence of two witnesses. 

    Ibn Qudaamah said in al-Mughni (7/397): 

    The scholars are unanimously agreed that a woman with whom 
    the marriage has not been consummated is irrevocably divorced with one 
    talaaq, and the one who divorced her is not entitled to take her back. That 
    is because taking back can only occur during the ‘iddah, and there is no 
    ‘iddah before consummation, because Allah, may He be exalted, says 
    (interpretation of the meaning):

    “O you who believe! When you marry believing women, and 
    then divorce them before you have sexual intercourse with them, no ‘Iddah 
    (divorce prescribed period, see) have you to count in respect of them”

    [al-Ahzaab 33:40]. End quote. 

    Secondly: 

    If divorce takes place before consummation but after the 
    couple have been alone together, in this case it was a difference of opinion 
    among the fuqaha’. The majority are of the view that it is an irrevocable 
    divorce and there can be no taking back except after doing a new marriage 
    contract. 

    The Hanbalis are of the view that it is a revocable divorce, 
    so the husband can take his wife back in this case without her consent and 
    without a new marriage contract, so long as the ‘iddah has not yet ended. 

    See the answer to question no.
    118557 

    There is no doubt that following the view of the majority is 
    more on the safe side, but if that will result in telling the parents and 
    their refusing to do a new marriage contract, and the wife wants to go back 
    to her husband, and the husband is satisfactory in terms of religious 
    commitment and character, then perhaps the Hanbali view may offer a way out 
    for her, so that her husband can take her back without a new marriage 
    contract, so long as the ‘iddah has not yet ended. But if the ‘iddah has 
    ended, she is irrevocably divorced from him. 

    To sum up, if you have not been alone together, there is no 
    way for you to go back to your husband except with a new marriage contract 
    to be done by your guardian in the presence of two witnesses. 

    If you have been alone together and you want to go back to 
    him, and you think it most likely that he will not harm you in the future by 
    divorcing you because of his hot temper, then you may go back to him without 
    telling your parents, so long as your ‘iddah has not yet ended. The ‘iddah 
    in the case of divorce for a woman who menstruates is three menstrual 
    cycles; the ‘iddah of one who does not menstruates is three months. 

    Thirdly: 

    For information on the ruling on divorce in the case of 
    anger, please see the answer to question no.
    45174. 

    And Allah knows best.