She did not complete ‘umrah and she swore that she would not do it until she reached the age of forty
Question

                More than five years ago, myself, my mother, my father and my brother went to do ‘umrah. When we entered the Haram, my father said: I am going to pray ‘Isha’. He and my brother went, and my mother and I waited, and he disappeared for two hours or more – I do not remember – but we got tired of waiting for them, and my mother feared for them, and we did not have cell phones with us. I do not know how to do ‘umrah. Finally my father came, but we were utterly exhausted because of the severe crowding. We said to my father: Where were you? He said: I did ‘umrah; why didn’t you do ‘umrah? We said: We were waiting for you, and we did not know that you wanted us to do ‘umrah, because you did not tell us. My father got angry because he was tired, as we had come from al-Qasim. We went to my mother’s family in Makkah and we did not do ‘umrah. What is the ruling on that, and what must we do? Also, at that time I was studying in high school, and because I was utterly tired and distressed because of the crowding and the women bumping into me, I got angry and I swore that I would not do ‘umrah until I was forty years old. Now I want to do ‘umrah, so what should I do?
Praise be to Allah.
	Firstly:

	One of the 
	mistakes that some people make is not asking about something that happened 
	until a long time has passed, which is indicative of heedlessness, because 
	what they should do is hasten to ask so that they can make up for whatever 
	can be made up.

	Secondly:

	Whoever enters 
	ihram for either Hajj or ‘umrah must complete it, and it is not permissible 
	for him to interrupt that ritual before completing it, because Allah, may He 
	be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

	“And 
	perform properly (i.e. all the ceremonies according to the ways of Prophet 
	Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)), the Hajj and Umrah 
	(i.e. the pilgrimage to Makkah) for Allah”

	[al-Baqarah 
	2:196].
	

	What you and 
	your mother should have done during that time was perform ‘umrah, and you 
	should not have obeyed your father by abandoning ‘umrah.

	Based on that, 
	what you must do now is go back to Makkah to complete ‘umrah by doing tawaaf 
	and sa‘i, and cutting your hair. Thus you will exit ihram for ‘umrah.

	You must also 
	avoid the things that are prohibited whilst in ihram, such as wearing 
	perfume, cutting your hair and nails, wearing gloves and niqab, entering 
	into a marriage contract, or having intercourse and doing the things that 
	lead to it.

	If it so happens 
	that you have done any of these prohibited things out of ignorance or 
	because you forgot, then you do not have to do anything further.

	As for the one 
	who falls short in asking, or knows that he must do something but does not 
	enquire as to what exactly it is, or he knows that he made a mistake by 
	failing to complete ‘umrah and that he was obliged to complete it but did 
	not do that, then he must pay a penalty for each of the things that are 
	prohibited in ihram that he committed, before he completes the ‘umrah that 
	he started and exits ihram from it in the proper manner. For more 
	information, please see the answer to question no. 
	104178.

	If you got 
	married during this period, then you must repeat the marriage contract with 
	your husband; so your guardian must do a new marriage contract for you with 
	your husband, in the presence of two witnesses, because you were in a state 
	of ihram and that remains in effect until you do ‘umrah and complete it.
	

	See the answer 
	to question no. 176422

	Thirdly: 
	

	With regard to 
	your saying “I swore that I would not do ‘umrah until I was forty years old” 
	this does not include the ‘umrah that you did not complete, because that 
	happened before you swore the oath.

	But if you want 
	to do ‘umrah again before you reach the age of forty, then in this case you 
	must offer expiation for breaking an oath (kafaarat yameen), because the 
	Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever swears an 
	oath then sees that something else is better than it, let him do that and 
	offer expiation for his oath.”

	Narrated by 
	Muslim (1650)

	You should not 
	let that oath prevent you from doing an act of obedience to Allah, and you 
	should discipline yourself to refrain from doing such a thing in the future. 
	It is not wise or sensible at all for a Muslim to let his anger make him do 
	such things, for he may swear an oath or say something or do something out 
	of anger, then regret it after that, when it is too late and it is not 
	possible to make up for what he did.

	And Allah knows 
	best.