Resisting the temptation of women
Question

                This question is not really to get a ruling on whether what I'm doing is
      wrong. It's a question on how to get rid of my problem. I can't stop talking and going out
      with girls. When a girl starts flirting with me it's like I can't tell her no. It is
      like my brain stops functioning. I usually end up going out with the girl and may be kiss
      but elhamdullilah I have never been further. I know what I do is wrong; and believe me I
      feel guilty after every date, but I don't know what to do. Please help me. I'm weak when
      it comes to women and I don't know what to do. I pray 5 times a day, and I fast, and I try
      to be good but when it comes to women I can't control myself. Thank you for your help.
      Salam
Praise be to Allah.The Prophet 
 (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) spoke the
    truth when he said, I am not leaving behind any fitnah (trial, temptation) more
    harmful to men than women. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4706).
    He 
 (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also
    said: This world is sweet and dazzling, and Allaah has you put in charge of it to
    see how you will do and what you will do, so beware of this world and beware of women, for
    the first fitnah (temptation, trial) that befell the Children of Israel was concerning
    women. (Reported by Muslim, 4925).
    You have to deal with two things, one now and one in the
    future. As far as your past misbehaviour is concerned, you must repent sincerely to Allaah
    right now, and do good deeds to expiate for your bad deeds, as was reported in the hadeeth
    of Ibn Masood (may Allaah be pleased with him), who said that a man kissed a woman
    [who was unlawful for him]; he came to the Prophet 
 (peace and blessings of Allaah be
    upon him) and told him about it, [saying, I met a woman in the garden, and I
    embraced her, touched her and kissed her]. [Here I am, judge concerning me as you
    wish.] [He started asking how he could expiate for this, and (the Prophet 
    (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)) did not say anything]. Then Allaah revealed
    the words (interpretation of the meaning): And perform al-salaah at the two ends
    of the day and in some hours of the night. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil
    deeds [Hood 11:114]. The man asked, O Messenger of Allaah, is this
    just for me? He said, It is for all of my ummah (reported by
    al-Bukhaari, 495; additional material in brackets is from the reports of al-Tirmidhi,
    Ahmad, Muslim and Ibn Maajah, in that order), so do a lot of acts of
    worship and good deeds, so that Allaah may accept your repentance. 
    As far as the future is concerned, you are not permitted at all to go
    to places where there is corruption and free mixing, where you are likely to meet women.
    You say that you cannot control yourself, so why do you go to places where you spend time
    chatting informally with women, and then say that you cannot resist? What you say is
    completely unacceptable. If you avoid the places and things that lead to evil, and do not
    expose yourself to it, you will protect yourself from falling into sin. Fear Allaah, for
    Allaah is watching you to see how you will do and what you will do. Beware of going to
    places that will lead you into haraam things. Remember that the more you indulge in haraam
    activities, the more difficult it is to retreat, so nip it in the bud. Stick to righteous
    company, and keep away from evil things and evil people. Do everything that will help you
    to remain chaste, such as hastening to marry and lowering your gaze. I ask Allaah to
    protect you from the temptation of women. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.