Is it obligatory to inform a suitor of hair growing on the face?
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                It helped me a lot in making the discision I made elhamdullilah. Introduction. I am not married yet but Ive come to an age that people are interested but not lot have asked my hand because I am still studying. In our little community they dont ask hand of girls who are still studying, I dont know why, maybe they're afraid to be rejected? Allahu ahlam. But honestly I don't think I'll be able to be a good whife and a student at the same time but that is something I will think about when someone will come In Sha Allah. Question: I have a problem. Certain parts on my body ( legs, armpits, lips) are to hairy and I even have sideburns. I pluck it so it doesn't grow fast as when I shave it ( I do nothing with my sideburns). If you see me, so just my face cause I way hijaab en abaya, you would never tell that I have this issue. It's not that I let it grow, definitly not my armpits cause we are not allowed to alhmdoullilah. I have two question; - Should I better tell or not tell the man who will ask my hand about my condition ? And how, trough whom I should say it to him, cause I won't be sitting with him alone untill I got married and than it's to late i suppose.
Praise be to Allah.
      Firstly: 

    There is nothing wrong with a woman removing hair from the 
    face or lips, whether that is done using something that will stop is 
    appearing altogether or by removing it every time it appears, because this 
    hair is one of the things about which nothing is said (in Islam), and such 
    matters are forgiven. 

    Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: What 
    is the ruling on women removing unwanted hair permanently, i.e., so that it 
    will not grow back again, by using cosmetic preparations such as creams and 
    herbs? Is that regarded as changing the creation of Allah? 

    He replied: There is nothing wrong with that and it is not 
    regarded as the kind of changing that is forbidden. If a man or woman 
    removes hair from the armpit or pubic region with something that will 
    prevent it growing back again, there is nothing wrong with that and there is 
    no sin in it.

    End quote from Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb 


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    For more information, please see the answer to question no.
    9037

    Secondly: 

    The basic principle is that any physical defect that is 
    off-putting to either of the spouses, or causes harm, or leads to missing 
    out on the purpose of marriage, must be disclosed. 

    Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The ruling 
    is that any physical defect that is off-putting to the other spouse, in such 
    a way that the purposes of marriage, such as compassion and love, could not 
    be achieved, should be disclosed so that suitor may make a decision in the 
    light of that.

    End quote from Zaad al-Ma‘aad, 5/166 

    Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The 
    correct view is that a physical defect is anything that leads to missing out 
    on the purpose of marriage. Undoubtedly some of the most important purposes 
    of marriage are pleasure, service and producing offspring. If there is 
    anything that prevents fulfillment of these purposes, then it is a physical 
    defect.

    End quote from ash-Sharh al-Mumti‘, 12/220 

    The guidelines on determining the kind of physical defect of 
    which one must inform the husband or suitor, so that he may make a decision 
    in the light of that, are three: 

    1.The illness must have an impact 
    on married life and affect the woman’s ability to fulfil the rights of the 
    husband and children.

    2.It should be off-putting to the 
    husband if he sees it or smells it.

    3.It should be real and 
    permanent, not something imagined or temporary that will go away with time 
    or after marriage.

    Please see the answer to question no. 
    111980

    In Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah (19/14) it says: If 
    this problem is temporary and is one of the things that happen to women then 
    disappear, there is no need to inform the suitor about it. But if this 
    problem is a kind of illness that has an impact or is not a minor, temporary 
    problem, and the proposal goes ahead when she still has the problem and has 
    not been healed of it, then in that case her guardian must inform the suitor 
    of that. End quote. 

    Based on the above: 

    If this hair can be removed permanently, whether that is by 
    means of creams, medicines or hormones that control it, then it is 
    prescribed to remove it and ward off its harm, and it is not necessary to 
    inform the suitor of that at all. 

    If it cannot be removed permanently, but it can be taken care 
    of and whatever appears of it can before it becomes obvious and off-putting 
    to the husband, then it is not necessary to inform him of it, but you have 
    to do that pay attention to it and ward off harm from yourself and your 
    husband. 

    Is it so happens that despite paying attention to it some of 
    it is left and is off-putting, and the harm cannot be warded off altogether, 
    then in this case it is necessary to inform the suitor of the situation. 

    There is no stipulation that this should be done by you 
    telling him directly; rather it could be done by showing him a medical 
    report about your condition, or telling some trustworthy women among his 
    relatives, such as his mother or sister, about the situation, and they can 
    then tell him about it. 

    And Allah knows best.