Her husband did
    not respect her family and divorced her after the nikaah but before the wedding party
Question

                I have a two part question.
      First of all, I recently divorced from my husband. There were many reasons but the main
      reason was that he disrespected my mother and father by talking to them very harshly not
      once but several times. I figured if he could not respect my parents how could he possibly
      respect me? I love my parents very much and I don't like to see them hurt. My question is
      what is a husband's role in Islam in repect to his wife . Isn't he suppose to respect her
      family also? Once a woman gets married does it mean that the husband is first priority and
      that her parents come in second? 
      Secondly, I only had the Nikkah done, the rukhsati was going to be in April but I still
      lost my virginity. Now I fear my ex-husband will tell this in court which will be a cause
      of extreme embarassment for me in front of my parents especially my father. According to
      Islam, is it wrong to lose one's virginity before rukhsati?
Praise be to Allah.The parents have great rights, but the husband has a
    greater right. It is not permissible for either party to abuse the rights of the other. If
    the wife thinks that her husband has wronged her parents, she should advise him and remind
    him that the aayah (interpretation of the meaning),  and live with them
    [wives] honourably [al-Nisa 4:19] includes treating her family well
    too, because that makes her happy, and it includes not harming them, because that upsets
    her. By the same token, if one or both of her parents abuse her husbands rights, she
    should advise them and remind them of the seriousness of backbiting, wrongdoing and
    aggression. If they order her to do something and her husband orders her to do the
    opposite, then her husband takes precedence, because his rights are greater in
    shareeah. This does not mean that she should forget about their rights; this is the
    guideline she should follow in cases where there is a conflict.
With regard to your second question, it is not haraam according to
    shareeah for a man to have intercourse with his wife after the nikaah (conclusion of
    the marriage contract) and before the wedding party. Whatever happened after the nikaah is
    halaal (permissible), so there is no scandal involved and no need to fear the
    consequences. If a man divorces his wife after the marriage has been consummated, then she
    is entitled to keep the entire mahr (dowry)
If it is possible for mediators to try to bring you back together in
    accordance with shareeah and following the proper etiquette, then this is better.
    And Allaah is the source of strength.