Does touching with desire count as taking back a divorced wife?
Question

                For about 2 years now my husband and I have been having extreme marry difficulties, the problems have gotten soo bad that it has ended up in 2 divorces, the first divorce he took me back (having intercourse with me), the second divorce he just touched me (without having intercourse),but the touch was in a romatic way. He claims that I am still divorced, because he says that he has to have actual intercourse with me, I have passed one period, so he says that I have 2 more left and my iddah is over, is he right? or did he take me back even though he did not have intercourse with me he just touched me?.
Praise be to Allah.
    Firstly: 

    Taking back the wife during the ‘iddah period is a right 
    which sharee’ah gives to the husband. If he wants, he may take her back and 
    if he wants, he may leave his wife until the ‘iddah period is over. Allaah 
    says (interpretation of the meaning): 

    “And their husbands have the better right to take them 
    back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation”

    [al-Baqarah 2:228]

    So Allaah has given the husbands of divorced women the right 
    to take them back during this period [i.e., the ‘iddah] if they intend 
    reconciliation thereby. 

    This taking back may be achieved in two ways: by word or by 
    deed. 

    Taking the wife back by word means saying, for example, “I 
    take back my wife” or “I am keeping my wife,” etc., or saying to her: “I 
    take you back,” or “I am keeping you,” etc. 

    Taking back is achieved by means of these phrases, according 
    to the consensus of the fuqaha’. 

    Writing may take the place of speaking, and a gesture may 
    take its place on the part of one who is unable to speak these words, such 
    as one who is mute. 

    Taking the wife back by deed means intercourse, so long as 
    that is with the intention of reconciliation. 

    Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di said: 
If the husband had divorced her with a 
    revocable talaaq, then if the ‘iddah is over she is not permissible for him 
    unless a new marriage contract is done, fulfilling all necessary conditions. 
    If the ‘iddah is not yet over, and if the intention behind intercourse is 
    reconciliation, then this is taking her back and intercourse is permissible. 
    If there is no intention of reconciliation then according to the madhhab 
    this means that he has taken her back, but according to the correct view 
    this does not mean that he has taken her back, therefore intercourse is 
    haraam. 

    Al-Irshaad ila Ma’rifat al-Ahkaam. 

    Based on this, then your husband’s merely touching you is not 
    regarded as him taking you back. 

    See also the answer to question no.
    11798. 

    This is the view of the majority of scholars (including Imam 
    Maalik, al-Shaafa’i and Ahmad), that taking back the wife is not achieved by 
    merely touching with desire. But Imam Maalik said: Taking back is achieved 
    by touching with desire if the intention is to take the wife back. So long 
    as your husband says that he that he did not intend to take you back, then 
    he did not take you back by doing that. 

    See al-Mughni, 7/404; al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah, 
    13/187. 

    Secondly: 

    With regard to the ‘iddah of a woman divorced by a revocable 
    talaaq, it is three menstrual cycles for women who menstruate, so there are 
    two cycles left for you as your husband said, then your ‘iddah will be over. 
    If he took you back during this time then this divorce is counted as one of 
    the three talaaqs, and he has to bring people to witness that he is taking 
    you back. So he has one talaaq left, and if he does not take you back during 
    the ‘iddah period then you are divorced from him, and it is not permissible 
    for him to go back to you except with a new marriage contract and a new 
    ‘iddah, and the marriage cannot be completed except with your consent and 
    the agreement of your wali (guardian). 

    And Allaah knows best.