Tension in the
    home because of fiqhi differences between husband and wife
Question

                My husband is a strict follower of the
      Shafi'ee madhab, while I prefer to choose the fatwa which my mind tells me is based on
      stronger daleel no matter what the origin of the school is, whenever there is a difference
      between the well-known madhabs. My husband tells me that I don't have the right to do this
      since I am not a scholar myself. Is he right?Please reply if at all possible, because there has been a lot of tension
      in my household because of this.
Praise be to Allah.In order to answer this question, we must shed light on
    three things:
we must point out the importance of avoiding sectarianism in following
        any school of thought, whether it has to do with fiqh, thought or anything else. We should
        get into the habit of following the Quraan and Sunnah and letting them be our guide.

There is such a thing as the inclination to follow one of the opinions
        of the fuqaha, not on the basis of Tarjeeh (weighing and comparing evidence) but
        because of a desire to follow the easiest way or because it suits one's own desires. A
        person may find some justification for motives that he thinks are correct, and does not
        realize they are wrong until later on. Therefore one should only select or give preference
        to an opinion either by studying the matter and examining the evidence and proofs offered
        by all sides, which should be done by one who has sound knowledge, or else by following a
        scholar who is well known to be knowledgeable, religious, pious and righteous, so that one
        feels confident of his sincerity and wide knowledge.

Keeping the peace in the marital home is more important than disputing
        as to whose opinion or madhhab should prevail, so long as the issue in question is one in
        which differences of opinion are permissible and every opinion has some grounds for
        validity. At the same time, it should be pointed out to the husband, gently and calmly,
        that it is important to base ones opinions on sound evidence, and that not every
        scholarly opinion or madhhab is always correct. The scholars themselves said that their
        opinions should be discounted if they contradicted well known evidence, as
        al-Shaafai said: If my opinion contradicts a hadeeth of the Messenger of
        Allaah 
 (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), cast it aside (lit. throw it against
        the wall).

If you and your husband are not students of shareeah with a firm
    grounding of knowledge, then you have to refer to one of the scholars and follow his
    opinions. If you agree on a scholar you can both refer to him, and if your husband chooses
    someone according to what he thinks is best and you choose someone else, there is nothing
    wrong with that. Each of you can follow his or her scholar in matters that do not affect
    the other, but in matters where the husband has authority or responsibility, the opinion
    of the scholar whom your husband is following should prevail. And Allaah knows best.