Advice to someone who had a bad experience of marriage which has put them off the idea of ever getting married again
Question

                i am a muslim man .i was married first in 2005 and divorced after 6 months. and again in 2008.i had sexual relations with both. my first wife had a boy friend who was her classmate which i did not know did not like my telling her not to talk to an indecent man and also my trying to be more islamic and she left me and asked for a divorce after a fight and i was forced to pronounce talaq 3 times at once with the demand being made by her to do so. subsequently i married for the second time and my father was seriously ill and i had to quit my job so as to look after him.he died 1.5 yrs later.my mother was in iddath and my second wife took all her jewellery and was not traceable for 10 days.after 10 days her father calls up and abuses me and my mother and says that if i wanted her i should leave my old mother and live with my wife separately. or else i should divorce her and that she was not willing to stay together. she and her father threatened to jail me and my mother and beat us up if we went to her house. i had no choice but to give talaq again.what troubles me is that i was forced on both occasions to give three talaaq at one go by both women.was i right? now i am single and hate the thought of marriage ever.
Praise be to Allah.
    We ask 
    Allah, may He be glorified, to help you cope with what has been decreed for 
    you, and to help you to think straight and mend your ways, and to relieve 
    you of your distress and sorrow, and to bestow upon you a great reward for 
    having honoured your parents, for He, may He be glorified, is Most Generous. 
    We advise you to not to be hasty with regard to the matter of divorce, as it 
    should be the last resort, not the first option, because divorce is 
    something that is disliked in and of itself, and nothing changes that fact 
    except in cases where it is justified to resort to it. 

    You 
    should understand that it is essential for the Muslim, from the outset, to 
    choose a wife who meets the requirements that prescribed in Islam, and not 
    hasten to get married without thorough checking and consideration. Rather he 
    should think long and hard, research the matter and ask questions, so that 
    he can find one who is religiously committed and of good character. Failing 
    to look for one who is religiously committed and of good character, in 
    pursuit of transient worldly standards that will fade and diminish, such as 
    lineage, wealth and beauty, is what usually leads to separation and dissent 
    first of all, then ultimately to divorce. 

    The 
    Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) encouraged us 
    to look for a righteous wife. Al-Bukhaari (5090), Muslim (1466) and others 
    narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet 
    (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Women may be married for 
    four things: their wealth, their lineage, their beauty and their religious 
    commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be 
    rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” 

    It was 
    narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah in his Musannaf (17149) and Abu Ya‘la 
    al-Mawsili in his Musnad (1012) that Abu Sa‘eed said: The Messenger 
    of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A woman may be 
    married for one of three characteristics: a woman may be married for her 
    wealth, or for her beauty, or she may be married for her religious 
    commitment. You should look for the one who is religiously committed and of 
    good character, may your right hand be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you 
    prosper).”

    
    Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Targheeb wa’t-Tarheeb, 
    no. 1919 

    With 
    regard to divorcing your wife who used to talk to her male friend, you had 
    the right to divorce her, especially after it became clear that she was 
    persisting in doing that and she refused to accept advice, and she asked for 
    divorce. 

    With 
    regard to your wife who left the house because she objected to your 
    honouring your parents and looking after them, although she was wrong to do 
    that, you could have been patient with her and with her father’s offensive 
    attitude, and you could have advised her and informed her of parents’ 
    rights, and exhorted her in general with regard to this and other matters of 
    religion, especially since you had neglected her rights. You should have 
    examined the matter further, and tried to give each person his or her due 
    rights. 

    But 
    whatever the case, this is something that has passed, and perhaps it will be 
    a lesson to you for the future. Whatever Allah wills happens and whatever He 
    does not will does not happen. What matters is that you learn from this 
    experience for the future. 

    
    Finally, we advise you not to let this previous experience influence your 
    attitude towards marriage and make you prefer to remain single, because that 
    is a mistake. Marriage is part of the way of the Prophets and Messengers. 
    Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And 
    indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad SAW), and made for them 
    wives and offspring” 
    [ar-Ra‘d 13:38]. 

    Shaykh 
    Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen said, discussing what we learn from the 
    verse (interpretation of the meaning): “And 
    We said: ‘O Adam! Dwell you and your wife in Paradise” 
    [al-Baqarah 2:35]:

    … 
    Marriage is an ancient practice, since the time Allah created Adam, and it 
    continued among his descendants, the Messengers and Prophets, and others, as 
    Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And 
    indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad SAW), and made for them 
    wives and offspring” 
    [ar-Ra‘d 13:38].

    End 
    quote from Tafseer Soorat al-Baqarah, 1/130 

    
    Because of that, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said 
    to a group of the Sahaabah who wanted to go to extremes in worship and 
    strive hard in it:

    “By 
    Allah, I am the most pious among you and I fear Allah the most, but I fast 
    and do not fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever turns away 
    from my Sunnah is not of me.”

    
    Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5063) and Muslim (1401). 

    
    However we should point out that the divorces did count as such at all 
    times, if you agreed to it and meant it. If what you mean when you say that 
    you were forced to do it is that you were compelled to do that in order to 
    rid yourself of these wives and their defiant attitudes, then this is 
    correct. But if what you mean by being forced to do it is that you were 
    compelled in the shar‘i sense, i.e., that you are forced to do it in such a 
    way that the divorce does not count as such, then this is not correct. 
    Rather the divorce counts such because you decided and chose to do it, 
    therefore it counts as such.

    For 
    more information on the rulings on the threefold talaaq, please see fatwa 
    no. 36580 

    And 
    Allah knows best.