A Christian woman is asking for advice about her relationship with a Muslim who talks with her and goes out with her
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                Very Happy to reach your site, hope I find my solution here, here's my story. 

I am a 23-years mother with two kids. I have met a 30-years Muslim man, talked together on phone, things went well, and finally I met him face to face last Saturday when we talked for 5 minutes before he leaves. Then we met again on Sunday, went to see a movie, and he kissed me on my lips. I am not sure of his adherence to Islam, all I know is that he doesn't smoke nor does he drink alcohol. He even advises me to keep away from such two bad habits.

My question is : can a Muslim behave seriously with a woman like me with two children (not cheating)? A Muslim sister answered me with "No" because I am not a virgin in addition that dating is not allowed in Islam. I am feeling badly as I love him much and respect his religion. I can't imagine how his family will look to me if both he and me keep this relation? Will they think ill of me as a bad woman who has two kids and go out with men? I know it is not permissible for a Muslim man to date a (non-mahram) woman and go out with her, but I don't know how did I do that? I love him and when we meet, we talk in many things, he tells me that I am everything for him, he became a captive lover to me, and he will never exploit me oneday, he promised not to do. Since first day we have met, I told him on Facebook site that if he is looking for sex, he can search for it in another place. I was kissing him out of love but didn't fall in adultery. Please deliver an advice that can show me the right way. thanks.
Praise be to Allah.
    Firstly: 

    Allah created men and women and created in each of them 
    attraction towards the other as part of their nature, which no one can deny. 
    Islam pays attention to that and regulates the relationship between the two, 
    which is restricted to marriage; Islam forbids any other kind of 
    relationship which is unacceptable to sound human nature and proper 
    thinking. Woman is not a cheap product for anyone who wants to have his way 
    with her; rather she is respected and should be for one man to take care of 
    her, spend on her and give her her rights. The way to take a woman as a wife 
    is by seeing her first, then asking her guardian for her hand, then giving 
    some wealth to be a dowry for her. All of that means that Islam regards 
    woman as a respectable being, not something that is easily obtained, so that 
    she will not be treated carelessly and looked down upon. What we see in the 
    world of promiscuity is that a man tries to get a woman he likes in order to 
    have his way with her, then he throws her aside so that he can look for 
    another who is more beautiful than her, and so on; and he moves from one 
    prey to another, one girlfriend to another. Thus no family is formed and no 
    children are born; as a result no family is formed on a basis of peace and 
    tranquillity. All of that is rejected in Islam which forbids it in a way 
    that leaves no room for differences of opinion. Every Muslim who goes 
    against that is following his whims and desires and is imitating deviant and 
    immoral people. Islam disavows his conduct and actions. 

    Based on that, relationships that occur between men and women 
    outside the framework of legitimate, documented marriage are haraam 
    (forbidden) relationships which it is not permissible for a Muslim to form 
    with any woman, whether she is Muslim or non-Muslim. We admire your telling 
    this Muslim man who is going against his religion that if he is looking for 
    sex he should look somewhere else. This confirms what we have said, that 
    woman is not a cheap product. But we do not approve of your going out with 
    him and what happened between you of being alone together and kissing. If 
    you think that this is something normal in your view, that is not the case 
    for us. What he has done are things that are forbidden in Islam and it is 
    not appropriate for a Muslim to do them. If you like each other, then the 
    only way for meetings between you to be permissible is marriage and nothing 
    else. Any meeting or relationship with a woman who is not related to the man 
    that occurs outside the framework of marriage is haraam (forbidden) and is 
    deserving of punishment in the Hereafter. 

    See, for example, the answer to question no.
    34841. 

    Secondly: 

    You should note that Islam permits marriage to a Christian 
    woman on condition that she should be a believer in her religion and she 
    should not be an atheist or a person with no religion, and on condition that 
    she should be chaste and honourable, not a fornicator or a woman who has 
    boyfriends. In order for the marriage contract to be valid, you should have 
    a guardian who will give your hand in marriage and there should be two 
    Muslim witnesses to the marriage contract; announcement of the marriage may 
    take the place of witnesses. For more details on this, please see the answer 
    to questions no. 2527 and
    12283. 

    The fact that a woman has children from a previous marriage 
    does not affect her marriage to a Muslim. If someone says that it is not 
    permissible for a Christian or Jewish woman to marry a Muslim unless she is 
    a virgin, that view is not correct. Rather the condition for her being 
    permissible (as a wife for a Muslim man) is that she should be chaste and 
    avoid fornication. This condition also applies to Muslim women; it is not 
    permissible for a chaste Muslim man to marry a woman who commits fornication 
    unless she repents sincerely. And it is not permissible for a chaste woman 
    to marry a man who commits fornication unless he repents sincerely, as we 
    have explained in the answer to question no.
    85335. 

    As the relationship between you has not gone as far as 
    fornication or adultery as you say, praise be to Allah, then there is no 
    reason why he should not marry you, as we have explained in the answer to 
    question no. 148528. 

    Thirdly: 

    With regard to the Muslim man’s family, they may accept their 
    son marrying a Christian woman who has children. If they refuse, that is not 
    because it is something that is forbidden in Islam; rather it may be for 
    cultural reasons, or perhaps because they think that their son is not able 
    to fulfil the rights of that wife and take care of her children. But they 
    cannot accept their son having a girlfriend with whom he spends time alone 
    or travels with her; if they accept that, then they are undoubtedly going 
    against Islamic teachings. 

    The issue of whether or not his family will accept that is a 
    social issue, not a religious ruling. It is not one of the conditions of a 
    man’s marriage that his family should accept it, although that is something 
    that is desirable. 

    Fourthly: 

    Even though the man is Muslim – as you say – that does not 
    prevent us from speaking the truth with regard to what he has done with you 
    and the ruling on his relationship with you. We would give you some further 
    advice: do not pay any attention to the sweet talk from anyone who has a 
    relationship with you outside the framework of marriage. That includes this 
    man’s saying that he has become “a captive love” to you and that he “will 
    never exploit” you, and other such enchanting words. All of that is most 
    likely aimed at getting what he wants, which is to have his way with you, 
    then he will go off and look for someone else. What we are saying is only 
    based on understanding the reality of illicit relationships, especially 
    those that begin in chat rooms and on Facebook. We hope that you will not be 
    deceived by this sweet talk. If this man is sincere in his love for you, 
    then let him prove it by marrying you. As for proving that by going out 
    together to watch a movie or to a restaurant, none of that is proof of 
    sincerity of feelings, so do not pin your hopes on it. Even if non-Muslims 
    do that and women accept it, Islam forbids it and does not approve it, and 
    it warns women against being fooled by it. 

    Fifthly: 

    Now the opportunity presents itself for us to tell you of 
    something that will be better for you in this world and in the Hereafter, 
    which is to enter Islam and become a Muslim woman who affirms the Oneness of 
    Allah, the Creator of the universe and the Provider of all creation. This 
    religion to which we are calling you is the religion of Jesus (peace be upon 
    him) and the religion of Abraham and their fellow Prophets and Messengers, 
    all of whom worshipped One Lord, namely Allah, may He be glorified and 
    exalted. They devoted their worship to Him alone, with no partner or 
    associate, and they called the people to do likewise. Islam is the religion 
    that brought rulings which are suited to all times and all places; it 
    addresses the interests of individuals and societies. You will feel great 
    happiness, as has been experienced by those who have gone ahead of you on 
    this path. After that, Allah will make it easy for you to find a suitable 
    husband who will take care of you, give you your rights and seek reward with 
    Allah by taking care of your children, and perhaps you and he will attain 
    the reward of their becoming Muslim and you will be together with them in 
    this world and the Hereafter. If you do not become Muslim, then you must 
    understand that even if you are together with a Muslim man as his wife in 
    this world, in the Hereafter you will inevitably be separated from him. This 
    underlines what we have said, that your becoming Muslim means attaining 
    success in this world and in the Hereafter. Being together with your husband 
    and children in the Paradise of eternity is a great success for which wise 
    people strive and those who are doomed miss out on. 

    We ask Allah to guide you to that which is best for you in 
    this world and in the Hereafter, and to make it easy for you to find a 
    righteous and good husband. 

    And Allah knows best.