He is asking about the words of Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) to Ismaa’eel: “Change your doorstep”
Question

                Is there a hadith on a man being told that he should change his doorstep if his wife utters a word of disrespect? Please help me find it (if it exists) and help me to understand the conext that it was used for.
Praise be to Allah.
    The hadeeth to which the questioner refers is that in which 
    the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told the story 
    of Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) with the mother of Ismaa’eel (peace be upon 
    him), when Ibraaheem al-Khaleel left her and her son at the sacred House of 
    Allaah, and the events that followed. 

    This story was narrated by al-Bukhaari in full in his 
    Saheeh. And Allaah has told us in the Qur’aan of some of the details of 
    this story, such as in Soorat Ibraaheem, where He tells us that Ibraaheem 
    left his wife and son in Makkah and went back to Syria as Allaah had 
    commanded him to do, then he came back to Makkah when Ismaa’eel had grown 
    up. The Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) tells us 
    about his return to Makkah: 

    Ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Prophet  (peace and blessings of 
    Allaah be upon him) said: “The mother of Ismaa’eel was pleased with that 
    [the arrival of Jurhum in Makkah] as she loved the company of people. So 
    they settled there and sent for their families who came and settled with 
    them, so that some families became permanent residents there.  

    The child (i.e. Ismaa’eel) grew up and learnt Arabic from 
    them and (his virtues) caused them to love and admire him as he grew up, and 
    when he grew up, they gave one of their women to him in marriage.  

    The mother of Ismaa’eel died, then Ibraaheem came after 
    Ismaa’eel had got married, to check on his family that he had left there, 
    but he did not find Ismaa’eel there. When he asked Ismaa’eel’s wife about 
    him, she said, ‘He has gone in search of our livelihood.’ 

    Then he asked her about their way of living and their 
    condition, and she replied, ‘We are living in misery; we are living in 
    hardship and destitution,’ complaining to him. He said, ‘When your husband 
    comes, convey my greeting to him and tell him to change his doorstep.’  

    When Ismaa’eel came, it was as if he felt something out of 
    the ordinary, so he asked his wife, ‘Did anyone come to you?’  

    She said, ‘Yes, an old man of such and such a description 
    came to us and asked us about you and I told him. He asked about our state 
    of living, and I told him that we were living in hardship and poverty.’ 

    He said, ‘Did he advise you to do anything?’  

    She said, ‘Yes, he told me to convey his greeting to you and 
    to tell you to change your doorstep.’  

    Ismaa’eel said, ‘That was my father, and he has ordered me to 
    divorce you. Go back to your family.’ 

    So, Ismaa’eel divorced her and married another woman from 
    amongst them (i.e. Jurhum). Then Ibraaheem stayed away from them for as long 
    as Allah willed, then he came to them again but did not find Ismaa’eel. So 
    he came to (Ismaa’eel’s) wife and asked her about Ismaa’eel. She said, ‘He 
    has gone in search of our livelihood.’ 

    He said: ‘How are you doing?’ asking her about their 
    sustenance and living.  

    She replied, ‘We are prosperous and well-off (i.e. we have 
    everything in abundance),’ and she praised Allaah.  

    He said: ‘What kind of food do you eat?’ She said, ‘Meat.’ He 
    said, ‘What do you drink?’ She said, ‘Water.’  

    He said, ‘O Allah! Bless their meat and water.’” The Prophet 
     (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “At that time they 
    did not have grain, and if they had grain, he would have also asked Allah to 
    bless it for them.” 

    And he (the Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be 
    upon him) said: “If someone has only these two things as his sustenance, his 
    health and disposition will be badly affected, unless he lives in Makkah.” 
    He (Ibraaheem) said: ‘When your husband comes, convey my greeting to him and 
    tell him that he should keep firm his doorstep.’ When Ismaa’eel came back, 
    he said, ‘Did anyone come to you?’ She said, ‘Yes, a good-looking old man 
    came to me,’ and she praised him (and said) ‘He asked about you, and I told 
    him. He asked about our livelihood and I told him that we were in a good 
    condition.’ He said, ‘Did he give you any advice?’ She said, ‘Yes, he told 
    me to convey his greeting to you and said that you should keep firm your 
    doorstep.’ 

    He said: ‘That was my father, and you are the doorstep. He 
    has ordered me to keep you with me.’ 

    Then Ibraaheem stayed away from them for as long as Allah 
    wished, then after that he came when Ismaa’eel was sharpening his arrows 
    beneath a tall tree near Zamzam. When he saw him, he stood up to greet him 
    and (they greeted one another) as a father does with his son or a son does 
    with his father. Then (Ibraaheem) said, ‘O Ismaa’eel! Allaah has given me a 
    command.’ Ismaa’eel said, ‘Do what your Lord has commanded you to do.’ 
    Ibraaheem said, ‘Will you help me?’ Ismaa’eel said, ‘I will help you.’  

    Ibraaheem said, ‘Allaah has ordered me to build a house 
    here,’ and he pointed to a hillock higher than the land surrounding it. 

    Then they raised the foundations of the House (i.e. the 
    Ka’bah). Ismaa’eel brought the stones and Ibraaheem was building, and when 
    the walls became high, Ismaa’eel brought this stone and put it for Ibraaheem 
    who stood on it and carried on building, while Ismaa’eel was handing him the 
    stones, and both of them were saying, ‘Our Lord! Accept (this service) from 
    us. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knower.’ [al-Baqarah 2:127]

    Then both of them went on building and going round the Ka’bah 
    saying: ‘Our Lord! Accept (this service) from us. Verily, You are the 
    All-Hearer, the All-Knower’”

     Narrated by al-Bukhaari in his Saheeh: The Book of 
    the Prophets, “For Allaah did take Ibraaheem…”, no. (3113). 

    Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The 
    words “your doorstep” are a metaphor for his wife. He called her that 
    because of her attributes, as she guards his gate and protects what is 
    within. 

    This story teaches us a number of lessons, including the 
    following: 

    1-Gratitude to Allaah is a cause 
    of His blessing being increased, and ingratitude brings the opposite. This 
    is clear from the fate of both women.

    2-It indicates how a woman should 
    be: content and accepting whatever provision Allaah grants her husband 
    without being annoyed or displeased.

    3-One should be careful to choose 
    a good wife who will help him with regard to the hereafter.

    And Allaah knows best.