She has a friend who does not wear hijab and her mother has told her not to be friends with her; should she obey her mother?
Question

                I have a friend from high school days who does not wear hijab and I do. I have advised her often to wear hijab, but she does not want to wear it. Now we are in university but my mother is now insisting that I do not go out with my friend or walk with her, because she wears tight clothes and does not wear hijab. My mother tells me: If you walk with her you will incur sin like her. Is this true? I love my friend and cannot keep away from her. My only contact with her now is by phone only, to see how she is, and I pray for her to be guided. What is the solution?.
Praise be to Allah.There is no 
	problem such that you should seek a solution for it. What your mother says 
	is correct and you have to obey her. This is obligatory for you for two 
	reasons: from an Islamic point of view and because she is your mother. 
There is no 
	doubt that the Muslim is influenced by his friend, especially if he loves 
	his friend dearly, because that love makes him turn a blind eye to his 
	friend’s sins and errors, and it may lead him to admire him to such an 
	extent that he begins to imitate him in everything, even the way he walks. 
	This is something that is seen a great deal but no one can deny it. 
Moreover, 
	one of the negative consequences of your walking with that friend who is 
	uncovered is that you will also become a focal point for fools and human 
	“wolves” who will judge you in the same way as they judge your friend. Her 
	wanton display will encourage young men to enjoy looking at her, and if you 
	agree to keep company with one who is like that, then how will those evil 
	men regard you? You should understand that this friendship will turn to 
	enmity of the Day of Resurrection, because this friendship was not based on 
	adhering to the laws of Allah and obeying Him. 
Allah says 
	(interpretation of the meaning): “Friends on that Day will be foes one to 
	another except Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)” [az-Zukhruf 43:67]. 
Al-Qurtubi 
	(may Allah have mercy on him) said: “Friends on that Day” i.e., the 
	Day of Resurrection “will be foes one to another” i.e., they will be 
	enemies to one another and will curse one another “except Al-Muttaqoon 
	(the pious)” who will be friends in this world and in the Hereafter.
End quote 
	from Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 16/95 
Ibn Katheer 
	(may Allah have mercy on him) said in Tafseer Ibn Katheer (7/237): 
	That is, every friendship that was for the sake of anything other than Allah 
	will, on the Day of Resurrection, turn into enmity, except for that which 
	was for the sake of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted; it will last for 
	ever. End quote. 
What the 
	Muslim must do is to keep away from bad companions and choose righteous 
	friends who will guide him towards what is good and help him to obey his 
	Lord, may He be exalted. As the saying goes: tell me who your friends are 
	and I will tell you who you are. 
The poet 
	‘Adiyy ibn Zayd said:
Do not ask 
	about the man; look at his friend, for a man will follow in the footsteps of 
	his friends. 
It is 
	sufficient deterrent from having bad friends for the Muslim to remember the 
	warning against that, that is mentioned in the Prophet’s Sunnah:
It was 
	narrated that Abu Moosa al-Ash‘ari (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The 
	Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“The 
	likeness of a good companion and a bad companion is that of one who carries 
	musk and one who works the bellows. With the carrier of musk, either he will 
	give you some or you will buy some from him, or you will notice a good smell 
	from him; as for the one who works the bellows, either he will burn your 
	clothes or you will notice a bad smell from him.”
Narrated by 
	al-Bukhaari, 1995; Muslim, 2628 
Shaykh ‘Abd 
	al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Keeping company with 
	good people is one of the best of deeds that bring one closer to Allah, and 
	is one of the best means of attaining blessing. On the other hand, keeping 
	company with bad people such as disbelievers and those who commit sin openly 
	is not permissible, and is one of the things that lead to a bad end and 
	cause one to adopt their attitudes and deeds. 
What the 
	believer must do is try hard to keep company with good people and avoid 
	keeping company with bad people. It is not permissible to obey parents or 
	others with regard to keeping company with bad people or forsaking good 
	people, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: 
	“Obedience is only with regard to that which is right and proper.” And he 
	(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to 
	any created being if it involves disobedience to the Creator.”
End quote.
	Fataawa Islamiyyah, 4/206, 207 
We should 
	point out here that what your mother (may Allah preserve her) said about you 
	incurring sin like that of your friend is far from being correct; rather you 
	will incur the sin of a friendship that is not allowed. But if you approve 
	of her actions, Allah forbid, (then what your mother says is correct). But 
	you say that you are trying to advise her and remind her. So walking with 
	her is not permissible and being friends with her is bad for you and your 
	family, in addition to it going against your mother’s instructions. It is 
	sufficient for you to keep in touch with her by phone whilst remembering 
	that it is essential to carry on exhorting her and trying to make her fear 
	Allah, may He be exalted, in the hope that Allah will guide her, in which 
	case reward will be yours. 
For more 
	information please see the answers to questions no.
	21918,
	10231 and
	11266 
And Allah knows best.