My greatest err in my journey would be to try to keep someone from reflecting and expressing his/her great vision about him/herself.  If that perfection does not include  mine , if the river comes to a fork, why attempt to block the other branch's run in the hope that its waters will eventually be tamed (suppressed!) and flow in harmony with mine?  (Moreover, would I prefer harmony of that kind?)  Setting someone free is a mutual gift in that sense.