Okay, so not to get into marital advice here, but like. But I have some, you know, I've been married for twelve years at this point, thank God. Very happy marriage. We have three kids. And the reason that I say you have to make up your mind that you want to get married before you get married is because you look for a different set of factors. Then if you make up your mind you want to get married, what you're going to look for is commonality of values. Who is the person you want to build your life with? Do you share interests. Do you share a vision for the future? Whereas if you sort of fall into it, then you can fall in love with somebody you don't share any of these things with, and it makes it a lot more difficult later on to actually build life on them.