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How to forget past experiences and move on in life?
human
I am unmarried 24 yrs old girl. Now i am studing MBA. Iam in love. We both love each other sincerely and seriously. Our love starts on 2004. During my UG, my parents came to know about my affair. They didnt accept because his native is tamilnadu and my native is kerala. I obey my parents words. Then i told him 'dont call me until i call you'. My love ends on 2007.             With the past 3 years he didnt call me even mail me. He respect my words. But now he re-enters into my life. Last November he mail me. Now he is going to marry another girl. His parents getting older. He is forced for marriage. His engagement on Dec 12 and marriage on April. He is not interested for marriage.               Then I again told to my mother for permission. But still she didnt accept our love. She told that if i marry that person means she will go out. I obeying my parents words. I am living only for my parents. I told to my affair about this. He said "ok.without parents permission we cant do anything. But i want to talk to u upto my marriage". Sadly we continue our love.             Now i am in  trouble. I am unable to think about my marriage. I want to recover myself from this problem.Please please help me.Please send ur valuable advice for me to this mail id  YYYY@YYYY .                                                                   Thank You
gpt
DearWe understand your concernsI went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I can understand your problem. Amicable solution is to make up your mind for another marriage. once you make up your mind for another marriage, the conflict goes off. once the conflict goes off, the mental torture is bound to reduce and stop after some time. Decision making is the key. if your decision is strong, conflicts seldom happen. You have the capacity to take decisions. Do not under estimate your abilities. go ahead.If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this website. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques.Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.Good luck.