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Suggest treatment for severe depression post a medical abortion
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Hello, I’m writing this because I’m very concerned about my fiancé. My fiancé has a very different thinking than most of the women I met in my life before. I noticed this different view/thinking of her after we got engaged. I will start by saying that she is 26 years old and she grew up in an environment in which she never had a father figure. She grew up with only her mother and sister. When she was a teenage she never wanted to stay home and she always had fights with her mother because she wanted to go out with friends and live her life. She had this attitude for many years but calmed down a little bit after she attended college a few years ago. She also told me one that she watched porn since she was 8 years old and that when she was 3 years old, her female cousin kissed her. First of all, she suffers from a little of anxiety, little bipolarity and major depression. She mentioned that she aborted 3 times years ago before we met each other. She said that after she had her first 2 abortions she never felt anything emotionally, but the last abortion she had affected her so much and she sometimes feel very depressed. She still don’t know why this third abortion affected her so much. Second, she said that if we have children, she will never let me give my child my last name. She believes she should only give her last name to the child and she will only allow me to see the child from time to time. Also, she confessed me that when she was 16 years old, she always had the idea of heaving her child alone and to “disappear” the father. I asked her what she meant by disappear, and I received no answer from her. The only thing she said was that she still has that idea. I feel cold and in shock when she told me that. Third, she said that when she reach the age of 50, she will live alone by herself because she will want to take care only of herself when she gets old. Also, she said that from time to time she wants to be alone and don’t have any relationship with no one. She also doesn’t like to communicate too much. She said her life is about being alone without no one to interfere in the things she wants to do. One of the important things she said , was that she never knew what love is, and that she is not interested to know what love is about because she doesn’t care. She can be very impulsive. Before she had broken up with me 3 times. But, after every breakup, a few days later we end up being together again. I tried and give my best in understanding her way of thinking but I believe something is wrong with her mind. She doesn’t take any medications for her depression. In addition, she suffers from high blood pressure and involuntary movements of her legs or other extremities. I will like to help her, but I don’t know how. Thank you
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Hello and Welcome to ‘Ask A Doctor’ service. I have reviewed your query and here is my advice. Though the condition is so common I would suggest you to consult a psychiatrist and work with the psychiatrist for a long lasting solution. Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further. Regards, Dr. K. V. Anand