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Suggest remedy for obsession in love
human
Hi;     I believe I have obsessive love disorder.........I fell in love with a woman who is half my age , is married and has 3 young children. We have had an ongoing personal relationship for almost one year now and I cannot get her out of my head...I can`t sleep at night and have extreme anxiety and depression whenever she is away from me. I know what I am doing is wrong and my mind tells me so but is constantly overruled by my feelings of love for her. I too am married almost 35 years with grown children and some grandkids. It`s all crazy but still I cannot seem to let go. She is all I live for!  Please help me if you can.
gpt
It sounds like you are conflicted about your relationship with this married woman, given that you too, are married. Typically, if you are not getting your needs met in your current marital dyad, then you will tend to stray and get your needs met elsewhere. It would appear that your emotional, sexual, or other needs are currently not being met with your wife. If you are this "obsessive" with this woman, it would appear that you have been obsessive in other areas of  your life or with other women, perhaps even with your wife at one point. At any rate, your situation sounds very complex and it is difficult to assist you without knowing which aspect of it you want assistance with. It is unclear if you want to terminate the relationship with the other woman, and strengthen your relationship with your wife, or keep things as they are. It would appear that it would be difficult to maintain both relationships and have both be satisfying, given that you are so obsessed with the other woman. I would need more guidance in terms of what your goal is in order to best help you. Good luck to you.