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Suggest treatment for stress and depression
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I lost my father and best friend at the same time that a new lover became my best friend. Now she has left (after 10 years) and the grief is worse than it seems it should be since it was mutual. Could I be finally facing the grief of losing my father which I didn t seem to have a difficult time dealing with 10 years ago? Do you know of any topical books on such a subject?
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You have been through a lot of losses in your life. Grieving takes different lengths of time and is a very individualistic experience; there is no time limit in which the grief is "over." It may very well be that the grief you are experiencing now is much worse because you did not fully grieve over the loss of  your father and best friend 10 years ago. The best thing is to not place any judgment on your feelings, and let yourself be okay with grieving your first two losses at this juncture. Some books on grieving are: How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese Rando, Ph.D., and Honoring Grief: Creating a Space to Let yourself Heal by Alexandra Kennedy.