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I just wanted to say, rejections and break ups were a good thing for me because they forced me to soul search. 
With that said, the world is very shallow when it comes to looks. Please realize that looks matter way more than you think. I would say that it matters as much as your personality
Spite is a powerful motivator. >

And cocaine’s a hell of a drug. >

I don’t think glow ups are meant as an attempt to get someone back. It’s usually a way to mark a fresh new start and to serve as a confidence boost, which is usually needed after getting your heart broken. >

Plenty of people want to improve their appearance as a way to get their ex to want them back/“show them what they lost”. Of course what you described is the healthier way to go about it. >

I was actually thinking the same as this commenter. I think it depends on the mindset and how you perceive a glow-up. Obviously if it's with the aim of getting an ex back, that's a bit sad, but I don't think that's the overall reason people do glow-ups. >

I agree. It's a part of growing up that some people will never understand. Fact is, nobody gives a shit about you, except you, so do it for yourself. You deserve to be the best version of yourself, for yourself. >

It sort of makes me think of an employer offering you a raise when you put in your notice.  Like why didn't you pay me more before?  You were holding out.
Similarly: why did you not do your glow-up before the relationship ended?  Why Wait? >

Exactly >

I agree. It's embarrassing to send spiteful messages to an ex, and completely validates them leaving you to begin with. >

That's why I take the "high" road.  Literally , I forget about Mr. Whatshisname and move on with being a good me. >

and yet, it works every time >

It doesn’t really achieve anything in my opinion for the reasons I described above. So I disagree.