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and yet, it works every time
Spite is a powerful motivator. >

And cocaine’s a hell of a drug. >

I don’t think glow ups are meant as an attempt to get someone back. It’s usually a way to mark a fresh new start and to serve as a confidence boost, which is usually needed after getting your heart broken. >

Plenty of people want to improve their appearance as a way to get their ex to want them back/“show them what they lost”. Of course what you described is the healthier way to go about it. >

I was actually thinking the same as this commenter. I think it depends on the mindset and how you perceive a glow-up. Obviously if it's with the aim of getting an ex back, that's a bit sad, but I don't think that's the overall reason people do glow-ups. >

I agree. It's a part of growing up that some people will never understand. Fact is, nobody gives a shit about you, except you, so do it for yourself. You deserve to be the best version of yourself, for yourself. >

It sort of makes me think of an employer offering you a raise when you put in your notice.  Like why didn't you pay me more before?  You were holding out.
Similarly: why did you not do your glow-up before the relationship ended?  Why Wait? >

Exactly >

I agree. It's embarrassing to send spiteful messages to an ex, and completely validates them leaving you to begin with. >

That's why I take the "high" road.  Literally , I forget about Mr. Whatshisname and move on with being a good me.