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  So do you not understand why people judge him for his dating habits? Regardless of yes or no, I also wonder what makes you care? The reason I ask both these questions is because people are judging DiCaprio's habits as someone who is immature, shallow, or fickle. 
  It's one thing to have sex and to just hookup with whoever. It's another to announce your relationships publicly as if you are intending it to play out like a committed relationship.
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  There's all sorts of things that are legal but are still distasteful.
  Recycling isn't mandatory, but I'm going to  judge people who don't do it when there's a super easy method of recycling available to them.
  Calling people names isn't illegal, but most people judge it as rude.
  I also judge Bezos for his dick rocket and Beckham for his behavior at times.
  Why should DiCaprio not be judged? Surely you recognize some people have different morals than you? Legality is not the end all, be all of judging someone socially. >
  
  How is the Leo situation analogous to recycling?
  Not recycling affects everyone and does damage to the environment. How does Leo dating a younger girl affect you or cause damage? >
  
  Some version of this question seems to be just a constant source of debate on Reddit. 
  I think the answer is pretty simple. There’s nothing morally wrong with two consenting adults being in a relationship. But I do think if someone who is nearly 50 is exclusively dating people in their early 20s, it does suggest they might be immature and/ or shallow. Most mature adults are looking for a deep emotional connection with a partner, and you’re more likely to find that with someone who is in a similar stage of life. 
  So do I think Leonardo DiCaprio should get “cancelled?” No. But I also think it’s fine to poke fun at him. >
  
  See this is what I’m getting at though, he’s clearly NOT looking for a long term relationship. What he’s clearly looking for is an attractive younger woman to sleep with.
  And why’s that bad? He’s rich and can afford it and she gets a fair deal out of it what with all the red carpet events and expensive living for a good few years. 
  And imo that doesn’t make him shallow, it makes him honest.
  Is someone who chooses a younger sex worker over a 50 year old sex worker shallow? No. They know what they want so they get what they want rather than what they don’t.
  It WOULD be shallow if he were getting married to them and then divorcing them when they got older, because that shows conclusively that he did want something serious when they were younger but not when they’re older. >
  
  He’s not just hooking up with them though. He’s dating them for a year or two. Again, adults are morally free to do what they want. And I don’t think everyone has to get married and have kids and a dog and a house in the suburbs. But I do think if you’re prioritizing sex with 20-something models over more meaningful relationships with people your own age, I think it suggests a possibly immature or shallow approach to relationships. >
  
  
  I think it suggests a possibly immature or shallow approach to relationships.
  
  ok. so what? you think he doesn't know that? you think the women don't? there is no great secret or scheme here. no one is getting tricked. is immaturity "wrong" somehow? >
  
  I said it’s not morally wrong. >
  
  yeah, so i asked "how is it wrong." >
  
  So why are you asking a question I already answered?
  Let’s say you have a friend who spends all day playing video games and watching kids’ cartoons. Is that wrong? Let’s say he eats only sugary cereal, plain pasta, and chicken fingers, and he refuses to try any new foods. Is that wrong? Adults can live their life how they want, right? So it’s not morally wrong. But I think we can say it’s at least immature. >
  
  Nobody is saying it’s illegal or immoral any more than a 90 year old dating a 21 year old is. It’s just weird. Based on the pattern alone he seems to care more for youth and looks than any other quality which a person might value in a long term partner. That’s fine, it’s his prerogative. But just like I might judge someone who exclusively cared about having friends who have some arbitrary physical characteristics rather than their ability to be a good friend, I judge him. 
  It’s all fine. I can still judge him as being weird. >
  
  As long as everybody's consenting, I don't see a reason to kick down Leonardo DiCaprio's door and try and stop him from dating whoever he wants. Having said that, I think it's not a great sign for his personality that he can't seem to hold on to a girlfriend once they get past a certain level of age and maturity.
  If he dumps women because they get older and don't look as young, then he seems shallow.  If he dumps or gets dumped by them because they grow up as people and are no longer compatible with him once they exit their twenties, then he might be immature.
  That's why he gets judgment for it.  It just isn't a great look, but nobody seems to be seriously advocating that he be stopped. >
  
  It's his life to live, keep your opinion. >
  
  As a celebrity, opinions are quite important. But as i_am_the_night said no one seems to be seriously advocating for him to stop, quite the contrary, we’re all just having fun laughing with him. >
  
  This comes with the caveat that there's a guess at the heart of this-
  There is a disconnect often with what we're driven to want and what's healthy for us.
  We're driven to crave sweetness because in our evolutionary history it was rare. But now refined sugar is plentiful and cheap. If one eats only sweet things, you'll fuck up your metabolism and your ability to find more subtle pleasure in other foods. Your general quality of life will take a nose dive if you eat nothing but ice cream all day.
  And this tends to be the pattern for hedonism.
  We like a dopamine rush because in our evolutionary history, we only get that rush when we accomplish something or something good happens. But now we've unlocked a bunch of dopamine cheats to get right to the good stuff. We've got a variety of drugs, we have social media which gives you a little hit every time you can get an upvote. But these shortcuts are inevitably toxic when used too much. Again they fuck with your brain's reward wiring.
  Sex is great, and yes, it's pretty common to crave it with young attractive partners. But again that instinct developed at a very different evolutionary time. How we're wired for sex is a little more controversial than how we're wired for sugar or dopamine in general. But I can say that we're social creatures, and in so many realms of our brain's reward system going for only the candy fucks us up and leads to a disordered system and misery. I highly suspect that Leo is not a happy person. I'm not too sorry for these women. For them it will be a brief fling in memory with a celebrity a cool party story or whatever. For him though, this pattern is likely corrosive. >
  
  
  For him though, this pattern is likely corrosive.
  
  I think this is rooted in the assumption that everyone's goal is to find a lifelong partner and fuck the same person forever. People are complex and have different motivations, desires, and things that fulfill them.
  He honestly doesn't seem depressed or unhappy in the way that people like Johnny Depp or Charlie Sheen do when you read profiles and watch interviews or follow their lives in the press.
  As far as I'm aware he doesn't have a reputation for excessive drug use, and he seems to have a solid group of friends he's hung with for years. I've never heard stories from exes about abusive or bad behavior. Everyone seems to have really nice things to say about him. To me he seems like a guy with a health social and professional life who enjoys dating younger, beautiful women, not a sad immature loser who can't maintain relationships. >
  
  
  Edit; the people replying with “people can judge how they want” seem to be misunderstanding the entire point of sub reddits like this… the idea is someone pitches an argument and others try to change their mind, not just reply with “meh we can all think what we want”.
  
  But the stance you take cannot be disproved. Some people think morality doesn't exist and there is no right and wrong. You can't prove to them otherwise. 
  It's just an incredibly awful stance to take. >
  
  OP shouldn’t’ve deleted the last post, their header was clearer there. 
  It’s a ‘should’ not a ‘can’ issue. OP’s not saying ppl can’t judge Leo, they is saying ppl shouldn’t. And I suspect OP abandoned the last post hoping to reword and avoid the issue all together. V sloppy >
  
  Most people think older dudes hitting on younger women is creepy. No one looks good in a relationship where an old dude and a young woman are dating because the young woman is hot and the old dude is rich. >
  
  Why?
  She’s getting what she wants and he’s getting what he wants. >
  
  Because he's lustful and she's greedy. We consider bother of those sins for a reason. >
  
  Would you say the same thing about sex work? >
  
  I don't think most sex workers get into the job because they like sex, and I don't think sex workers are greedier than any other person who works. >
  
  And the customers are also not lustful, at least not much more than the average, do you agree?
  So what exactly is the difference? If anything the way dicaprio and his dates do it seems more tastefull, not less. >
  
  The customers are absolutely lustful, I just don't know what that has to do with sex work in general? >
  
  Yea your right, it hase nothing to do with sex work in general. More with sex work where there is a age difference, and the sex work is extended to also dating and hanging out. More like a full time caregiver but for ~~sex~~ dating.