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  I get dunked on left and right because I had my only child at 20. The way I see it, barring any unexpected circumstances, I get more time with my kid than I would if I had her at 40. Either way though it's nobody else's business
context: My parent is 41 years older than me. It was weird when people thought she was my grandma but it didn't ruin my day or anything. Personally, it was more strange when I was like 25 and trying to start doing my own thing in life, and my parent was now 66 and in bad health. >
  
  Same for me, my mum had me at 37 which doesnt seem too bad but now she is 62 and has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and im only 25. She is my favorite person in the world and I would die if she didn’t get to meet my futur kids or see me graduate. >
  
  My wife and I had kids in our mid 30s and knowing I'll never watch them grow old bothers me >
  
  ....how young do you expect to die? >
  
  I don't know. But if I live to 70, my kids will lose their father in their 30s. I lost my dad when I was 32 but he was 50. I think of everything that he missed since then. It is what it is >
  
  70’s pretty young to be honest. Not to be morbid but if you got hit by a truck or got an incurable disease, that could happen if you had your kids earlier too >
  
  Go back 2 generations & majority would wish they even make it to 70, im sure in 2-3 generations the average will be 90-100 >
  
  My maternal grandfather made it into his 90s, and my husband’s paternal grandparents are still both alive and kicking at 95. His grandpa even hits the gym three times a week. >
  
  You got blessed genetics sir >
  
  Ma’am, and I think so! My mom is soon to be 70 and has more energy than most 20 year olds these days. >
  
  My dad had me at 57 ! So when I was 20 he was 77…
  So yeah people at school made fun of me a bit on that, or thought that he was my grandpa. He died at 87 when I was 31 (he died the day of my birthday).
  He was a great dad and I’m happy I had him as a dad. He was retired when he had my sister and me, so he was a stay-at-home dad when my mom was workkng. My mom is 18 years younger. She’s 77 now and I’m 38. >
  
  My dad had me when he was in his 50s as well. But I was only 21 when he died (he was 75). He also took care of me while my mom worked. I’m now 33, she’s 71. >
  
  Do people do that? My parents were on the older side and nobody ever said anything about it. Honestly, I had a lot of privilege over it because they had money and were well established in their careers compared to many of my friends who had young parents still trying to figure out life.