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  Had mine at 35 and the other one shy of 40 by a few months.  Majority of my friends were the same.
context: My parent is 41 years older than me. It was weird when people thought she was my grandma but it didn't ruin my day or anything. Personally, it was more strange when I was like 25 and trying to start doing my own thing in life, and my parent was now 66 and in bad health. >
  
  Same for me, my mum had me at 37 which doesnt seem too bad but now she is 62 and has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and im only 25. She is my favorite person in the world and I would die if she didn’t get to meet my futur kids or see me graduate. >
  
  My wife and I had kids in our mid 30s and knowing I'll never watch them grow old bothers me >
  
  ....how young do you expect to die? >
  
  I don't know. But if I live to 70, my kids will lose their father in their 30s. I lost my dad when I was 32 but he was 50. I think of everything that he missed since then. It is what it is >
  
  70’s pretty young to be honest. Not to be morbid but if you got hit by a truck or got an incurable disease, that could happen if you had your kids earlier too >
  
  Go back 2 generations & majority would wish they even make it to 70, im sure in 2-3 generations the average will be 90-100 >
  
  My maternal grandfather made it into his 90s, and my husband’s paternal grandparents are still both alive and kicking at 95. His grandpa even hits the gym three times a week. >
  
  You got blessed genetics sir >
  
  Ma’am, and I think so! My mom is soon to be 70 and has more energy than most 20 year olds these days. >
  
  My dad had me at 57 ! So when I was 20 he was 77…
  So yeah people at school made fun of me a bit on that, or thought that he was my grandpa. He died at 87 when I was 31 (he died the day of my birthday).
  He was a great dad and I’m happy I had him as a dad. He was retired when he had my sister and me, so he was a stay-at-home dad when my mom was workkng. My mom is 18 years younger. She’s 77 now and I’m 38. >
  
  My dad had me when he was in his 50s as well. But I was only 21 when he died (he was 75). He also took care of me while my mom worked. I’m now 33, she’s 71. >
  
  Do people do that? My parents were on the older side and nobody ever said anything about it. Honestly, I had a lot of privilege over it because they had money and were well established in their careers compared to many of my friends who had young parents still trying to figure out life. >
  
  I get dunked on left and right because I had my only child at 20. The way I see it, barring any unexpected circumstances, I get more time with my kid than I would if I had her at 40. Either way though it's nobody else's business >
  
  There are pros and cons to both. In the end all that matters is that one is a loving parent. >
  
  It might be a cultural thing though. My mum was in her late 30s when they had me and my dad was 40. I'm in my early 20s now and all my friends parents are in their 60s as well. Of course there's young parents here too, but people are often heavily focused on getting a degree and a steady job before kids. So it's really quite the oppisite here in Sweden for the most part. >
  
  Assuming you’re in the US. Here at least it’s socioeconomic. Not at all unusual now for a middle-class or upper-middle class couple to wait until their late 30’s or even early 40’s to have a kid. 
  I’d say their kids are lucky. Most people are established at that age and can provide a better, more stable lifestyle for their kids than parents just starting out. >
  
  Damn. Thank you for this comment. Im 39 and just felt like recently I can take after another human being. Not that I will or can ( biologically ) but It was on my list. Maybe still is I guess >
  
  Life does less to prepare people these days. Childhood continues to increase where a 30 year old can still be considered to be just figuring it all out. >
  
  My parents are older, 40 when I was born.  Almost a decade after my siblings.
  The only two things that are hard is that my parents were less energetic when I was a kid.  They were very inactive.  Not overweight.  Just tired, effectively raising me to behave like a retired person when I graduated hs.
  Second thing, I'm 30 and don't have any kids.  This is very important in my family.  Unlike people with younger parents, Im going to have less time to seek my folks out for advice.  My parents are 70 now.  Even if I had a baby right now, I'd only have 10 years to ask them for advice.
  It's not a huge issue, but it's one that haunts me. >
  
  Honestly, with the internet nowadays, you don’t really need advice from your parents if you really care about that ( not to mention most people don’t listen to their parents anyway) 
  But it would be nice to do things or spend time with adult child and not worrying physical limitations. That’s the only thing I’m worried about. >
  
  My dad died when I was 11, I’m now 20 and he would have been 63. Couldn’t have asked for a better dad, nothing weird about it >
  
  I’m sorry for your loss, and it’s heart warming to hear how you thought of your dad. What were your your favorite things to do with him? What were the most memorable moments? >
  
  He was really into tractors, we used to play with remote tractors together and went to the local tractor fest, haven’t been there in years. Just doing random things together really, I was too young to remember most but he was always protective and loving towards me. Went to the shops, etc he wasn’t a big traveler more of a homebody :) >
  
  Never saw this when I was a kid, it was usually the other way as the kids (mine included) whose parents are 19 years older than the kid was poor whereas the kids with older parents were upper middle class. >
  
  My parents had me at 33. When I was in elementary school in a very poor area, everyone’s parents were around 20 years older than them. But now I’m at college and everyone’s parents are older than mine. So I agree. >
  
  My dad and I are also 40 years apart. 
  It was never an issue and I was always glad I had mature parents who weren't still kids themselves. >
  
  It's not weird it's just sad that they will, statistically speaking, be dead for a larger portion of your life than most others >
  
  I had my first at 30 and my youngest at 40 but my family tends to be very long lived. My grampa died at 97 just a couple years ago and he was healthy and mobile up until about 96. I think all but one of my grandparents made it to their 90’s so I have a good chance of seeing my kids into their 50’s. >
  
  My parents are a lot older than me, way older than any of my friends growing up, so I get this lmao. My dad was 49 when he had me and my mum was 38. I'm 21 now and my dad is 70. I had a slightly shitty childhood but have incredible parents, but I did wish they had me younger like my siblings. Watching parents health go down and not remembering many memories with any grandparents before they all died sucks >
  
  I’ve never had anyone make fun of it for me but it’s kinda weird my dad is older than all of my partners grandparents 😂 >
  
  my mother had me at 42, but she’s never been stable throughout life and we moved around and lived in poverty throughout my childhood. shes 60 now, and housebound due to her illness. it’s so depressing to see. i wish i got to have her in my life longer, like my 38 year old sister has. imo there’s good and bad parts to older parents. >
  
  Had one at 22 and another at 40. Nobody seems to care. >
  
  There was a kid in my class who's dad was 50 when he was born. I didn't say anything to him about it and I'm sure he's a great dad. It's just crazy to me that he'll be almost 80 now with a kid in their twenties. >
  
  Alot of granparents end up raising their kids kids.  It would kinda be like that.  They bond closely. >
  
  I don't think it's weird for parents to decide to have kids later. My parents did the shit they wanted to before having us, it was never really an issue, they were still just as active as anyone else's parents growing up. But I know growing up and even still people seem surprised if I tell them that both my parents are 64, my brothers are 32,26 and 22 and then I am 23. >
  
  I’m 29 my dad is 72 no one ever really said anything other than maybe a little surprised at his age but never like it was a bad thing. I mean who cares? The people who do care about this stuff obviously aren’t worth your time since they actually give a shit about something so meaningless. >
  
  I sure hope not cause I will also be 60 when my youngest is 20. You can't always time or prefectly predict conception. >
  
  Yup. My youngest was conceived when I was 43, 11 years after my IVF twins that took 4 years and tons of medical intervention to conceive. Who would have thought that would ever happen?