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  How did you know when she was just 6 if you don't mind me asking
context: Did he not watch the last season of Stranger Things??? >
  
  sigh...queue the far-right talking point that the "woke" writing of the show actually turned him gay. >
  
  Only the most stupid people would make that correlation but...we do live in an impossibly dumb timeline >
  
  I work with a guy who thinks our schools are trying to turn our kids gay. This isn't a republican state either, it's western Canada. These people are everywhere. >
  
  Question: what's with pushing sexuality at adolescent or younger though.  Can we not have pride parades and co-exist w/o drag queen readings at libraries or a boy who says he's a girl and uses the girl bathroom to rape a classmate.  Whose the ridiculous one, your co-worker or the system going above and beyond acceptance subversion? >
  
  First of all...
  
  a boy who says he's a girl and uses the girl bathroom to rape a classmate
  
  Nothing like this has happened. Ever. Rapists don't care about what the sign on a bathroom door says. You're making it up to scare monger about trans people, who are significantly more likely to be victims of sexual assault than the general population.
  Second of all, you're going to have to explain, clearly, what part of this is sexual. Or this. Or this. Because it's not obvious. What do fully clothed people in colorful costumes have to do with sex? >
  
  No, first of all. What's the story behind the incessant need to push sexuality upon young children?  Some of the alphabet club have gone to social media and posted their exploits and we've all seen children deciding some fluid fate when they are in NO position to determine such consequential choices.  
  A costume is a gimmick and takes away from the critical nature of story-telling, which is the actual story and how it needs to be absorbed my the young mind with thought, a costume is a distraction. >
  
  You didn't answer my question. What do fully clothed people in colorful costumes have to do with sex? >
  
  He's gish galloping. He's either a bot or arguing overtly in bad faith. Just leave it. >
  
  Gish galloping. Ist that one of those new buzzwords nobody will use in 6mo. I sure hope so.  Uhhh, no, they never answered my question first. Who is in bad faith, exactly. Your bias is showing. >
  
  My brother : "What's wrong? Somethings bothering you. ".
  My sister :"I'm gay.".
  My brother :"Oh thank god I thought you wanted to borrow money!" >
  
  When I came out as bi to my dad, he said “oh that’s cool. Gay dudes make the best wing men for straights” and we all had a laugh over it. 
  I had my bags packed scared he was gonna kick me out. >
  
  Cool dad. Glad it worked out. Took my father years. >
  
  Eventually came around? >
  
  Yeah both dad and mom did in a fashion. It's long and complicated and I found out recently not as straightforward as I thought. >
  
  Oof. I’m sorry. But I’m glad it got better. 
  My parents were very understanding and supportive which shocked me because I grew up in a very catholic home and family. 
  They were worried that it meant no grandchildren but I assured them that I still wanted kids haha >
  
  Awe that's sweet. Happy for you dude. 
  My dad is bi and we lived with his boyfriend for a few years when I was a kid. It's always been no big deal in our house so it makes me sad to hear about people whose parents didn't accept them. >
  
  Everyone deserves the right to come out on their own terms and timetable, but I've never had a friend come out and it been a surprise. >
  
  I have.
  We had a night out with a whole bunch of people, and for some reason that I can't remember, the gay people (3 of which we knew) all wore sailors hats.
  One of my friends asked loudly why no one told him to get a sailors hat, to which we said it's only the gay guys that wear them.
  Friend go "But i'm gay. I thought you all knew?"
  No one knew. No one even suspected. He told me later that he felt a bit weird about it, because people were congratulating him on coming out, while he thought that he'd been "out" the whole time. >
  
  Did he get a hat? >
  
  Yes he did and he wears it to this day >
  
  God how I wanted you to be OP here.
  “Like yeah, he felt a bit weird about it. Now he and his hat visit stages & shipyards the world over” >
  
  I think Noah was the last person to know. >
  
  Can’t top this comment. >
  
  But you can probably top Noah >
  
  He’s 18 now so you’re probably right. >
  
  He then proceeded to come out to the Stranger Things cast & crew, Stranger Things fan base, and various Reddit meme communities to which all parties replied: "Yes, we know!" >
  
  I have to ask--to gay people who come out, is it kind of insulting when people say "we knew"?  
  Because, like, how would they know unless you were either a) literally ogling members of the same sex, which, if you were previously closeted, you must surely have made an effort to hide before you came out, or b) you were acting in a stereotypically gay way (ex. men acting "feminine," "butch" lesbian, etc.)  
  Like. Does being reduced to a stereotype not feel kind of insulting? I get that "we knew" isn't necessarily coming from a malicious place, but if you think about it, people are basically casually admitting to profiling you and reducing you to a caricature in their heads when they see you. You're not disturbed by this? How?  Or does it annoy you but there's nothing you can do about it?  
  It's one of those uncomfortable questions I've always wondered but been too afraid to ask. >
  
  "I knew" feels like a selfish answer. It's not always with malicious intent but a lot of people use this as a way to posture instead of to make someone feel comfortable. The truth is that literally nobody can know unless they're told; you're allowed to privately think someone might not be straight, but it's disrespectful to claim to someone that you know things about them that they haven't felt comfortable to tell you yet. "Thank you for telling me" will always be a better answer >
  
  
  Thank you for telling me" will always be a better answer
  
  The truth is harsh, how do you thank someone for doing nothing but being honest about something that was already known. That's like thanking the weather guy for telling you it's gonna be a rainy day when you can already see it's raining .'we know' is a much better response than 'no shit'. "Thank you for telling me" is quite weak, if a person already knew. Their apology doesn't mean much, and it's felt by both parties. The person coming out is just gonna feel ashamed, saying I know might piss them off but that's a much easier emotion to overcome than shame >
  
  What did i just read >
  
  The unjustified logic of a self-centered asshole. >
  
  The half dozen or so people I know who ‘came out’ all were amazed that everyone’s response was “and? We knew for ages” >
  
  My daughter came out to me when she was just shy of 16. I told her that I've known since she was 6.  Her response: "I wish you would have told me!"