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  Yep. You got me there. That is a hole in my opinion/ theory.
context: It seems easy from the outside looking in. Trauma lingers. >
  
  Trauma can linger, but if you refuse therapy, you should shut the hell up. >
  
  Therapy isn't free chief >
  
  Ironically it sounds like you have some type of trauma yourself. There must be someone in your life telling you that you need to grow up and act tough and not show emotions. Childhood memories, maybe? >
  
  
  But if your things that happened to you as a kid are impacting you as full on adult you are the damn problem.
  
  It's scientifically proven that growing up in a shitty environment has extreme long-term consequences. From the CDC's article on Adverse Childhood Events: 
  "ACEs can have lasting, negative effects on health, well-being, as well as life opportunities such as education and job potential. These experiences can increase the risks of injury, sexually transmitted infections, maternal and child health problems (including teen pregnancy, pregnancy complications, and fetal death), involvement in sex trafficking, and a wide range of chronic diseases and leading causes of death such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and suicide.
  ACEs and associated social determinants of health, such as living in under-resourced or racially segregated neighborhoods, frequently moving, and experiencing food insecurity, can cause toxic stress (extended or prolonged stress). Toxic stress from ACEs can negatively affect children’s brain development, immune systems, and stress-response systems. These changes can affect children’s attention, decision-making, and learning.
  Children growing up with toxic stress may have difficulty forming healthy and stable relationships. They may also have unstable work histories as adults and struggle with finances, jobs, and depression throughout life." >
  
  Everything correct, that’s exactly why a person experiencing this should go to therapy >
  
  Yes but getting therapy can’t magically make things better. OPs idea that adults need to just not be affected by stuff that happened ignores the psychological facts and again THERAPY DOESNT MAGICALLY SOLVE EVERYTHING >
  
  It does help overtime, depending on the person. No one is saying to be unaffected, but to be aware of your problems and taking responsibility to resolve them, for any kind of problem, instead of just spit them out on random people. Being mature is literally this. >
  
  The op says I am the problem if I’m affected by my trauma though. Most people don’t just spit childhood trauma on out on strangers it’s usually close friends. You are also supposed to talk to people and a therapist not just shut up and deal. >
  
  For sure. I think we are just interpreting the post in a different way. >
  
  Bruh how do interpret them saying traumatized adults are the problem? >
  
  Thats harsh.  Some things linger long into adulthood.  Maybe them complaining is really them trying to find someone who will listen and understand them. >
  
  This sounds like something shitty parents would say to you to stop you from making them feel bad about their shitty behavior. I'll assume that's not your case :). >
  
  You can pry my trauma-dumping habits from my cold,  dead hands :) >
  
  What are trauma dumping habits? >
  
  Therapy isnt the magical pancea that you apparently think it to be. >
  
  
  But if your things that happened to you as a kid are impacting you as full on adult you are the damn problem
  
  That's not how it works.  If you suffered PTSD as a child and especially if you did not get it treated until you were an adult, it is still going to affect you. >
  
  This post screams "I need therapy"
  Take an upvote >
  
  Everyone can't afford therapy