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  I think it's the best option but not the only option. Especially as a dude. I feel very uncomfortable randomly approaching women, and have only ever dated two girls that I didn't meet through school or online dating. One I met at a co-ed softball tournament. She had decent follow through on her swing so I made my move. The other I met while blackout drunk. Both of them ended up being terrible girlfriends who I despised after a couple of months. Currently engaged to an absolute menace that I met online and am super happy with. Only option? absolutely not. Best option? Probably, but it's a grueling process due to the sheer volume of people everyone has access to and the fact that making an appealing profile is easy, being an appealing person is not. Also I've had people try to set me up with others, but that's basically online dating with a facilitator.
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  I met my wife of 14 years (so far) on match.com. I was an extremely eligible bachelor, a USMC commissioned officer in uniform, 6'4", college educated with a stable job and career that couldn't find a date and resorted to online dating. Online dating was a Godsend for me as I had never successfully asked out a girl. Prom, the book store, the few bars I went to. Nothing. Now that I am older and wiser and have a few more years under my belt, I absolutely had no idea what I was doing. I missed so many dropped hints.
  As an adult, I see many people forming lasting relationships... and these people all have one thing in common. They put themselves out there and have made conscious efforts to expand their social circles. A couple at my pinball club just got engaged. They met... playing pinball. The people I know dating as adults that are not doing the online club are meeting people at bowling leagues, dart leagues, singles events at church, volunteer organizations. 
  The people who are not dating and not meeting people are mostly not taking care of themselves, going straight from work to home, and doing nothing in-between.
  When I was a young extremely eligible bachelor I was falling into the work to home trap with no social activities in-between. The real trick out there is to find something and figure out a way to expand your social circle. That bowling league may sound simple, but try it out. Join a coed softball league. Volunteer at the animal shelter. Do something. The key is, if it is not working for you now, why would whatever you are doing work for you in the future? 
  Now, with my outset in my early 20s I would not have been able to date on my own and would have been frustrated not because of who I was or how I acted but because of what I didn't do. If I were to do it over again I would have been able to date without online dating.
  With that said, today I've played Catan Junior, Uno, and Mario Kart 8 with my kids I have with my beautiful Star Trek book worm nerd of a wife and I couldn't be happier... and we met online. >
  
  I get there needs to something other than work and home but I'm not sure that thing exists for me. Fuck I'm accepted as eccentric at work and I have eccentric roommates who I tolerate as much as they tolerate me
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  Well online dating is up and dating + casual sex in general is down. So clearly people made it work somehow before....
  Also for plenty of people online dating doesn't work whatsoever.... I almost exclusively match sex workers and robots lol >
  
  So in what way are you attempting to change my view? Yeah people used to make it work more often when online wasn't here. But now it is here and sucks ass like you said >
  
  You said cold approaching doesn't work and never did, but if online dating is the better option we should see more dating going on?
  And if you agree its not functional then I dont really know what your view is lol >
  
  You need to convince me there are other options than online dating for a working adult >
  
  For me I have dated (or attempted to) at work, church, and thru random friends and acquaintances.
  I am considering taking some class at my local community college to meet some ppl >
  
  Hobbies, classes, sports and exercise, travel, social events, house parties, etc. 
  Most people state that they can't easily determine who is open/available to date but that's the wrong approach in my opinion. >
  
  a lot of those activities are not things introverts would go to. And if you were trying to go to a class to meet someone, you are going for the wrong reason >
  
  Introverts are going to have trouble dating full stop. 
  
  that's the wrong approach in my opinion.
  
  I identified it here that you shouldnt be doing anything just to date. Just do thing's and you will end up meeting someone you like. >
  
  fair enough, ill just keep waiting and see what happens.. >
  
  Generally speaking you do have to be generally interesting to all so improve on that rather than improve on "women like me". 
  The biggest rule at the end of the day is you choose to date a person every day, you need to be someone wants everyday, not just a three dates. So work on making friends before everything else. >
  
  I already have more friends than I can consistently spend time with but I understand >
  
  In your own workplace? Meetups for hobbies? Pubs and bars? Parties? Friends of friends? >
  
  Fine I'm a loser, but I'm not the only one! >
  
  Well even if you are, as you say, a loser, these options are still available for you. Don't give up! >
  
  !Delta I was close to giving you one the first time around but you earned it by not giving up >
  
  Thanks buddy! Happy holidays! >
  
  so you're not taking this seriously? >
  
  bruh. he fetched you a link disproving you objectively. I think you don't get the rules at all >
  
  I don't think you get the concept. Changing a person's view takes more than pasting a link. I gave Deltas to people who engaged me on an emotional level. Y'know, what it actually takes to change a view >
  
  My bad, when has an objective fact ever changed an american's mind after all. We here change our views based on emotions!