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  I agree. I hate this phrase
context: You dont understand the correct usage of the phrase, and neither does your husband.
  Say you're driving to work and there's a crash ahead, causing a huge tailback which makes you late for work.
  Some would be angry and some would complain, some would say "it is what it is" because it's out of your control and there's no point being upset. >
  
  Similar sayings: That's the way it goes. That's the way the cookie crumbles. So it goes. >
  
  Shit happens >
  
  Sometimes it be like that >
  
  But it do >
  
  Thats not how youre supposed to use that saying. Its meant to be a response to things you have no control over >
  
  Such as? I think we have way more power to fix things or chose our own actions than people give us credit for.
  I remember an old friend used that saying about his explosive temper with his wife, where he'd punch holes in the wall. Take ownership or your body and change! >
  
  
  Such as?
  
  The weather >
  
  Bundle up more with the cold, or sprinkle salts on the sidewalks in advance. Pre-emptively fix it. Don't just sit around and mope about it.
  Or maybe flesh out your example more. Like complaining about the frost on the windshield due to weather? Complaining about chickens dying from the heat, etc ? >
  
  Not being able to leave your house due to a snowstorm, a concert being rained out, being too cold to go swimming >
  
  Thanks for taking me down this path. So basically, you're using the saying to describe a situation, but then do you use it as an excuse to not complete something? That second part is the key that would upset me. Like, find another way to complete the task at hand.
  No use crying over spilt milk, but tremendous use in properly cleaning it up and moving on to do something else productive that day. >
  
  What you are missing is that if you are using the statement in the correct way it is not about having an excuse for not doing anything about something. Instead, it's more that the thing happened, but you aren't going to let it bother you too much and are instead going to move forward instead of dwelling. So if it's rainy and that means you can't do your plans, you can say "it is what it is" but then still put on your coat. You just aren't going to be upset about it. >
  
  Yeah, ultimately OP is refusing to accept the parase can mean anything than "I don't want to try". >
  
  It's not so much "not my problem, don't give a shit," it's more "not much I can do about it, so I'm not gonna waste emotional energy on it."
  Loving mac & cheese is incredibly normal for kids. They love calorie dense things, as they're growing. And now that your kids have a preference, it's extremely difficult to change that. My guess is your husband is thinking somewhere along these lines. It's not impossible to change, but he'd rather not waste the emotional energy trying to force them to be into other foods.
  Mac & cheese isn't even unhealthy for kids if you're making it from scratch, not using those neon powder packets from Kraft or whatever. It's calorie dense, which is great for kids. It's also easy as hell to make, and is just an all-around hearty meal on the cheap. If you're already doing this, you don't need to worry so much about it, and if you're not, do it! If you can give your kids what they want but make it healthy, everyone wins. You might even be able to sneak mushrooms or other food they don't like in, and get them to change their tune in it.
  But I dunno, parent your kids however you want lol >
  
  My mom used to be real sneaky about it, because she always made mac and cheese from scratch.  
  Spinach doesn't taste like much. 
  She'd puree it and mix it in with the bechamel.
  If your kids are young enough and aren't too picky, we used to lose our fucking shit over GREEN mac and cheese, because it's not supposed to be that color. 
  We thought it was so damn funny and weren't any the wiser. 
  Her kids could definitely be stuck on worse foods than mac and cheese. >
  
  It do be like that sometimes >
  
  After reading this thread, it’s clear OP doesn’t know what “it is what it is,” means.  Oh well, it is what it is. >
  
  What do you think it means? >
  
  It means shit just happens, that’s life. It is what it is. >
  
  I know what it means. I'm asking that person in particular what it means. >
  
  They clearly know as they used it at the end. 
  Their comment says
  “Op doesn’t know the phrase. Oh well it is what it is” >
  
  Let me try this again... I wasn't talking to you. I have no interest in talking to you about what you think they think. Kind if bizarre TBH. >
  
  It’s obvious what they think you’re just dense >
  
  Coming from you hahaha ok pal >
  
  Used in the context of 'oh well, I don't care enough to do anything' then yeah it's annoying. I don't mind it used when something will inevitably happen and there's nothing you can do about it. >
  
  Is strange, because I only heard it being used for past events which can no longer be changed. Kind of as an adult version of "Don't cry over spilled milk". It is what it is. The things has happened and you can no longer turn back the time. Better move on with your life. >
  
  Yeah, I've only heard it in that context, too >
  
  It is what it is, it was what it was, it will be what it will be. 
  Honestly, it's not meant to be an excuse for things, it's meant to be an acceptance of things you truly cannot change or predict. 
  I know plenty of people say it how your husband did and ruin it, but one guy I knew LIVED by this. He was truly not going to let anything affect him that he could not change and he still doesn't 10 years later and he's one of the most successful people I know. >
  
  Are your children sims or something? I had no idea mac n cheese addiction was a real thing, now I'm laughing just thinking about how that would even look like. Do they get withdrawal symptoms? Do they became violent when they can't get their next fix? To me your story just sounds like your kids have a favourite food. Addiction is kind of dramatic. >
  
  I hate the phrase "biggest load of bologna", but it is what it is.. 🤷🏽‍♂️ >
  
  B o l o g n a >
  
  it's supposed to be used when there's something happening you wish was different but have no power to change (at least by yourself). >
  
  He's just trying to calm down his clearly overdramatic wife. "Adicted to Mac and cheese" ok sure. >
  
  Well, it is what it is... >
  
  ideezwadedeez >
  
  I have responded to that statement a few times with a slight twist on a line from a Phish song: It isn't what it would be if it wasn't what it is. >
  
  It… of course, in context is the wolfman’s brother >
  
  Op is on a rip complaining about a phrase without any understanding of the meaning or proper usage. Well …. it is what it is. >
  
  I am a fanatic with taking absolute responsibility for my own actions. I prefer to exist in the world where I have agency over my own actions, as apposed to the world where a higher plane of existence is conspiring to ruin my Wheaties. With that said I actually like the saying" it is what is is". One thing I try to avoid more than anything, is getting stuck in the "sunken cost fallacy" . You have to be able to accept loss or a defeat from time to time, as it is not only healthy, but often the correct financial course of action. In the moment, forgive yourself for the error, "it is what is is". Later when you have some distance, review the situation and find what you could have done to avoid the situation. >
  
  I really like this. Thank you for sharing. >
  
  Well, would you rather I say “not my problem and I don’t give a shit” ?? >
  
  Res Ipsa Loquitur >
  
  Bruh it's Mac n Cheese.
  It's fucking delicious.
  They're children.
  You did not make them that way.
  Have you forgotten what happiness is?
  Perhaps try throwing some Chilli or sausage in there too. >
  
  I always respond with "can't be what it ain't" >
  
  I say “well It ain’t what it’s not” >
  
  Que sera sera >
  
  Whatever will be, will be. >
  
  The future’s not ours to see >
  
  I prefer "everyday is a winding road, you get a little bit closer" because people always nod, stop, and then ask: "is that Cheryl Crow" and then I get to laugh. >
  
  I feel like everyone hates this phrase but I find it comforting for a lot of things. The mac and cheese thing would not be a time to use this phrase coz you're right, it waves away having to do anything. But when something in life doesn't go my way, or when there's a situation I just can't change and have to accept? Well my friend, it is what it is. >
  
  I use this phrase constantly - but in a different context.
  "It is what it is" it's accepting the things that cannot be changed and moving past them, getting on with life. If you're using it because you're being lazy then that is clearly the incorrect use of the phrase. >
  
  It is what it is >
  
  It’s what it’s >
  
  It’s what it’s >
  
  Not my problem, I don't give a shit? Really? That's your interpretation? It's simple accepting something that is happening. Your kids love Mac and Cheese. Your post certainly reinforces the idea as fact. Therefore, it is, in fact, what it is. I will tell you what it ain't, an addiction. They liked it. Most kids do but please stop with the dramatics and hyperbole. >
  
  Well, a fellow Mac and cheese enthusiast here…whats wrong with an almost daily diet of mac and cheese? Lol >
  
  Tako je kako je 🤷‍♂️ (same phrase translated to bosnian) >
  
  Your husband is using it incorrectly. 'It is what it is' applies to situations out of your control. Like 10 thousands spoons when all you need is a knife. >
  
  I have a theory about this phrase as it relates to Judge Judy. It seems that the person one would tend to believe is "in the wrong" is often the party that uses this phrase at the end of their case. It doesn't matter if the Judge found in their favor or not. The person using this phrase is justifying any negative results of their own actions. They are accepting because they know they were in the wrong. While the party perceived as "in the right" rarely says "it is what it is" because they are seeking justice, so the results matter to them. >
  
  In my line of work, what you wrote is the context for which “it is what it is” is often applied and it’s frustrating as hell. instead of tackling the issue, the majority at my workplace will nonchalantly dismiss them and use “it is what it is” because it’s easier. >
  
  It's not shifting blame or being ignorant. 
  "It is what it is"
  The profundity of the statement is in the understanding that our lived life and interactions in space-time will continue to be and to have been, and within it, we have a diminishing level of control over occurrences and others' journeys. This then leads to an acceptance that nothing is ever guaranteed, no two days are the same, we'll all die relatively soon and sometimes shit happens. >
  
  I use it when people overcomplicate things.  It is what it is.  Break it down in to simple terms. >
  
  Plus this simple statement helps with stress so much, especially if you have a habit of internalising problems that you’ve no control over >
  
  
  "not my problem and i don't give a shit!"
  
  As someone who uses the phrase quite a bit, I can assure you that most times I use it, I say it when it IS my problem; and I don't give a shit >
  
  It's meant to be used in situations you have no control over, or in a joking way in non-serious situations I guess. Like if I made icing for a cake for myself and the colour came out green instead of blue, I might just go 'oh hell, it is what it is' and continue. Note, non-serious.
  Your husband used it stupidly, no offense. And you're basing your hatred of that beautiful phrase off that daft, mistimed usage. >
  
  It's an easy way to avoid actual thought and logical explanation. >
  
  Stuck on the mac n cheese part, kids LOVE Mac and cheese it literally is what it is >
  
  
  Life’s what you make of it. It’s your responsibility 
  
  Please explain how I was supposed to responsible my way out of my sister dropping dead at 19. 
  I’ve only heard “it is what it is” applied to difficult situations that need to be dealt with.
  Also YOU admit you helped contribute to the Mac and cheese “addiction” so I don’t know why you’d be so ticked off by your husband saying this about a problem YOU actively created. >
  
  Que sera sera. >
  
  But see, that’s so hopeful! There’s still some wiggle room in the future! >
  
  It does apply though, it is what it is can be used simply to accept that certain things are out of a persons control and there is no way to change it as opposed to using it as a “eh not my problem” kind of phrase >
  
  But accepting reality is the first step to changing it. It is what it is, until it isn’t. And in some cases there isn’t anything you can do. Denial of reality is a far worse state to be in. >
  
  If I can’t control the outcome…it is what it is. >
  
  In my experience most people use it as a way to say, “It’s happened, we can’t stop it now.” When used in your described context, yes, it’s very annoying. >
  
  If it is what it is, it’s not what it should’ve been >
  
  I use it to show assholes i wont take their shit. >
  
  Eh, I get where you're coming from, but that phrase makes more sense when you're using it in response to a situation that CANNOT be changed and is completely out of your control. It literally... is what it is. Idk, I personally love the phrase. It's simple but effective. I use it all the time so you probably wouldn't wanna be around me for too long lol >
  
  I adore it. This and "you can only do what you can do" are superb weapons against shitty middle manager types when they're trying to micromanage your shit. >
  
  Hear fucking hear!!!!!!!! >
  
  In your comments, you keep talking about how you should take action, and how there’s always something you can do, and this phrase is a way to get out of responsibility. I don’t see it that way. Tonight, we wanted to get pizza. We’d looked up in advance if a grocery store or pizza delivery place would be open on Christmas. It said they would be. However, today they turned out to be closed anyway. It is what it is. That doesn’t mean we just didn’t eat, we had McDonald’s instead. But, no pizza being available still just is what it is. Nothing we can do about that specifically. On another note, so is my dad being dead. I wish he wasn’t, I’m not going to be sad about it all day every day, especially 9 years on, and that’s exactly why it is just what it is. I can’t change that he’s dead, no use wallowing in it. Instead accept that I can’t change it and move on. >
  
  I think for these things it makes sense. >
  
  It's Gen Z stoicism >
  
  That phrase is amazing when it’s used  in the right context >
  
  i gotta say, this is an interesting way to see this phrase. i usually hear it in the context of things that can’t be changed by the person saying it, usually as a display of acceptance at a shitty situation. the singer and bassist Thundercat wrote a song called “Fair Chance” about the passing of his friend and longtime collaborator Mac Miller, and frequently uses the phrase, going as far as naming the album “It Is What It Is.” i see it as an expression of grief and acceptance, rather than a dismissal of things one doesn’t care about. >
  
  this is what's sometimes called a "thought-terminating cliché"
  which really means – we all know what this, is but stop talking about it now, please >
  
  I use it as "that's a fact of life and there no point on dwelling on it." Something bad happens to you, it is what it is" as there's no point in crying over it. It's stoic saying, at least the way I view it >
  
  haha, you dont use that phrase correctly. >
  
  I think you're just interpreting it wrong, it's like saying "don't cry over spilled milk"..it's saying something happened and there's no undoing it so there's no use getting upset. For example, if I asked a woman out and she rejected me I'd say "it is what it is" meaning getting mad or sad won't change the outcome and it's better to accept it. >
  
  If someone uses it to refer to something unchangable I think it’s fine
  I have a chronic illness and often say “it is what it is” cause I can’t do anything about it
  But when it comes to someone just not bothering to make an effort when they very much can, I get what you mean >
  
  I always did too UNTIL one day I HAD to say it and it LITERALLY made SO much sense that time. The friend I was talking to ALSO hated the phrase but in that moment we realized there IS a place for that phrase in conversation, HOWEVER I do still think it’s overused. >
  
  Depends on the way you deal with your emotions. If your anger and sadness is a key to motivation, you're not comfortable with the situation and want to change it, it's a toxic mindset to have. But if your sadness only slows you down and you get sad about stupid shit, then it's pretty good actually. >
  
  At the end of the day, it is was it is. >
  
  I can't hate it because it's the only thing that saves me from going crazy lol. I have had many situations that went out of control and I tend to be anxious for no reason at all, so when I actually have a reason I get even more anxious. For example telling someone a secret, and then that person goes to tell other people about it. I could care and get mad and upset and all that shit (which I would, in the past), but instead I choose to say "it is what it is" and choose to not be bothered by it. >
  
  This! I use use that phrase for things that are so totally out of my control that I just need to remind myself it is what it is and I just need to move on. I also have a great deal of anxiety, so it does help sometimes to remind yourself you can't control everything or change everything. >
  
  I turned it into a lifestyle, I don't even need to tell myself that phrase anymore lol. I am serious when it's needed, but life is def easier when you have an "it is what it is" lifestyle (still, don't just think this way about everything, otherwise it's as bad as being worried about every little thing, if not worse) >
  
  Right there with you! I definitely agree that it shouldn't be used towards everything. I only use it if its truly something outside of my control and influence. It's taken a while to get this mindset but it's helped so much with my piece of mind. >
  
  I understand what you mean but it is what it is. >
  
  I always thought the phrase was a two parter that only got the first half heard. “It is what it is. Sure, but what is It?” The original phrase just seems like a half-assed attempt to justify daily bs of life. >
  
  Maby its how  its being used that is annoying you ...personally  I find it used by family  as a "acceptance ...you can't control everything sort of way"
  Eg...ugh I was going to walk in the park but it's raining now...I was looking forward to that walk with you..
  Awk don't worry we can bring an umbrella  it will still be grand...can't  predict the weather....
  Aye your right it is what it is...we will bring an unbrella >
  
  A lot of people here are saying it’s supposed to be a way of saying there’s no need to get upset over it, but it’s almost always used in a moment when it would be completely understandable to get upset.
  What I actually find most people do is use it as a way to avoid accepting responsibility for whatever is happening “to” them.
  It’s like, “I royally screwed up, but it’s too late to do anything about it now, so don’t bother telling me how stupid I was”
  Pretty much everyone who has ever tried to convince me otherwise has quickly demonstrated my point for me.
  Yeah, that’s one of my least favorite sayings ever. Unpopular or not, I’m with you on this one. >
  
  I do not like it either. The part of the phrase I do not understand is the repetition of it. Saying it once, “It is”, means the same. Also it doesn’t make sense to me in the way your husband used it.  That can be changed and is only because like you mention, they were made that way. >
  
  I hate it too, even when used in the right context. It’s just a way of spewing words while saying absolutely nothing. >
  
  I absolutely hate It too. Especially when someone screw’s something up and uses that shitty term for an easy out. >
  
  "It is what it is" is used to say that "this situation is out of my control and frustrating, but complaining won't help so I will just resign myself to it." Its not the phrase itself that is bad - its when people misuse it that its bad. So I half agree with this post, the general intent makes a lot of sense. >
  
  best phrase: this too shall pass >
  
  I get the phrase and see it’s point but when I was at my wife’s funeral and my mum said “it is what it is”….. didn’t help. >
  
  This >
  
  It is what it is. >
  
  I agree with a slightly different use of the saying, and I also hate it with all my being. It often feels way less like, “it’s the way things are so we’ll just have to deal with it one way or another” (regardless of tone) and a lot more like “tough shit” or “it’s not worth discussing how or why it is what it has become.”
  I know there are different intended meanings. I still totally hate it and it annoys me every time. OP, I’m with you. >
  
  It’s so LAZY. Hate it. >
  
  I always counter with, “Things aren’t always what they appear to be”, whenever someone says that phrase to me. >
  
  Imo, it can either come across as dismissive or they're trying to cope. So it depends on the circumstances. My narcissist mother (diagnosed) used it to dismiss me. Though it's not always the case. >
  
  It’s my go to phrase when a customer brings in their car that they’ve driven to shit and can’t understand why it needs 1500 worth of repairs do make it minimally safe to drive again. It seems to placate morons so I use it. >
  
  It’s a good thought to mean let go of what you can’t control but is so damn overused for everything that it’s totally annoying. >
  
  My ex would say this whenever I told him "no".
  He would start moping and I would offer compromises.
  "I'm tired I don't want to make dinner, could I warm you something up?
  "I'm stressed I don't want to draw anything right now but you can tell me your idea."
  "I'm not in the mood for sex, maybe later?"
  But that was never good enough. So he'd say no. I'd ask if there was something I could do and while moping like a sick dog he'd always respond "it is what it is." It was just his way to guilt trip me and because I was young and dumb it worked. >
  
  Yup. This is so antithetical to my life philosophy.
  When there is a problem, fucking do something about it instead of drifting away like a helpless piece of shit. One person's small actions usually don't fix problems, but enough people doing small actions does fix problems.
  And if you refuse to do something, at least fucking stop complaining to people. >
  
  I don't think you understand the saying and none that agrees with your sentiment the same. Problem with people stealing sayings that originate from other cultures is they often have no clue what it means at times like in your case here.
  It doesn't "not my problem and I don't care." Like, at all. There are things in life you literally cannot control. You can't force someone to like a certain food, not have cancer, or gravity dude. Plenty of shit you don't control at all. Instead of obsessively mulling over shit you can't control to begin with you can accept it and work with it.  
  That is a reasonable mindset and makes a ton of sense. Unfortunately, due to you making up your own meanings instead of understanding the true meaning you're hating something that doesn't even mean what you said it did. >
  
  That's where I think the disconnect is, because we can control a lot more than we think. If we never gave kids Mac j cheese, they wouldn't have liked it to begin with. They say you have to eat something 18 times before you learn to love it. Also, even with foods that we don't like, if you think positive thoughts while eating it and tell yourself, "yum!" Then you can rewire your brain to start liking it.
  You should watch the documentary, "What the bleep do we know" and you'll see we have way more power over our brain than we think. 
  Also, look at places like France. Their kids eat much better than in the US. You think it was random chance? No, they have a really good system in place to have kids try a lot more food from a young age and eat way less processed foods. >
  
  It means "It happened and is out of my control", not how you think it is >
  
  My wife says it all the time when she isn’t happy with a situation, without ever actually communicating what it is that she would prefer which 99% of the time she can have exactly what she wants if she would just communicate it in the f%^*ing first place. Drives me mental. >
  
  Oh my god this is so frustrating! >
  
  'It is what it is' just means its out of my power to change or effect. >
  
  Me too!!!! >
  
  It’s not even meant to be used in that context though. It’s what you say when something is out of your control >
  
  I think of it more so as a “there is a problem here but I can’t control it so it’s best to just live with it” then a “this sure is a problem ” >
  
  The proper meaning is "it is what it is, and I can't change the past, may as well roll with it and do what I can from here."" >
  
  It sounds so resigned and hopeless. Yes, I know there are certain things we need to just accept in life, but saying “it is what it is” so casually for so many things seems like such a cop out. At least have fun with the trivial stuff - I greatly prefer “that’s just the way the cookie crumbles” or “tough titties (said the kitty when the milk ran dry)” or just nodding in solemn acceptance and understanding. >
  
  It is what it is >
  
  This post is a dumpster fire >
  
  I don’t necessarily agree with your opinion, but hey, it is what it is >
  
  My family has fallen apart since the passing of my mother this summer. My father uses this phrase constantly... as if he is just a leaf in the wind. I fucking hate it. >
  
  This has been posted before, it is what it is. >
  
  But..but... It is what it is. >
  
  But, it is… what it is… >
  
  That's your opinion. It is what it is🤷🏾 >
  
  it is what it is >
  
  100% agree! >
  
  I hate it too. When you think about it, there aren't many situations in life where things "aren't what they are". Absolute tautological nonsense to evade responsibility. >
  
  Totally agree. I even had the opportunity to vent my opinion on the radio. I fucking hate that series of words >
  
  Your husband is abdicating responsibility for your child’s diet and health, this is a good example of how the phrase should not be used. He either doesn’t understand it or is using it as an excuse to be a lazy parent. >
  
  Uhh... I think you might need to read the post again? >
  
  I fucking hate this phrase too. When I worked in public accounting the senior on my audit would constantly say this shit I just wanted to bash his face in because this sentence adds nothing it’s not even a fucking platitude >
  
  I have always too!!! THANK YOU >
  
  Me too!!! It's redundant as fuck so shut up and don't even say it. >
  
  agreed. this dumb saying needs retired >
  
  Yeah that was a dumb time and place to say it >
  
  I think it's just an empathetic statement if someone says it to you, or a statement of catharsis if you say it about something that happened to you. Other than conveying emotion, it really doesn't mean anything. >
  
  I think it's just a slightly more polite way of saying, "okay, I'm listening to you vent, but I don't care." or "Not sure what you want me to do about it" >
  
  The phrase should be used in situation, when you cant change anything about the situation. Then it means. "We cant change anything about it so we should just accept it." >
  
  Today I wanted to spend Christmas Eve with my family but I have to work my graveyard shift. I just started this job and I’m on probation, so I couldn’t request the time off or I couldn’t call in sick. There was nothing I could’ve done in that situation. So fuck it, it is what it is >
  
  You're not trying to tell me that it isn't what it is, are you? If not, I think you know what it is. It is it. >
  
  
  "not my problem and i don't give a shit!" 
  
  That's not what it means tho. The phrase is used when faced with situations that your cannot change. >
  
  Whether you like it or not, you know it is what it is >
  
  "It is what it is" should only be said about things out of your control (ie the weather, who was elected president, your tv suddenly dying, your favorite team losing, etc) >
  
  “It is what it is” is the more simple version of “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change” >
  
  I only use it in the context of “that was gonna happen no matter what we did”. And I do agree that’s the only beneficial use if that’s what your statement implies >
  
  "Not for nuthin, Tone, but it is what it is. And that's that. Nobody knows nuthin.
  - A consigliere being spectacularly unhelpful. >
  
  I think it's a humorous way to acknowledge the things in life that are beyond my control. That being said, the mac n cheese issue is a totally different topic imo >
  
  it is what it is >
  
  I mean, it is what it is to be fair to your husband >
  
  But it really isn’t my problem and I don’t give a shit. 
  In your scenario it was his problem and he should give a shit. >
  
  sorry but it is what it is >
  
  Sometimes a phrase can be annoying but it is what it is. >
  
  In the work place I always saw it as nothings going to change even after we’ve tried so it is what it is just to cope with the suck. >
  
  Shikata ga nai >
  
  I think “it is what it is” should be used sparingly to respond to unchanging facts.
  like the sky is blue and blue is not my favorite colt type situations. Oh it is Sunday and the ferry to the mainland doesn’t run on Sunday…. Well nothing you can do about that, can’t swim with the car on your back… it is what it is! >
  
  "That's the way she goes." >
  
  Haha op here is actually in the wrong, reading her comments she seems uhh .. nvm 🤣 >
  
  I use exactly this phrase to mean "life is what you make it".
  So saying "it is what it is" in reaction to kids being addicted to Mac n cheese sounds like saying it's the fault of the person who feeds them. >
  
  If that’s the case, it is what it is >
  
  Looking for the reddit comments calling for divorce >
  
  But it is. >
  
  It's what it's. >
  
  It ezz what it ezz >
  
  I use “it is what it is” the same as “C’est la vie”. 
  Things happen, and sometimes you can’t change it. It is what it is. >
  
  I absolutely hate the word "BOLOGNA" >
  
  It what is. >
  
  It is what it is _('.')_/ >
  
  Do people really mean not my problem I don't give a shit by it ?
  I never say it but pretty sure it refers to a generally unpleasant situation or fact that is outside of one's power to change.. it is what it is, don't bother worrying about it
  In any case, it isn't what it's not. So it's redundant >
  
  Is what it is man >
  
  This shows rapid acceptance, like if they cared about this thing then that means they went through all the stages of grief quickly and ultimately accepted reality. >
  
  Well, OP, it is what it is. >
  
  The way she fucking goes, boys >
  
  Whatever >
  
  It's what it's. >
  
  𝙸𝚝'𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚒𝚝'𝚜 >
  
  Way she goes >
  
  Just take the Spider approach “I miss the part where that’s my problem” >
  
  What do you do to try and mitigate their preference to Mac and cheese? Can anything be done? >
  
  It is what it is, accept everything exactly as it is. If you’re taking issue with this, maybe you need to do some introspection dude. >
  
  They don't think it be like it is, but it do. >
  
  Well
  It is what it is >
  
  It is what it is, and it's not what it's not. >
  
  I feel like most cultures have a saying like this. The French say, "C'est la vie". The Spanish say, "Que sera, sera." Sometimes, you have to accept life as it is rather than how you want it to be. >
  
  That's why I like the term "such is life" but that more of me just accepting the things I can't do feasibly do anything about. >
  
  That's the reason a lot of peope use "it is what it is". A way of accepting things they cannot change. In my opinion "such is life" is the exact same thing as "it is what it is". >
  
  its my go to phrase. best thing to say at a funeral
  ay it is what it is. nothing we gonna do now. god rest her soul bring out the gaba gole >
  
  
  My husband said this when I was complaining about our kids being addicted to Mac n cheese
  
  desperately tries to contain laughter >
  
  It is what it is until you make it what it could be. >
  
  well.. it is what it is >
  
  It kinda is what it is though. The entire thing. >
  
  The shitty thing about this little gem is that it invariably comes after someone is bitching about their circumstance for five minutes when I’m trying to work, then they realize they can’t do anything about whatever’s bothering them. That’s when they break out “It is what it is”. >
  
  idiz wat idiz tho >
  
  It is what it is >
  
  Not unpopular, not enough people even care to make this unpopular, downvote. >
  
  Sounds like you and ur husband are just lazy. Cause that is not how the phase should be used LOL >
  
  god i hate stupid people posting the most ignorant hot takes on the internet . oh well it is what it is. >
  
  Sheeeeit. Das y u sey, "iiii eyuh wuh iii eyuh". >
  
  Your husband is using the phrase wrong.
  If they like mac n cheese, then go for it. Change to whole wheat macaroni, maybe make your own cheese sauce, add some shredded cooked broccoli. Have some meat on the side. >
  
  You use that phrase when you can’t do nothing about it💀 >
  
  Can't do nothing? That means you can do anything. Double negative. Why am I explaining this to an adult? >
  
  It literally means when you don’t have control of something so you say it is what it is💀 >
  
  Completely missed my point. 
  writing >
  
  Oh well it is what it is >
  
  Oh well, que sera, sera. >
  
  Does "It is what it is" qualify as a tautology? >
  
  I mean somtimes "it is what it is" is true.
  Look stupid people shouldn't be allowed to vote, yet we allow them and gullible religious idiots to try and use their religion to influence politics and society.  
  It is what it is >
  
  1st: its a kid, they like Mac and cheese. It's not an "addiction". It is what it is. Kids like what they like, they like to eat foods they like. They are a child. 2nd that's not even the correct usage of the phrase. >
  
  Mortals plan and the gods laugh. 
  The wheel weaves as the wheel wills. 
  Shit happens.
  It is what it is. 
  The point of the saying is that some stuff is unchangeable so you have to deal with it as it is. This in no way applies to someone's diet unless they can't afford or find anything else. >
  
  “It is what it is” literally means there’s nothing I can do, so therefore I won’t stress. Or at least that’s how myself and most ppl I know use it. I feel like you’ve misinterpreted it a bit LMAO >
  
  Honestly… it is what it is, your kids just have a favourite food, stop being dramatic. >
  
  Het is wat het is >
  
  Not my circus not my monkeys >
  
  Same here.
  But thats how it is, and thats how it goes. >
  
  Then don’t make them Mac n cheese? Or accept that they’re kids and it’s a phase that they’ll grow out of.
  Also, that phrase is meant to be for thing you have no control over. If someone takes the last bagel at work, that’s where that phrase is applicable. >
  
  nah they addicted to mac and cheese because it is what it is >
  
  Your husband isn't using the phrase correctly. >
  
  I use 'it is what it is' for my own problems that I made knowing full well that the problems could have easily been avoided so that with the next 'it is what it is' it hurts more >
  
  Instead use ”way she goes” ~ Ray (trailer park boys) >
  
  It's what it's >
  
  Yeah, people confuse stoicism with cynisme. >
  
  It is what it is. >
  
  It is what It do yugi >
  
  It is a good statement to use with a complainer you dont feel like arguing with. >
  
  Ah yes. I have chronic pain due to an injury caused by someone else and it's my responsibility.
  Right. >
  
  One of my buddies always responds to "it is what it is" with "and it ain't what it ain't". >
  
  The way the saying is used is the problem, not the saying itself.
  In that sense, it is what it is. >
  
  That’s why I use C’est la vie >
  
  I like to say it as "I'm letting go of my need to control this" >
  
  I use it when referring to something that I have no control over. Why worry? >
  
  It is what it is >
  
  This phrase is in reference to anxiety over things you have no control of. When an emotion of mine incites an action, I constantly ask myself “can I do anything about it?” If yes…do something. If not, I have to accept that it is what it is. 
  Your tone here is very…controlling. Relax. >
  
  The way she goes boys >
  
  Neither you nor your husband seem to actually understand what the phrase actually means. 
  Firstly, don’t be so dramatic about your kids being “addicted to Mac and cheese”. Sure, they like it so much because you made it for them enough for them to acquire a taste for it, but they also like it because it’s good and they’re kids: kids tend to like stuff like Mac and cheese.
  Secondly, “it is what it is” is supposed to be used for instances where you genuinely have no control over the situation. I’ll give you an example; I was supposed to visit family over Christmas this week, but my airline canceled the flight due to the weather being bad here in the US. I could get unreasonably angry over it like you are (and I feel I’d be more justified in doing so), but ultimately there’s nothing I can do to change the weather or make the airline change its mind. So it is what it is.
  Am I annoyed? Yes. Am I going to freak out over it and try to obsessively control everything to my liking? No, because as an adult I know how to let go of the situation and recognize when something is out of my control. >
  
  It do be what it is tho >
  
  I feel the same about "No worries." >
  
  I mean… it is what it is. >
  
  i work retail now. its busy as hell and our shelves are empty. it is what it is = we do what we can with what we have. >
  
  r/Tautology >
  
  The thing is, that they now love mac and cheese they are going to like it and you can’t change it. 
  It is what it is. >
  
  it's what it's >
  
  They don’t think it be like it is but it do >
  
  It is what it is til it aint >
  
  Way she goes, fuckin way she goes >
  
  Qué sera, sera >
  
  “It is what it is” has zero logical meaning. >
  
  You can hate it all you want, But it is what it is. >
  
  It’s a lot like what the Japanese say: “shikata ga nai” or “shouganai”. Roughly “it can’t be helped” so there is little point in agonizing over what you can’t change. It simply is. >
  
  And that's the way the cookie crumbles. >
  
  That's cause your husband is using the phrase wrong...
  "It is what it is" is for things you can't control, things you can't fix.
  If you won't fix it, then it isn't what it is, it's what you made it. >
  
  It’s the way she goes, boys. Way she goes. >
  
  Hey, an actually unpopular opinion! >
  
  Acceptance ia the first step of change >
  
  There's a guy I know who can't finish a sentence without saying "so it is" I have heard him on a few occasions say "it is what it is, so it is"
  Because of this I now hate the phrase it is what it is. >
  
  Ey man it is what it is >
  
  I hate the word and the food :bologna. >
  
  That's the joke >
  
  Yeah you've got the wrong end of the candy cane here.
  Allow me to drop the science.
  Let's say my neighbours house blows up and takes mine with it. Now I'd be pissed as hell, but I'm not responsible for my neighbours house blowing up. It is what it is 
  McDonald's removes your favourite item from their menu? It is what it is.
  Grandma wracks up $10,000 in gambling debts? It is what it is. >
  
  You're absolutely correct. The right way to say the phrase is:
  It's what it's >
  
  How do you feel about, “it ain’t what it ain’t”? >
  
  I agree that it’s an easy way to say “idgaf” but I think that’s okay >
  
  The only proper response is..’we are where we are’ >
  
  Sic vita est >
  
  He's just using the phrase (incorrectly) in hopes you stop complaining about something as trivial as children liking a specific food, like most children do. >
  
  Wrong context of the phrase. >
  
  You don't hate the phrase, you just hate your husband. >
  
  I turn it into “ it is what it isn’t “ what happened isn’t okay etc >
  
  it's what's it's* >
  
  A lot off topic but how much you think we "make" our children? Parents tell how things are and what consequences may be. And there is a child's own "i really like cheese". But then favorite childhood food is different in every country so upbringing does matter.
  That is interesting for me >
  
  They don't think it be like it is, but it do >
  
  "not my problem and i don't give a shit!"
  That's not what it means. It's simply an acknowledgement that what you are dealing / confronted with is something you cannot change, and you are accepting it for what it is and dealing with it in those terms.  
  It's used a lot in design industries to mean, "We can't change it, so let's figure out how to work with it."  It promotes efficiency in that it puts an end to the complain & criticize session and moves things to the problem solving part of the process. >
  
  Seems that your husband is using the phrase incorrectly so I understand why you wouldn't like it. >
  
  That’s not how the phrase works. It’s for when you are in a situation that is uncontrollable >
  
  That was my divorce tattoo. 'It is what it is, life goes on' I've used thus for years. If it is something that I can change or fix and i don't then it is on me, if there is nothing that i can do then ' it is what it is' >
  
  Tja >
  
  If you often make non mac and cheese meals but your children still beg for it every night it seems like it's a thing with your kids and not that "you made them that way". Sometimes things just happen and it isn't your fault. Or in other words it is what it is. >
  
  Well, you know what they say, it is what it is. >
  
  It is what it is >
  
  Little know fact, that’s actually a Shakespeare quote! >
  
  Well; I disagree with your opinion, but it is what it is. >
  
  Well you know, studies have shown that it do be that way sometimes >
  
  Jesus it's BALONEY
  Bologna is the fucking Italian meatballs. 
  It ain't that hard. >
  
  That's literally not how the phrase should ever be used.
  It's used more to indicate that there are certain factors beyond our control and in those instances it is foolish to worry about things that will occur regardless.
  It is what it is. Regardless how much you worry about it. >
  
  No it's not " it is what it is" is used for when you have no power in a situation and I often use it when talking about my grandad and his failing health... >
  
  That's not really how I interpret that saying. If that was the true meaning I also wouldn't like the saying. But to me, and most others I've met, the meaning is: "This thing is out of my control, and no matter what I do I cannot change it. So, I must accept that is the way things are, and it's better for me to move on with my life knowing I won't be able to change it." >
  
  It is what it is I guess >
  
  I broke my ankle and now I can't go back to full mobility, so I usually say, it is what it is.
  This phrase is very resilient. It makes you accept the things with no control over and go on with your life. >
  
  More like theres nothing we can do its above us >
  
  The standard is the standard >
  
  It is what it is >
  
  Hitler being confronted about the holocaust and the murder camps: "It is what it is." >
  
  The phrase is true though >
  
  Thank you! I hate that shit! It feels like some kind of generic cop out. >
  
  sorry you feel that way, it is what it is I guess. >
  
  You don't understand the phrase.
  And this is what kids do. I don't know why it seems strange to you that they have a favorite food. And I'm also not sure why you're so against Mac N Cheese. There are plenty of worse foods they could be begging for. >
  
  Can I try your mac and cheese? I’m addicted too.