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context: It’s a celebration and shouldn’t be seen as anything more than that. It sounds to me like you’re more against the idea of extravagant weddings and how it can cause drama. Which is true. But not all weddings are like that and certainly don’t need to be. 
  And you’re against public dancing? That’s a first I’ve heard of anything like that. >
  
  I'm with her on the dancing. I mean I'm not against it for other people... I just don't want to be involved. >
  
  Nawh, weddings are super cool.
  You go to a "holy" place, with all your friends and family, and swear an oath of fielty until death.
  You aren't just promising to your partner, but to the community as a whole.
  It's like being sworn in as a knight. There is nothing else in life where you get to do that anymore. You put your entire character on the line. How often do you get to show your courage to the world like that?
  It's not supposed to make you "happy." Happy is the goal of a juvenile. It's an oath to make the world a better place. >
  
  Haha, the way you make it sound is cute, even if we disagree. >
  
  
  It costs so much money.
  
  Big weddings, perhaps. Not every wedding (traditional or otherwise) has to cost a fortune. Mine cost very little. >
  
  I do understand it can be cheap if you try, but I think you also need to make a lot of sacrifices for it. But it might also be related to the fact I live in a country with fairly low wages. Sure, wedding things are slightly cheaper than in the west but I think it's still a lot for many compared to average paycheck. >
  
  I'm with you. I would have been perfectly content to elope with my husband. He wanted a wedding, though, and I was okay doing it for him.
  But like let's take bridesmaids. I have fallen out of touch with all four of my bridesmaids. It's weird to see them in pictures and I don't talk to two of them at ALL anymore, and the other two maybe once a year. 
  I think if your bridesmaids can be your siblings or cousins or something it's better. Or if you're truly the type that's going to keep those friendships going for years. >
  
  I still keep up a fair amount of friendships that began in kindergarden or elementary school, so bridesmaids wouldn't be that hard to pick for me.
  That being said, picking the maid of honor would be nightmare and I would probably just tell my friends to agree on it themselves lol. >
  
  I REALLY wanted my sister for my MOH, but she was unable to come. So then I had to pick from two of the bridesmaids, and I was equally friends with both of them, but there was this pressure to pick one. So I did, but it wasn't even meaningful or symbolic like my sister would have been.
  ETA: And then my sister DID come and surprise me last minute, but it was too late. >
  
  Yeah, I think most of my family would be very happy to just be a guest (my sister is way too introverted and I'm not too close with any of my cousins), so this would absolutely have to be my friends, but picking a MOH out of your friends to which you're equally as close to is kinda like picking your favourite friend.