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  Most people are imperfect but don't have red flags. 
  IMO a red flag is something that should give you serious pause about a relationship on its own. Most people do not have that
context: Actual red flags are things a therapist will warn you about as signs of narcissism, abuse, or emotional neglect. These are things people need to know before getting involved with someone, and aren’t just personality quirks.
  People may say wearing crocks is “red flag” but it’s not really the correct use for the term. >
  
  Well yeah, everyone has flaws which might be seen as a red flag. Not all red flags are red to everyone though. >
  
  If "everyone" has red flags, then I would argue that suggests you've dropped the bar for what constitutes a "red flag" so low as to make the term useless. >
  
  Interesting & valid take! >
  
  Every red flag is a flaw, not every flaw is a red flag, OP. Maybe that's what you were aiming to?